there's not enough of them. let's celebrate the fails.
there's not enough of them. let's celebrate the fails.
Last edited by refujiunderground; April 27th, 2013 at 01:37 PM.
that's so mean. celebrate in someone else's failure :/
Last edited by refujiunderground; April 27th, 2013 at 01:42 PM.
If they are on Youtube, obviously, they are meant to be shared. If you don't want to share your own failures. Then don't broadcast your dirty laundry for the world to see.
When people propose in front of lots of people and in front of a video camera, CLEARLY, they want the attention. Well...these guys got the attention...not how they had imagined. But they got the attention nonetheless.
Last edited by HunterM; April 27th, 2013 at 01:52 PM.
Must...fill...with positivity!!! With a well-choreographed wedding proposal gone RIGHT!
That's very sad.
There's a failure in communication in these relationships.
Last edited by refujiunderground; April 27th, 2013 at 01:59 PM.
Bender...don't say no...in front of witnesses. Or get rid of those witnesses.
* run out of this thread first *
Last edited by HunterM; April 27th, 2013 at 02:05 PM.
Last edited by refujiunderground; April 27th, 2013 at 02:04 PM.
lol, I looked at the YouTube comments - as one of them said, I think it's kind of selfish when a guy makes a public spectacle out of the whole thing and lays pressure onto a girl to say yes by suddenly having like a thousand people watching her.
But I DO feel sorry for the poor guys. Hopefully they weren't too devastated.
Vaguely reminds me of a few occasions on U.K. game shows a decade or two ago when the host would say to a couple at the beginning something like "So, Jack, I believe you might have an announcement for Jill tonight?" and he would say something like "Well, we'll see how the game goes."
In other words - I'll marry you if I win some money - if I don't, forget it. I always found that a bit fake and shallow. I mean, isn't there a line that says 'for richer, for poorer'?
it's hard to find gay marriage proposal fails on youtube. marriage equality needs to be legalized in america to equalize the amount of rejected gay marriage proposals with the straight ones.
Last edited by refujiunderground; April 27th, 2013 at 02:20 PM.
so beautiful. what a way to come out.
Last edited by refujiunderground; April 27th, 2013 at 02:24 PM.
How sad for the poor guys. But if you are willing to take the risk by proposing in public, you have to be ready for both answers.
Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.
That's pretty sweet to hear that they are doing great
I had a classmate (junior) who just started dating a girl, and on the 5th day, she brought him to a family dinner.
Most of us have known guys or gals who were entirely delusional about their relationship statuses.
In the first video posted by the OP, it wasn't even clear that the couple was actually dating, although could have been. He nattered on about how she ate her cupcake. It wouldn't be hard to imagine him being in a stalker-like delusion, although that's not required. Frankly, she would have been within her rights to decline based on that choice and rendering of Sweet Caroline.
The fact that the guys could propose in public and not know the answer before asking almost proves they have deluded themselves, as no one who has any doubt is going to publicly ask a partner. I'm not psychologist, but it would seem likely that these guys sublimate their doubts and self-esteem issues, essentially living in a house of cards.
Sadly, these rejections only occur because the girl has a strong will and sense of self, reminding us that many other couples DO get married when the mix is not right, but cave to the pressure to get married (pressure from their own desperation, family expectation, social competition.)
Last edited by Dejavudoo; April 28th, 2013 at 04:41 AM.
This would be my biggest fear, proposing to someone and them saying no.
But then again I probably wouldn't be all flashy about it and do it in public in front of so many people.
Regrets are for people who stop on the ground.
I'm heading for the stars.
For most couples, a rejected marriage proposal IS tantamount to a break-up. I personally know a few couples where te guy proposed and was turned down (albeit not publicly), and in all cases, the relationship ended immediately or soon after. The turn-down gets the guy thinking "maybe I'm with the wrong girl if she won't marry me", or he feels he has to break up to "salvage hs pride".
Only tangentially related, but a college friend of mine was engaged to a woman years ago. They picked a date not quite a year in the future, then set about booking a venue. The place that they really wanted to get married in was booked that weekend, so he tentatively booked for a date a month or two later - they didn't see the big deal, since nothing had been set in stone yet. No invitations were sent, or anything like that. The father of the woman flipped out though. He accused my friend of intentionally delaying the wedding to...well, I'm not sure what. But the father got a bunch of family members together, including the bride-to-be, and gave him an ultimatum. "Either you marry my daughter on the day you first selected, or you do not marry my daughter at all." My friend asked his fiancee "Are you with them on this?" And she meekly said yes. So he turned to the father and said, "OK, I choose not to marry her at all." He walked out, and from what I understand, they never spoke again.
And while I can't claim to enjoy watching these videos, as pointed out, they're often using peer pressure to get a "yes" from a girl they might not otherwise get one from. I wonder how many girls say "yes" in public to this sort of proposal, then tell them "no" privately once they get home.