Over the last six months I've become really good friends with another guy. I am bi and reasonably open about it although not fully out, he is supposedly straight, and very defensive about being straight. He has many stereotypically "gay" mannerisms, but in terms of his personality seems "straight" (not trying to conform to gender norms, just trying to describe him).
When we first met and we'd go to events, he'd always come up to me and try to talk to me. Our first conversation was drunken, and was about how well dressed I am and how "if he was gay he'd be into me." Since then, we have hung out all the time; oftentimes if I send him a message, he does not respond, but then in person is really talkative and wants to talk to me so I think that is just his personality. He talks about girls he has liked sometimes, but we have the same social circle and the girls he has mentioned conveniently don't have facebooks and live in faraway places. He himself is very liberal and "pro-gay", but he comes from a super conservative area and family.
The two of us are working on several projects together and value each other's talents, so even though we hang out a lot, often times it's business oriented. Although usually "meetings" are hang out sessions with very little work done.
I really, really enjoy being his friend, to the point that I almost don't want to risk trying to see if it will go further because I like him as a friend so much However, at the last few parties we've been at, he's been very, very touchy....and then will say things like "don't get so close to me, people already think I'm gay." Other than this, when we are sober, he seems fairly platonic, although it is hard to tell. Meanwhile several of my friends, a few who know I'm bi and a few who do not, tell me they think he is into me even though he says he is straight.
I guess the bottom line is I want to know if I should just ignore the "signs" and continue to be his friend, or make some kind of move. He's the kind of personality that if I made a move and he was straight and I was misreading him, my friendship with him would be pretty awkward and I don't want that to happen. Or maybe just see how things go?