Ok, question about the ex, need your wisdom, I'm confused

[animalius]

So, the ex called me last night. Collect call. It was his number, but he made a collect call to me. How the hell do you make a collect call on a cell phone anyway?

Anyway, he said he misses me and that he learned a lot from our "disagreements". Since we broke up about 6 months ago he's been through several relationships and it always turned out not so good. He is in the process of break-up as we spoke.

We talked back and forth about life and such. And to be safe, I told him about my current b/f and how happy we are together.

What do you guys think is going on now? I just find it strange that he would call up his ex and talk like that.

[CupidBoy]

Stop talking to your ex.

He's an ex for a reason.

[refujiunderground]

and you're making threads like this and you think you're a sociopath.

[Beachguyj]

Anyone who can't afford to call me is a problem.

[bankside]

Stop talking to your ex.

He's an ex for a reason.

Worth saying twice:

Stop talking to your ex.

He's an ex for a reason.

[Nishin]

Set him up with the new bf, they're probably a good match

[sixthson]

Do you still have feelings for him?

[JohannBessler]

Aninmalus, I can tell by your adoringly naive post that you're pretty young. (It's endearing.)

He called you collect on your cell phone because, apparently, he called you from a landline. If he'd called you direct on his landline, he'd normally have had to pay long-distance charges. (lol I know...it reminds me of those person-to-person calls; whoever does that anymore?)

At any rate, it sounds like he misses you. He may even be comparing all of his new beaus to you, and those new beaus have not compared very well to you, which is a major compliment to you. I'd accept it for the compliment that it is.

In my experience, couples that 1)break up and 2) reconcile, usually don't last as long the second time around. I have seen exceptions to this rule...but usually, the things that led to the break-up the first time around, bother you even worse the second time around, so the second breakup comes sooner. (Does this make sense? I'm having trouble putting it into words.)

[JohannBessler]

I have to agree with Bankside: he's an ex for a reason.

Unless the circumstances are unusual, a reconciliation is probably not worth it, Animalus.

[loveguys72]

You don't have to do anything about him; he's your ex. Keep him that way.

[glasvegas]

Aninmalus, I can tell by your adoringly naive post that you're pretty young. (It's endearing.)

He's not young.

[FPNY]

I dunno, my partner of 30+ years is good friends with his ex, they respect one another. Maybe your ex is just feeling badly and needed someone to talk to and he chose you. You are smart to mention how happy you are and I would keep some distance but don't shut him out. Yes, he is your ex for a reason but at one time he was your man, and there had to be a reason for that too....

[CupidBoy]

I have to agree with BanksideCupidBoy: he's an ex for a reason.

Unless the circumstances are unusual, a reconciliation is probably not worth it, Animalus.

Fixed it for you Sis.

[EuroSoccer]

He's not young.

He is young inside............. bless him

[mbamike]

I don't see anything wrong with being friendly towards your ex as long as you establish that you have a current boyfriend, you are happy with him and there is no chance in hell that you will even consider getting back with the ex so don't even ask.

[JohannBessler]

He's not young.

I see.

I deduced he was young because he didn't know about landlines. (I have read that the vast majority of young people don't have landlines.)

[BENDERBOY]

So, the ex called me last night. Collect call. It was his number, but he made a collect call to me. How the hell do you make a collect call on a cell phone anyway?

Anyway, he said he misses me and that he learned a lot from our "disagreements". Since we broke up about 6 months ago he's been through several relationships and it always turned out not so good. He is in the process of break-up as we spoke.

We talked back and forth about life and such. And to be safe, I told him about my current b/f and how happy we are together.

What do you guys think is going on now? I just find it strange that he would call up his ex and talk like that.

Yeah who didn't see this one coming, suggest a threesome.

[HunterM]

^ Good idea!

Your ex called. He was hoping you'll be his sugar daddy again.

[animalius]

I see.

I deduced he was young because he didn't know about landlines. (I have read that the vast majority of young people don't have landlines.)

No, it showed up as his cell number. And it was collect. I had no idea you could make a collect call from a cell phone.

[animalius]

and you're making threads like this and you think you're a sociopath.

Haha, like I said you have the most common misconception about sociopaths. If you not willing to listen, then there's no point for me to explain it. Continue believing what you believe about sociopaths.

[JohannBessler]

No, it showed up as his cell number. And it was collect. I had no idea you could make a collect call from a cell phone.

Now that's freaking weird.

<puzzled>

Does anybody else have an explanation on how this could have occurred?

[nate78]

Wait, who's a sociopath?

[Huntneo(PT)]

I don't know what his intentions are, but keep his ass at a distance.

[borg69unimatrix]

Since he called collect, I'm going to assume this was the ex who's cell phone bill you used to pay for, even well after you guys broke up?

[animalius]

Now that's freaking weird.

<puzzled>

Does anybody else have an explanation on how this could have occurred?

Yeah, I know it's weird. I saw his cell number on my caller id. Picked it up and got a machine telling me this is a collect call from so-and-so if you would like to accept press 1 now if you blah blah...

[TheSpectatingLoner]

Since we broke up about 6 months ago he's been through several relationships and it always turned out not so good.

Interesting...

He is in the process of break-up as we spoke.

HOLY CO-DEPENDANCE, BATMAN!!!

He's already arranging the next one before he finishes off his latest in a marathon of pairings?

Tell him to quit looking for a bf and pay his phone bill.

[bankside]

Since we broke up about 6 months ago he's been through several relationships and it always turned out not so good. He is in the process of break-up as we spoke.

Actually I didn't pick up on this the first time around and it needs a comment:
If you only broke up six months ago, he hasn't "been through several relationships." He may have dated or slept with a few different people but that is not the same thing as having a relationship.

[JohannBessler]

Yeah, I know it's weird. I saw his cell number on my caller id. Picked it up and got a machine telling me this is a collect call from so-and-so if you would like to accept press 1 now if you blah blah...

The only other scenario that makes sense is that he has some kind of measured service, in which he is allowed 600 or so minutes of talk time.

He may have exceeded that allowance.

[blackbeltninja]

My ex and his ex were still good mates. Good enough to become housemates, in fact, who started sharing a place some 2 years after they called it quits (and one year before I arrived on the scene). With the right people (who remember why they broke up) being friendly with your ex can work.

In fact, my ex and I have remained friends in the 2 months since we called it quits. It doesn't work for everyone, but we've done okay so far. It probably helps that the break-up was amicable.

-d-