So, I'm a late-comer to the gay dating scene (former closet case) and I have a question for all you lovely JUB folks. I have a lot of personal issues (depression, chronic illness, etc) that are going to weigh on any relationships I may have. At the same time, I realize that nothing's more unattractive than someone who goes about in pity for themselves-- and that's not who I am: I don't let my illnesses define me (even with rheumatoid arthritis at age 26, I go to the gym and still out-lift most guys I know my age)
I realize this stuff is obviously not first/second/third date material (very unattractive), but at some point, I feel like a fraud if I'm not up front about it. I don't want to "lure" someone into a relationship with me, only to have them find out, after they've developed feelings for me, that I'm damaged goods. I have a pretty low opinion of myself, but feel like it's warranted (when guys try to hook up with me, all I can think is, "Are you really that drunk?").
Gay relationships have their issues just like straight ones, but I feel like in gay relationships there's more opportunity to be up front and honest about things from the start. So what would you all suggest?