Sex Survey Time! Answers in BOLD
1. How old are you?
2. Please describe yourself as totally straight, mostly straight, it depends on the day and time, mostly gay, totally gay or ???
3. If you are currently in a relationship, how long have you been together?
4. If you are currently in a relationship, how would you rate the sex and how often do you usually have sex?
5. Approximately how many sexual partners have you had?
6. How many partners have you had casual sex with? (Casual sex = sex where you were just doing it to enjoy the sex without wanting a more involved relationship.)
7. Do you use social networking to hookup for sex? If so, is there a process or scenario that works best for you?
8. Have you had any funny or embarrassing experiences using condoms? If so, please explain. If not condoms, then what kind of contraception are you using? Any thoughts about it?
9. If you use condoms, are there any problems you sometimes have with them?
10. Please tell me a few things about yourself or your life.
11. What goes through your mind the first time you see a new partner’s vagina/vulva and/or penis/balls?
12. If you had to choose between receiving oral sex or having vaginal/anal intercourse—and your partner was good at both—which one would you choose and why?
13. What’s your record for the number of times you’ve masturbated in 24-hours? Was there a particular reason, or was it just one of those days?
14. How do you feel about a partner watching YOU masturbate? If a PARTNER masturbates in your presence, how do you feel about it?
15. Please describe one or two of your best sexual experiences.
16. What are your biggest turn-offs when having sex?
17. Do partners ever ask you to do things sexually that you don’t want to do? If so, please explain.
18. If you’ve had a one-night stand, what was the sex like and would you do it again?
19. If you’ve had sex when you were drunk or stoned, what was it like?
20. Are there types of non-vanilla sex that you enjoy? If so, what and how often?
21. How important to you is cuddling and having intimate conversations with a sexual partner?
22. If there is anything you could change about your PARTNER’s (or a recent partner’s) vagina/vulva or penis/balls/etc, what would it be?
23. If there is anything about YOUR penis or testicles you could change, what would it be?
Followup - is there anything about YOUR genitals a partner has ever mentioned they’d like to change?
24. Have you had anal sex? If so, can you describe how it feels vs. vaginal intercourse?
25. If you’ve had anal sex, do you think it’s because your partner really wanted to have it, or was s/he just doing it because s/he thought you wanted to? Please explain.
26. What do you like and dislike about kissing a partner? Do you spend much time kissing?
27. How important is friendship in your sexual relationships?
28. How important is romance in your sexual relationships? What are some of the things you find romantic?
29. Do you have a favorite sexual position? If so, what is it and what makes it better for you than other positions?
30. Do you like to change positions when you are having intercourse?
31. What traits do you find most attractive in a partner? What traits do you dislike?
32. What would make your PARTNER a better lover?
33. What would make YOU a better lover?
34. How do you know when it’s time to breakup with a partner?
35. Have you ever had sexual feelings towards another guy? If so, please describe?
36. Have you ever had sex with another male? If so, what did you do and what was it like for you?
37. Have you ever lied to a partner? If so, about what?
38. Have you ever fallen in love with someone else while you were in a relationship? What did you do? How did it affect your relationship?
39. What advice would you give to a PARTNER to improve their oral sex skills? Followup - what advice have you been given to improve YOUR oral sex skills?
Doctor question #1. Have you ever discussed sexual issues with your doctor(s)? If so, how did it go?
Doctor question #2. If you had the ideal doctor who was helpful and never judgmental, what are some of the questions you would ask?