If I'm a top, I'm afraid I won't know what to do. What if I don't know where to put it? What if I don't last long enough? What if I can't find the hole?
If I'm a bottom, what if it hurts? And then there's the whole cleaning out of my butt, that seems like a lot of work. Also what if I can't get in the right position (I'm not very flexible)? What if the top can't find my hole?
As you probably can see, I have anxiety issues and both positions really scare me. I plan to lose my virginity soon, and these things are really worrying for me.