Several years ago, I sat in the crowd of an off-Broadway production starring a friend of mine. She played a character who was the child of abusive parents, and opposite her was a character with a similar background insisting that plenty of folks are fucked up, that parents historically ruin their kids lives and at one point, he said "say it with me: 'Fuck you, mom! Fuck you, dad!'"
I loved hearing these words. I found myself applauding louder than most of the theater. It was a shock. A revelation. I had no idea what secret anger lingered towards my parents until then.
Several days ago, I sat in a cab with a good friend and his co-worker. He mentioned that he hated his mom. She (the co-worker) took exception to the comment and mentioned that it was wrong to say things like that, and asked for an explanation. I found it rude that she assumed him hating his mom was automatically wrong, and obnoxious that she demanded explanation for how he felt about his own family members, which she didn't even know.
I don't argue much, but that cab ride became very heated as I grew rather protective of my friend and his right to his feelings.
This thread is for those who have dealt with dads or moms that have fucked them over somehow to vent. This is not a thread for folks who have an amazing mom and dad to go on and on and on about how they can't relate because their mom and/or dad are the greatest human beings ever. I'm not mad at anyone for having great parents--just be understanding and empathetic for those who do not. If this a problem, skip to the next thread.
This is a safe space for those who have issues with their parents to vent and share stories without guilt. To say the forbidden words Fuck you, Mom! Fuck you, Dad! openly and to share your reasons if you want.
And also to share what you've done to overcome issues that they have given you growing up.