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    How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    Two of my gay friends tonight, told me there is no chance in Hell they'd ever date/sleep with me... Kinda brought me down the way they put it :/

    What are some good things you do to make yourself feel better?
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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    Quote Originally Posted by Saybrooke View Post
    Two of my gay friends tonight, told me there is no chance in Hell they'd ever date/sleep with me... Kinda brought me down the way they put it :/

    What are some good things you do to make yourself feel better?
    well, first off, don't take it personally. just remember that for every person that will reject you, there's another person that will be over to the point where they'll be obsessed with you and will stalk you on some "you will be my husband" shit. you'll be alright.
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    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    Well, just because they don't want to sleep with you doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, if anything it's a reflection on how rude and insensitive they are based on how they phrased it.

    My self esteem is OKAY. What do I do to cheer myself up? I listen to Kylie Minogue's music, does the trick everytime.

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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    Quote Originally Posted by Saybrooke View Post
    Two of my gay friends tonight, told me there is no chance in Hell they'd ever date/sleep with me... Kinda brought me down the way they put it :/

    What are some good things you do to make yourself feel better?
    wow, well it is their lost because you are too cute!!! as for me, i just read a book, watch movies , and talk to my friends to make my self better better. My-Self Esteem is kinda low to okay
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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    A couple tips..

    When you get lemons...make lemonade. You have a complete choice how you are going to respond to anything in life so take advantage of it. I learned the hard way. Working in a gay bar is brutal...alot of gay people will eat you up and spit you out just for sport. You have to learn how to navigate the world so negativity can be a great tool if you let it be. Take what they said as a gift instead of a curse. So what if they don't want to date you....

    ...the other thing that will help you...when something like this really gets under your skin...step outside of yourself and your head for a moment and put yourself in their shoes. Are there people who you would not want to date or sleep with? Of course there are. That doesn't mean they are "bad" or unattractive...they are just not attractive to you for some reason...and that is OK. You don't have to be everything to everybody.

    Try silently thanking them for their honesty and appreciating that they did not lie to you. Then tell yourself that there are billions of people on the planet and surely you are not going to let two of them (or even millions of them) define you. There are lots of guys who would date you...doesn't matter who you are.

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    ^ Excellent advice, eastofeden, I do that myself. Thinking from the person's pov and stepping outside of yourself helps to prevent resentment and anger. Although it can be especially painful when such harsh words are from a friend and someone you care about, always keep in mind:

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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    Id like to think that I have pretty good self-esteem. I dig me

    It helps to surround yourself with positive people that love you for you. My self esteem is the lowest when Im around negative, mean spirited people.
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    Your friends sound...intense. Ahem.

    Anyway, people's tastes are different. Just know that there are many people out there who would find you appealing-- maybe even find you more attractive than they would your friends. The opinions of your two "friends" are not the end all be all.

    Personally, most of my self-esteem comes from how I view myself and not how everyone around me views me. If someone likes how I look, I'm just like "oh, they are cosigning how I already feel about myself." If they don't like the way I look, I just think "different strokes for different folks, I love how I look and that's not going to change." *shrug* I just don't give others control of how I view myself, that's something my mother instilled in me and I love her for it. I think it's really important to not get so caught up in how others view you. Especially since so many people in the world are very much about tearing others down to make themselves feel better.
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    Tell it, Oprah.


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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    Quote Originally Posted by Saybrooke View Post
    Two of my gay friends tonight, told me there is no chance in Hell they'd ever date/sleep with me... Kinda brought me down the way they put it :/

    What are some good things you do to make yourself feel better?
    He's not your friend if he says it that way. Get rid of him.
    I had friends who were attracted to me and I let them down easily and I would say I didnt want to ruin the friendship. That was an easy 'scape goat'
    If they can not tell you in a kinder way, you need to get other friends.


    I have low self esteem and I wonder why it is so low when I have had nothing traumatic happen to me like sexual / physical abuse. I had a bad high school experience but I never got beat up so Im thankful for that. My family life was fine. I dont understand why my esteem is so low based on my life experiences.

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    To boost my self-esteem...I get a hooker to blow me

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    First of all get better friends.
    Furious masturbation works for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Saybrooke View Post
    Two of my gay friends tonight, told me there is no chance in Hell they'd ever date/sleep with me... Kinda brought me down the way they put it :/

    What are some good things you do to make yourself feel better?
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    Watch one episode of The Jerry Springer ****** You'll feel much better about your own life.

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    Wow, what a couple of total dickheads.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Saybrooke View Post
    Two of my gay friends tonight, told me there is no chance in Hell they'd ever date/sleep with me... Kinda brought me down the way they put it :/

    What are some good things you do to make yourself feel better?
    I exercise.
    Work out, Dance, turn my body into a wonder of human biology.
    That always makes me feel better.

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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    Quote Originally Posted by Saybrooke View Post
    Two of my gay friends tonight, told me there is no chance in Hell they'd ever date/sleep with me... Kinda brought me down the way they put it :/

    What are some good things you do to make yourself feel better?
    I'd say these friends use pretty mean put-downs to boost their own self esteem.
    In a perfect world they'd just blow each other and leave the rest of us alone.
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    None of my gay friends wanna date or sleep with me either and they add up to far more than two so, I wouldn't worry about it too too much.

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    Don't worry about it. I'm sure there are plenty of people out there that wanna date/sleep with you.

    To boost my self-esteem... well... I can't help you there. I have got some self-esteem issues myself.

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    There may not be anything wrong with you at all. I, myself, have friends who are attractive but I wouldn't fuck or date. It's just the way they said it that's a little off-putting. But then again, they may be joking cuz I have friends who joke that way.

    When someone says something bad about me, I punch them. Makes me feel superior.

    Not really.

    I normally go out shopping where the sun hits my face so it my eyes appear more luminous which results in compliments.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Saybrooke View Post
    Two of my gay friends tonight, told me there is no chance in Hell they'd ever date/sleep with me... Kinda brought me down the way they put it :/

    What are some good things you do to make yourself feel better?
    I guess I'm not seeing the problem here, and you're reading way too much into it.

    Friends are FRIENDS... they shouldn't want to sleep with/date you.

    I see this as the same as your mom telling you she wouldn't want to sleep with/date you.

    ... It means your friends have healthy/respectable boundaries, and knows not to cross them if they want to maintain the friendship.
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    Agree with some of the comments here that you shouldn't be too upset by it, hun.

    Trust me...you're on point. Maybe your friends just have shit taste. lol nah, seriously...different strokes and all that jazz...

    As for my self esteem...honestly, it ebbs and flows. sometimes good, sometimes ehh...but anytime it's on the low end, it's because of how I feel about myself...not anything someone else has said or done.
    And I make myself feel better by watching a movie I really enjoy, reading a good book, or listening to almost ANY music by Bjork or Madonna. I just try to stay in a positive place.

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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    Some great advice people here have mentioned I personally think it's better to have good friends stay good friends. I have pretty low-self esteem. I usually watch a movie, watch Tv, play some video games or go Ice-skating when I get really down.

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    Don't be upset by it. They simply have their own tastes and that means nothing.

    That being said, to answer your question: my self esteem sucks. I've been told all my life by society (through school, college, the workplace, etc.) that I'm an unattractive piece of shit who is worth nothing. In my adult life, I get made fun of regularly for being "insecure," lacking confidence, etc., when I've never been given an actual reason to believe in myself.

    What I plan on doing to boost my self esteem (minus taking a shit ton of pills, running in traffic, and/or jumping off a high bridge) is getting surgery for my deviated septum to stop the snoring so that guys don't run for the hills whenever they sleep in my bed, penis widening so that I don't have the thinnest dick on the Eastern Hemisphere, and complete Facial Reconstruction so that I don't so accurately look like the worthless piece of shit that I am.

    I'll also shoot up on some testosterone seeing as though my miniscule balls don't really produce any

    I would try to get my life/career in order, but let's just admit it: anything I accomplish in life is really just me compensating for... shortcomings.

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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    Don't be upset by it. They simply have their own tastes and that means nothing.

    That being said, to answer your question: my self esteem sucks. I've been told all my life by society (through school, college, the workplace, etc.) that I'm an unattractive piece of shit who is worth nothing. In my adult life, I get made fun of regularly for being "insecure," lacking confidence, etc., when I've never been given an actual reason to believe in myself.

    What I plan on doing to boost my self esteem (minus taking a shit ton of pills, running in traffic, and/or jumping off a high bridge) is getting surgery for my deviated septum to stop the snoring so that guys don't run for the hills whenever they sleep in my bed, penis widening so that I don't have the thinnest dick on the Eastern Hemisphere, and complete Facial Reconstruction so that I don't so accurately look like the worthless piece of shit that I am.

    I'll also shoot up on some testosterone seeing as though my miniscule balls don't really produce any

    I would try to get my life/career in order, but let's just admit it: anything I accomplish in life is really just me compensating for... shortcomings.
    fuck the surgery. what you need to do is love yourself instead of beating yourself down.
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    *snaps fingers*

    *instantly the world magically changes into a place welcoming for extremely unathletic gay black men with saggy man boobs, asymmetrical facial features, grossly uneven teeth, and unbelievably tiny cocks*

    Wow, that was easy! I DO love myself now!

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    Haha, sorry folks, bad day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    *snaps fingers*

    *instantly the world magically changes into a place welcoming for extremely unathletic gay black men with saggy man boobs, asymmetrical facial features, grossly uneven teeth, and unbelievably tiny cocks*

    Wow, that was easy! I DO love myself now!
    seriously, dude.

    you know what i realized. you sound very vain when it comes to looking at yourself. you value yourself more as an object than who you are as a person. you rarely talk about your personality but yet you're ready to talk about your nose, your ears, your face as if that's the reason for all your problems. you need to appreciate yourself for who you are as a person and stop worrying about your physique. if there was something wrong with how you look, do you think that you would be getting laid in the first place? when you start worrying about how you look all the time, you will be busy comparing yourself to others, magazine covers of photoshopped faces, the people around you and etc thinking that they have it easy because you think so and so looks good when beauty and ugliness varies from person to person. look @ yourself for example, you HATE the way you look but there's people on here that think you're attractive. i think you're attractive.

    i feel the same way about my looks like you do where i think i'm ugly. there's other people that think that i'm ugly and average looking. there's some other people that think i'm cute and attractive. however, i don't value myself by my face and my body. the reason why i started working out was for health reasons. i wasn't eating well, my body was in pain from not exercising and my anxiety issues were worsening. the whole idea of looking good for at the time the ladies was secondary. i sometimes wish that i could go back to living as a skinny guy because i was completely content with that but the health benefits of working out was a step forward instead of letting myself stay at home and waste myself away.

    you know, your mindstate towards yourself is not healthy at all especially in a world which is already judging you for who you look already and who you are already. if you can accept that you're a black gay man in a world that is full of prejudice and hate where those characteristics put you on the front line for hate and are dealing with it just fine, you damn sure can accept your looks. it's damn sure not going to kill you and it's the least of your worries compared to surviving as a gay black male in society.
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    Quote Originally Posted by refujiunderground View Post
    seriously, dude.

    you know what i realized. you sound very vain when it comes to looking at yourself. you value yourself more as an object than who you are as a person.
    Being "Mr. Personality" is annoying, bro. I live in a world full of beautiful folks who don't need their personality to be sought after.

    Quote Originally Posted by refujiunderground View Post
    if there was something wrong with how you look, do you think that you would be getting laid in the first place?
    Yes. *facepalm* Getting laid in NYC is NOT that difficult. I think it's hilarious how often I have to say this to you. You always glamorize it like I'm working my way into some dude's pants.

    Quote Originally Posted by refujiunderground View Post
    you damn sure can accept your looks. it's damn sure not going to kill you and it's the least of your worries compared to surviving as a gay black male in society.
    Eh, being gay and Black is ironically the easy part. Being unattractive as fuq sucks no matter what race you are.

    I'll drop this, though. Nothing new is gonna be said.

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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    How do I boost my self esteem?



    Of course the way I look is important for my self esteem, but I learned that no matter how good you look or how smart you think you are, there are always people who just don't like you................it s normal, there is no need to feel sorry for yourself.
    Just move on, it is not the end of the world.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    Being "Mr. Personality" is annoying, bro. I live in a world full of beautiful folks who don't need their personality to be sought after.
    if someone thinks you're attractive, they'll remember you for a moment. if someone likes your personality, they'll remember you forever. remember that the next time you think the world revolves around "beautiful people". look on here for an example, you have people that will remember a jubber for their personality and etc BUT the ones that are best known for their looks, everyone goes like for two seconds and then everyone forgets about them the next second. your personality will guarantee you friends, a boyfriend, a marriage and etc. your looks will guarantee you a one night stand or 15 minutes if you're lucky enough to get just 1 minute.

    Yes. *facepalm* Getting laid in NYC is NOT that difficult. I think it's hilarious how often I have to say this to you. You always glamorize it like I'm working my way into some dude's pants.
    you may think getting laid is easy in nyc but guess what, do you think most people have sex with someone that they think are unattractive? not very likely. you're in a city with 8 million people in a small area so of course, anybody would be good. you're going to find many people that thinks you're attractive and unattractive. people do have standards, dude, when they fuck somebody.


    h, being gay and Black is ironically the easy part. Being unattractive as fuq sucks no matter what race you are.

    I'll drop this, though. Nothing new is gonna be said.
    stop saying you're unattractive as if it's a fact. it's an opinion. you THINK you're unattractive. that's your opinion about yourself. it doesn't mean that you are that.

    trust me, dude. you are not making yourself look good right now by calling yourself unattractive. nobody's telling you to call yourself attractive and etc. what people are telling you is that you need to stop making the way you look to be the most important aspect of you. if you're dating someone who wants to date based off of that, run for the hills because chances are things are not going to work out. you need to learn to value yourself on the things that matter the most. your personality, your brain, and etc. there's more to you than your face and your body and if you keep going on about it like that, people will treat you like that too.

    you seem to be content with other people using you for your body like for sex than someone being in a relationship with you because they love who you are. have you ever dated somebody that you didn't have sex with? how did that play out?
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    I know I'm hot and I don't need validation or approval from others. And if someone rejects me, my line of thought is "well it's their loss". And lets not play Dr. Phil on here analyzing the personalities of others please. What people do in their personal lives are their own business. If someone wants to do one night stands, that's their own prerogative. Some on here are not in a position to judge others, when they sit in their house all day doing nothing.
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    My self esteem has taken a beating these last few years, but I am surviving.

    I go get laid to boost it. Apparently, I'm am pretty good in bed. At least that is what my hookups tell me. It makes me feel good when a guy comments what a great kisser I am or how great my hot ass feels to their cocks or what a great job I am doing on sucking their cocks. My self esteem gets a greater boost when they come back for more!

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    Quote Originally Posted by GiancarloC View Post
    I know I'm hot and I don't need validation or approval from others. And if someone rejects me, my line of thought is "well it's their loss". And lets not play Dr. Phil on here analyzing the personalities of others please. What people do in their personal lives are their own business. If someone wants to do one night stands, that's their own prerogative. Some on here are not in a position to judge others, when they sit in their house all day doing nothing.
    why not just say my name and call it a day. i wasn't judging dude either. i was just saying that dude values his body over everything else as if it's the only thing that matters because he keeps talking about how his body and face looks.
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    Quote Originally Posted by refujiunderground View Post
    why not just say my name and call it a day. i wasn't judging dude either. i was just saying that dude values his body over everything else as if it's the only thing that matters because he keeps talking about how his body and face looks.
    He has a right to feel that way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GiancarloC View Post
    He has a right to feel that way.
    you're right but i also have a right to tell my opinion as well just like the op asked for everybody's opinion on the thread topic which is asking how to boost up self esteem. so basically, this is a help zone for someone or anybody wants to be helped in some way in regards to their self esteem where anybody can drop an opinion on what they think might be able to help someone else out. not just talking about how well people's self esteem in here is.
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    mine is usually pretty good, I lost a HUGE client to a competitor last night and now I am in a low, low, low place. Sometimes it's hard not to take stuff personally. I give myself one day of self pity then I have to pick myself up, dust myself off, fix myself up and start all over again....
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    Quote Originally Posted by refujiunderground View Post
    you're right but i also have a right to tell my opinion as well just like the op asked for everybody's opinion on the thread topic which is asking how to boost up self esteem. so basically, this is a help zone for someone or anybody wants to be helped in some way in regards to their self esteem where anybody can drop an opinion on what they think might be able to help someone else out. not just talking about how well people's self esteem in here is.
    Fair enough.

    I gave my bit of advice... if someone rejects you, consider it their loss. That's the way I think. I think "well I was too hot for them anyways". Perhaps a bit egotistical, but it helps weed out those who are blind to how good looking I am. I give the same advice to others. View yourself highly and if someone rejects you, consider them blind.

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    Most of my gay friends I would not date/fuck either because we are just not compatible in that regard. I tried to date one of them and it just didn't work out so we mutually split up and we're still good friends.

    I think they may have been a bit harsh in the way they said it [I have said mean things in the past by being blunt to unwanted flirting] but there is a reason [I'm guessing] why you guys are friends and not lovers or fuck buddies.

    I get the feeling there is more to this story than the OP is letting on such as unrequited flirting.

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    I compliment myself, and listen to upbeat music scores, it takes a lot to bring me down.

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    Sleep with some people who are better looking than them. Or maybe make their significant others cheat on them with you.

    lul

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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    Quote Originally Posted by GiancarloC View Post
    Fair enough.

    I gave my bit of advice... if someone rejects you, consider it their loss. That's the way I think. I think "well I was too hot for them anyways". Perhaps a bit egotistical, but it helps weed out those who are blind to how good looking I am. I give the same advice to others. View yourself highly and if someone rejects you, consider them blind.
    Why not just think "they have a different type". I dont take it personal. They like a different type of guy and thats fine

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    My self esteem is very poor, and has been for most of my life. However, it's probably worse at this point in time. If I knew how to boost it, it wouldn't be so low...

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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    Quote Originally Posted by M10000 View Post
    Why not just think "they have a different type". I dont take it personal. They like a different type of guy and thats fine
    Basically. Even at my highest self esteem levels, I've never automatically considered it someone else's loss when they reject me. People like what they like.

    Assessments of my looks are generally not determined by others, but merely my own assessment of how I stack up next to others.

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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    Quote Originally Posted by M10000 View Post
    Why not just think "they have a different type". I dont take it personal. They like a different type of guy and thats fine
    I just think they need glasses lol. But that's just my view on the matter.

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    Re: How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

    If your self-esteem is based on looks (and for many gays it is), then you should probably rethink things.

    Don't care about what anyone else thinks.

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    On a scale of 1 to 10 I would give my self esteem an 8.
    It has not always been so high, as a boy in the 6th grade I was expelled, the teacher claimed that I was retarded, I had failed her class twice.
    They tested my i.q., it was above average, the court then decided that I was a delinquent and sent me to juvie for 18 mos.
    As strange as it might seem this was the beginning of me becoming more confident, it got me away from my abusive family and I found that without being told daily that I was an idiot that I no longer acted like one, the final step to me loving myself was in accepting the fact that I am gay, this took many years.
    Now I worry about being conceited.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FlimFlam View Post
    If your self-esteem is based on looks (and for many gays it is), then you should probably rethink things.

    Don't care about what anyone else thinks.
    it's just people in general. it's crazy how they beat into people's heads that their value is based off of their looks and nothing else. they say that someone is depressed or crazy if they don't give a fuck about how attractive they look or have confidence and aren't looking like some male model with the typical look or body.
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    Having a hot successful boyfriend means I don't need self esteem because my validation comes from the outside.


    nah, i'm kidding. I just said that to give thatgirl a chuckle and maybe an eye-roll.
    okay technically I'm not kidding about the boyfriend, but I am kidding about the rest.

    Seriously though, it comes down to this:

    I believe I should be happy. I believe I deserve to be happy just for showing up, just for existing. I am here. I want happiness to come my way… I didn't have to earn the right to be content in life.

    I'm not sure I can put it any more simply than that. It's helped me whether I've been single or with my guy. Whether I've had more money than bills or more bills than money. I haven't always been happy. Sometimes I didn't even know where to start, but I could never give up on the idea that I should be happy.

    Not "what would it take for me to win at life?" or "what will make all my dreams come true" just from where I'm at today, what one thing would make Tomorrow put a smile on my face for just 2 minutes?

    My experience has been that taking that attitude feeds on itself and it grows over time, to the point where you can even slip a little and still shake it off. It's just an expectation…one worth having.
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