I may have lost my connection with a guy who has gotten me more into this, but there's something about a guy in dress clothes or other uniform (not really leather) who isn't afraid to force me around, make me strip down, walk outside to his basement with a full hard on, put on a t shirt that says "I've been bad and I deserved to get spanked" before putting me over his knee for a good hard spanking, tying me to the bed and taking the paddle to my ass, washing my mouth out with soap, gagging me and torturing my balls while i squirm and cry for mercy. The idea of large volume enemas was recently suggested to me. Being forced to hold all that liquid in sounds very uncomfortable and having a guy over me, holding me still while i struggle and being that physically vulnerable just drives me absolutely wild. i'm not particularly into watersports, but if i were tied up and he started to pee on me, i'm sure i would enjoy every moment of it.
but unless you know that you're partner is into it or they already know, how are you supposed to tell them without worrying that you're coming off as crazy. and having someone do that to you who isn't experienced and doesn't know about to go about spanking you and taking complete control seems potentially dangerous. maybe i'm wrong there