Hi, first time poster here! Just here for some advice....
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and he recently moved away to college 2 hours away. I'm 25 years old and working full time. He's 23 and will be attending this college for another 2 years. Over Christmas break he came home and confessed that someone had been flirting with him and even went as far as to touch him while he was drunk. I was obviously very jealous and didn't know how to react. I don't know why but I made the mistake of suggesting an open relationship with him. I guess I felt like I wanted to give him the freedom to scratch whatever itch he needed to. He went back to school after break and within the first week back, he called and confessed that he had messed around with the same guy.
I was so heartbroken and jealous. I confessed that I was wrong in suggesting an open relationship and broke down and cried. He was very sad as well and assured to me that he loved me and that it wouldn't happen again if I wasn't okay with it. He did insist that he still wanted to be friends with this guy even thought I had asked if it was okay that he distance himself. I tell myself that I can trust him but in the back of my mind I feel like he will one day just run away with this new guy in his life... Since the incident, I've been literally obsessing over where he is and who he's with. I will have to admit that we've been closer than ever since it's happened.
I just want to know how I can overcome the jealousy of all this. We wont be able to see each other until he comes home from spring break and I just don't know if I can handle it anymore. As I am writing this, he is over at the guys apartment right now to basically tell him they can't mess around anymore. He has literally been there for 4 hours... won't return any of my text messages. The paranoia keeps getting to me. Help!