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    (Stop me if you've heard this before) Okay, so this guy has been flirting with me for two weeks (neither of us are out, but it's obvious something is going on). At first, he would just stare at me, then he played very romantic songs on a piano and his guitar, so naturally I get a vibe. Then we start to commonly exchange looks, sit right next to each other ( and if he sits in front of me with our friends, he constantly puts his foot on top of mine), glances at me while we walk, makes me laugh, always has his body pointed towards me. To me at least, these are tell all signs that he's interested, hell, he even tried to let me know he wasnít interested in girls at the moment when an attractive girl walks by and all he says is "nice pants". So I'm starting to get into a serious crush, and I planned on talking to him about it yesterday (didnít want to look like a vulture, due to him breaking up with his gf three weeks ago). And another friend of ours come in and he starts being very touchy feely with him in front me. Then when he sits next to him, he leans his shoulders towards him with his feet towards me, but when I try to play peek a boo like we have, he crosses his legs to block his face (he's his bed). As some of our friend leaves, he hugs him and they talk soft to each other, and so I think " I have a chance now!) But he still blocks my face, stops looking at me, and indirectly talks to me by talking to the whole group.
    *sigh* should I give up or give it a try?

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    The world isn't going to go on hold while you're wasting time (TWO WEEKS?).......and neither will he.
    You'd better get on the stick and make a move or there won't be any moves to make.......at least with him.
    ASK him if he'd like to join you for coffee, a drink, lunch........any damn thing to spend some time together.......and see if he's interested.

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    Well, spent more time with him, then later texted him if we were getting closer because I felt a vibe... he told me he was straight, and we're still cool... but, I feel as if he's avoiding me through our friends. I also am really confused because he's still looking at me in a way that screams "I like you more than a friend".

    Oh well, live and learn I guess...

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    So.......getting together "just because" is out of the question?
    Bummer........

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    get him drunk and see what he does....to you.

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    Not my style. I'm just so conflicted because just today, he gave me this look across the table that I just can't describe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iminluv86 View Post
    Not my style. I'm just so conflicted because just today, he gave me this look across the table that I just can't describe.
    Was it the "what the fuck you waiting for, I've given you so many signs" look ?
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    Actually, yes, but I dont want to look like a total creep constantly talking to him after what went down.

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    That was my sarcasm speaking, forgive me.

    Sounds like he is waiting for you to make the first move or at least a move. He could be scared about it all, being with a guy, not knowing how to go about flirting with a dude etc. So it's his clumsy nervous, flirtatious way of giving you hints that he is captivated by you and doesn't know what to do about it. He needs you to show him.

    Get creative. slip him a note or a text to get him away from the group of friends. say something like "we need to talk" and then when he is freaked and meets up with you or follows you or whatever just say something like, "yeah dude I'm really thirsty, I just wanted to know what you wanted to drink if I get something."

    He may take it as your coy way of picking up on his messages and playing along, it may spark a deeper interest where at some point you may find his hand on your ass....

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    My bad, lol. I might do that since we both have the same type of sense of humor. I know there's something there because as said earlier, he would constantly look at me out of the corner of his eye, and no guy that I know would do that multiple times if they werent interested.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iminluv86 View Post
    My bad, lol. I might do that since we both have the same type of sense of humor. I know there's something there because as said earlier, he would constantly look at me out of the corner of his eye, and no guy that I know would do that multiple times if they werent interested.
    Not only that, he wouldn't even bother telling you that he was doing it...



    by all means though, do keep us posted so we may live vicariously through your escapades with Mr. Flirty.

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    *sigh* Okay, my further escapades: Mon. and Tues. were horrible, period. Monday was the first time I saw him since I talked to him about "it". We didn't mention what we discussed, but we both knew. He acted different around me, he would talk to me by way of our friends, we joked about simple things that didnt have anything to do with "it". What tipped me off that he felt uncomfortable was that he would turn his back on me, and even ignore me. Well, Tues. he sat right next to me with his back turned, so I "texted" to some people and I saw him turn his head towards me, so I was really confused. Then, at lunch and dinner he left about 20 min. in (which is strange because he never has before *nitpicking*), aka he always would stay and we would walk together about 45 min. after lunch starts. He looked really depressed, as was I. Anyway, today he was sitting in a room with one of our friends and he looked at me and invited me over to watch some funny vids with him and his friend. Eventually, our eyes met when we were talking and he was acting funnier (making funny jokes) than before, he was spinning around in his chair looking at me, and what was funny was that I think he got a bit excited because he "left" to the bathroom and came back wearing his jacket, covering up his "male area". What confuses me the most is that, when he was leaving (now remember there are four of us in there), he leaves saying "by *my name*, see you later guys".
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    ^ EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEASY does it.......

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    He may be getting frustrated that he can never seem to get a moment alone with you.
    I know I am. Seems like you always have a group of friends around. Is this some frat house or a college dorm or something? Can anyone do anything independently?

    I still go with my initial inclination. He doesn't know what to do with his feelings about you and is hoping you will reciprocate his flirtations in some way or make a move that will give him some clear sign of "ok, let's at least hang together ALONE, go see a movie or something and explore this thing". Trust me if he was completely straight and had any kind of suspicion that you may have "feelings" for him, he would find ways to stop talking to you and completely avoid you altogether if he was truly uncomfortable with it all.

    I had a friend who was doing a lot of these same things you mention, he had a fiance but for some reason being around me triggered something in him that drove him crazy. Popping boners whenever he was around me, getting all hot n bothered, nervous, sweaty, clumsy, flirtatious. He is married with 2 kids now. But yes, long story short, we did mess around and he became much more comfortable with himself, nudity and sexuality after our explorations.

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    The more it goes through my mind, the more I've realized how often he tries to get us alone, but it's only been twice we've really been alone (and twice one of us have had to do homework) to the point we just cant be alone together. Plus I agree with what yous said ElmosToe, if he wasn't interested he would have not have acted all crazy Wednesday. I'm just going to take it one day at a time now.

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    He might be straight or he could be a closet case. Your instincts about him could be right or you could be reading something into his looks that aren't there. Stop obsessing over him in that way and just try to be friends.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    ...that's more or less what I meant...

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    Well (for anyone who cares), I tried to be just friends with him, and our eyes met and it was like electricity between us. He deifinately has feelings because he cannot stop looking at me, and he copies my exact movements, and he plays footsie with me, he knows I'm checking him and out and vice versa, but we wont tell eachother (I know), we are more or less an unofficial couple, it's great! The only problem is everytime I'm ready to tell him so I can make it official, our friends show up, or one of us has to go and do something really important (for classes), so our busy schedule and our friends are driving me crazy! I was so ready to confront him about us, but our friends showed up and I was so pissed and I think he was too. So earleir today, three of us were in his room, and I became so pissed that I had to go out of town for the day, and he didn't want me to leave (aww). Well, I can tell you this shy guy is going to try and muster up some courage to tell this guy how I feel about him tomorrow. Wish me luck.

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    Good luck! Being busy is so frustrating when you're trying to make arrangements for one-on-one time but perseverence is key

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    Quote Originally Posted by iminluv86 View Post
    Well (for anyone who cares), I tried to be just friends with him, and our eyes met and it was like electricity between us. He deifinately has feelings because he cannot stop looking at me, and he copies my exact movements, and he plays footsie with me, he knows I'm checking him and out and vice versa, but we wont tell eachother (I know), we are more or less an unofficial couple, it's great! The only problem is everytime I'm ready to tell him so I can make it official, our friends show up, or one of us has to go and do something really important (for classes), so our busy schedule and our friends are driving me crazy! I was so ready to confront him about us, but our friends showed up and I was so pissed and I think he was too. So earleir today, three of us were in his room, and I became so pissed that I had to go out of town for the day, and he didn't want me to leave (aww). Well, I can tell you this shy guy is going to try and muster up some courage to tell this guy how I feel about him tomorrow. Wish me luck.
    Adorable.

    Good luck dude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iminluv86 View Post
    Well (for anyone who cares), I tried to be just friends with him, and our eyes met and it was like electricity between us. He deifinately has feelings because he cannot stop looking at me, and he copies my exact movements, and he plays footsie with me, he knows I'm checking him and out and vice versa, but we wont tell eachother (I know), we are more or less an unofficial couple, it's great! The only problem is everytime I'm ready to tell him so I can make it official, our friends show up, or one of us has to go and do something really important (for classes), so our busy schedule and our friends are driving me crazy! I was so ready to confront him about us, but our friends showed up and I was so pissed and I think he was too. So earleir today, three of us were in his room, and I became so pissed that I had to go out of town for the day, and he didn't want me to leave (aww). Well, I can tell you this shy guy is going to try and muster up some courage to tell this guy how I feel about him tomorrow. Wish me luck.
    dont get knocked out LOL

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    LOL, now that I've thought it out, I think I'm just going to "go with the flow", because the other night, he was walking out of the bathroom, his hair wet (HOT), and I swear if our friends were'nt around we were about to kiss. I think I'm waiting for "that" moment again, because it's so many potential chances now that things are easing up.

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    Every situation is unique, and it doesn't necessarily mean that he's gay. Some guys just enjoy the the flirting to inflate their own ego; I have, and I know others that have done exactly that. Please, I don't mean do inflate or deflate your ego. but sometimes the dance is just the "dance." I am predominately gay, but I still flirt outrageously heterosexually ... I'm sure its the mirror effect with him.

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    So, I chickened out and didnt tell him (I know), but I took a step back to see everything without a rose tint today. I noticed that when our friends would see the two of us together, they would smile and be all giddy. At Dinner, I was waiting for him in "our spot", and of course, a very annoying girl decided to sit down and talk, moving my intrest a seat over. He didnt seem very happy about it, but anyway, we tried to play footsie, but we we're too far away, and it would be too obvious, so I figured that would be the perfect time to try something. I more or less gave off the "you slightly amuse me" vibe (because in the back of my mind I'm thinking he's just playing with my heart) , but I tried my best not too, needless to say, he left early kind of down. So here I am hating myself for what I did, so me and some friends and I layed in the grass, then you know who shows up with another one of our friends, and they start playing some music. We all enjoy it, but he isnt very enthusiastic, so they start playing lovey dovey songs, and one by one our friends start leaving, and the more romantic the music gets, the more into it he gets ( he was "shy" about singing amongst friends at first apparently) *look at the original OP for why I doubted that*, and eventually it was just us two and a girl that was singing (she has a girlfriend btw), so we start to glance at eachother, and we're back to this.

    *phew* Long story short lol, should I stop the ride, or wait to see if it finishes on its own?

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    For what it's worth........I say ride 'em cowboy.......

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    At least kiss or hold hands already or something. Don't obsess over "talking" about it, just do it, let SOMETHING happen.

    Here, let me help you.


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    Yesterday, I decided enough is enough, and I'm ready to confront him due to his constant eye lingering (and his pupils constantly dialate), his body pointed towards me, and his quick (but noticable) glances. The only problem, the douche from my OP decided "hey, I like him too...", and totally tried to erase me out of the picture. My crush drives, and four of us are going to the movies, and I always get shotgun (hehe), and this other guy wanted shotgun for once, well my other friend (who I'm pretty sure knows about us) says, "hey *my name*, you get shotgun", his words pretty much trump either of us because he's my crushes best friend and roomate. So we're driving, and "our driver" constantly glances, and puts him arm by mine, you know same old same old, but when we get to the movies, our new friend wants to sit between us (grr). So the next day, some of us are in his room, and I'm right by his bed in another chair while our new friend is on his bed sitting by him, and wouldnt you know it: he has his whole body turned toward me, with a hand draping over the edge of his bed towards me. We decide to get something to eat, and our friend gets shotgun (grr), and wouldnt you know it, my crush isnt looking at him at all, except if he makes a joke, and his arms are so close to the wheel you think he's an old lady. *sigh* You still here? So with all of that you would think "he likes you dumbass", but the problem is when I try to actually do something about it, there's always an interruption. Always a friend popping in, and always that one guy attempting to get close to him.
    Almost forgot to mention, we we're watching a show in his room last night, and I gave off the body language I wasnt interested, and behold he was quiet as a mouse (he always makes jokes during something we watch), then I started to warm up to him, and he was laughing and all that good stuff again; the cute part is, I couldnt help but have a little smirk on my face, and I look over and he does too.

    But anyway, I've come to the conclusion that it actually might be a lost cause... but I have the saddle and I'm still riding.

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    My thought: It's safe to say you don't have to wonder if he's gay or straight or whatever anymore, sounds like his roomie is fully aware of the situation between you two as well. So unless you like this cute little flirting game (who wouldn't), there's really no denying the chemistry. Just enjoy it, enjoy his company and if something does happen, at least you know where you both stand with each other, ya know?

    It will happen when it does, let it be organic and natural. Just be ready though for when it does that you let it happen and actually follow through with it, for his sake at least.

    Good Luck, keep us posted of course.

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    Yeah I guess you're right, I think the problem for me is that he's began to make it almost like we're actually boyfriends (we talk to eachother about everything, we sit together whenever we see eachother, he make jokes that will make only eachother laugh, and of course that look into eachother's eye for a long period of time), but when I see this other guy try to do his "thang" by making jokes and stealing my thunder, it makes me really jealous, and I dont want to be because I dont want to seem like the clingy type, but it really doesnt help when we barely see eachother when classes and activities are cracking down on us, and now Spring Break, and we'll both be with our respective families, I just keep wondering "WTF universe?"

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    Unless you have a weather report displaying on your retinas GUYS don't sit and look into GUYS' eyes for extended periods of time.......unless there's something going on.
    I don't know bud but I think you'd better reach for a stirrup soon....... .......next thing you know you'll have hold of the saddle horn.......

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    hi iminluv86,

    I would like to advise you to find a way that you get rid of all the 'others', and that you create a situation with Him and you. Maybe you also have to be a bit more blunt (eg when going to the movie and when deciding who sits next who).

    This guy is definately into you, and all (most?) people around you are already aware that both of you 'like each other'. Sitting next to each other and gently stroking his leg / his fingers (etc.) is an easy way to let him know that you like him (and in most cases also a clear signal that you are a gay guy).

    Good luck and please keep us informed.
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    Thanx for the support guys, what's funny is that as soon as I finished typing las night, I saw him in one of our friends room (she's a girl), and of course, if was four of us, but his reaction to seeing me in shirt and shorts .

    What was cute was that he put on his hoodie and started to act like a nut (making me laugh of course) and standing so close to me, and telling me goodnight personally, so I think it's safe to say there's hope.
    Last edited by iminluv86; March 22nd, 2013 at 06:16 AM.

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    Not to be condescending (and I apologize if it sounds like that), but reading this thread gives me an impression of an extremely 'childish' behavior.
    This cat and mouse game seems to be going on for ages, and of course there's the 'friends keep interrupting us' excuse.

    Here's an idea: the next time one of your friends 'interrupts', politely tell them that you have pressing things to take care of. Set the guy aside and so something about this entire situation to confirm if there could actually be something between the two of you, or if his flirtations are nothing more than friendly gestures (individuals do have their own ways of portraying their platonic feelings towards others who might mistaken them for something else).

    If you allow friends and other situations to constantly interrupt you, leaving things to 'chance' is reasonably unrealistic.
    I would suggest you find some time, invite him out or someplace you can hang out and talk with him about the entire situation.

    Communication is important.
    Without it and without direct input from him, you really won't know where you stand.
    We can make personal theories about situations to envision various possibilities, but many people go beyond that and simply assume that what they think is happening is actually the case (which in great many cases turns out incorrect).
    I'm not saying that you are necessarily wrong about the situation or your views, but you should keep in mind the possibility you might be mistaken - otherwise, you might be setting yourself for an unfortunate outcome should the situation turn out to be different than how you interpret it.

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    Personally, I'm having some doubts about the veracity of your ongoing "Story". Sorry about that, butt it IS the Internet, and assumptions do abound!

    However, as much as I'm enjoying the teasing nature of you "tail", if all of this is, indeed, True, then it's High Time to step up to the plate, take your swing, and hopefully score a "Home Run" with this Dude!

    ALL the "signs" are There! I'm pretty certain you shouldn't have any great concerns! The "proof of the pudding" is, are you "Man" enough to go for what is obvious, or are you still going to be skirting the issue?
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    So If I'm understanding correctly, someone who has been a member on this site since 2011 and only now started posting...to merely ask for some advice on a touchy situation, is making it all up for shits and giggles? Seriously? While some level of suspicion is warranted to the validity of the facts and events, this story is hardly the material of a troll. If it is, it's quite possibly the most uneventful, banal troll tales of them all.

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    I wish I was making this stuff up because after yesterday...I just dont know, actually I know, but ugh! Anyway, I'm trying to get us alone, but we have crap to do in terms of classwork, so we barely get to see eachother. Some of us go eat lunch of campus and everytime I look at him, he's upping the flirting with another guy, I get visably pissed, and he noticed. Well, in a computer lab, I decided to sit away from him, and he didnt make a peep, Mr. Other guy was there, and Mr. Flirty didnt do anything. Later, he had some things to do for his fraternity, and Mr. other guy was gone, but his roomate/best friend was there, and he did something I've never seen him do before, he stripped down to his boxer briefs, took a "shower" and came back in said underwear, then getting dressed. By this time I was in the dont give a damn mood, and the two, start to talk about how Mr. Flirty might be set up with this girl (who is a drug addict, so obviously bad for him), and I'm right there playing video games, not saying a word, and so flirty sits on his bed wainting for the time to go do his frat stuff. What tipped me off about a whole lot, is that he gets back up to "fix his hair (which he already did) and straighten his tie (which he already did) and bring up mundane facts about said drug addict girl. So I just gave up, and later, some of us (minus flirty) are walking and his roomate asks me "hey, are you okay?" out of the blue, of course I said I was fine. Later thay night, we get back, flirty is in his room shirtless and acts like he didnt know we were coming (we told him via text 20 min. before) and roomate had a chair between flirty and I, this was the big red flag, roomate looked at both of us, and put his chair up to sit on his bed, thus leaving space between flirty and I. I had that "huh?" feeling. Then two of our friends (girls) come in to watch a show, and the five of us are watching it, and flirty (who is laying down, it's 1 in the morning), decides to sit up and gradually look at me (saw it out of the corner of my eyes), then he would talk about me like I wasnt in the room, and finally before we left, he says "goodnight *my name" leavin out the other guests, and his roomate quickly chimes in "Yeah, goodnight *my name* and *other two girls*".
    So yeah, I'm done with this cat and mouse game, I really want to make a move, but there is some doubt, because I keep going back to that text where he said "...I'm strait" *yes straight was spelled like that*, and I dont want to ruin our friendship.

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    Poor thing. Well don't ruin the friendship over wanting to get your rocks with a hottie. If you could, maybe take a break from him and just hang with some other friends for a bit. Or maybe when you are hanging together, just enjoy the time you do have with him and jack off in the shower later. My former roommate often said "i'm straight." Didn't stop him from sucking my cock, didn't stop me sucking his cock. Besides "straight" IS a relative term that merely implies he prefers to have sex with women. I suspect it may partly be a ploy in an effort to be more "attractive" to dudes like you, guys who he may have a deeper interest in other than just friendship.

    I know that's how my former roomie is, he basically considers himself a "ladies man" (his words), but it's clearly not because he falls in love with women, he seems to use them as stepping stones. I know another one of his friends he messed around with (he doesn't know that I know), he was also in the Air Force and a former MMA fighter and a ginger no less (sexy!) I know part of the attraction to each other was the fact that they were "straight". For many dudes, it's a huge turn on and the fact that they do have sex with women is part of what makes them more desirable.

    My former roomie has done many of the things you describe and although we are not together or anything as a couple (neither of us would want that) we are pretty much best friends, as close as brothers and I like that. I am sure at some point if he were to be completely honest with himself, he may ask me if I would ever consider being in a gay or bi relationship, possibly with him. I honestly don't think I could do it. Since I'm not into anal, it would suck for him and other than anal, there really isn't anything sexually we haven't already done together, a threesome would be cool. I love him like a brother and I have too much respect for our friendship as "brothers" to want to take it to some sexual and romantic level. It would be weird.

    Maybe one of the things to consider is what you really want. Who cares about all the gay, straight, bi labels crap, that shit will get in the way and cloud your thinking. Labels tend to restrict people by placing unrealistic expectations on them that rarely ever reflect reality.
    I would just think about what you are looking for period. Are you looking for a relationship? With a dude? If not, then keep him as a friend and if something happens between you two, just chalk it up to an experience that will strengthen your bond of friendship rather than being some proclamation that you're both gay and now need to join every gay rights group in the country while exchanging wedding rings in Iowa or Washington.

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    Yeah look, just pull him aside and ask him straight out of he's interested in you at all. Won't hurt to.

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    I do not know why the reader buy this story. on this age people can easy text to each other. Just texxt him and ask if he is interest to go for a walk or a coffee. that's simple as that. you will get all answer. why drag so long and create so many drama . ?

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    Well I texted him, and I dont think he's going to tet me back.

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    Give him a little time to process your text........

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    Flirting for weeks at a time is charming. I see a lot of people who get cynical if it takes longer than two days to get someone into bed, and I can't stand that attitude. Maybe this guy is one of them, though. Maybe he was flirting back at the OP, but he has a shorter attention span than mine.

    Angsty text messages trying to sort out what it all means are not quite as charming, after two weeks or two years. If it doesn't seem reasonable to talk about it face to face, I wouldn't go there.

    The easiest way to deal with this is to actually invite someone on a proper date, where you both know it is a date, and see if you end up talking the night away and have an easygoing fun time together. That is how you start building flirty attraction into a fun relationship that can go the distance.

    Rule: if you're interested in someone, never spend more time talking about him than to him.
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    Well, we finally texted eachother (after 5 hours of nothing) and I more or less told him that I have feelings for him, and he replied "Is there anything I cand do to help those feelings? Like have I been doing anything that I can help?", so now I'm pretty sure I'm done, but it was a good ride.

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    I also, decided to take up his offer for "help", and I decided that when we get back we're going to talk to eachother alone in private, because as we were texting eachother, he really wants to do something for me, I guess this is the best thing for us to do. a little OT, but I also made some jokes to ease the tention, and if nothing else happens, I see that he's one of the best friends anyone could hope for.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iminluv86 View Post
    Well, we finally texted eachother (after 5 hours of nothing) and I more or less told him that I have feelings for him, and he replied "Is there anything I cand do to help those feelings? Like have I been doing anything that I can help?", so now I'm pretty sure I'm done, but it was a good ride.
    IDK how YOU interpret that but MY take on that is he WANTS to go farther.......

    Fucking texts don't cut it when you're getting to the nitty gritty.......

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    Yes I did interpret it that waym but you know open mind and all that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by seven2go View Post
    IDK how YOU
    Fucking texts don't cut it when you're getting to the nitty gritty.......
    Yeah I'm in agreement with Bankside and Seven. When it comes to something like a possible deeper friendship or relationship with someone, texting is the last thing you want to do. It's like breaking up with someone, you don't do that with a text or an email, have the balls to talk in person or at least on the phone.

    Perhaps I'm different in that sense as I would not have made it such an ordeal requiring a serious conversation unless the other dude clearly needed to talk. I would let the actions speak for themselves. Like if you ever did have a moment alone and you found each other holding hands while sitting on the couch together and then evolving into petting or kissing, groping etc. or something, then maybe you can talk. But that's just me and I'm not looking for a relationship. FWB is always a plus though.

    Also in agreement with Seven that he may want to take it further, if not to a relationship, maybe just some experimentation to possibly satisfy his curiosity and to help you out in the process. Sometimes that needs to happen to get it out of your system so the tension can be cleared. I've done that with a couple 'straight' married dudes on more than one occasion. Strangely I did it in those instances to save the friendships.

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    Okay, so I was going through the texts again, and noticed that he was apologizing to me because I told him my feelings for him are pretty new to me. I also noticed he really wants to help me any way he can because he constantly replied with things like "I stil want to be friends and ill help if i can". Then when I told him we should talk in person, he says "Ok man if that's what your feeling we can", so I guess its nice to see he really cares about how I feel.

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    That is a plus. If he isn't willing to take it further as you'd hope, he may be wanting to know if there is anything he can do differently with his behavior in his interactions with you that he thinks may be giving you the wrong impression. For example, all the flirtations, the looks, playing footsie etc. So be prepared this may change things a bit with the friendship. He may stop doing those things that make him charming and cute to you.

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    Yeah, I'm prepared, like I said earlier, I have to keep an open mind and prepare for whatever is going to happen, whether I like it or not

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