How have your sexual tastes evolved over time?

[AshyPhoenix]

I'm talking dirty with a guy through text, and I'm saying stuff to him I never would have said even three years ago. So of course, now I have to ask all you guys!

When I first became sexually active, I was very much a total sub bottom (I didn't even enjoy getting head, just giving it). I was also very vanilla. I stayed that way for quite some time; over the last year and a half or so, I've discovered kink and S&M, and I've dived right into it. I've become a lot more dominant, I'm not a total bottom (I almost prefer topping now) and I'm pretty freaky, all things considered.

What about you?

[BustinJeiber]

Hmmm well at first I started thinking about Dick. Then I slowly starting wanking off to Dick. Then I began wanking other mens' Dicks. Then I started sucking, that lead to docking, frotting, and sword fighting. Eventually all that boiled down into a frothy mix of getting fucked.

[RazorzEdge88]

I used to hate Justin Bieber and now I want to fuck him in his little boy-pussy. :c)

[BustinJeiber]

I used to hate Justin Bieber and now I want to fuck him in his little boy-pussy. :c)

Oh behave! You aren't ready for this boy-vagine!

[borg69unimatrix]

I blame that midget you were sleeping with, Ashy. Once you do a major fetish icon like that you gotta go for the more extreme.

[G-Lexington]

They haven't changed so much as refined somewhat.

When I first realized I was gay, I was the prototypical semi-homophobic gay. I only wanted to top and get sucked. I quickly got into kissing, though, and it wasn't too much longer before I got into "working a guy's body over". Not just sucking his cock, but manually and orally doing a guy all over. I finally did bottom, and enjoyed it, but I still much prefer topping.

Lex

[AshyPhoenix]

I blame that midget you were sleeping with, Ashy. Once you do a major fetish icon like that you gotta go for the more extreme.

I actually never ended up sleeping with him. The one who introduced me to kink was my last ex, and I'm thankful every day for it.

Therapy also helped me to become more confident, sexually and otherwise.

[xbuzzerx]

I'm talking dirty with a guy through text, and I'm saying stuff to him I never would have said even three years ago. So of course, now I have to ask all you guys!

When I first became sexually active, I was very much a total sub bottom (I didn't even enjoy getting head, just giving it). I was also very vanilla. I stayed that way for quite some time; over the last year and a half or so, I've discovered kink and S&M, and I've dived right into it. I've become a lot more dominant, I'm not a total bottom (I almost prefer topping now) and I'm pretty freaky, all things considered.

What about you?

Ashy this post goes GREAT with your avatar, especially the first couple lines. lol.

Hmm... I don't know about 'changed.' I'll steal Lex's term "refined." I do more of this or that but the things I like to do haven't swung 180 or anything.

[youfiad]

Oh God. I guess I've always been a horn ball. Some things never change.

[bankside]

I think there will always be a large swig of vanilla in my sex life, but that's my favourite flavour and no less delicious for it.

I used to think that kink was the opposite of love. I no longer do, which is why I can appreciate some aspects of it. I like what some people can physically accomplish when they work on their sexual skills. Whether it is self-sucking or taking a fist comfortably, I respect the athleticism and skill that I see. I don't relate to, and doubt I ever will, games of power in the bedroom. I don't find it erotic. Actually I still find it juvenile or pointless. So for example, I like the tom of finland physiques, but not the campy attitudes and the top/bottom typecasting, and the roleplaying. I like different aspects of leather. Slings are great. But not the "uniforms" etc.

So I get that people don't want to have vanilla all the time, but a lot of it seems like their alternative to yet another vanilla ice cream is to eat moss out of a bog or something. I get the desire for variety, but not the menu on offer.

[NW007]

Oh God. I guess I've always been a horn ball. Some things never change.

I would echo those thoughts. My tastes have definitely evolved though. I started out mainly topping, but gradually increased my bottoming until I do each about equally now. Though I have to say I get great enjoyment out of being a bottom who the tops all say that "I certainly know how to tire them out" I like bottoming in that I can go for hours doing it versus having to relaod when topping. I have gotten more kinky too in that I enjoy watersports and fisting at times. I have always been more a power bottom but have developed a desire to let myself be submissive at times. Hence, that is one reason I let myself be fisted last year for the first .

[xbuzzerx]

Can someone define "kink" for the purposes of this discussion? Are we just talking anything non-vanilla?

[AshyPhoenix]

Bankside: I agree. I'm not wild and crazy kinky, I'm just less vanilla than most.

And dom/sub doesn't matter to me. How dominant or submissive I am depends on what the guy I'm with wants. I'm not into power games either.

Can someone define "kink" for the purposes of this discussion? Are we just talking anything non-vanilla?

That's what I mean by it. I'm talking leather, whips, CBT, bondage; all that kind of stuff.

[MissAnne]

I used to hate Justin Bieber and now I want to fuck him in his little boy-pussy. :c)

Oh behave! You aren't ready for this boy-vagine!

Anyway....

Im so vanilla is not funny, BUT I do have a fouler mouth than I used to.

[xbuzzerx]

Bankside: I agree. I'm not wild and crazy kinky, I'm just less vanilla than most.

And dom/sub doesn't matter to me. How dominant or submissive I am depends on what the guy I'm with wants. I'm not into power games either.



That's what I mean by it. I'm talking leather, whips, CBT, bondage; all that kind of stuff.

I guess that was the exact question in my head-- does kink always refer to something "S&M-esque"?

Or does it cover everything outside of "garden variety"-- handjobs, blowjobs, anal between two partners?

[AshyPhoenix]

I guess that was the exact question in my head-- does kink always refer to something "S&M-esque"?

Or does it cover everything outside of "garden variety"-- handjobs, blowjobs, anal between two partners?

I'm not really sure. I've always thought of it as anything that involves pain as pleasure.

[youfiad]

I used to hate Justin Bieber and now I want to fuck him in his little boy-pussy. :c)

Hey grown into quite a fine little bottom, in my opinion.... So I totally agree.

[BustinJeiber]

Anyway....

Im so vanilla is not funny, BUT I do have a fouler mouth than I used to.

Don't hate, Girlfiend!

[AcquiredTaste]

As I've gotten older, I find that the idea of sex with men has become really appealing. I now enjoy gay porn, pics, occasional camming sessions, etc. and can even imagine myself being very intimate with another guy one day. This is something years ago I would never have let myself even consider.

[youfiad]

As I've gotten older, I find that the idea of sex with men has become really appealing. I now enjoy gay porn, pics, occasional camming sessions, etc. and can even imagine myself being very intimate with another guy one day. This is something years ago I would never have let myself even consider.

Welcome to the dark side.

[JohannBessler]

My tastes in real life don't mirror my tastes in porn very much.

In porn, I go for visual impact. My porn persona involves most every vanilla variation you could imagine--top, bottom, grandpa, brown meat, Daddy, etc.--everything except the barely legal type.

But in real life, I consider myself vanilla all the way, with a man close to my age.

I don't think either persona has changed very much over the years.

[youfiad]

I think we really need to define these terms... I am so confused right now -- what's vanilla? I know I use vanilla when I bake (if I bake).

[AshyPhoenix]

I think we really need to define these terms... I am so confused right now -- what's vanilla? I know I use vanilla when I bake (if I bake).

Vanilla basically means that you do blowjobs, handies and anal without a lot of usage of toys and props (though not none at all).

[bankside]

I must say I think every adult should have his toys.

[layton]

When I first realized I might be gay, I only wanked off to cock, and in denial, I just thought I had some weird fetish for dick but it would pass, and in denial I told myself I only like solo porn, but I slowly began to enjoy watching oral, still not crazy about fucking, but I'm a top so I'd do it for the right guy, and now I love it all, and back then I said I would never kiss a guy, though I still haven't, only 20, maybe I am sad, I am eagerly waiting for the right guy.

[Scealle]

I would say yes. When i was a kid I always only fantasized about sex with big gym boys. These days, as long as they are bigger than me i can totally see the sex happening. Gym are overrated anyways.

[AshyPhoenix]

Well, I'm surprised that I'm the only one who's made a complete 180. I should also mention that I used to be exclusively into daddy/bear/musclechub types, and I'm currently courting a 22-year-old. Kinda. Is sending cock shots courting?

[Pianist]

Oh, you know... having sex WITH a guy... now, just the solo thang.

[Axxess]

I used to think oral sex was repulsive. Literally, whenever I saw someone put a penis in their mouth while watching porn I would cringe, then skip to a different photo or different part of the video. Now I'm indifferent to it.

[tombastep]

Evolved quite a bit.

[hylas]

just two facets of the disco-ball that is my sexuality:

i started topping about a year ago, and god i love it. i tried it a couple of times before, but i either couldnt get it up, or i just didnt get much out of it. i dont know what exactly changed, but im very happy that ive switched from bottom to versa!

as a teenager, i never even imagined that feet could be erotisized. in my early 20es, i had a wonderful boyfriend who wanted to lick my feet. it felt really good, so i reciprocated. its been in my repertoire since, and most guys love it. i dont think im a foot fetishist, exactly, but i have started noticing when men have nice, broad feet... before, i didnt pay attention to feet at all.

[Hard-up1]

I don't keep the body parts any more. I guess that's progress.

[desertboi]

I started out only being interested in topping, but slowly that changed to the point where now I typically am only interested in bottoming. I never thought it would happen, but here I am

[BFizzle]

My sexual tastes, or skills, haven't really "evolved."

Just perfected

[Audio Tech]

My sexual tastes, or skills, haven't really "evolved."

Just perfected

I....can't.....stop......looking! ^^

As for me, once I became comfortable in my own skin I figured out what makes me feel good. I'll try damn near anything these days as long as it's with the right guy. There was a time that the thought of sucking dick was pretty repulsive.

NOT ANYMORE!!!! HAHAHAHA!

[EJMichaels]

"Evolved" would be putting it mildly. There has always been a kinky theme, to some degree, but the gender of the partner, activities of interest, and my role in them have changed radically. Mostly adding, not subtracting, except I've given up on being a proper lesbian. I've stopped using the word "never" for most things sexual since I don't like being wrong. I still surprise myself occasionally - get turned on by something I wouldn't have guessed could work for me.

[JP.]

from super buff-bubbly guy to quite slender and normal looking guy..
Playing on real field giving me sense of proper adjustment

[LaughOutLoud]

My sexual tastes, or skills, haven't really "evolved."

Just perfected

This.


Though I guess looking back, one thing which surprised me about myself, is that I never thought I'd enjoy rimming, but I love it. If I could visit 12 year old me and say "One day you will love rimming", 12 year old me would be horrified.

I mean c'mon, it's your tongue pushed up against and inside a guys shithole.

But it's amazing

[Audio Tech]

This.


Though I guess looking back, one thing which surprised me about myself, is that I never thought I'd enjoy rimming, but I love it. If I could visit 12 year old me and say "One day you will love rimming", 12 year old me would be horrified.

I mean c'mon, it's your tongue pushed up against and inside a guys shithole.

But it's amazing

Yeah, another thing I thought I'd NEVER do... but when I did.... holy cow! Funny that.

[billie]

My taste didnt change many times.
My dad´s family including him, was (well, and still is) pretty racist. They have always seen blacks/muslim/latin like some kind of trash and my dad kinda influencied me when i was little. I was pretty averse to liking black or latin men until i hit 13, when i started getting atractted by Lil Bow Wow. I didnt even like his music but i found him kinda cute and goofy. I started to open my mind a little more and forgetting all that shit my dad told me about races (Anyways, he hadnt even talked to me for years when he found I was gay). Now i like men from every races. I didnt like oral sex when I was 16 and now I love it. My taste hasnt changed that much since...

[Lefty]

My personal practices remain somwhat conservative. My understanding of

others needs and want has expanded exponentially. I may not do but I

will not castigate ....(pedo and scat not included in that tolerance)

[bike10]

As I have matured as gay I enjoy the company of guys my age but also find strong like for twinks age 18 plus. As cut guy have cum to enjoy the pleasures of guys who are uncut and into the art of Docking. Fan of vintage gay porn which was what first saw years ago. But have enjoy the works of BelAmi boys, Michael Lucas, Titan, Hot House guess I just enjoy porn. Still fan of the jockstrap never was jock but have been loyal athletic supporter.
Finally made my first venture to bathhouse in 2005 in St. Louis and enjoy going back when the need arises.

[ryanboy]

I used to be a total top and now I'm a total bottom. I can't explain why!

[JockBoy87]

Taste in men has kept up with the aging process. I would take Bieber out on a *date* though

[RazorzEdge88]

In all seriousness, my tastes have gone from twinkier to much more bearish. I really love my cubs, now.

And I'm slightly less vanilla than I used to be, I guess, thanks to a cum fetish I developed a few years ago.

[JayHawk]

I too left vanilla behind for hardcore leather sex swing parties.... <<~~ umm too much?

[xbuzzerx]

I too left vanilla behind for hardcore leather sex swing parties.... <<~~ umm too much?

I think somebody TROLLEN!

[Anders123]

I'm now more accepting of the fact that occasionally, all I want is to see two hot guys fucking, or to imagine myself having sex with a hot guy. In reality, I still wouldn't get between the sheets with somebody unless I trusted them completely, but I no longer deny the part of myself that is turned on by men purely for their masculinity.

[Nishin]

I started a bottom (sorta... no sodo) only attracted to +20 guys (not a daddy replacement thing though)
Nowadays much more on the top side, although I love giving head and being wanked, and managed to lower age requirement to +5/10 guys, or even guys my age in exceptional cases (mostly Spanish)...
The constant, I'm (still) a cuddle/kiss freak, I'll probably die from frenchkissing asphyxia

[bi-4u2]

at first i like having control, though i typically bottom, if it started to hurt or i started gagging it was over. Now i seem to be oposite to that. I love it when my BF fucks my mouth like a pussy or when he forces his cock in me. I love it when my partner denies me pleasure and just dominates me.

I have changed so much over such a short period of time