So I know I haven't mentioned it before here yet, but I was actually a Navy Corpsman for five years (2006-2011). DADT was in full swing at the time and I saw a lot concerning it that I still really don't want to talk about.
Anyway, about a month ago I came out to a really good friend of mine I made while I was in the Navy over Facebook where we still chat from time to time. His reaction? "I'm sorry, but you have to give me some time to process this." What did that even mean? What could you possibly have to "process" by knowing a friends is gay? Why is this such a big deal? I'm the one who has to deal with being gay. What are you dealing with?
When I told my gay friends they all said that if he was worth my time he'd come around eventually, so I kept trying to check in with him just to see how he was "coping", or whatever and he wouldn't talk to me at all. He wouldn't even type a quick response to "how are you doing?" or anything. I even tried commenting on his irrelevant and pointless status updates. Still I got nothing but silence in return.
Eventually I couldn't take it anymore. Your stupid reaction to me coming out is making me feel like I somehow hurt you by being gay. Don't poison my blood with your bitterness by trying to make me feel guilty. It's a weight on my shoulders. It's a fatal disease. I think of what we've been through together. I think of all the craziness. I think of all the tenderness, but life is a bitch, and it's way too short your shit. I don't ever want to see your picture again.
Yeah, he's no longer on my Facebook, and is out of my life all together. Sayōnara, asshole.