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    Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Do you think relationships formed on / founded from these type apps (Scuff / Grindr ect) can actually work? Have just read different takes & angles on such areas on SameSame & Watching YouTube Series:- The Horizon... Got me thinking... If the right guy came along, It could be worth a shot, see where it lead, as the old saying: nothing ventured, nothing gained...

    Over to the members, discuss!!! ???

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Well I feel that it could work depending on the right person. Not everyone is lucky enough to have the chance to find their partner/date material in real life especially if their social circle are really limited or small.

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Quote Originally Posted by Twinkie View Post
    Do you think relationships formed on / founded from these type apps (Scuff / Grindr ect) can actually work? Have just read different takes & angles on such areas on SameSame & Watching YouTube Series:- The Horizon... Got me thinking... If the right guy came along, It could be worth a shot, see where it lead, as the old saying: nothing ventured, nothing gained...

    Over to the members, discuss!!! ???
    If you want a relationship you have to go out and live your life. be open to possibilities. Apps can work too.

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    I can attest from first hand experience that yes, they can and do work.
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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    sure they can. anytime you meet someone new, theres a chance for a relationship, regardless where you meet them.

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Meet my first boyfriend ( going on 7 months so far) on Jack'd. So yes they can work

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Absolutely. Now most relationships do end at some point, but I've seen countless gay couples meet via Grindr, Craigslist, Adam4adam, Scruff, OkCupid, Boyahoy to name a few

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Same as pilotguy121a, I met my first boyfriend on Jack'd and we are still together. The only thing with those apps (that I've personally found conflicting) is knowing that your boyfriend is still on it. I deleted my account after a few weeks of meeting him. But he still has his for some reason.

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Quote Originally Posted by O kron O View Post
    Same as pilotguy121a, I met my first boyfriend on Jack'd and we are still together. The only thing with those apps (that I've personally found conflicting) is knowing that your boyfriend is still on it. I deleted my account after a few weeks of meeting him. But he still has his for some reason.
    Ask him to remove it. If he doesn't...that should raise a red flag for you.

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Met my partner on Gay.com chat and we are into our 8th anniversary. Love him so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ninja108 View Post
    Ask him to remove it. If he doesn't...that should raise a red flag for you.
    Not necessarily. Many guys use those apps just for communication. I have been in two relationships since getting Grindr, and I didn't delete it for either of them. It was never a cause of problems. And if the other guy isn't secure in himself enough to trust me, he will find a reason, Grindr or no.
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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Both me and my boyfriend have Jack'd and I still have Scruff (he doesn't). I do chat with guys occasionally and have a few people internationally who are pretty cool to chat with. He knows I have Scruff and he is fine with it.

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    The important thing is meeting no matter how. If the chemistry is right a relationship will develop.
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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Having grindr or jack'd while the other doesn't, often creates issues. 95% oft he users on those apps are either looking for sex or are open to having sex. And for many, seeing a lot of hot guys that are willing to have sex with you is a temptation they don't need.

    But to the OP, yes you can find relationships on these things. You can find a relationship anywhere.

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    Guys are very insecure creatures. In the old days they would covet and hide their little black book of phone numbers. Nowadays they hold on to grinder apps. It's a security blanket for them so they know if you leave them they'll still have something to fall back on. For some, it could be a bargaining chip. Are you going to pick a fight knowing he could replace you in seconds? And yes, there are those who do use it to cheat on the side. Still others are so insecure that JUST you telling them they're hot isn't enough and they have to base their self worth and egos on how many flirt hits they get. It's like their ego barometer.

    You know he has the app... the real reason is WHY?
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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    I think it's funny when they refer to this stuff as "dating" apps. Yeah, dating. That's what we're doing.

    I did however meet my best friend on craigslist. It wasn't a sex ad though...

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    OkC IS a dating app/site.
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    It helps you meet people but it is also a liability once you start dating someone. Who deletes whose account first?

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Interestingly, I have never had that problem. I never used Grindr STRICTLY for one thing or another, so once I'm with someone, I simply stop using it for sexual/dating purposes, and only chat with people I'm already friends with. Nobody has been jealous of me for that, and I don't see the need to delete them just because you are with someone.
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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    sure, it works.
    however, if youre the kind of person who turns up your nose at people looking for casual sex, youre gonna be turning up your nose a lot. if youre the kind of person that thinks guys looking for casual sex are automatically disqualified from relationships, the pickings are going to be slim. i think it works better for people who dont draw a thick red line between casual sex and more serious romantic relationships.

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    It all depends on the individuals involved. They both have to be on the same page.

    One of my relationships was founded from Grindr. It lasted about six months. We didn't delete our profiles right away, but I wasn't using mine. If I did use Grindr, I was just looking through profiles out of boredom with no intention beyond that. He, however, used it to cheat on me a month into our relationship. And it was all downhill from there. We were constantly double-checking each other and accusing each other of being on this app. And I'll admit that towards the end, I was using it to cheat on him as a measure of "revenge".

    I think it's usually in the best interest of the relationship for both parties to remove the app once they get together. It just makes sense to me. What purpose does it serve to you if you've entered a closed, committed relationship?

    Back to what I said in the beginning of this post though, both individuals need to be on the same page if Grindr is going to stick around. My current boyfriend didn't even know what it was until I brought it up. We now have a joint profile and we use it to hook up with guys together. We have an agreement not to download it on our phones (iPad instead), and we only use it when we're together. I fully trust him and I'm sure he fully trusts me. Until I'm given a reason to think otherwise, it's a pretty nice setup.

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Quote Originally Posted by queenoftheshow View Post
    I think it's usually in the best interest of the relationship for both parties to remove the app once they get together. It just makes sense to me. What purpose does it serve to you if you've entered a closed, committed relationship?
    I use Grindr to network with gay people in my area. Said networking could be chatting, making friends in real life, sex or dating. What purpose does it serve to me if I've entered a closed, committed relationship? Lemme see - chatting and making friends in real life. I think it's a total douchebag move to cut contact with people you've become friends with because you've found a boyfriend. That devalues your entire prior contact with them.
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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Quote Originally Posted by Rolyo85 View Post
    I use Grindr to network with gay people in my area. Said networking could be chatting, making friends in real life, sex or dating. What purpose does it serve to me if I've entered a closed, committed relationship? Lemme see - chatting and making friends in real life. I think it's a total douchebag move to cut contact with people you've become friends with because you've found a boyfriend. That devalues your entire prior contact with them.
    You can't meet people aside from grindr? It seems kind of lazy. And why would you have to cut contact with anyone? You have a phone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FlimFlam View Post
    You can't meet people aside from grindr? It seems kind of lazy. And why would you have to cut contact with anyone? You have a phone.
    Of course I can't. Not with people around me for sure. I am not a "chat strangers up in bars" kinda guy, and anyway, that's no less hook-uppy than any app. The only places where I could meet people would be school and work. I don't wanna constrain myself to those.

    As for the phone argument, that's dumb and it's proven to never work with online friendships. A networking site/app is an environment as much as it is a means of contact. You come online BECAUSE people you know might also be on. Seeing them on prompts contact that you otherwise might not have a reason to initiate, or could simply not think of initiating otherwise. Not that I DON'T use texting with friends, but this all just sounds like "omg let's find reasons to not have Grindr", as if it somehow taints you. I don't feel tainted by Grindr. It's not a hook up app for me, so I don't delete it when I stop hooking up.
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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    Quote Originally Posted by borg69unimatrix View Post
    Guys are very insecure creatures. In the old days they would covet and hide their little black book of phone numbers. Nowadays they hold on to grinder apps. It's a security blanket for them so they know if you leave them they'll still have something to fall back on. For some, it could be a bargaining chip. Are you going to pick a fight knowing he could replace you in seconds? And yes, there are those who do use it to cheat on the side. Still others are so insecure that JUST you telling them they're hot isn't enough and they have to base their self worth and egos on how many flirt hits they get. It's like their ego barometer.

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    I met my bf on a site called gaydar.... we will celebrate being together for 3 years this weekend and couldn't be happier

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    Re: Relationships Formed On / Founded From Scuff / Growlr / Grindr ect...

    My boyfriend and I met on Jack'd in November. We've been dating ever since.

    It was really hard for me to get off Grindr/Jack'd, since I had been using those apps for a couple of years. It's not that I wanted to cheat on my boyfriend, I only wanted to use them to chat. However, I felt super guilty each time I logged in. In the end, I just had to uninstall both of the apps. It's only fair.

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