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I am gorgeous inside and out!
Average people become more attractive if they have a good personality.
Attractive people become less attractive if they have a bad personality.
" For all there is to feel, let it be felt"
― Emeli Sande
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" For all there is to feel, let it be felt"
― Emeli Sande
Personality all the way.
The older I get the more I realize how important a few things are to me such as a specific type of humor, attentiveness, and a desire to be nurturing.
It really isn't one thing that makes someone attractive it's a mixture and the most important ingredients are those that resonate with with me on an emotional level.
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it's all about how you feel about yourself at the end of the day. fuck what anybody else thinks. no one can make you believe or feel that you're ugly, attractive, a good person, a bad person and etc unless you believe that you are that. that's what it boils down to. how you view yourself. someone else can think you're a 10 in the face and have a wonderful personality BUT you can feel the exact opposite about yourself where you hate your face and think you have a shitty personality that isn't loveable. there is no such thing as being "attractive" or being "ugly". i think i'm ugly BUT there's some people outthere that would beg to differ. i have to change that way of thinking towards myself because it's toxic.
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But yes, how you behave can completely stir up my interest or cause it to flat-line regardless of how you look.
message to 'less attractive' people
"Show us what chu can do!"
message to beautiful people:
Beauty is skin deep..........ugly goes right to the bone.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that goes for outer appearances as well as inner qualities. There is something and someone for everyone. Sometimes you just gotta know someone better before shutting them out.
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I'm one of those people who is beautiful inside and out.
And I need someone equally as stunning as myself, tbh.
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I'd say so. I like people who are really decent and who I can trust.
There are a few guys in my class that some girls fawn over and thinks they are hot but they are total jerks, douche bags, liars and enjoys stabbing people's back. That just renders whatever their appearances useless to me. I can't even look at them w/o cringing.
Here it is... Amy says it all.
" For all there is to feel, let it be felt"
― Emeli Sande
It depends on the context.....as far a human being...probably.....as far as being a sexy hot thing...no.
I have a counter question does fame/money compensate for outer ugliness?
Only government can take perfectly good paper, cover it with perfectly good ink and make the combination worthless.
Oop, forgot to put my two cents in.
It's hard for me. I may come off as a hypocrite because truth be told, for some reason I'm attracted to assholes (no peen intended), because they end up being the physically attractive ones. But I'd like to take the high ground and say it's what inside that counts... and what's inside of me counts too.
But yeah, as I said earlier; physicality attracts me, personality keeps me.
Only if people have time to know deeper the person. As that occurs rarely, ugglyness is a hard social handicap. Beautiful people are paid higher, they can act more easily like douch, people will be nicer to them, etc.
I'm sorry to break your bubbles, but studies continue to find that physical beauty always trumps all other traits. No way around it. You can sit there fantasize how you value personality more than physical beauty, in the end your subconscious will favor those that are beautiful more than those that are ugly.
^ Speak for yourself.
Usually the ugliest people on the planet are the ones who talk about other people being ugly. If I hear anyone describing anyone else as ugly because of their appearance I feel ice in my veins...I turn cold instantly and any respect I might have had for them vanishes immediately.
Whether you like it or not, people really do favor the more physical attractive, subconsciously or not. You can tell yourself all day that you don't do this, but it's your subconscious and you have no control over it.
What is it with political correctness getting in the way of reality? I will be the first to admit that I am ugly by any standard. I'm not going to delude myself by thinking people are better than favoring the more physically attractive. Evidence should take precedent over wishy washy thinking.
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Yes. Confidence is what's attractive. Confidence can be expressed by anyone of any physical type.
Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.
There is one type of specimen that is soooo HAAAAAAARRRDDD to contain, yet when I have him (even for ONS) he still treated me like shit/doormat and you know what happen? I became totally repulsed with his type..they drop drastically from high search to less wanted and I just can't turn on/difficult to get on with that type anymore 'cuz whenever I see his replica, I remember how assholy he was. Dont ask me what type is he? 'cuz that would be bait
Another story: I've been with guy "who rely on me completely" the sex was horrible. We could be bff if only we never hook up, thats the wrong part, I got trauma by looking at tight nylon boxer briefs (dont ask^^)
His character match with his outer appearance too and that what's make it double unattractive.
I say no to both..
Why not both?
When you meet a guy who has both- usually he's like a parking spot everyone wants to take.
Dont be surprise to find out that he's taken, has gf/ bf-concubines a baby at home or 2-3 yo small kids.
What I say..is we usually too late, or am I always too late? lmo ^^
The last guy who I thoght he he has it all was my church colleague- when I was still attending church.
He is like the perfect guy ever. He wore clothing that enhance his sexual prowess in decent way while being nice/smiley to everyone..just perfect *_*
but..he is conservative has kids and a wife whose 24/7 clinging on him.
and...because we born in less innocent world- those who have physical beauty are less/difficult to be virtuous, because it's just hard. The temptation are humongous, therefore they're the most difficult to earn personality points
Unless they have basic knowledge/ well raised from their parents, how strong beautiful people to resist temptation to destroy themselves physically/spiritually from the evil world?
It's a definite yes for me.
Blah blah blah, something enigmatic sounding...
Each one of us is capable of a lot of things that we are not aware of on an everyday basis. There are certain phenomena that are inherent in the human psyche that have only been recently been named even though philosophers and other intellectuals have been aware of them for centuries. The two specific ones I want to mention are the bystander effect and the dunning-kruger effect. I encourage you to look them up and read about them.
But in short, the bystander effect is a phenomenon that has only been given a name in the 70's. It says that when you need help, the more people that are around you the less likely you will get help.
I know, at this point you're probably going to say to yourself that this phenomenon won't affect you. I assure you, it affects everyone. You can read the various research to find the attempted explanations to why this phenomenon exists.
The Dunning-Kruger effect says that incompetent people tend to overestimate their abilities, and competent people tend to underestimate themselves. The thing about this effect is that if I am incompetent I'm not aware of this fact. It's a vicious cycle. An example of this in life is students who do bad in school tend to think they've performed well on a test before they got their results back.
There are other phenomena that are inherent in the human psyche. One of them is our tendency to favor those who are more good looking.
The only way to avoid these behaviors in ourselves is to be aware of them and to self-check. Simply dismissing them and say to yourself that it won't affect you will only increase the likelihood that you will behave that way in certain situations. The kicker is you won't even be aware that you're doing it.
I am sure the word "shallow" will come up about me as a result of this post, but truth can be brutal. I live near the beach. The currency of the beach is physical appearance. Looks wise on a scale from "A" to "F," I am about a "B." Looks wise, I know what I can get in the sack, and what I can't. Nothing irritates me more in a bar than a "C" who will not leave me alone. We are all adults, and we should be realistic about what we can get. If you are a "C" and want an "A" head down to the hustlers and buy it. You will save time, avoid a lot of pain, and get what you want.
Now, when I am not cruising, and was out shopping for a partner, my set of standards were completely different, looks and sexual activity were lower down the laddar. My priorities boiled down to someone I could enjoy from day to day. I wanted someone I can count on when I get older. I have been ten years with the same guy, and could not be happier. As it turned out he is also a "B." However, he is a caregiver for developmentally disabled people by career choice. When you spend as much time with the developmentally disabled as we do, your whole perspective comes into focus. However, this does not mean I won't go home with a guy bercause I like the face and basket. Say what you will, but my perspective is realistic, and I feel sorry for those who do not have their priorities in line. The bars are filled with guys who age alone unhappily. If you are realistic, and understand your own limitations honestly, you can win the marriage game.
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^The marriage "game"? Honestly, when folks talk about relationships in such terms, it becomes more obvious to me why I don't ever want one.
Ask your mama
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thats right, I went there
Beauty like "hot-beauty" is like a luxury, some people want to earn simultaneously (them and their partner) some just want not for themselves but as qualification for a potential partner
either way, human-relation isn't like possession, either luxurious/not. Even though lust itself almost working similar way but unfortunately earning a hot bf isn't like earning a hot shot career, fancy car/meal or latest gadget. There are more complex human interaction inside- it's not only sex but it contains even more that could break or make it.
The most expensive Steak restaurant in Seattle is Metropolitan Grill in downtown- over there you can get wagyu beef, one of the best prime cut in the world. The menu price is beyond my budget but I swore to God I must taste it no matter how. ^^
One I day I will taste the beef
but speaking of the other beef..
Im not unrealistic enough to think I'll happily ever after with him, like you said: limitation ^^
but what's so different between him and wagyu beef steak? They're the same, they're lust
and no one should getting butthurt because of that, lust isn't necessary privilege if ya'll think.
My lust is no different than your lust although we might have different taste- I think your avatar guy is C, IMO- he just lean, toned and pretty and I bet he has a big dick but I d care with all of that, my preference is different but I admit that type still one of best seller. ^^
I must add in your stats above that we're not only must know our limitation but we must also know our potential
I didn't know my limitation when I was young, losing my potential for quite some time but now I think Im on the right track
and I wish everybody on the right track too, dont let this mere problem distract your focus ;-)
What if you do not have inner or outer beauty...but aren't totally ugly either?
^If there is massive winning, I believe there must massive losing as well or maybe you just haven't seen your potential yet, dear