Should I be a top or a bottom?

[trustie]

If I'm a top, I'm afraid I won't know what to do. What if I don't know where to put it? What if I don't last long enough? What if I can't find the hole?

If I'm a bottom, what if it hurts? And then there's the whole cleaning out of my butt, that seems like a lot of work. Also what if I can't get in the right position (I'm not very flexible)? What if the top can't find my hole?

As you probably can see, I have anxiety issues and both positions really scare me. I plan to lose my virginity soon, and these things are really worrying for me.

[pasacon]

You're putting too much thought into it. You shouldn't be anything particular, just try it out and see what you like.

[jaysizzles]

educate yourself before you have sex...it will help to take away some of your anxiety.

Health & Well Being forum has so much good advice, especially all of the links in post #2 of All-About-Ass thread.

Also, if you don't know which position you "should be", try both...be versatile!

[HunterM]

Oy, you might as well stay home and wank yourself off for the rest of your life.

[BreakTheIce]

If I'm a top, I'm afraid I won't know what to do. What if I don't know where to put it? What if I don't last long enough? What if I can't find the hole?

If I'm a bottom, what if it hurts? And then there's the whole cleaning out of my butt, that seems like a lot of work. Also what if I can't get in the right position (I'm not very flexible)? What if the top can't find my hole?

As you probably can see, I have anxiety issues and both positions really scare me. I plan to lose my virginity soon, and these things are really worrying for me.

[Beachguyj]

Be a top, the pool of bottoms is already filled.

[HunterM]

If I'm a top, I'm afraid I won't know what to do. What if I don't know where to put it?

If there's a hole, you can put it in...a hole in the wall, hole in the face, hole in the ass, hole in the pelvic. Practice making a hole and putting it in a warm apple pie first though.

[freefall]

Well, Hunter, this boy...



Now what about you?

[trustie]

educate yourself before you have sex...it will help to take away some of your anxiety.

Health & Well Being forum has so much good advice, especially all of the links in post #2 of All-About-Ass thread.

Also, if you don't know which position you "should be", try both...be versatile!

Thanks, that thread is really helpful.

[G-Lexington]

Maybe you should do some more studying and get your degree In topping, bottoming or versatility first. I'm available for private tutoring if you think you're up for it.

Lex

[HunterM]

I'm available for private tutoring if you think you're up for it.

Lex

Even when you're down, Lex can tutor you on how to be a bottom.

[G-Lexington]

But you won't be down for very long when I'm topping.

Lex

[sixthson]

Until you actually have sex, you won't know if you are a top, bottom or versatile. Stop trying to anticipate everything.
Get to know someone first and build trust with them. In my opinion, you are not ready for sex.

[JockBoy87]

Congratulations on your first post

You will find out what you like soon enough. If you relish the thought of bottoming, but it hurts, don't get discouraged. It takes practice. So does staying hard while topping. Of course, you don't have to do either to have good sex.

[G-Lexington]

Seriously, it's not supposed to be like choosing a major in college. It's sex. It's supposed to be fun. It's supposed to be two (or more) people making each other feel good physically. The mechanics of it - "top", "bottom" - all get worked out over the long run. People try some things, some people realize they really like something, and they decide that's what they want to do most of the time. Others like mixing it up, or trying different things, or don't really care as long as there's another guy there to get the sheets sweaty and sticky with.

Lex

[Paws]

...seconded.

[vulgar_newcomer]

you sound like a middle

[RaKroma]

I just flipped the coin, it's tails....you should bottom this time.

[Harke the Boeotarch]

If I'm a top, I'm afraid I won't know what to do. What if I don't know where to put it? What if I don't last long enough? What if I can't find the hole?

If I'm a bottom, what if it hurts? And then there's the whole cleaning out of my butt, that seems like a lot of work. Also what if I can't get in the right position (I'm not very flexible)? What if the top can't find my hole?

As you probably can see, I have anxiety issues and both positions really scare me. I plan to lose my virginity soon, and these things are really worrying for me.

Be an autotop and get over yourself.

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

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^ wot win? ^
nothin

thankyou

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[TheSpectatingLoner]

Dude, given how important this is for you and your adult life...

...why wouldn't you just add dick pics, ass pics, and a poll?!? DUUUHHHH!

[BreakTheIce]

Well, Hunter, this boy...



Now what about you?

lmao this never gets old

[trustie]

Be an autotop and get over yourself.

What's an autotop?

[trustie]

In my opinion, you are not ready for sex.

I'm already 19 though, will be 20 in some months.

I'm just frightened of what might happen and what can go horribly wrong.

[LatimerRd]

Sometimes it's good, sometimes not so good, sometimes inbetween. But life and sex go on. Relax about it.

[HunterM]

I'm already 19 though, will be 20 in some months.

I'm just frightened of what might happen and what can go horribly wrong.

Just because you're 19, 25 or 35 does not mean you're mentally ready for sex. Read up on safe sex.

And watch more porn.

[Scealle]

Lol well guys only have one hole anyway so I think it's shouldn't be too hard "finding it". Even if he's virgin tight I think it shouldn't be that small. Cleaning the butt out is a good hygienic practice anyway but overdoing it can be bad.

[HunterM]

Lol well guys only have one hole anyway so I think it's shouldn't be too hard "finding it". Even if he's virgin tight I think it shouldn't be that small. Cleaning the butt out is a good hygienic practice anyway but overdoing it can be bad.

OK...you too need to watch more porn. A guy has 2 holes!

[sixthson]

OK...you too need to watch more porn. A guy has 2 holes!

Yes, but one's an exit.

[seven2go]

Shove a big fucking carrot up your ass.
If it damn near kills you be a top........

[borg69unimatrix]

Flip a coin... heads or tails, You WIN !!!

[dereperez]

You're thinking too hard. Go with the flow...or have him choose for you.

[maxer343]

For Christ sake – try to Flip-Flop. Throughout most of my relationships I have topped – but when I have bottomed, I have hit the ceiling or at least the headboard. Top or bottom depended on how I felt about my partner -– bottom always felt like I was giving in too intimately – I wasn’t sure whether I would share that with someone. I wish that I would have yielded more often – given in more often -not been so guarded and just enjoyed the experience.

[GamerBear]

Versatile is probably best, or flip flopping.

[Scealle]

OK...you too need to watch more porn. A guy has 2 holes!

Lol hmm Mangina? lol

Versatile is probably best, or flip flopping.

Yes Versatility is hot. Versat FTW

[freefall]

OK...you too need to watch more porn. A guy has 2 holes!

You too need to watch more porn - and study biology. A guy has 3 holes!

Yes, but one's an exit.

Both are exits - for different stuffs, depending on your thing, that is.

[trustie]

Just because you're 19, 25 or 35 does not mean you're mentally ready for sex. Read up on safe sex.

And watch more porn.

Will do, thanks.

[oakpope]

You too need to watch more porn - and study biology. A guy has 3 holes!
Both are exits - for different stuffs, depending on your thing, that is.

Actually I count at least 7
But I wouldn't advise trying to have sex with all

[HunterM]

Actually I count at least 7
But I wouldn't advise trying to have sex with all

Right. If it does not fit, you must acquit!

[LatimerRd]

Actually I count at least 7
But I wouldn't advise trying to have sex with all

What was it that Procopius wrote about Empress Theodora? That during her circus days she expressed regret that she didn't have more orifces to bring her pleasure?

[sixthson]

I'm already 19 though, will be 20 in some months.

I'm just frightened of what might happen and what can go horribly wrong.

Age has nothing to do with. You seem to lack the basic knowledge anyone needs before having sex.
Without this knowledge, you are vulnerable. Do you understand the need for protection?