Meeting with an older guy for fwb.

[girlyboy87]

so i met this one guy who finally looks like somebody i like. we met on silverdaddies and exchanged phone numbers. now i've talked to him a few times already and i think im liking it. btw im a virgin and he knows that and i never had a bf before. i tried girls and guys my age but it just didn't click. the problem is that im contemplating if i want to start this because his also looking for dating where is prefer just fwb. any ideas??
can't wait to

[Seasoned]

My advice is for you to be clear on what you want, to play safe and to not allow yourself to be pressured or guilt tripped. Do what you want to do and don't do what you don't want to do.

[niccolo1]

Just don't do it if you feel that you are not ready.

[jarib1]

Just don't do it if you feel that you are not ready.

That is definitely true and be safe always if you do not want to be in trouble.

[stefanh1]

Do not be pressured by all this. Do not do it when you are not ready yet.

[bananagoof]

He's been clear on wanting a f-buddy. Is he single? Out of the relationship? Has he ever been in a relationship with a guy? Find out where's he's at and whether he's a possible boyfriend candidate. It seems likely he's not looking for anything substantial, and that might leave you feeling really hurt if you get involved.

First times can be better when you can at least look back on it and say "I really liked that person, I'm really glad we went there."

[earlgrey]

I thought the OP is saying he just wants FWB whereas the older guy wants to date, not the other way around?

[girlyboy87]

i've talked a lot on the phone and yes he is single and he has been with a guy my age before.he prefers to date though.

[girlyboy87]

another wired problem is that sometimes i masturbate to gay porn and when im done i loose all the interest for awhile, which is kind been slowing me down in finding someone.

[hylas]

i wouldnt completely rule out a relationship from the start if you have a good feeling about him. meet him. see what happens. if you feel like youre looking for different things, you can always stop seeing him again.
be safe, have fun!

[Georgiadude]

The losing interest after jo is pretty common. Don't read too much into that. Whats more important is that you are honest with him about what your looking for. Go into it with an open mind and don't rule a relationship out but you need to be clear and not send him mixed messages. That wouldn't be fair to either of you. It sounds like the two of you are taking this slow and talking about your feelings. That's definitely a positive. Take it slow and be honest. If it feels right then go with it. If it doesn't let him know and move on.

Steven.

[Brian Smith]

It's kind of hard for some people to keep from getting into a romantic entanglement. It's funny, as in funny-sad, because I know a lot of people who long for real romance but can't achieve it, yet there are people like me, who seem to slip on a banana peel and fall into it snout-first. You can't really know what kind of person you are, though, until you've tried being with a man.