I am having a very difficult time meeting gay guys. In my young life, I've really only known one or two gay guys in my age group who I was certain were gay. Seriously, only one or two, ever. This is very frustrating as I'd like to start dating and forming relationships.
I suppose part of this problem just comes from being gay. With only 5-10% (and that's being generous) of the population being gay, the odds are clearly against us. It also doesn't help that there's still a stigma attached to homosexuality in many communities, making people less likely to embrace their sexual orientation publicly. And I think this is worst with young people, as they face bullying and and all sorts of other pressures that keep them from coming out. Just these factors alone probably put our chances of meeting someone else who's gay below 1%, let alone someone we could actually have a long term relationship with. But even faced with all this, I still have hope...
I've found that the most common advice for meeting fellow gay people is to go to the gay bars/clubs. There are a few problems with this advice for me. First of all, I'm really not much of a bar/club person. And I'm not looking for a hookup (not saying everyone you meet in a bar is a "hookup", but there's certainly a good number looking just for that). Plus, I'm really looking for guys in the 18-21 age range (I don't see myself with anyone much older than me). Most of them can't even get inside a bar. So the bar/club thing is really out.
Which leaves me with the question: How in the world do young gay guys meet each other?