Likes me but never gets in touch...

[carlos_hoodios]

Hey everyone

I am a bit of a lurker around these forums but I have finally decided to post for some advice.

I started dating a guy about 3 weeks ago, we hung out and went for meals etc. nothing too serious. We get along really well but the problem is if I am always the first one to text/call to see how he is, when we are going to go out etc. When we're together he says he really likes me and just wants to see what happens. I haven't text him at all since Wednesday so obviously I haven't heard from him...any advice?

FYI my last relationship was long distance for 2.5 years so I am used to texting a lot, do I just need to get back into the habit of not being in contact as much because we will see each other physically more often?

Thanks

[Seasoned]

Welcome to active participation!

It's too early to be in constant communication so follow your instincts. Try to allow him to be a part of your life, as opposed to your entire focus, as he seems to be doing with you. It's probably ok to do most of the initiating, but if things progress I'd expect it to be more balanced. So, stay interested and at the same time don't try to force anything. It appears he wants to take it slow. It would be nice if more of a spark would already be in place but not everyone operates that way. Good luck!

[Coward92]

Give it a month or two and if nothing changes, move on.

[carlos_hoodios]

Thanks guys

We just spoke and he says he having some issues at the moment and he doesn't know what he wants at the moment...I'm just gonna give him space and let him work out whatever it is

[jaysizzles]

Have you asked him why he doesn't call or text you? Let him know that you welcome him to call/text you whenever he likes, or perhaps give him times to call you when you know it's generally convenient for you to talk.

My friends gripe at me that I don't initiate calls/activities etc...but I'm almost always into doing whatever they initiate. I'm rather passive in that regard (not so in other ways tho.) Anyway, your new guy could just be like this and as long as you understand his ways and can accept that you are the caller/planner...it could work out fine. Let him know that every once in awhile that you'd appreciate him planning a date or initiating a call.

edit...just saw your new post...ignore my response. good luck with him...