The red part I get, if it's a shotgun wedding or, presumably to a lesser extent, a way of dodging immigration. Aside from those two, I don't see the point of going into marriage with someone you neither love nor are committed to. I could easily enough go into a business venture - co-buying a house or going concern etc etc - with someone I neither love or am committed to beyond making a payment each month, but I wouldn't give up the option to marry someone else by doing business under the guise of being married already.
I didn't say gay guys don't deserve to get married. I do however struggle to see the point of fighting to get gay marriage legitimised (and insisting on calling it marriage and not a civil partnership or something else) if the guys are going just going to use it as a tax-dodge and a way to cut their living costs. There are other ways to do that without having to go the whole marriage route.Originally Posted by buzzer
And of course marriages end, as do plain ol' relationships and people going steady. This is no surprise. And sure, people stay in marriages and relationships which have turned loveless over time - nobody disputes that. But I doubt those people got married, or even started those serious relationships, when they were out of love.
Perhaps I'm in the minority here, but I don't think I'd make a massive investment in marrying someone - knowing what I stood to lose and how much stuff I'd be legally obliged to do - if I knew I wasn't in love with them or committed to them.
The question then, Buzzer, is: would you? And if you say yes, I'd suggest that you're the one being rather thick.