May 4th, 2013, 10:28 PM
On the Prowl
Yes like poker, I'm trying to figure certain things out and do not have the interaction access that you all might so I need your help on this. (This is a serious comment type post, save all jokes for the end or for another post. I just want data and observations).
What have you noticed about bi/gay/curious guys that tip you off about him? Even if hes not out how can you tell.
Example: in the manner he walks? the way he interacts with other?
what I'm asking is what sets off or at least trips the gay/bi-dar sensors.
I already have eye contact in my notes: how ever it can me faulty especially in New Jersey--where its almost like a sin for anyone ur not close to
Sorry I'm trying to Sherlock-Holmes this since i apparently don't have this built into my senses, So if you can help me out that be great.
Even short snippets of experiences you had with figuring some one out would be helpful.
May 5th, 2013, 08:57 AM
As I said in a previous post, I know a very masc, very "straight" guy that loves to be fucked, and NO ONE would ever suspect was into any kind of MM fun. The guy prancing through the mall in a rainbow headband and wearing capri pants is kind of obvious. lol Gaydars seems to be something you have or you don't; and if you have it you can work on bettering it.
May 5th, 2013, 09:12 AM
One thing that helps bigtime is to have a really, really goodlooking friend as a decoy. In the company of mine I was able to make much more accurate gaydar assessments by watching other guys to see if they did a doubletake upon noticing him or started smiling by reflex. (Also fun to watch some of the younger straight ones perceive him as a threat and unconsciously get more protective of their girlfriends. I'd always think "dude, don't turn into a frowny caveman, let her talk to the guy for a bit and you'll reap the benefits of him warming her up when you get home!")
May 5th, 2013, 06:54 PM
i have one friend who is straight, or at least as far as anyone is aware, but every time we are in class, he sits next to me and for at least 1/2 the class his calf is touching mine. and he moves his foot to initiate contact every time. dont want to move in on it, but im pretty sure if we were alone and i put my hand in his pants he wouldnt stop me.
if you see them checking you out.
there is this one guy who works at the nearest dining hall at the takeout place, that i told my roommate was checking him out. roommate said no, hes just friendly. then a few nights ago he starts coming onto him and saying "dude you gotta add me on facebook already." called it! no subtlety left whatsoever.
there is another guy in the same dining hall who is also gay. i know he is gay because we hooked up :P
i know you dont have a grindr, but a great tell that somebody wants you is when the same guy keeps sending you messages: "hey" "hey" "whats up" "hey" "generou$"
May 11th, 2013, 04:43 PM
Since looks and what's considered attractive are HIGHLY subjective, having a "really really goodlooking friend" wouldn't be the one sure fire way to lure a gay or bi man. What I do at a public place is that if I see a guy I'm interested in I just send out not so subtle signals that I'm cool with him, I might look at him and smile, sneak a couple looks at him, stand around him for a while. If he's gay/bi and interested in me, then he should pick up on those signals. It can't be that hard to pick out a gay/bi person in a public place.
May 12th, 2013, 11:33 PM
I always go by guys smiling at me when I smile, or they get close I don't jump away, like I'm afraid. If were talking I'll say check out the girl and get his reaction, if he says ok then maybe I can score, but if he goes on and on about how hot she is, I'd say he's off limits.