I'm not sure there is such a thing as neutral in political debate, I do try to be objective but I make no claim to being good at it. I think that there is too much emphasis on us vs them, like the world of politics is a bipolar black and white place. I also enjoy civilized debate and discussion which is why I find the rising discord into the personal here disconcerting.
Sometimes you have to 'wrap yourself into the opposition' if you really want to discuss the issue at hand. You cannot effectively explore and validate your own positions if you only test them against a two dimensional straw man of the 'opposition'. The opposition is not always of malicious intent after all, sometimes they are just wrong or sometimes they may actually have a point. One can be pro-gay civil rights and still legitimately ask if a proposed wording related to that subject is appropriate to a specific set of legislation.