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    Is Masturbation Destroying Our Lives? (link)

    I know--it sounds melodramatic, doesn't it? I thought so, too until I ran across a Reddit group called "NoFap". This in turn led me to a TED talk that got me thinking.

    According to studies outlined in this TED talk, masturbation rewires the brain in much the same way as opiate or cocaine abuse. It sets in motion a chain of events that leads to real organic change in the brain's neuronal pathways. The results can lead to disaster.

    The new movement of LoFappers has reported some interesting results.Some say that their decision to become a "NoFapper" has fueled in them nothing less than a personal Renaissance.

    What do you think?


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    Happy April Fools' Day to you too Johann.

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    Re: Is Masturbation Destroying Our Lives? (link)

    If I had to stop masturbating, I'd need to find a partner willing to get me off at least five times a day.

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    Fap is good. Do fap. There needs to be more fap in the world.
    Magna Veritas


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    Geez, my best friend told me he had Aids on April Fools and I believed him


    Ive learned. Im not so naive

    Believe nothing today!!!

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    Re: Is Masturbation Destroying Our Lives? (link)

    The clip is very interesting, although I'm not convinced that extreme porn addiction can change sexual orientation just for "novel" sexual experiences.

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    ^It does make you wonder, though, doesn't it?

    Ive been fapping since I was 13 years old. I wonder how it's affected my brain?

    I feel intrigued enough about it to try it.

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    Re: Is Masturbation Destroying Our Lives? (link)

    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    Happy April Fools' Day to you too Johann.
    ^^^ This...

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    Re: Is Masturbation Destroying Our Lives? (link)

    I wonder how much C02 is produced by fapping?
    Blah blah blah, something enigmatic sounding...

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    Re: Is Masturbation Destroying Our Lives? (link)

    I would not be surprised if there is some truth in this...

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    It makes you wonder how putting on shoes and socks each day may have damaged our neural pathways. *shudders*
    There are TWO kinds of people in the world -- the kind who believe there are two kinds of people, and the kind who don't.

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    Re: Is Masturbation Destroying Our Lives? (link)

    More bollocks.
    "You may only be one person to the world, but you may also be the world to one person"
    - anonymous quote.

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    Re: Is Masturbation Destroying Our Lives? (link)

    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    Happy April Fools' Day to you too Johann.


    in my early teens, i used to think that masturbation was the cause of my many problems like depression, flunking classes at the time, being attracted to guys and me being tired all the time where i didn't want to do anything. a lot of that was influenced from what i learned in catholic school actually because there was a lot of anti masturbation talk they used to do. what really made me stop was when looking at some encyclopedia that my brother had on his laptop at the time and it said something which i misinterpreted about how kids stop masturbating around 13. i started to feel ashamed. a friend i knew on the internet said that he quit masturbating and that he felt better about himself. i then decided to quit masturbating all together at january 1st 2001, thinking that i could rewire my brain back to what i THOUGHT at the time was normal. big mistake. i tried doing that shit from 2001 to 2005 where i was basically saying "i'll never masturbate again", was able to not touch myself for either 3-6 months and then boom, i would spank my monkey in a horny rage.

    while i did the whole no masturbation bs, a single thing did NOT change. i didn't become straight. i was still depressed. in fact, i think doing that may have did some damage actually. i've learned that it's all in the mind. when i figured that out in late 2005, i realized that i was wasting my time and missed out on a hell of a lot of action.

    with that said, i wouldn't recommend anybody to do that unless they want to go crazy.

    to quit masturbation is basically giving up your sexuality and who you are. it's about accepting yourself. one way or another, you have to withdraw.
    Last edited by refujiunderground; April 1st, 2013 at 08:55 AM.
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    I watched this a couple weeks ago, and I think there's some truth to it in some cases. But it's not the same deal for everyone. I think masturbating/internet porn,etc. effects different people in different ways.

    He clocked ME on a couple of things he said in the video. I won't lie.

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    Considering the number of guys who come here complaining about sexual dysfunction in their relationships, while not having a problem when jerking off, porn and masturbation might have a negative effect on some guys.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    The scariest masturbation tuts was I found in this video..dont talk about disproportional face to me...

    I can't take it

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    Re: Is Masturbation Destroying Our Lives? (link)

    Quote Originally Posted by JohannBessler View Post
    I know--it sounds melodramatic, doesn't it? I thought so, too until I ran across a Reddit group called "NoFap". This in turn led me to a TED talk that got me thinking.

    According to studies outlined in this TED talk, masturbation rewires the brain in much the same way as opiate or cocaine abuse. It sets in motion a chain of events that leads to real organic change in the brain's neuronal pathways. The results can lead to disaster.

    The new movement of LoFappers has reported some interesting results.Some say that their decision to become a "NoFapper" has fueled in them nothing less than a personal Renaissance.

    What do you think?

    It would seem to me if that were to be the case, then we all have been re-wirered

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    Quote Originally Posted by JP. View Post
    The scariest masturbation tuts was I found in this video..dont talk about disproportional face to me...

    I can't take it
    Must be hard for him to get off

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    As an online advisor, one of the most common issues I get is "I now have a boyfriend, but I can't stay hard when we have sex." And nearly every time, it's a simple problem. They've gotten used to solo sex "their" way, which is usually "seated in front of the computer, jerking with my dominate hand in this particular way". And they never deviate from that. So their brain starts associating "sex" with "watching pornography and having this sort of stimulation". In addition, these guys (not surprisingly) also tend to quickly stop if somebody else shows up, or if the phone rings or something. So they have the additional brain wiring of "if somebody else shows up, stop".

    So now they have a boyfriend, and they want to have sex. And their brain is saying "But where's the porn? And why aren't you seated at the computer rubbing one out? And what's this GUY doing here?"

    That said, it's a fairly easy fix, as well. Just varying your masturbation techniques can help free the mind up into not thinking of sex as "any one thing". And masturbating while the boyfriend holds them can help introduce the "there can be another guy here" aspect.

    Lex

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    about the video,
    His conclusion is porn destroys erection.
    I'm not convince of that.


    NEVER LISTEN TO A ONE SIDED STORY AND JUDGE.

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    Quote Originally Posted by G-Lexington View Post
    As an online advisor, one of the most common issues I get is "I now have a boyfriend, but I can't stay hard when we have sex." And nearly every time, it's a simple problem. They've gotten used to solo sex "their" way, which is usually "seated in front of the computer, jerking with my dominate hand in this particular way". And they never deviate from that. So their brain starts associating "sex" with "watching pornography and having this sort of stimulation". In addition, these guys (not surprisingly) also tend to quickly stop if somebody else shows up, or if the phone rings or something. So they have the additional brain wiring of "if somebody else shows up, stop".

    So now they have a boyfriend, and they want to have sex. And their brain is saying "But where's the porn? And why aren't you seated at the computer rubbing one out? And what's this GUY doing here?"

    That said, it's a fairly easy fix, as well. Just varying your masturbation techniques can help free the mind up into not thinking of sex as "any one thing". And masturbating while the boyfriend holds them can help introduce the "there can be another guy here" aspect.

    Lex
    Great post, better then the video
    Last edited by Telstra; April 1st, 2013 at 04:02 PM.


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    Quote Originally Posted by JP. View Post
    The scariest masturbation tuts was I found in this video..dont talk about disproportional face to me...

    I can't take it
    It just shows that if you want something to 'prove' something you can use any bullshit stats to prove it

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    Quote Originally Posted by G-Lexington View Post
    As an online advisor, one of the most common issues I get is "I now have a boyfriend, but I can't stay hard when we have sex." And nearly every time, it's a simple problem. They've gotten used to solo sex "their" way, which is usually "seated in front of the computer, jerking with my dominate hand in this particular way". And they never deviate from that. So their brain starts associating "sex" with "watching pornography and having this sort of stimulation". In addition, these guys (not surprisingly) also tend to quickly stop if somebody else shows up, or if the phone rings or something. So they have the additional brain wiring of "if somebody else shows up, stop".

    So now they have a boyfriend, and they want to have sex. And their brain is saying "But where's the porn? And why aren't you seated at the computer rubbing one out? And what's this GUY doing here?"

    That said, it's a fairly easy fix, as well. Just varying your masturbation techniques can help free the mind up into not thinking of sex as "any one thing". And masturbating while the boyfriend holds them can help introduce the "there can be another guy here" aspect.
    What a whole load of over-analysed crap!

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    Quote Originally Posted by LeicsDom View Post
    What a whole load of over-analysed crap!
    But you have to produce statements to support your argument.


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    Quote Originally Posted by LeicsDom View Post
    What a whole load of over-analysed crap!
    Maybe both Lex and the video are right.

    I don't support the notion that we ALL suffer from overmasturbation. But I do think many of us do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LeicsDom View Post
    What a whole load of over-analysed crap!
    Call it what you'd like, but most guys have told me it helped a lot.

    And again, I don't find too many people who suffer from what you might call "overmasturbation". Yeah, I've talked to guys who masturbate so often that it's not really enjoyable, and it's almost a chore. And I'd say that's when it's definitely a problem.

    Lex

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    ^It might be as the commentator mentioned, Lex. Remember the analogy about the fish?

    We have overmasturbated for so long, that we've come to accept it as a normal human condition. rather than the anomaly that it is.

    I read an interesting comment on the NoFap site: "50 years ago, you were weird if you masturbated; now, you're weird if you don't." I don't know how true this is, but it does give us food for thought.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JohannBessler View Post
    Maybe both Lex and the video are right.

    I don't support the notion that we ALL suffer from overmasturbation. But I do think many of us do.
    Agreed! How can long-term obsessive porn and fapping NOT affect interpersonal relationships?
    Inspired - but too tired.

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    I must fap cause if I don't I'll start jizzing in my sleep.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikey3000 View Post
    Agreed! How can long-term obsessive porn and fapping NOT affect interpersonal relationships?
    Chalk it up to "population control".

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    Re: Is Masturbation Destroying Our Lives? (link)

    What is fapping?

    When I was with my ex I wouldn't masturbate for days after we had sex. When I did I was thinking of our last sexual encounter. I experience more growth during physical sex than watching porn too. I am just naturally turned on by intimacy. I'd get massively turned on if someone attractive gave me a hug!

    I frequently watch porn, but too much of anything is bad. Personally, I think it is naturally to relieve yourself - but if it gets to a point of concern then it might be time for a reality check.

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