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    Should I be a top or a bottom?

    If I'm a top, I'm afraid I won't know what to do. What if I don't know where to put it? What if I don't last long enough? What if I can't find the hole?

    If I'm a bottom, what if it hurts? And then there's the whole cleaning out of my butt, that seems like a lot of work. Also what if I can't get in the right position (I'm not very flexible)? What if the top can't find my hole?

    As you probably can see, I have anxiety issues and both positions really scare me. I plan to lose my virginity soon, and these things are really worrying for me.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    You're putting too much thought into it. You shouldn't be anything particular, just try it out and see what you like.

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    educate yourself before you have sex...it will help to take away some of your anxiety.

    Health & Well Being forum has so much good advice, especially all of the links in post #2 of All-About-Ass thread.

    Also, if you don't know which position you "should be", try both...be versatile!
    Bad decisions make good stories.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Oy, you might as well stay home and wank yourself off for the rest of your life.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by trustie View Post
    If I'm a top, I'm afraid I won't know what to do. What if I don't know where to put it? What if I don't last long enough? What if I can't find the hole?

    If I'm a bottom, what if it hurts? And then there's the whole cleaning out of my butt, that seems like a lot of work. Also what if I can't get in the right position (I'm not very flexible)? What if the top can't find my hole?

    As you probably can see, I have anxiety issues and both positions really scare me. I plan to lose my virginity soon, and these things are really worrying for me.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Be a top, the pool of bottoms is already filled.
    Never cease to find it strange
    How at midnight things seem hopeless
    But by dawn they've changed

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by trustie View Post
    If I'm a top, I'm afraid I won't know what to do. What if I don't know where to put it?
    If there's a hole, you can put it in...a hole in the wall, hole in the face, hole in the ass, hole in the pelvic. Practice making a hole and putting it in a warm apple pie first though.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Well, Hunter, this boy...



    Now what about you?
    come now, my child. if we were planning to harm you, do you think
    we'd be lurking here beside the path in the darkest part of the forest?

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by jaysizzles View Post
    educate yourself before you have sex...it will help to take away some of your anxiety.

    Health & Well Being forum has so much good advice, especially all of the links in post #2 of All-About-Ass thread.

    Also, if you don't know which position you "should be", try both...be versatile!
    Thanks, that thread is really helpful.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Maybe you should do some more studying and get your degree In topping, bottoming or versatility first. I'm available for private tutoring if you think you're up for it.

    Lex

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by G-Lexington View Post
    I'm available for private tutoring if you think you're up for it.

    Lex
    Even when you're down, Lex can tutor you on how to be a bottom.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    But you won't be down for very long when I'm topping.

    Lex

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Until you actually have sex, you won't know if you are a top, bottom or versatile. Stop trying to anticipate everything.
    Get to know someone first and build trust with them. In my opinion, you are not ready for sex.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Congratulations on your first post

    You will find out what you like soon enough. If you relish the thought of bottoming, but it hurts, don't get discouraged. It takes practice. So does staying hard while topping. Of course, you don't have to do either to have good sex.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Seriously, it's not supposed to be like choosing a major in college. It's sex. It's supposed to be fun. It's supposed to be two (or more) people making each other feel good physically. The mechanics of it - "top", "bottom" - all get worked out over the long run. People try some things, some people realize they really like something, and they decide that's what they want to do most of the time. Others like mixing it up, or trying different things, or don't really care as long as there's another guy there to get the sheets sweaty and sticky with.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by BreakTheIce View Post
    ...seconded.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    you sound like a middle

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    I just flipped the coin, it's tails....you should bottom this time.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by trustie View Post
    If I'm a top, I'm afraid I won't know what to do. What if I don't know where to put it? What if I don't last long enough? What if I can't find the hole?

    If I'm a bottom, what if it hurts? And then there's the whole cleaning out of my butt, that seems like a lot of work. Also what if I can't get in the right position (I'm not very flexible)? What if the top can't find my hole?

    As you probably can see, I have anxiety issues and both positions really scare me. I plan to lose my virginity soon, and these things are really worrying for me.
    Be an autotop and get over yourself.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Dude, given how important this is for you and your adult life...

    ...why wouldn't you just add dick pics, ass pics, and a poll?!? DUUUHHHH!

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by freefall View Post
    Well, Hunter, this boy...



    Now what about you?
    lmao this never gets old

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by Harke the Boeotarch View Post
    Be an autotop and get over yourself.
    What's an autotop?

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by sixthson View Post
    In my opinion, you are not ready for sex.
    I'm already 19 though, will be 20 in some months.

    I'm just frightened of what might happen and what can go horribly wrong.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Sometimes it's good, sometimes not so good, sometimes inbetween. But life and sex go on. Relax about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by trustie View Post
    I'm already 19 though, will be 20 in some months.

    I'm just frightened of what might happen and what can go horribly wrong.
    Just because you're 19, 25 or 35 does not mean you're mentally ready for sex. Read up on safe sex.

    And watch more porn.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Lol well guys only have one hole anyway so I think it's shouldn't be too hard "finding it". Even if he's virgin tight I think it shouldn't be that small. Cleaning the butt out is a good hygienic practice anyway but overdoing it can be bad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scealle View Post
    Lol well guys only have one hole anyway so I think it's shouldn't be too hard "finding it". Even if he's virgin tight I think it shouldn't be that small. Cleaning the butt out is a good hygienic practice anyway but overdoing it can be bad.
    OK...you too need to watch more porn. A guy has 2 holes!





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    Quote Originally Posted by HunterM View Post
    OK...you too need to watch more porn. A guy has 2 holes!




    Yes, but one's an exit.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Shove a big fucking carrot up your ass.
    If it damn near kills you be a top........

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Flip a coin... heads or tails, You WIN !!!
    http://www.justusboys.com/forum/signaturepics/sigpic216959_1.gif

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    You're thinking too hard. Go with the flow...or have him choose for you.
    Last edited by dereperez; February 11th, 2013 at 09:17 PM.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    For Christ sake – try to Flip-Flop. Throughout most of my relationships I have topped – but when I have bottomed, I have hit the ceiling or at least the headboard. Top or bottom depended on how I felt about my partner -– bottom always felt like I was giving in too intimately – I wasn’t sure whether I would share that with someone. I wish that I would have yielded more often – given in more often -not been so guarded and just enjoyed the experience.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Versatile is probably best, or flip flopping.

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by HunterM View Post
    OK...you too need to watch more porn. A guy has 2 holes!





    Lol hmm Mangina? lol




    Quote Originally Posted by GamerBear View Post
    Versatile is probably best, or flip flopping.
    Yes Versatility is hot. Versat FTW

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    Quote Originally Posted by HunterM View Post
    OK...you too need to watch more porn. A guy has 2 holes!




    You too need to watch more porn - and study biology. A guy has 3 holes!



    Quote Originally Posted by sixthson View Post
    Yes, but one's an exit.
    Both are exits - for different stuffs, depending on your thing, that is.
    come now, my child. if we were planning to harm you, do you think
    we'd be lurking here beside the path in the darkest part of the forest?

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by HunterM View Post
    Just because you're 19, 25 or 35 does not mean you're mentally ready for sex. Read up on safe sex.

    And watch more porn.
    Will do, thanks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by freefall View Post
    You too need to watch more porn - and study biology. A guy has 3 holes!
    Both are exits - for different stuffs, depending on your thing, that is.
    Actually I count at least 7
    But I wouldn't advise trying to have sex with all
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    Quote Originally Posted by oakpope View Post
    Actually I count at least 7
    But I wouldn't advise trying to have sex with all
    Right. If it does not fit, you must acquit!

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    Quote Originally Posted by oakpope View Post
    Actually I count at least 7
    But I wouldn't advise trying to have sex with all
    What was it that Procopius wrote about Empress Theodora? That during her circus days she expressed regret that she didn't have more orifces to bring her pleasure?

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    Re: Should I be a top or a bottom?

    Quote Originally Posted by trustie View Post
    I'm already 19 though, will be 20 in some months.

    I'm just frightened of what might happen and what can go horribly wrong.
    Age has nothing to do with. You seem to lack the basic knowledge anyone needs before having sex.
    Without this knowledge, you are vulnerable. Do you understand the need for protection?
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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