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    Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Do you dislike it when guys refer to their male sex partners as "straight"?

    I kinda do. Sure I get the whole fantasy but the way I see it you aren't straight if a guy can get you off. Labeling yourself as straight and mostly living a straight lifestyle doesn't change the fact that you are bi if you like to sleep with both men and women.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Don't really care what you label your sex partners. Just know that if I'm to be included, that'll mean you're sleeping with a gay guy... and if that's not good enough you can buy a dildo and a blow up doll and my life will go on.
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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    I don't care at all. I think sexuality is extremely complex and I do think sometimes straight men who have no emotional attachments or attraction to men can have a purely physical sexual relationship with a man....so I am likely to just accept it at face value if someone says that to me.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    I think it depends on who's doing what. I mean, any guy with a dick in his mouth isn't straight, but if he's just getting his cock sucked, that's not that gay, right? I mean who doesn't love a blowje.

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    I have had sex with plenty of straight men. I suck them off. It's no big deal.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    I hate it more when whiny homosexuals insist that these guys AREN'T straight.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    If you seek out males and get sexually aroused AT ALL, by giving or just receiving a bj or kissing, or whatever by ANOTHER male, you are NOT straight. you are bi.
    its one thing to try it once and not like it and go back to girls, that's why I said if you seek out males for sex youre not straight. I have a friend that says he is straight but calls me all the time to fuck and bj. It bothers the shit of out me when we go to the bars and he says he's straight to all the fella's. I just about gag and so want to call him out on it.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    It depends. If you are in prison or in an environment where there aren't any females, it is feasible for straight men to engage in sexual activity with other males out of necessity. However, people who actively seek to engage in sexual acts with other men and then refuse to identify as bisexual because they "don't feel any degree of emotional involvement, as well as the gay men who fetishize them, do get on my nerves from time to time. Just because your internalized homophobia leads you to feel uncomfortable with what you do and who you are, doesn't mean that you can rationalize things so absurdly, or view men who are not homosexual as "lesser" and undesirable.

    More than anything, I feel that the strange obsession that many gay/bisexual men have with straight men is annoying at best, and pathological at worst. It doesn't say anything positive about our community that we are so self-hating that we have to place straight men on a pedestal, while viewing our own orientation as something so deficient and shameful as to make us inferior and deserving of self-derision. Also, it's disrespectful to straight men: they are straight for a reason. Leave them alone already and live your lives normally!

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Not really. If they like/ enjoy having sex with straight guys. I shouldn't judge.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Laufey View Post
    Do you dislike it when guys refer to their male sex partners as "straight"?

    I kinda do. Sure I get the whole fantasy but the way I see it you aren't straight if a guy can get you off. Labeling yourself as straight and mostly living a straight lifestyle doesn't change the fact that you are bi if you like to sleep with both men and women.
    It may be a fantasy role-playing thing or it may not. Everyone has their own boundaries and definitions for themselves.

    For some, what they identify as does not necessarily have to match who they have sex with, for ulterior motives, but rather which gender(s) they are sexually attracted to.

    I'm gay. That said, if a woman did the right physical things to me because I'd agreed to it in order to receive payment or other compensation, she could get me off. It's merely a physical act. That would not make me straight or bisexual. You might want to call me such, but it wouldn't make it so.

    Considering the fact that I've never had any form of sexual contact with the opposite sex, plus the fact that I've only ever been physically/emotionally attracted to the same sex, I have enough education to know that makes me homosexual. Technically. It's a blurry line to a lot of people. I've just always seen it as a clear line for myself.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    I don't care what they refer to their sex partners as. If they are comfortable with whatever labels they assign one another, it's no skin off my ass.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    I get a bit of a perverted type satisfaction when a dude who is engaging in gay sex, be it giving or receiving calls himself "straight"
    There is something sexy about denial(at least to me) when a guy who takes it up his ass swears that he is not gay.
    It's like the guy who claims he never jacked off, yeah, right.
    Call yourself str8, hell call me str8, what's in a label?

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    I can understand the allure of straight guys, because if you can't have something, that just makes you want it more.
    Personally though, I'm much more attracted to a guy if he's gay.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Laufey View Post
    Do you dislike it when guys refer to their male sex partners as "straight"?

    I kinda do. Sure I get the whole fantasy but the way I see it you aren't straight if a guy can get you off. Labeling yourself as straight and mostly living a straight lifestyle doesn't change the fact that you are bi if you like to sleep with both men and women.
    They annoy me too because I love accuracy. I don't find denial sexy at all, more like cowardliness... which most of them are.

    This said I don't completely agree with you, especially with the last sentence... despite being 100% gay I can't claim I will never have or enjoy sex with a woman, I could totally see it happen as I close my eyes and imagine being with a man... or concentrating on porn... or a glory-hole... that won't make me bi since although I'd be having sex with a female I wouldn't be enjoying having sex with a her but rather enjoying sexual pleasure from physical stimulation and cerebral stimulation (as in whatever fantasy being broadcast in my mind)...

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    It actually does bother me, kind of.

    I didn't even think it did bother me, until the question was asked, and I chose to answer it.

    With rare exceptions, anybody who thinks that he's sleeping with a *STRAIGHT* guy (no bisexuals need apply), is living in a world of fiction. Likely he is lying to himself in other ways, as well.

    I have also asked myself, many times, WHY is it that somebody straight suddenly becomes MORE attractive to many? Some entire porno websites are built on this premise (like the one that starts with Broke, etc.)...to me, if somebody is known to be gay, I am MORE likely to find myself attracted to them.

    This is all a matter of prospective, though, because I RARELY get together with gay friends for sex. Instead it's because I enjoy their company, their thoughts, their sharing, their insights...I estimate that for every nine or ten full days I spend with gay friends (where we each know the other is gay), I have sex once. I've had great times with many dozens of people from this site (including via JUB meets, etc.), but I've only been intimate at all with two of them, and actually having sex with only one. I don't feel cheated from that, because my sex drive isn't very intense - and I do NOT miss the old days when it was.

    I just recently finished nine days of vacation (two days at his place, seven days in Hawaii) with a former JUB guy, without feeling any need for anything sexual. His intellect, etc. was so great that anything sexual would have, like, been a distraction from the more important stuff.

    The news, every day, has stories about sex drives getting POWERFUL people in trouble, let alone people not in formal positions of power. Certainly "sex drive" is part of the horrific story that is coming out of Cleveland this week, as well.

    I don't REALLY have the concept of "the one I can't have" or "out of my league" (because, after all, turning out the lights or simply being in extremely close contact, is a kind of "equalizer" and it reaches the point of simply feeling good). On the rare occasions that I do indeed crave somebody out of my league, I'll hire somebody for a couple hours, which is admittedly an option that is not available to probably at least 70% of people due to money, and not available to some of the others because they may choose not to use that approach. [I don't have any moral qualms or objections to any of this, or anybody who is in that occupation, because it is really not much different than hiring a chauffeur - except that, to be successful in that occupation, it requires the person to have a large roster of activities, and be open to and good with most or all of them. It also tends to require rigorous and inordinate work/attention being paid to that person's body/physique, to keep himself/herself attractive and desirable.]

    Just because a guy who's straight may want to play with me, that doesn't change anything about whether he "looks good" or not - he is still the same person he was BEFORE coming "out of the closet" as being straight (but OK with trying this one time), and it doesn't change my desire, which may or may not exist.

    THERE IS SUCH A THINK AS A TOTALLY STRAIGHT GUY TRYING GAY SEX, but I think it's exceedingly rare for adults who have usually already formed their preferences entirely. I can think of one guy who tried it with me (and he is five or six years older than me...I think we were on opposite sides of 30 Y. O. at the time), and absolutely he IS entirely straight. We (he, I, and now his wife as well) are still great friends and we make sure of a visit when I get to Indianapolis.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Quote Originally Posted by jensu846 View Post
    It bothers the shit of out me when we go to the bars and he says he's straight to all the fella's. I just about gag and so want to call him out on it.
    Well... why don't you?

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    It does not bother me. I would likely to ask "Want a threesome?"

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Quote Originally Posted by eastofeden View Post
    I don't care at all. I think sexuality is extremely complex and I do think sometimes straight men who have no emotional attachments or attraction to men can have a purely physical sexual relationship with a man....so I am likely to just accept it at face value if someone says that to me.
    Technically sexuality only refers to who you are SEXUALLY attracted to, not emotionally/romantically.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Adrusek81 View Post
    It depends. If you are in prison or in an environment where there aren't any females, it is feasible for straight men to engage in sexual activity with other males out of necessity.
    I still think it means you are at least bi-curious, a 1 on the Kinsey scale. Although many men do it in these type of scenarios, other can not no matter how long they are stuck with only men.

    You just never bothered with men because you are more into women and never gave it much of a thought... but once you don't have access to them anymore you discover the other smaller side of your sexuality.

    Again... I think many men will be able to have sex with men in these type of senarios but some will not... so there must be a difference in their sexuality.

    Quote Originally Posted by Scealle View Post
    Not really. If they like/ enjoy having sex with straight guys. I shouldn't judge.
    I'm not judging anyone... and this thread isn't about who you have sex with.

    It's about whether or not a man should be considered straight even when he can get off with another man. I strongly disagree with this view. Sure most of them probably like women more but bisexuality doesn't have to be 50/50.

    Quote Originally Posted by Nishin View Post
    They annoy me too because I love accuracy. I don't find denial sexy at all, more like cowardliness... which most of them are.
    Yeah that's a part of it for me too. They get the "good side" without the shit rest of us have to deal with. I'm not saying they have to go out in the streets and shout they are bi... but at the very least admit to yourself and the guy you are fucking that you are bi and don't lie about it.

    That being said it the other side bothers me more... when gay men actually believe they are straight. I guess some just want to be in denial about it so it doesn't ruin the fantasy.
    Last edited by Laufey; May 10th, 2013 at 04:37 AM.

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    I'm not here for the delusional...

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    Not sure how to vote as it can be very complicated dynamics.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Laufey View Post

    I'm not judging anyone... and this thread isn't about who you have sex with.

    It's about whether or not a man should be considered straight even when he can get off with another man. I strongly disagree with this view. Sure most of them probably like women more but bisexuality doesn't have to be 50/50.
    Sorry I misinterpreted the thread. Personally I think guys who enjoys having sex with another man would be bi to a certain extent. Or on the Kinsey 1/2 scale.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    I'm not sure labels do it justice. It doesn't matter to me what they want to call themselves as...it is what it is...whatever gets their rocks off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dereperez View Post
    I'm not sure labels do it justice. It doesn't matter to me what they want to call themselves as...it is what it is...whatever gets their rocks off.
    Well gay men should know better than a delusional bi closet case.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Quote Originally Posted by jensu846 View Post
    . It bothers the shit of out me when we go to the bars and he says he's straight to all the fella's. I just about gag and so want to call him out on it.
    Quote Originally Posted by blackbeltninja View Post
    Well... why don't you?

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Nothing "straight" about a guy doing it with another guy, whatever he calls himself.

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    Labels don't matter; and for a lot of people here it seems that having (or being) "straight" is the turn on. As long as everyone admits their having a good time, who the hell cares?

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    If it's just one nightstand with an extremely horny straight guy, it's cool. I can accept the idea (and probably reality) that there are straight guys that have sex with other men purely for pleasure and nothing else.

    But, if it's with someone you've been with for a long time, I'm going to have to call bullshit on that.

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    Never encountered this before, but I would probably be amused about it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nemothepanda View Post
    If it's just one nightstand with an extremely horny straight guy, it's cool. I can accept the idea (and probably reality) that there are straight guys that have sex with other men purely for pleasure and nothing else.
    Again... sexuality is based on which gender sexually arouses you... not by how much you interact with them (sexually) or how you feel emotionally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by silentalk View Post
    Nothing "straight" about a guy doing it with another guy, whatever he calls himself.
    I fucked alot of women and I am completely gay...other people can define my sexuality or other people's sexuality if they must but I know it has nothing to do with me and everything to do with them... defining other peoples sexual identity for them is a bit invasive and you have to assume that you have some kind of absolute definitive answer to something as complex as human sexuality.

    I don't need anyone else to tell me....I know why I fucked women...no one else does. I fucked women because I was a horny slut and if there were no men who turned me on around I would have sex with a woman. I am not Bi. I pretended I was fucking a man or I thought about a man. There are plenty of straight men who are sluts as well and if the opportunity they want isn't happening they may take the one that presents itself.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Sexuality is an interesting topic, but no I don't mind people referring to their partners as straight, tons of people I know in my college have experimented, personally I believe if you do it with a dude more than a couple time you are at least somewhat bisexual, but no I don't dislike it when they refer to them as straight.

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    Quote Originally Posted by eastofeden View Post
    I fucked alot of women and I am completely gay...other people can define my sexuality or other people's sexuality if they must but I know it has nothing to do with me and everything to do with them... defining other peoples sexual identity for them is a bit invasive and you have to assume that you have some kind of absolute definitive answer to something as complex as human sexuality.

    I don't need anyone else to tell me....I know why I fucked women...no one else does. I fucked women because I was a horny slut and if there were no men who turned me on around I would have sex with a woman. I am not Bi. I pretended I was fucking a man or I thought about a man. There are plenty of straight men who are sluts as well and if the opportunity they want isn't happening they may take the one that presents itself.
    I'm sorry but just because you prefer men it doesn't mean you're not bisexual.

    Most bisexuals don't like both genders equally.

    You're probably a 5 or a 4 on the Kinsey scale, not a 6.
    Last edited by Laufey; May 13th, 2013 at 02:30 AM.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Don't care.

    But what really shits me are the people who talk about their 'partner'.

    Come on - give me a clue - are you doing a dude or a chick here... ?
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    Yep.

    And I don't feel "bitchy" for doing it. Most of these guys do this because they want to feel that they are sleeping with something "better" than a gay. Which makes them both ignorant and proudly celebrating their internalized homophobia. These guys generally don't hang around in my life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kabluey View Post
    Don't care.

    But what really shits me are the people who talk about their 'partner'.

    Come on - give me a clue - are you doing a dude or a chick here... ?
    I really hate "partner" and "special friend". It makes it sound like it's somehow less of a relationship.

    I mean it's the same word you can use for someone you work with. It should be more unique.

    I'm glad we don't have this in my native language.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    "Special friend" = hasn't met my parents yet.
    Blah blah blah, something enigmatic sounding...

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    I thought this thread was about boner curvature.


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    Quote Originally Posted by alister View Post
    He'd stop getting the dick if he did that's why!

    exactly. I don't want to lose him. I guess I like having sex with him MORE than it bothers me that he says hes straight. Its just easier to go with the status quo and let him say it.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Laufey View Post
    I'm sorry but just because you prefer men it doesn't mean you're not bisexual.

    Most bisexuals don't like both genders equally.

    You're probably a 5 or a 4 on the Kinsey scale, not a 6.
    No...I am definitely gay.

    This is a great example though of what happens when you let other people define you.

    You will get the guys who say that bisexuality doesn't exist...

    ...or the people who think I am trying to be "straight" by fucking a woman...

    ...in the end...they are all opinions and say more about the person who has them than me. I understand that they are all opinions....

    Some people need to label everything for some reason. I get that alot with my spiritual beliefs. I finally just decided to say I am pagan and let the other person decide what that means to them without any further input from me because it annoys me to hear other people trying to define my spiritual beliefs and when I am silent it ends alot quicker.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    This whole getting hung up on labels thing is really silly. Ok, I can understand where some people are coming from if it bothers them in certain situations. I mean if a guy is enjoying sex with you and maybe even gets all lovey and kissy with you, but then says he's straight in public, then you have a right to be upset. Even though he's most likely doing it cause he feels that being anything other than straight is bad or socially unacceptable, he is at the same time sending you a message that only you can see. He is saying that you and whatever you guys have together is bad and undesirable and should be hidden. So, yes it should bother you, confuse you, hurt you and make you angry because it's wrong. But let's not try and use our emotions as fuel to justify forcing others on to a label we believe belongs to them, even if to us they are in denial about it, and then excuse it by blaming it on OCD-ish behavior (not that I'm accusing anyone here of doing that, I'm speaking from personal experience). I believe these labels are made simple for us to try and comprehend something in us that in reality is complex.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Quote Originally Posted by jensu846 View Post
    exactly. I don't want to lose him. I guess I like having sex with him MORE than it bothers me that he says hes straight. Its just easier to go with the status quo and let him say it.
    I'll never understand this. A guy who is so bothered by having sex with men that he needs to consider himself "straight" is a guy who looks down at homosexuality; hence a guy who looks down at homosexuals; hence a guy who looks down at me and doesn't deserve any part of me physically.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Quote Originally Posted by eastofeden View Post
    No...I am definitely gay.

    This is a great example though of what happens when you let other people define you.

    You will get the guys who say that bisexuality doesn't exist...

    ...or the people who think I am trying to be "straight" by fucking a woman...

    ...in the end...they are all opinions and say more about the person who has them than me. I understand that they are all opinions....

    Some people need to label everything for some reason. I get that alot with my spiritual beliefs. I finally just decided to say I am pagan and let the other person decide what that means to them without any further input from me because it annoys me to hear other people trying to define my spiritual beliefs and when I am silent it ends alot quicker.
    Labels are obviously important to you since you want to be labeled gay and dislike it when someone says you are bi.

    If you had began with just saying you don't want to use labels then thats fine... but you started the post with "definitely gay" but then later act all pretentious with the whole no labels thing.
    Last edited by Laufey; May 13th, 2013 at 10:18 PM.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Laufey View Post
    Labels are obviously important to you since you want to be labeled gay and dislike it when someone says you are bi.

    If you had began with just saying you don't want to use labels then thats fine... but you started the post with "definitely gay" but then later act all pretentious with the whole no labels thing.
    Bullshit...if I decide to define myself as gay but dislike it when someone else tries to define me or tell me who I am...it has nothing to do with labels. My issue is with other people trying to define me. I have a hard time believing that so many gay people have devolved to this level...but they have. We should know better.

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    Re: Do you dislike it when guys refer to their sex partners as "straight"?

    You can call it defining you... I call it looking up the dictionary.

    bisexuality

    bi·sex·u·al [bahy-sek-shoo-uhl] Show IPA
    adjective
    1.
    Biology .
    a.
    of both sexes.
    b.
    combining male and female organs in one individual; hermaphroditic.
    2.
    sexually responsive to both sexes; ambisexual.

    noun
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    Biology . an animal or plant that has the reproductive organs of both sexes.
    4.
    a person sexually responsive to both sexes; ambisexual.
    Using labels is a normal part of communicating with languages. People don't get uptight about being labeled by gender or nationality so why should it be any different with sexuality?

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    Quote Originally Posted by alister View Post
    He'd stop getting the dick if he did that's why!
    I wouldn't even want it.

    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    I'll never understand this. A guy who is so bothered by having sex with men that he needs to consider himself "straight" is a guy who looks down at homosexuality; hence a guy who looks down at homosexuals; hence a guy who looks down at me and doesn't deserve any part of me physically.
    I agree.

    Quote Originally Posted by Laufey View Post
    You can call it defining you... I call it looking up the dictionary.

    Using labels is a normal part of communicating with languages. People don't get uptight about being labeled by gender or nationality so why should it be any different with sexuality?
    Actually some people do get uptight about gender and/or nationality labels. And, I think sexuality is something that is not as cut and dry as a dictionary may make it out to be.

    I also think people can be in denial of their sexuality, I tend to think that is something that occurs with people that haven't really done a lot of self-reflecting on themselves or come from backgrounds were other pressures are forcing them to choose a sexuality that may not fit them and I think that's a lot more prevalent with bi guys that feel the pressure to identify as straight.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Laufey View Post
    You can call it defining you... I call it looking up the dictionary.
    Yeah....because the dictionary at any given moment in history is always right...eh? It evolves as new information becomes available.

    There were a lot of people and institutions who used to define what being gay meant (perversion)....and someone who was trying to tell a gay person who they were could just quote any old official source they wanted to once upon a time. It wasn't until 1973 that homosexuality was removed from the list of mental disorders. People could use other people's standard "definitions" as "proof" then...just as you are doing now.

    Using labels is a normal part of communicating with languages. People don't get uptight about being labeled by gender or nationality so why should it be any different with sexuality?
    You are doing more than using labels...you are trying to define something as complex as sexuality for other people and insisting you understand them better than they understand themselves. That is obnoxious.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Laufey View Post
    4.
    a person sexually responsive to both sexes; ambisexual
    .
    I forgot to ask you about this....how do you and the dictionary define "sexually responsive"? Is it emotional? physical? intellectual? spiritual?

    If the answer is the dreadfully obvious one from a male perspective (hard penis) then that would automatically make all females bisexual since a hard penis is unattainable....or not? (BTW...that wouldn't be my answer)

    Just curious how you define sexually responsive?

    ...and since we you are defining everyone else's sexuality for them....so many other people insist that everyone is bisexual...perhaps they are right...eh?

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    Quote Originally Posted by eastofeden View Post
    Yeah....because the dictionary at any given moment in history is always right...eh? It evolves as new information becomes available.
    The dictionary isn't science or preaching. It's a source of common words people use to communicate.

    If we are all gonna make up our own definition of the words then it will just complicate communication (like we are seeing here).

    It makes no sense whatsoever to call yourself heterosexual when both men and women can stimulate you sexually.

    If you choose the whole "I don't want to limit my sexuality by labeling it with just one of these three options" then that's fine. BUT if you choose to use one of those labels the very least you can do is use the right one.

    Quote Originally Posted by eastofeden View Post
    I forgot to ask you about this....how do you and the dictionary define "sexually responsive"? Is it emotional? physical? intellectual? spiritual?
    Obviously physical.

    Women also get horny and they don't need a boner to tell them they are.

    ...and since we you are defining everyone else's sexuality for them....
    I try to use language correctly rather than checking first what people think about it before talking to them.

    We aren't arguing about the actual behavior here... just what to call it. It seems like some people here have started to mix the two together.
    Last edited by Laufey; May 14th, 2013 at 04:10 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Laufey View Post
    We aren't arguing about the actual behavior here... just what to call it. It seems like some people here have started to mix the two together.
    I would think that at a base level most men would probably be able to achieve orgasm with someone (male or female) if they did the right things, if they hadn't had sex in a long enough time.

    I think the question is, are we just talking about orgasm or something else?

    I've always thought being gay meant being emotionally and sexually attracted to men.

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