A little update on myself and question on work

[scooter63]

I have been on this portion of JUB previously with issues regarding myself with mental health issues and some questions regarding others. Have always received sound advice from caring people, although many times one is so blinded by the situation that you really don't see how sound that advice is. Seasoned and I even exchanged several emails when he offered to help me outside of JUB to work on the employment aspect. Thanks again. So anyway, I am not going to link all of my forum posts and you can look them up and go through them again if you want, but I thought I would give you an update and then got another problem to inquire about.

So basically I am healthy now, still on medication, don't have the big swings in the mood, and have been doing pretty good with the depression. I am not in counseling any more but do take the pill each morning religiously. I have yet to find a bf, yet to have a date, and the hook up thing is few and far between. My friend that I wrote about in many queries is now living with me as a roommate type thing and he has gotten himself cleaned up really good. He has been off drugs now for 8 months, is receiving mental health treatment and counseling routinely. He has been applying for jobs as well and has had interviews.

Me, I have been applying for jobs as well, have had interviews but still have yet to land anything. I get the same responses back of over qualified, not sure you'd be happy here, you have so much public sector experience that the private sector would not be fulfilling to you and on and on. I have dealt with the rejections but is has still hurt like hell and there have been some rough patches. Thank god for the medication otherwise who knows what would be.

So I come to this point now. I applied to two different postings that I found. One is a driving school/training center for CDL and job placement in the trucking industry and the other is an overseas teaching job in the UAE in Abu Dahbi. I have made it through the first 3 cuts for the UAE job and the final in person interview is coming up. I have already been accepted into the CDL school. Between the 2 of them it has been a hard decision what to pursue and where to go. Teaching overseas would put me back in the classroom and it would be a full time position, nice salary, tax free wages, housing and flight provided and a housing allowance to furnish your home. I can take my dog with me with no problems getting her into the UAE however, the flight is 30 hours with her in the kennel with no exercise, no potty break, no food and no water. I am attached to her and she to me and she has been so good to have through my problems that I can't think of leaving her or getting rid of her.

Another point of concern is being away from family so much and not being around for the get togethers and fun. We have birthdays, holidays, and just random get togethers that I won't be a part of. My niece will be having her first baby in August and it would be nice to be around for that as well.

Trucking I can take my dog, it is a full time job, offers a wage for living with benefits of some type. I would be relatively close to family for gatherings and such. I like to drive, travel, and see country.

So in talking with myself, looking over and thinking about things, and talking with my family, I am in the mode of choosing of the trucking portion to get my life going again with full time work. May not be the best but I think it is the only think left for me here in the states and what I am going to be comfortable with for right now. I can always re-apply to go overseas later if I want. And by the way, I do fancy those hot Middle Eastern men as well.

So I guess why I am writing this and what I am asking is, is my reasonings sound and logical? Am I missing something that I should have considered?

[kevin23]

Your reasoning is logical. The dazzle of the overseas job would likely quickly fade and you would be among strangers, no family or friends for support. No medical people that understand your condition if you hit a few bumps. The hot middle eastern men would be much harder to find and more dangerous than finding someone here. Sounds like you are making logical decessions. Best of luck to you.

[Seasoned]

I'm an international type of guy. I'm American but have lived and studied abroad and have visited 40+ countries. I'm leaving for South America in a few days. I guess I'm the wrong guy to ask, but I'd opt for an overseas job every time.

You have weighed the pros and cons for yourself and did a good job with the analysis.

If i were you I'd ask my psychiatrist his/her opinion of leaving the country as well as seeing what other care alternatives there may be for your dog en route, as what you described is very inhumane.

I'd also do a lot of research regarding the potential consequences of same sex behavior.

Your alternatives are so different that I'd also be looking for a third possibility.

Continue with your good self-care and wishing all the best.

[MindBlast]

Personally, being gay, I wouldn't go to the UAE for work OR to visit. Forget it. You couldn't pay me to go there.

[scooter63]

Well I thought I will update you on the decision that I made.

I chose not to pursue the Abu Dhabi position and instead chose the CDL and driving program. In fact, I am sitting in a motel room in the Twin Cities while I am going to school and training. 13 more work days and I am done and ready for employment.

People who I told that I was leaving noticed that I sounded and looked so much better. I told them the worry about finances and money are over I hope and that I am happy to be moving on to something permanent.

[para0402]

Good for you that you've found something for yourself.