Do you have any weird sexual hangups?

[Huntneo(PT)]

And I don't mean just simply stating things you're turned off by, rather things that are conditional or have made you question why you feel a certain way towards something...

If you're comfortable...share them here.

I started this thread mainly to see if I find anyone can relate to my strange "issue".

Okay the thing is: I am very pro-rimming (just the thought of it makes me euphoric),but when it comes to men I'm in relationships with and/or dating seriously...it turns me off (giving, that is). I have no desire to do it whatsoever.

When it comes to hookups, friends-with-benefits, etc. I'm ALL ABOUT IT...but if it's a man I'm even close to thinking about becoming serious with...it's suddenly not appealing. Now, I've been through all sorts of little mental analyses of myself...and it's definitely nothing to do with shame or anything of that nature. I don't know. It's just odd how something I love so much can become so bland/unappealing when I think of a man as someone I want to 'be with'.

Sounds crazy? Yeah, I know.

anyone have any similar odd/conditional hangups?

[M10000]

I think (not really, but kind of) I will meet a guy who will bite off my cock. I think that might be why I dont enjoy blow jobs. I get ticklish and I cant enjoy it. I think maybe subconsciously that is the reason why

[Pianist]

Sex with another guy... too much performance pressure. Based on too many unpleasant past experiences.

[HunterM]

No more than one cock going into my ass...and no scat.

[whitedavo]

No shoes. Socks are alright but I get uncomfortable when people wear shoes on carpet, let alone when doing the deed, and I might set my house on fire if someone ever put them on my bed.

[LatimerRd]

Don't want to get fucked unless my butthole is shaved.

[M10000]

Sex with another guy... too much performance pressure. Based on too many unpleasant past experiences.

I decided to be a bottom so I didnt have performance pressure. But there is pressure being a bottom.

I could not relax enough with my first boyfriend for him to penetrate me. He broke up with me because of that reason (which I understand). Thats when I started practicing with toys

[Kien]

No shoes. Socks are alright but I get uncomfortable when people wear shoes on carpet, let alone when doing the deed, and I might set my house on fire if someone ever put them on my bed.

Ugh I know, I think the picture of having sex with only shoes on looks odd.

I don't think this is weird...but a guy who doesn't kiss is pretty much a deal breaker for me.

[eastofeden]

Bare feet in sandals...I have to try not to look down. I don;t' mind bare feet on the beach or swimming or during sex but I don't like looking at them in sandals...it turns me off.

[Scealle]

No shoes. Socks are alright but I get uncomfortable when people wear shoes on carpet, let alone when doing the deed, and I might set my house on fire if someone ever put them on my bed.

Ugh I know, I think the picture of having sex with only shoes on looks odd.

I don't think this is weird...but a guy who doesn't kiss is pretty much a deal breaker for me.

I prefer guys to be completely naked when having sex. It's kinda weird when I see guys having sex with jeans/clothes on.
Yes like what the song says "it's in his kiss" haha.
Other than that I don't think much else.

[cgymike]

He must be actually gay not bi!!!!!

[Saybrooke]

I can't think of any

[TheSpectatingLoner]

With me, I think it's the fact that sex becomes sort of difficult when I start to develop feelings or see the same partner multiple times. I just don't think my body wants me to attach to any one person. Like the more I develop feelings for someone, the less I actually want to have sex with them.

[rareboy]

I've been trying to think of any hang-ups outside of humiliation and domination. I have no desire for either and the few times that I ran into someone in my wild youth who thought it was hot saw my dick wilt and my interest turn off like a switch.

[bankside]

I don't understand how someone could be wearing shoes during sex anyway. I would find it just as strange as if they were wearing earmuffs. I wouldn't be thinking "I have this odd hang-up" I'd be thinking "Why is there a crazy person in my bed?"


Anyway conditional hang-ups…. Can't do it while the dog is watching?

[Corny]

Cockrings.

[MissAnne]

I used to have a TON! not so much anymore.

[EuroSoccer]

I don't like leather-bondage (although I don't mind some domination-submission role-play), cock-rings and piercings.
Ohhhh......... and my biggest turn off....... guys who shave their pubic hair.
I still don't understand why people do it (Please guys don't ).

[Str8Top14701]

Some of those are weird hang-ups, so much as they are things that they just don't enjoy (turn-offs), or turn-ons and kinks they do enjoy.

A hang-up would be something like:The lights having to be off during sex, or covering a body part during sex from embarrassment, or having to be freshly showered before and/or after sex.

Most people seem to think a kink, which is enjoying something outside the sexual norms, is a fetish, like the words are interchangeable, and it's not. A fetish is something a person HAS to have to achieve sexual pleasure and/or orgasm.

[Keeland]

Women.
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[sexylatinboy]

I don't think I really have any at least not any that I can think of now.

[Maklaar13]

I used to love getting fucked but had to become a top because my partner could not perform due to his low testosterone levels (we found that out many years later). I'm a really good top and he enjoys getting pounded but I have developed an unusual fear of getting fucked, I really want to get pounded by him but feel completely uninterested. Now that he is in a testosterone replacement regime, I think about it a lot but when the sex begins, even if he eats my ass for a long time ( and he has become really good at it) I still feel very scared and insecure about getting fucked. I'm going to work on it because I miss being the slut I used to be.

[Mecchocolat]

I have a foot fetish and a butt fetish so my hangups are hoping the guy has sexy feet and an even sexier ass.

[Vitamin]

None that I have discovered so far. I mean, I have my turn offs like rudeness, and such. And things that I won't do bed like everybody else. I wonder if that would make me a good hustler. Hmmmm...

[cgymike]

I have a fear of rimming and finding old manure on a guy's arse hairs...ewwwww

[jmadaf]

The only presure is your lover likes fucking you.

[jmadaf]

I don't like violence with sex, it really turns me off.

[maxpowr9]

I have a fear of rimming and finding old manure on a guy's arse hairs...ewwwww

I had a drunk hookup with a Russian twink once and I literally tasted shit which immediately made me limp and I could not have sex with him. Funny thing was, he lived down the hall from me and didn't realize how much of a psycho he was either. That also taught me to not sleep with anyone in your apartment building.

[PreTTy PeTe]

I'm pretty vanilla but I want to be vanilla with Ronboy.

and yea I love rimming

and I love to kiss a lot.

[Huntneo(PT)]

With me, I think it's the fact that sex becomes sort of difficult when I start to develop feelings or see the same partner multiple times. I just don't think my body wants me to attach to any one person. Like the more I develop feelings for someone, the less I actually want to have sex with them.

hmmm...that actually comes quite close to my hangup--except my issue is limited to a specific act. But back to your deal, I've always found it perplexing. Have you been able to figure out why you feel that way?

I don't understand how someone could be wearing shoes during sex anyway. I would find it just as strange as if they were wearing earmuffs. I wouldn't be thinking "I have this odd hang-up" I'd be thinking "Why is there a crazy person in my bed?"


Anyway conditional hang-ups…. Can't do it while the dog is watching?

LOL! I've heard that from several people before. Something about a pet watching the fun feels "wrong".
and lmao @ your earmuffs/shoes, etc. comment.

I've honestly never had a guy attempt to have sex while ONLY wearing shoes. Any time I've seen something like that has been in porn.

I used to love getting fucked but had to become a top because my partner could not perform due to his low testosterone levels (we found that out many years later). I'm a really good top and he enjoys getting pounded but I have developed an unusual fear of getting fucked, I really want to get pounded by him but feel completely uninterested. Now that he is in a testosterone replacement regime, I think about it a lot but when the sex begins, even if he eats my ass for a long time ( and he has become really good at it) I still feel very scared and insecure about getting fucked. I'm going to work on it because I miss being the slut I used to be.

hmmm...perhaps easing back into it, trying a little bit at a time might help? Like after he's done rimming you, just have him play around your hole with the head of his dick, etc. Then the next time he could push the head in a little, etc. and so on...

I have a fear of rimming and finding old manure on a guy's arse hairs...ewwwww

LOL! things happen...and that is very much a possibility. I would hope it doesn't happen to people often though.

I literally tasted shit which immediately made me limp and I could not have sex with him.

LMAO. I'm sorry, but something about the way you phrased this made me roll.

[Huntneo(PT)]

Ohhhh......... and my biggest turn off....... guys who shave their pubic hair.
I still don't understand why people do it (Please guys don't ).

I don't particularly care for it, but if a guy is hot--I'll deal.

[Wvnudist]

I decided to be a bottom so I didnt have performance pressure. But there is pressure being a bottom.

I could not relax enough with my first boyfriend for him to penetrate me. He broke up with me because of that reason (which I understand). Thats when I started practicing with toys

That's why I bottom because my cock don't always work right

[HunterM]

I used to have a TON! not so much anymore.

I'm the same way. Anyone will do now. Anyone? Anyone?

[GiancarloC]

I don't do rimming nor do I like to get rimmed. I don't think I can ever move from that one. And I'm top/vers... which may surprise some people.

Something else I'm not into is any kinky shit or strange fetishes. I like to keep it vanilla... I prefer kissing and cuddling. I will do fucking, but really kissing and cuddling comes before that.

As far as the wearing shoes thing during sex... tried that myself but it didn't work out well lol.

[Pianist]

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[Pianist]

I decided to be a bottom so I didnt have performance pressure.

That's why I bottom because my cock don't always work right

Not practical when one can't find someone willing to top.

[sixthson]

And I'm top/vers...

Does that mean you prefer to top but will bottom if your partner wants it?

[loki81]

I hate getting rimmed... the physical sensation is great, but my mind goes into overdrive feeling guilty for having another guy put up with my hairy ass (but at the same time, I hate shaving my ass... takes forever to do and it's itchy as fuck when the hair starts growing back).

I love rimming (though I couldn't imagine doing it unless we were both fresh out of the shower) and a cute ass is one of the biggest turn-ons for me in a guy... it makes me feel like the weirdest bottom ever.

[FlimFlam]

Not a hangup but I don't get into being submissive at all. If i'm nice enough to give someone oral I better not feel a hand on the back of my head. Uninvited aggressiveness and force is not sexy to me.

[ronboy]

Someday my PreTTy one....you and I....and it will be better than awesome!

I'm pretty vanilla but I want to be vanilla with Ronboy.

and yea I love rimming

and I love to kiss a lot.

[Huntneo(PT)]

I don't do rimming nor do I like to get rimmed. I don't think I can ever move from that one. And I'm top/vers... which may surprise some people.

Something else I'm not into is any kinky shit or strange fetishes. I like to keep it vanilla... I prefer kissing and cuddling. I will do fucking, but really kissing and cuddling comes before that.

As far as the wearing shoes thing during sex... tried that myself but it didn't work out well lol.

In my head...I always imagine you as an extremely aggressive TOP.

...oh, and tell us more about the shoes during sex deal.

I hate getting rimmed... the physical sensation is great, but my mind goes into overdrive feeling guilty for having another guy put up with my hairy ass (but at the same time, I hate shaving my ass... takes forever to do and it's itchy as fuck when the hair starts growing back).

I love rimming (though I couldn't imagine doing it unless we were both fresh out of the shower) and a cute ass is one of the biggest turn-ons for me in a guy... it makes me feel like the weirdest bottom ever.

...so, about this hairy ass of yours.

and I'm with you being a bottom that enjoys the sight of a hot ass/and rimming. So glad I'm not the only one...it's always seemed so backwards to me. But hey--there are no rules.

Not a hangup but I don't get into being submissive at all. If i'm nice enough to give someone oral I better not feel a hand on the back of my head. Uninvited aggressiveness and force is not sexy to me.

lol fair enough, but I love for a man to make me his 'bitch'. I can see how it wouldn't work for everyone though.

[GiancarloC]

Does that mean you prefer to top but will bottom if your partner wants it?

Sometimes. But I usually don't want to bottom much anyways.

[GiancarloC]

In my head...I always imagine you as an extremely aggressive TOP.

...oh, and tell us more about the shoes during sex deal.

It involves some boots I own.. not big boots... but that's all I will say

[MorrisseyX]

I am not into water sports and I don't like it when a guy cums on me it is a big turn off. I always tell my men do not cum on me or I am going to kick you out of my apartment. I also don't like dirty men if a man isn't clean and has good hygiene it is a huge turn off.

[blackbeltninja]

It's not so much a hang-up, but I get over-excited to the point of being a bundle of nervous energy during foreplay and end up cracking jokes and making random observations and conversation to the point of turning the other participant off completely.

-d-

[CupidBoy]

Many things before, but I've tried to work through them. Actually being on JUB and talking to other guys has helped a lot.

[HunterM]

Many things before, but I've tried to work through them. Actually being on JUB and talking to other guys has helped a lot.

So you're into scat now eh?