one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry![]()
Confession:
I have wondered what that barcode in "thatgirl"'s avatar reads since she first joined.
Does it read "fuck you" in Morse Code, or is it something more mysterious?
http://www.nakedboyssinging.com/
i saw this movie yesterday on netflicks and it shocked the shit out of me where i had to turn it off when it went to the naked maid part which had to be about 15 minutes into the movie. the singing just made it so awkward and cheesy where it was hard to watch.tried not to crack up at it but it just got creepily uncomfortable. watching the gay and lesbian movies and documentaries on netflix made me realize that i have some work to do in regards to getting comfortable with being gay and being around other gay people. saw this other documentary concerning black gay men and i wasn't feeling the way some of them were acting effeminate. it was too much for me where i was thinking to myself "i wouldn't feel comfortable or want to date a guy that acts like that". i was like feeling a bit ashamed like "damn, is this it?"
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one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry![]()
It depends. If you're feeling covert hostility, it's a problem. If it's just a matter of "this is the type of a guy I couldn't see myself dating," eh, hard to fault you for that. We all have our preferences.
As a very effeminate guy, I'm sad that you feel that way, though. I think I need to go watch I Love Lucy episodes and cry as I look longingly into the eyes of Desi Arnaz.
^I think My Own Private Idaho is a good movie for you to watch. IMO, it takes a good amount of artistic ability to straddle the line between camp and cheesy which many LGBT films [especially the dreaded rom-coms] suck at.
Yeah a lot of LGBT documentaries are a bit much even for someone completely comfortable with their sexuality but then again, documentaries are made for shock value.
You consider yourself very effeminate?
Hmm.
Somehow, I wouldn't have pictured you that way, Razzie. Your pictures certainly don't reveal any tendency towards femininity, or, put another way, you don't look the part.
Personally, I see femininity in a gay man as endearing. One JUBber has a soft, effeminate voice that I found charming. I didn't want to tell him to his face, though, because he might have taken offense at the "effeminate" label.
^This is why people tend to get frustrated with me. My personality is all over the place so they can't really drop me into a particular category. I self-identify as a geek because it is my most prominent thing.
I'm sitting in starbucks with my roomie and there is a totally effeminate straight guy [my guess he's a closet bi], and both of us are completely fascinated with him.
Why do you think he's straight? Girlfriend?
Lex
LOL guys - I was joking! Was the line about Desi Arnaz not enough of a giveaway?
Sorry Johann, I'm not really fem. :c( At least that's what my pimp says.
I didn't get the Desi Arnaz "clue", whatever that was.
He has children. I think the situation of him gushing over Johnny Depp with some guy and the other guy being completely awkward about it was made me conclude he wasn't straight. There's a big difference between acknowledging someone is good-looking and crushing on them.
I had to bite my lip because he thought Johnny Depp was a good actor when in fact he has been playing the same character since Edward Scissorhands.
^ Johnny Depp has jumped the shark, IMO
Give me Daniel Day-Lewis and/or Alessandro Calza![]()
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It is basically just filler. It has no meaning. lol
Honestly, I don't think you should force yourself to relate to these films just because they're gay-themed. Not that you should feel "above watching them" or anything, but many of these films suffer from low-budgets, they're poorly written and they aren't really diverse in their portrayals of gay/lesbian people.
It's like when I try to watch films or shows targeted at black people and sometimes I'm just like..."cannot relate to this...at all." Just because I'm black, doesn't mean I am able to relate to all black peoples experiences.
Anyway, if you just want to start off watching gay-themed films featuring traditionally masculine characters, just focus on that and maybe that will help you feel more comfortable.
you're effeminate?judging by your voice, pictures and things you said about yourself from your drinking habits to your attitude, i thought you were very masculine and to be honest, you come off a bit intimidating sometimes. more of the "rah rah" type of guy that goes to sports games, is loud and obnoxious. i just can't picture you being effeminate or for that matter, watching something like i love lucy.
it would be really interesting to see if you actually had a soft side. i'd be shocked.
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as for the whole effeminate thing, it's more of my discomfort about being gay. an effeminate gay guy puts it out there more so than a masculine guy. me, i haven't got to that point where i can let it all out yet where i am 100 percent comfortable being out. it's internalized homophobia. it's scary to me because i've been dodging the truth my whole life and i'm basically face to face with it where it's like "here it is. i have to live with it". but i'm conflicted though. i want to come out and unleash everything that i have stored up where i can hang a rainbow flag on the wall, go to the gay pride parade, go to the gay bar, go on dates, be open to a relationship and not run around on some secret agent man being scared to let the whole world know that i have a boyfriend. i want to come out and live my life as a gay man openly but i'm NOT ready yet.
i envy all you effeminate guys outthere. it seems so much easier for you guys to do whatever you have to do because you're open and out where as someone like me who is coming out has to basically kick the door open. hell, what's worse is that folks don't even believe me either because i come off to "masculine".![]()
i agree. some of the gay films that i saw over the past few days looked pretty damn bad. the messed up part is that it was the same two companies that produced it and they were unheard. kind of crazy.
one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry![]()
^ did you miss the part where he said he was only joking about being feminine?
I just saw Franekweenie. Enh. I really liked the feel and look of it all, but it didn't ever go beyond tat for me. I feel kind of bad because the person I saw it with cried his eyes out.
Lex
There are a lot of pets dying (and coming back to life).
Lex
Some people asked me who it was who had such a lovely, feminine voice.
Well, he has given me permission to tell you. It's our Gentleheart, Huntneo. I love the soft femininity of his voice. It enhances his Southern accent, too.
Same, it's really pretty. I think I've told him before that it's very soothing. I realized this when I watched a video of his and it was making me feel relaxed all of a sudden. lol
I've been meaning to watch that and Wreck-It Ralph. From what I've seen, my favorite animated film of last year was ParaNorman
I loved wreck it ralph so good and had good morals was very moving and funny.
But I'm dying to see this looks awesome
Yeah indeed I can somewhat relate to this. I had a pet do that got poisoned years ago back when I was a teen and I really wish I could bring it to life
I've been meaning to watch that and Wreck-It Ralph. From what I've seen, my favorite animated film of last year was ParaNorman[/QUOTE]
Wreck-It-Ralph is really goodI give huge props to ParaNorman the way they make it. Holy cow so much work put into that animated film!
#D itself already takes forever to produce. Mine was Brave. How they animate that curl haird OMG
Agreed![]()
Confession: I do not like ice cream cake, and I never have. IT'S POINTLESS. AND IT'S TOO HARD TO CUT! >:c(
^ I've always found it quite bland. lol
my confession: I have to stop, take a moment and check myself on a daily basis when I get upset about my first world problems. ex: flipping my lid when UPS doesn't deliver my package in time.
For her wedding, my sister decided to have an ice cream wedding cake.
At an outdoor wedding.
On Memorial Day Weekend.
Lex
Cold Stone is the exception. I've always been force-fed Carvel, which in my mind is, as Huntneo said, bland.
But if I'm going to Cold Stone, I'd rather get a sample of vanilla ice cream. :c)
this is probably both a racist and sexist confession, but it seems like 9 times out of 10, whenever I'm stuck behind a car on the highway that's driving under the speed limit, it ends up being a black female.
I lost my shit this afternoon when I was stuck behind this woman driving 25 mph on a 50 mph highway IN THE LEFT LANE for like 5 miles.
We have a belief that bad women drivers tend to be slow, so you can take your time and notice them. Bad male drivers are nearly always speeders, so they're gone before you noticed their gender.
Lex
I confess that Im not a prude but I wanted to cover my eyes during tonight's love scene on scandal.
lol, On a network show? I mean I do this when I see gratuitous stuff on HBO or Cinemax shows but Scandal is on ABC. Not cover my eyes, just fastforward through it. I haven't watched it in a looong time, but I remember the hotel room scene with Olivia and Fitz a while back was a bit racy.
Let me go see what's up on tumblr...
Oh. 0_0
I'm aware how silly it is, but it's driving me fucking nuts that someone unfriended me on Facebook within the past day or so and I have no idea who it is.
obviously they must not have been that important if I don't know who it was, but it's still annoying.
I can give you some idea from the inside as to what may have happened, Loki.
Do you post political stuff on your wall? Or something else that can be taken offensively?
I'm getting ready to de-friend a paternal cousin,because he just can't stop posting rightwing propaganda. Godwin's Law applies.
Alternately, perhaps one individual simply decided to delete his account.
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I confess that I had an amazing Valentine's Day...and I'm ready for it to be over so I can go on Facebook again and not read a bunch of people ranting about how much they hate it. Next year, I'll try to remember to leave the account inactive from Feb 11th thru the 15th...
Lex
Basically anyone in my Facebook is there as a survivor of a culling process that goes on about every month or two. There may not be any particular reason for why I remove someone other than that we aren't interacting at all and aren't very close.