Bottoms-- how long can/do you get fucked during sex?

[rm71182]

Naive question, I admit, since there's a million different answers, but mind you I've never been w/another guy, so I'd love to hear different people's experiences. 15min? 30? Less than that? From playing with toys I've found I can go on indefinitely if the pace is slow, but a fast pounding and I don't last much beyond 5-10 min. How long can you guys go at a quick pace?

You could sorta say I'm in "training" to be a good bottom -- don't get me wrong, I enjoy the sensations, but my ass has just been reluctant to go along. At first I got no pleasure from it, but I treated it like a workout routine and just did it over and over again for months, increasing toy size, speed, duration, etc. Now that I've been able to relax and learned to translate that feeling of fullness/discomfort into pleasure...wow. So intense it's unreal, but it takes a lot of prep, mood has to be just right, and any real pounding beyond 10 min leads to discomfort. So I 'm curious to see how much more "training" I have ahead of me...

[panda29]

I can get fucked for as long as my partner can keep his end up so to speak!! LOL. 5,10, 20 minutes what ever it takes, I just love him in me !!

[Brian Smith]

I dunno. If we have a good, flowing rhythm going, I'm not sure there's a limit. Rhythm is really very important. It's a matter of loosening up the springs in your lower back in a certain way. When you get it just right, it's like a narcotic.

I actually recommend taking dancing lessons. It is good fitness training, but it also works a miracle on your sex life. It teaches your hips a kind of rhythm and motion that makes sex a lot more comfortable.

[jensu846]

after about 15 minutes of nonstop fast penetration, i start getting sore and ready for it to be over..

[loveguys72]

The speed and intensity is key. A nice slow steady fuck, I can go as long as he wants. A hard pounding, maybe 20 minutes.

[reaunl]

Like others have already said rhythm is the key for me. Hard and fast pushes me to the edge, slow and sensual keeps me going for ages. I prefer a mix of the two where in the end I'll be begging him to give it to me hard just to finish me off ;-)

I've never noticed getting sore from fucking as long as everything is well lubricated.

[rm71182]

Thanks all for those posts! I'm a bit reassured: I think one reason I wear out at 10 min is that I'm having to fuck myself! If I could let someone else do the thrusting...plus, no matter how soft a dildo you buy, it's never like the real thing. Would you guys agree--is the real thing easier?

As for whoever said it was a "narcotic", DAMN I agree: sometimes after I fuck myself I can't even remember what just happened! I'm even having "withdrawals" because a week back I pushed things too far and now I'm having some constipation and cramps (sorry to gross anyone out; I posted in the health forum if anyone's had anything similar would really like to hear). I'm abstaining for now.

The amazing thing is, honestly, I *never* thought I would be a bottom. But now I'm totally hooked. It's like, with practice, my ass grew a vagina lol. Seriously...anyone reading this, you can bottom too, just treat it like a workout routine. Some people get it right away but others, it may take months or, in my case, years.

[Durango95]

I'm more of a top to be honest. When bottoming, position is more of an issue than duration and thrust. Personally, I can take it longer and harder on my back with him on top, maybe 20 to 30 minutes for a good hard pounding. Now if they guy rolls me up and does the piledrive, I can't last very long at all, maybe 10 minutes tops.

If you're riding on top ,you can control it more. Doggy or standing, I can't last worth crap. I think it is because instead of massaging the prostate it's being banged. I will interject, I'm an older guy and have the ever present aging prostate issues, so it is more of an issue now than in years past.

One thing I will say is that you cannot gauge what you do in your life on porn flix. A twenty to thirty minute scene is in actuality about 3 or 4 hours which has been edited down very tight. Porn is a fantasy with very little reality about it, especially G4P. lol That is such a load of crap. Whatever. That's another thread altogether.

The thing is if you have a great partner that is patient you can go a pretty long time. Remember too that it isn't how long you do it. I mean guys aren't girls. I mean a healthy male can go through the entire sexual sequence in 4 minutes. That is from initial stimulation to ejaculation. I hear it takes much longer for a woman to get there.

[rm71182]

I'm more of a top to be honest. When bottoming, position is more of an issue than duration and thrust. Personally, I can take it longer and harder on my back with him on top, maybe 20 to 30 minutes for a good hard pounding. Now if they guy rolls me up and does the piledrive, I can't last very long at all, maybe 10 minutes tops.

The thing is if you have a great partner that is patient you can go a pretty long time. Remember too that it isn't how long you do it. I mean guys aren't girls. I mean a healthy male can go through the entire sexual sequence in 4 minutes. That is from initial stimulation to ejaculation. I hear it takes much longer for a woman to get there.

Actually despite how I titled the thread, I'm equally, if not more, interested in hearing what tops have to say/how long is good for them. I just wanna please my mate; I enjoy bottoming but I just can 't seem to go that long till it turns to discomfort. It's funny that most bottoms want it as long as they can get it, but that's just not me. I love it, but only for a short time. Oh and especially once I ejaculate...then it's totally over.

The "pile drive" lol...when I take a toy and really start jack-hammering my ass with it, I'm done in like 2 min. I wish I could handle that better because, just from my experience jacking off, it seems like that'd be *so* much pleasure for the top. Is that maybe cause most of my toys are pretty hard? Maybe with an actual cock I could go longer.

[NW007]

Hard to give exact answer as like others have said it depends on size of cock and intensity , etc. but in general I can go as long as too can last. I had recent bf where we would go for a couple of hours non stop where we only had break in action to change positions He was topping and I was bottoming

[mbamike]

Usually a top will pound away for 3-4 minutes, then ease off a bit until the sensation subsides. He is basically edging himself as he is fucking me. This routine will last as long as the top can prevent himself from cumming. Throw in some kissing, cock sucking, rimming and cuddling too. It all depends on what the top is comfortable doing.

I have had fuck sessions that have been just a few minutes (a cum dump) to about four hours sessions (very passionate sex) that were repeated all weekend long.

[rm71182]

Thanks for all the posts. But damn, this is kinda what I was afraid of: it seems like a lot (if not most) gay bottoms can go almost limitless. Which makes me feel like there's something wrong with me as a bottom, that I just can't last that long (or that my "ass" isn't "shaped/built" right for it). Which sucks enormously because that's the only role I want for myself. I guess I 'll keep practicing with my toys but damn, it doesn't seem like it should be this hard, no?

[Huntneo(PT)]

I don't think you should be gauging your "skills" as a bottom off of how others perform in bed.
Not everyone is or wants to be a powerbottom. There's nothing wrong with you.

Everyone has different thresholds, likes, dislikes, etc.

I love bottoming (and it's all that I do), but I have limits. Also, it can be the most amazing feeling in the world to me sometimes...but there are also days when I am just not in the mood for it. People's tastes for it are all over the map.

But yeah...as for length of time, I'd say about 30 mins and I'm ready to have a break. I know some people can go on forever, but when it starts becoming uncomfortable...I'm done.

With me it depends on the size of my partner's penis.

[rm71182]

I don't think you should be gauging your "skills" as a bottom off of how others perform in bed.
Not everyone is or wants to be a powerbottom. There's nothing wrong with you.

Everyone has different thresholds, likes, dislikes, etc.

I love bottoming (and it's all that I do), but I have limits. Also, it can be the most amazing feeling in the world to me sometimes...but there are also days when I am just not in the mood for it. People's tastes for it are all over the map.

But yeah...as for length of time, I'd say about 30 mins and I'm ready to have a break. I know some people can go on forever, but when it starts becoming uncomfortable...I'm done.

With me it depends on the size of my partner's penis.

I know this sounds naive, but I just want to be an "average" bottom so my partner doesn't feel like he's missing out. Sometimes I feel like I'm surrounded by all these happy-go-lucky gay bottoms who can take any dick, anytime, anywhere, no problem (they even have it easy when it comes to getting/staying clean). But for me, it's such an ordeal (but I love it when it's just right, and there's no way I'll ever be a top).

I just don't know why it has to be so difficult for me and so much easier for everyone else. Maybe with more months/years of practice I'll get there, but damn, I've never come across anyone who's had as much of a struggle as I have. I've come really far and I love, love, the sensations I get...but then I look around at how much more skilled other guys are, and it's just crushingly depressing.

[bi-4u2]

fast/rough sessions i can go for 10-15 minutes. by then my partner is usually finished.

Small breaks in between help, i think the main issue is getting air pushed back and forth, i can image your bowels are only supposed to go one direction, plus there is only so much abuse your rectum can take before becoming inflamed.

you shouldn't feel bad if you can't keep up with other bottoms, each person is different, and if your partner gives you shit about it remind him who is the one taking the dick.

[Str8Top14701]

I think that some people, regardless of sex, are built to take anal. I've known men and women that really loved getting anal that couldn't go for a long time. Most times its about the fun you both have, not how long, how deep, how hard...

Thankfully I've had good luck with "power bottoms" that can take a good hard fucking for a long time! I don't need to go for an hour but it sucks when the bottom has to stop after very few minutes of even slow fucking.

[reaunl]

Thanks all for those posts! I'm a bit reassured: I think one reason I wear out at 10 min is that I'm having to fuck myself! If I could let someone else do the thrusting...plus, no matter how soft a dildo you buy, it's never like the real thing. Would you guys agree--is the real thing easier?
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I would definitely agree that the real thing is different. My BF and I have played with those "make your own dildo" kits with which you can make a cast of your own cock. The result is actually a bit smaller than the real thing due to shrinkage of the rubber; nevertheless the dildo version of my BF's cock is less comfortable to stuff myself with than the real thing. I think this is because no matter how hard your partner gets when he fucks you, and even if he wears a really tight cockring, a real penis just has much more give in it (i.e. compresses more easily) than whatever soft rubber or silicone dildo you buy ;-)

[Ninja108]

10-25 mins or so

[ronboy]

For as long as my top man can hold off cumming.....

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

well ya nose time go bye wen ya cruisin

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so why 1st world univeristys&Co spend lot times a ons there butt figa why they butt heads?

dat a thinks

[jmadaf]

I'd say at least ten min. and more, but whatever it takes until he cums, I'm here to please.

[jmadaf]

I've had guys do that to me, pounding strong in the begining, ready to cum, to make it last longer, slow down to hold it, and little nipple sucking, and there pounding to cum.