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    What's your limit?

    Let me preface this by saying that I'm a straight-shooter type of person. I feel that the best results are accomplished when you say exactly what you mean. I appreciate people not beating around the bush.

    However, does anyone else feel uncomfortable or just plain annoyed by excess? As someone who frequents the bear community, my example would have to be what I call "bear drag". The harnesses, jockstraps, paw print tattoos, "woof", etc. Right now I'm watching an otherwise hot porn but this one guy is just overdoing it in my opinion. It's like he researched every stereotype possible and decided to do it.

    Another example from a while back was from my single days. I'm not gonna pretend I didn't engage in a lot of raunchy talk. I remember one time in particular, someone just crossed the line. I just found it so disgusting that my response was "I can't even think of something rude enough to say in response." Essentially, some guy had asked me to breed his boyfriend. The word "breed", the unsafe play, the extremely open nature of the relationship, and the fact that nothing about my pictures, profile, or the lack of any conversation beforehand suggested I'd be even remotely interested, etc. Then there's the guy who aggressively tried to cruise me late at night near a supermarket, in the middle of nowhere, when I didn't even look at him and was actually walking in the opposite direction.

    I don't know. A part of me definitely finds it gross in general but that's neither here nor there. Adults, opinions, etc. I guess what does anger me is that there are so many stereotypes that I have to fight against when it comes to non-gays, that I don't need them to be reinforced with me. It's a lot easier to ignore it when it comes from someone straight as ignorance or prejudice but when you see it yourself?

    This was a lot of rambling but I wanted to see what everyone thought. Do you ever feel like you have limits? Do you feel like there should be limits?

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Yeah...I have limits.

    For me...I dont' think I have ever said aloud nor even thought to myself that anyone is "ugly" because of their appearance. Neither do I grade people based on their appearance. I find that behavoir obnoxious and incredibly boring and I am embarrassed for anyone who does that....I feel like taking a shower after being around them. I think that it is alot more interesting to try to be kind to other people...and yourself. I did let people know they were crossing my boundaries when I heard that crap. Working in a gay bar I heard it all the time and sometimes I could actually feel my skin crawl.

    Oh yeah...Gay Republicans...I can't/won't/don't accept them...I tried to get past it but gave up because it is a total turn off for me and I see no reason to put any more effort into getting past it.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    I mainly justbthink "not for me". I realize I'm not everybody else. If someone wants o bear themselves silly, or be as camp as possible, or be super-straight, or try to fuck everybody in the bar, that's their call. Generally, if someone is too much of anything, they become kinda boring in my eyes, but I can always go find someone more interesting.

    Lex

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    Re: What's your limit?

    My limit is when someone becomes irrational. You can not under any circumstances feed irrationality. It will only breed even more irrational behavior that will damage an individuals ability to function in a logical world. We can not facilitate unhealthy habits in other people, it only serves to fuck up the world more than it already is. We must be responsible for the influence we wield over others.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    My limit is no more than 2 cocks in my mouth at the same time.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    I'm like show time "no limits"

    Except scat, under 21, and women
    Here's to rape, rife and revolution! may prostitution progress and Som'bitch become a household word.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    I believe the only limits should be self imposed. You know what's right/acceptable to you, and you should act accordingly. As long as your "limits" don't negatively impact others, I say go for it.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    No scat and no extreme pain.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Can't disagree with this.

    Quote Originally Posted by G-Lexington View Post
    I mainly justbthink "not for me". I realize I'm not everybody else. If someone wants o bear themselves silly, or be as camp as possible, or be super-straight, or try to fuck everybody in the bar, that's their call. Generally, if someone is too much of anything, they become kinda boring in my eyes, but I can always go find someone more interesting.

    Lex

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    No food after 9pm. Cum is the only exception.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    LOL "bear drag" is hands down the best phrase of the year and it describes the problem exactly. Whenever someone becomes submerged under the trappings of their own identity I fixate on it. So, one guy in assless chaps might look hot, enjoy your fetish, I guess. But a room full of them make me kind of chuckle.

    I think I'm more sensitive to it than most but the mind notices what it notices.
    Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Quote Originally Posted by HunterM View Post
    My limit is no more than 2 cocks in my mouth at the same time.
    What a noob..........
    How about 2 cocks in your arse?

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    Re: What's your limit?

    No extreme pain or scat.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post
    LOL "bear drag" is hands down the best phrase of the year and it describes the problem exactly. Whenever someone becomes submerged under the trappings of their own identity I fixate on it. So, one guy in assless chaps might look hot, enjoy your fetish, I guess. But a room full of them make me kind of chuckle.
    I know a guy deep into the bear community. He tells me he thinks I'm hot - which I appreciate. But he always qualifies it with "...but you'd be so much hotter with a leather vest and cap. And why don't you have your nipples pierced?"

    Again, I don't have any issue with that, but I find the idea that I'd be hotter when wearing the appropriate uniform a turn-off. And yes, I find him boring.

    Lex

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Not for me, a group of guys who band together and glorify in the fact that they are over exposing themselves and morbidly obese .

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    Re: What's your limit?

    I'm not sure of the exact point you're trying to express, but I sense a growing intolerance toward behavior which exceeds your personal limits of conduct/propriety/decency.

    As I've grown older my skin has gotten a bit thicker and I've grown more intolerant and I'm happy with that. On a purely social level when someone violates the standards of basic etiquette, like talking on a cell phone in an elevator or failing to leave a theater when their baby is crying, I'm quite direct and tell them to stop. First with a glare, then with some pointed but polite words. (I wouldn't go so far as to slap a crying baby on an airplane, but I sympathize with that guy who did!).

    Another example is that of a recent email I got addressed to my entire family (150+ members). It's a closed mailing list and generally only used once in 5 years for a family reunion. It turned out to be a begging letter on behalf of some distressed relative. Just so completely over the top that I responded with a literal 'slap on the face'.

    If some guy is cruising me incessantly and I'm not interested I'll begin with "Thanks, but I doubt we'd make such a good match" or perhaps even something milder. If he keeps it up, I escalate to the point where I literally tell him to "BUZZ OFF!" (at which point they get all whiney, but that's another matter).


    To me, these kinds of behavior are unacceptable by my terms and crossed my personal "limits" so I quite assertively dealt with them. If it makes me as "asshole" in the eyes of others, then so be it.

    Don't know if this answers your question, but the point I'm making is that I feel justified in asserting myself when my "limits" are crossed. Politely and courteously at first, then just plain rudeness or a pointed insult if the message doesn't get across.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    The whole "bear" scene. I can't. I just can't. So much bullshit.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Stupidity.

    I come from a long lineage who just can't do stupid.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Quote Originally Posted by genthree View Post
    Not for me, a group of guys who band together and glorify in the fact that they are over exposing themselves and morbidly obese .


    This wasn't whether or not you like bears but thanks for the opinion?


    The intent of the thread was moreso to gauge at what point various LGBT people become intolerant themselves. I'm very open minded but I don't have much patience, nor do I like roundabout explanations/justifications.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    The whole "bear" scene. I can't. I just can't. So much bullshit.
    One "bear bar" in Colorado won't allow anybody in who doesn't meet their standards. This means no twinks, no drag queens, no women, nothing they deem "too metro". Luckily, other bears have decided that's bullshit and stopped going.

    Lex

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    Re: What's your limit?

    prince alberts, sounding, and cockrings make my dick go limp.

    I'd sooner let a guy take a shit on my chest than participate (or watch someone) in sounding.


    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    The whole "bear" scene. I can't. I just can't. So much bullshit.
    I love bears...but I can do without the accessories.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    The whole "bear" scene. I can't. I just can't. So much bullshit.
    You say the same about hipsters.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    The two groups intersect so often for some reason.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Quote Originally Posted by Huntneo(PT) View Post
    prince alberts, sounding, and cockrings make my dick go limp.

    I'd sooner let a guy take a shit on my chest than participate (or watch someone) in sounding.
    …but a little tongue on the tip is okay, isn't it?
    Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Quote Originally Posted by G-Lexington View Post
    I know a guy deep into the bear community. He tells me he thinks I'm hot - which I appreciate. But he always qualifies it with "...but you'd be so much hotter with a leather vest and cap. And why don't you have your nipples pierced?"

    Again, I don't have any issue with that, but I find the idea that I'd be hotter when wearing the appropriate uniform a turn-off. And yes, I find him boring.

    Lex
    Yeah, I actually find a guy LESS attractive in leather get-up. I hate leather furniture because it sometimes makes a farting sound when you sit on it, it clings to your skin on hot humid days, and some are so buttery you can't sit on them without sliding off. So why would I want a guy covered in upholstery?

    Plus it makes them look like they're doing really bad He-Man cosplay.

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    Re: What's your limit?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    The whole "bear" scene. I can't. I just can't. So much bullshit.
    I've heard stories from some Bears i've talked to online, and they pretty much confirm that the Bear Community has become the very thing it railed against. A few events, especially some Bear Runs, are like Mean Girls with hairy dudes in lieu of teenage girls. If you're not hairy/big/masculine enough, you're basically shunned like Hester Prynne in The Scarlet Letter.

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    lying and hypocrisy

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    Quote Originally Posted by whitedavo View Post
    Let me preface this by saying that I'm a straight-shooter type of person. I feel that the best results are accomplished when you say exactly what you mean. I appreciate people not beating around the bush.


    *stops reading*

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