I really hate the term home wrecker because it suggests the third wheel is responsible. The third wheel isn't cheating, the husband is. He should choose to be faithful... not be faithful because he lacks the opportunity to cheat. Like I said before in my book it's already cheating the moment the man wants to cheat.
I'd say good to find out sooner than later that he's a cheater.
secondly, all my serious relationships are open to some extent.
thirdly, if he still cheats on me, i direct my anger at him, not the guy he cheated with. he is the one who broke his promise and betrayed my trust, after all. the other guy, why should i care about him?
ps: laufey, high five!
I've always thought that was strange. When somebody finds out their partner cheated, they sharpen their claws and go after...the third party. Why not the partner? If you're in a monogamous relationship, you shouldn't be telling the world "hands off my partner". You should tell your partner "hands off the world".
what tangled webs we weave
If someone feels the same way about the rest of the world as well and not just close friends I can't really blame them for that.
True vegetarians or vegans would not give in to eating meat even when they are dining at a chicken, seafood, or steak restaurant.
I'm confused as to the point of the thread, who said it was okay to sleep with married men and even moreso, who said it was the thing to do around here?
All of the things I know about my brother are wrong and the women he sleeps with that aren't his girlfriend are innocent. I thought that they knew he had a girlfriend and that he was a douchebag for cheating and they were bitches for helping him cheat. It turns out, after all of these years, it's the homosexuals fault. It all makes sense now.
I encourage straight couples to get married.
I have videos to proof it but not going to ******
NEVER LISTEN TO A ONE SIDED STORY AND JUDGE.
Last edited by opinterph; February 7th, 2013 at 09:50 PM. Reason: removed verbiage quoted from another poster
So, it's dandy for women to kill children?
There must be some statistically significant relationship here. THERE JUST MUST BE!!
Glorification on this forum? No. Glorification in general? Yes.
Like someone in the other thread astutely pointed out, it's degrading to homosexuals to want to desire to be with someone "straight". Being with someone who identifies as straight does not make you less gay.
I feel that some just see being married to a woman as the ultimate symbol of being straight. "They have committed to a woman for life so I am truly tasting the forbidden fruit." When in reality, they're just doing it out of societal/family pressure and will continue to screw men as the opportunities arise.
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The 'singing a different tune' is an inevitability that comes along with having someone YOU trust, break that trust.
Last edited by mitchymo; February 7th, 2013 at 07:06 PM.
^ Yup, it's a lot of "it's easier to hate the third party and scapegoat them, rather than come to terms with the fact that your spouse isn't trustworthy and betrayed you."
Last edited by Medusa; February 7th, 2013 at 07:38 PM.
^ but woudn't that man be bisex rather than gay?
Straight guys cheat on women on the "dl" all the time... yet you keep focusing only on the gay ones as being more in the wrong. You bias and homophobia is perfectly clear.
It's life. *shrugs* Seriously. You'll just have to take some solace in the fact that not all of us would be cool with sleeping with someone that's in a relationship.
That being said--I do agree with the majority here that "third parties" are not to blame. If I find out my partner has cheated on me...he's the person I am going to deal with...not the person he fucked.
I'm in a monogamous relationship, and of course I would not be cool with my guy pretending to be monogamous to my face but actually sleeping with someone else. That would be his failure.
But there is a big difference in the moral quality of the guy he sleeps with in our bed under a picture of us on our wedding day, and the guy who says "Wait, I thought you said you were single?! You brought me over here to fuck you under a picture of you and your husband? Go fuck yourself."
The fact that so many of us see those two third-wheels as morally equivalent, or just making a neutral choice to "do what they do," and where neither response matters, explains a lot of the fucked-uppedness of the world.
Last edited by bankside; February 7th, 2013 at 08:24 PM.
Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.
I sympathise with what you say about the "dl", Medusa.
I just hope in the near future guys won't have to go "on the down low" to get good man sex. And hopefully all those guys who might be calling themselves bi can be more open about what they want.
How the fuck is infidelity part of the same subject as getting 'bamboozled' into marrying a homo?
Your automatic assumption that every homo married to a woman is going to cheat is not only grossly erroneous, it is seems to be indicative of some kind of animus you bear toward gay or bisexual men.
While others are accusing you of trolling, I'm beginning to suspect that in your past you have had a bad relationship or an unrequited relationship with a homo or bi-sexual man and use JUB as a way of working out your angst.
But what I really suspect is that you have no real understanding of relationships or homos or bisexuals at all. It is like there is some significant disconnect in your logic stream whenever you are discussing issues like the ones you have mooted here.
What would you say if I suggested that in 99% of the cases of a homo marrying a woman...it is the guy that is being bamboozled into marrying a woman? Or that in almost all cases...there is no bamboozling at all?
I would suggest that you read 'Homos For Dummies' perhaps.
Last edited by rareboy; February 8th, 2013 at 04:09 AM.
First...I agree with Matt...
Second...the elephant in the room...there are alot of conscious and unconsious reasons women marry closeted gay men ranging from an inability to connect emotionally to a man to needing to control everyone and everything around her. RARELY is one party a victim in ANY relationship.
if my buddy wants to have his cake and eat it too then im not in a position to judge my buddy
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Medusa...you heteros having skrewed up marriage for centuries...with domestic violence, cheating, DIVORCE, and aplethora of other things. That you as a hetero would even have the nerve to direct this topic at us in the manner you worded it is some nerve. GO MAKE THIS ON SOME HETERO FORUM...y'all are getting divorced from each other like it's going out of business.
But bigots always spin every story and angle to somehow blame gays, fault gays or make gays feel guilty.
Your agenda got called out boo boo.
Medusa is banned.
Anybody who willingly sleeps with someone else's partner, boyfriend or husband is a nasty ass tramp.
I don't even care.
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