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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    He doesn't know that ham and pork are from the same animal?

    ...I recant my previous post about not having a thing to worry about when you take him home to meet the fam-fam.

    Lex

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    Apologize to him. Say "I'm very sorry. We're not going to my sister's family gathering for Chinese New Year. We're not ready. Need to wait a few more years."

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Should you have done what you did? No, probably not. Apologize for mocking him in conversation with strangers.

    Lex

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    There's a time and a place to joke around, and you just learned that wasn't the time. Apologize to him and point that you shouldn't have joked around (or made fun of if you did that, I can't tell from what you wrote). If you really wanna go the extra mile, ask him if he can wait to eat until you get home and you cook dinner for the two of you.

    Whatever you do, just talk to him. The worst thing you can do is let it fester.
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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    I'm a lot older than he is, and so I know a lot more than he does.
    I see your problem right there.

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    ^If I may ask, what in him made you fall in love ?

    I'm surely a bad person, but I think I couldn't date seriously someone whose intellect I couldn't even respect.
    Magna Veritas


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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    While you're at it...tell him spam is also a pork product.

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    Dude start talking to your BF about the problem not stragers cause it seems yr relationship seems to have such minor trivial drama.
    If its like this now I hate to see whats its like further down.

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    ^When someone doesn't know ham and pork are from the same animal, I would question his general knowledge.
    You should apologise, still, for belittling him in the public.
    come now, my child. if we were planning to harm you, do you think
    we'd be lurking here beside the path in the darkest part of the forest?

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    Started out with lust. Then I fell in love with his mind.

    He does not lack intellect. Trust me on that. He lacks experience and proper role model in his life.

    His father abandoned him when he was little. His mom has been an alcoholic for like 15 years. He moved out and had been on his own since he was 16.

    He's a very sweet guy. If anything, it's me who doesn't deserve him.
    Are you sure you are being entirely truthful with us?

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    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    I do. We always talk after we got into some drama like this.
    Then I suggest you learn to just move on cause you just come cross as a annoying whinny drama queen.

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    Started out with lust. Then I fell in love with his mind.



    you mean the same mind which did that huge miscalculation concerning the down payment for some used car, wanted you to give him money to help him pay for it, got mad when you corrected his math and is also in school to be an accountant?

    you sure know how to right guys to be miserable with.
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by Harke the Boeotarch View Post
    Are you sure you are being entirely truthful with us?
    What I meant is: you sound like a teenager or a very immature twenty-something person. Are you sure you're not still in high school?

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Just ham it up.

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by freefall View Post
    . . .

    You should apologise, still, for belittling him in the public.
    Yes, and then bring him to JUB so he can see how he’s been described and discussed on a website full of strangers.






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    Did rareboy’s knitting thread have any sock patterns?

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    I think in this case, you're both right.


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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    But on a positive note, you got to tell a whole slew of people that your boyfriend didn't know that ham and pork were from the same animal. So there's that.

    Lex

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by Kahaih View Post
    Yes, and then bring him to JUB so he can see how he’s been described and discussed on a website full of strangers.
    At least WE'RE the one belittling the man and not his own partner
    Plus he could see his man defending him, so an angry sex will take place later
    come now, my child. if we were planning to harm you, do you think
    we'd be lurking here beside the path in the darkest part of the forest?

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    Woohoo, he accepted my apology.
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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Guys, a reality check can be important, but when you take it too far it just starts to become needlessly insulting. A few of the OPs comments have bothered me slightly, most of them pertaining to the "I'm older and therefore wiser" mentality, but then again I'm young, so what do I know?

    Seriously though animalius, you are making this into a bigger deal than it needs to be, but it's clear that this is because you care about your boyfriend and feel terrible that your words may have caused him hurt. It may indeed be representative of a larger trend, and if so, I think it's important for you to consider why you feel the need to undermine his self-confidence despite the guilt that it causes you. Expressing that you feel you don't deserve him, coupled with the inordinate level of anxiety you feel over a relatively small indiscretion, suggests that perhaps you have an irrational fear of him leaving, and put him down because you feel inadequate or unworthy. Of course, this is just my generic, perfunctory interpretation after reading less than ten short posts on a message board, and only you can know for sure why you do it, or if there's even a deeper reason behind it. Still, it may be worth your consideration.

    For now, take a deep breath and relax. Fretting over 'what ifs' isn't going to change what happens when you get home, it will only serve to exacerbate your anxiety. Be honest, apologise, and listen when he tells you why he's angry. Learn from this, and don't laugh at your boyfriend's expense. It shows a profound lack of respect, and few things will destroy a relationship quicker.

    Edit: I really need to learn to stop browsing JUB with multiple tabs.

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by HunterM View Post
    While you're at it...tell him spam is also a pork product.
    That has never been proven.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    How long have you been dating each other? 5 minutes?
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    Haha, what's with the putting words in my mouth?


    And I would say you're probably right on some of these things. I do not do it consciously. In this particular case, I just wasn't thinking. Was joking around with strangers in the cafeteria when he called. Was still in the joking mood.

    And yes, I am afraid of him leaving. After dating so many weird guys, I've finally found someone who's so lovely and warm... and normal.
    In no particular order, here are some examples of the kind of guys I've dated.

    Started out dating a beautiful guy. Then the guy started wearing makeup. Then he started wearing dresses. Right before my eyes, he transitioned into a woman.

    Started out pretty normal. Turned into a nightmare. Cheated on me on god knows how many times. Caught std's twice. Tried to set up an elaborate scheme to blame me for the std the second time. It involved giving me the std's. Amazingly enough, I tested negative. Woohoo, still std-free!

    Ever got the "can we just be friends?" line of death? Trust me, it sucks no matter how thick your skin is.

    Passive-aggressive...

    I think of all the weird personality types out there I've dated half of them.



    I agree... with the last line. LOL just joking. I agree with everything you said.
    sorry but where are you meeting these guys from?

    and if your boyfriend is the most normal guy out of the past ones you encountered, then
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    You mean you've never encountered the weird personality types?
    Not as much as you.

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    You mean you've never encountered the weird personality types?
    Not until just now.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    You mean you've never encountered the weird personality types?
    yeah, i have BUT everybody even they knew themselves knew they were weird. you on the other hand seem to be the last one to know, man which may be implying something about you.

    each one of your boyfriends seem to be, hope no offense is taking, damaged goods. even your boyfriend now seems to be outthere. you may be into these guys for how they look BUT damn, man... from what you've said about the past guys and the things about this dude, you can do better. well, i hope you can do better.

    if you're happy with that guy, stick with him BUT it sounds like you're just setting yourself up to get hurt again by riding with someone that isn't your type. his ex boyfriend got locked up for kiddie porn that contained your current boyfriend i believe i dunno, he's going to school to be an accountant and doesn't know his math, he doesn't seem to know pork and ham comes from a pig, and etc. then his family history is fucked up too. you're trying to bring him to your parents and family BUT he can't bring you to his family because from what you said, it sounds like he doesn't have any. man.... *sigh* but that's just me though. how old is he again?
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Animalius, one thing that would really help in a situation like this is for him to be able to not hang up the phone but say "Don't be an ass, love of my life" and then laugh about you bitching to someone on the train. It's true that teasing can sometimes hurt people even when it's all in good fun. I recommend staying away from it for a while.

    But at the same time, it is nice for him to show a little trust and awareness that to gently poke fun at someone can be a gesture of love and that you aren't out to humiliate him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post
    Animalius, one thing that would really help in a situation like this is for him to be able to not hang up the phone but say "Don't be an ass, love of my life" and then laugh about you bitching to someone on the train. It's true that teasing can sometimes hurt people even when it's all in good fun. I recommend staying away from it for a while.

    But at the same time, it is nice for him to show a little trust and awareness that to gently poke fun at someone can be a gesture of love and that you aren't out to humiliate him.
    You make a valid point, but I'm also twenty-two, and if I had an older partner who continually emphasised my youth as the root cause of my iniquities or supposed naivete, it would infuriate me to hear him mocking me for it, especially in front of others. Sometimes a joke is just a joke, but other times it can be much more, and it is not always unreasonable for a person to be offended.

    Of course, in such circumstances it's not necessarily the 'joking' that needs to be addressed, but the subtext behind it.

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    You must fuck faster than a jack rabbit.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    All ham is pork, but all pork is not ham.
    In his autumn, before the winter, comes man's last mad surge of youth

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by Keeland View Post
    Self: Lips, don't unpurse.
    Oh Yeah? Um...they do..


    gggggggggg

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    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    So, I've admitted to him that I was an ass and that I will improve myself for him. Then we had sex to makeup
    Vids or it didn't happen
    come now, my child. if we were planning to harm you, do you think
    we'd be lurking here beside the path in the darkest part of the forest?

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    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    It's emotional abuse. I'm a lot older than he is, and so I know a lot more than he does. Also have a lot more experience. If I don't watch what I don't watch what I say, then it's very easy for me to say things that make him feel shitty about himself. That constitutes abuse.
    Oh get the fuck over it.

    He's not that young.

    He's as dumb as a box of rocks.

    Have you noticed that you bring story after story of how stupid your BF is to this board and then make excuses for him?

    That is abusive.

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    Hmmm

    If he's going to get pissy that you got confirmation from a neutral 3rd party that ham is pork, and you're going to freak out that he's going to freak out about it, I'd say the Drama Llama must frequent your house big time.

    Perhaps for both your sakes you guys should call it quits. Neither of you sounds like you're mentally ready for... well, anything vaguely real-world, if I'm honest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GiancarloC View Post
    Having an argument over something so trivial is screwing up really badly?

    And yea... well... perhaps I would say take a break from it all. If one has an argument over what ham and pork are... well... imagine an argument over something more substantial (like on family matters, etc).
    Exactly! Family matters like those on Jerry Springer shows..."What!? You've been sleeping with my sister?" "OMG! Did I turn you straight???"

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    Re: I just screwed up really bad with the b/f

    Quote Originally Posted by GiancarloC View Post
    Until there is an argument about chicken nuggets...
    Another good thread material.

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    "No, honey, there is no part of the chicken that's called the 'McNugget'."

    And the dipping sauces will be a whole other thread.

    Lex

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    Animalius and BF.

    Not exactly as shown.

    Luv u guyz.

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    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    Haha, I love you guys. We're doing fine now.
    Until you have to point out that hamburgers are ground beef, and not ground-up people from Hamburg in Germany...

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    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    So, I've admitted to him that I was an ass and that I will improve myself for him. Then we had sex to makeup
    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    Haha, I love you guys. We're doing fine now.
    Sex heals all, eh? At least you know what to do when that argument about bacon starts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by animalius View Post
    Haha, I love you guys. We're doing fine now.
    Good to know. He seems like a really decent guy
    Wish you both well

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