What Defines You?

[TheSpectatingLoner]

What defines you?

What aspect of yourself do you most identify with? Which values are the strongest? What makes you YOU?

[loveguys72]

I suppose my job defines me the most, as it's where I spend the majority of my waking hours.

[Nishin]

That's a tough question... who really has the ability to pass an objective analyse of themselves...
I identify with my goals in life rather than what I probably really am
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和

[G-Lexington]

I define myself as "Lex". A sum of a huge number of things, some in large quantities, some in small. I can't say any one aspect of me overshadows the rest. Except perhaps to say "I like Lex".

Others define me based on what they see, what they hear, and what sorts of interactions we have. Sometimes their definition fits snugly inside mine, other times there's some parts that I personally don't include in my definition. When that happens, it might be due to some misapprehension on their part, or deliberate obfuscation on mine.

Lex

[CupidBoy]

What defines you?

I'm young, goofy and just trying to be the best person I can be.

What aspect of yourself do you most identify with?

I'm human, I make mistakes and I'm not perfect.

Which values are the strongest?

Loyalty, integrity and kindness.

What makes you YOU?

I have a good heart.

[youngoutlaw]

What defines you?

My job and the responsibilities that come with that

What aspect of yourself do you most identify with?

My determination to succeed but also my ability to strengthen my resolve when I fail

Which values are the strongest?

Selflessness, understanding and protecting the ones you love

What makes you YOU?

My friendly personality and how I try to get/find the best out of people

[borg69unimatrix]

I am a multifaceted, muddy, on the fence mass of chaos swimming in a pool of grey area.

I can't be pinned down, or stuffed in a box.

My mind travels the stars and galaxies, while my body keeps me grounded.

I am passionate, intuitive, and indifferent. I love men, but hate humanity.

I see beauty in an oil spill on wet pavement, and can squash a bug with malice.

The only thing that defines me is the amount of freedom I have in a world/society full of rules designed to hold me back.

[Beachguyj]

A dictionary.

[Coward92]

My dreamer and mentoring aspects defines me the most.
I'm sort of a spirit/soul guide.
I have a knack for improving people and mechanisms to reach maximum efficiency.

[tombastep]

Nothing.

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[Drugstore Cowboy]

What defines you?

i think that my sense of humor is what defines me. anyone who meets me in person knows that i am always laughing, always cheerful, and doing whatever it takes to make others feel amused and entertained.

What aspect of yourself do you most identify with?

deep down inside i really consider myself to be an introvert and bit or an eccentric and i think that's the part i identify myself most with for some reason.

Which values are the strongest?

loyalty, integrity, and a positive attitude to everything

What makes you YOU?

i think my extreme cheerfulness, i wouldn't really know

[ParisZ]

What defines me, as me?

The fact that I'm;

Highly intelligent & intellectual
Extremely loud & outspoken
Very opinionated & open

In addition;

Looking neat and pulled together (At all times)
Somewhat crazy ("!%@)
Good-smelling (Well known for that)

[HunterM]

My farts. All my exes recognize the sound...and the smell too.

[Blk_Thickness]

My kindess and honesty!

[PreTTy PeTe]

That i can be a big asshole when needed but the kindest kind on the planet if I have to do that.

i can be the be the best friend you ever had.

[BENDERBOY]

My honesty, tbqh.

[CupidBoy]

My honesty, tbqh.

Where are the lies?



Wait..........

[johaninsc]

My farts. All my exes recognize the sound...and the smell too.

that kinda reminds me of one of my brothers. He had a way clearing out a room that you wouldn't belie...


wait..



Allen?...that you

[thatgirl]

I don't really think about what "defines me"...

I mean, we're always evolving as people so it seems pointless to me to dwell on defining myself only to have to worry about re-defining myself to make room for changes as time goes on. Aside from that, I always try to abide by the Golden Rule and Silver Rule.

[RazorzEdge88]

I don't really think about what "defines me"...

I mean, we're always evolving as people so it seems pointless to me to dwell on defining myself only to have to worry about re-defining myself to make room for changes as time goes on. Aside from that, I always try to abide by the Golden Rule and Silver Rule.

You stole my words (except I had to look up "silver rule" lulz).

[Sparky-Sparky-Boom-Boom]

I don't really think about what "defines me"...

I mean, we're always evolving as people so it seems pointless to me to dwell on defining myself only to have to worry about re-defining myself to make room for changes as time goes on. Aside from that, I always try to abide by the Golden Rule and Silver Rule.

So true as the self is always changing never fixed.

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Anything that doesn't make me feel fine anymore.

[cgymike]

The outlines of my body define me physically. Mentally, the answer would be much more complex as it involves a human being and the personality and individual characteristics. A little deep for HT don't ya think?

[counterspade]

My past. I have seen my fair share of hardship at such a young age...some of which will haunt me for the rest of my life. Those experiences have shaped and molded me into a worry-free, content and kindhearted person. I still face troubles, and that will never wane...but my outlook on those troubles, my present and my future will always be with less scorn and stress.

[IAMTHATIAM]

I am not defined. That pre-supposes a verbal expression of being can meaningfully encompass WHO I AM.

That simply is NOT TRUE for any human being. Language is a feable expression for thought.
Language is a fumbling, stumbling expression for emotion, hit or miss, mostly miss.

We are MORE than either and both, and I need and MUST NOT say how patheticly inadiquate language... PATHETIC

I exist in the moment. I AM, so are you. Forget definitions. WE ARE MORE, WE CHANGE, WE GROW, WE CHANGE, hopefully for the better.

The question is lost in a moment in time. I AM NOT. I persist across time. I AM HUMAN, GROW, better or at least try.

The question is broken. I am not. I still struggle, so I HAVE HOPE.

[medic1]

I am not defined. That pre-supposes a verbal expression of being can meaningfully encompass WHO I AM.

That simply is NOT TRUE for any human being. Language is a feable expression for thought.
Language is a fumbling, stumbling expression for emotion, hit or miss, mostly miss.

We are MORE than either and both, and I need and MUST NOT say how patheticly inadiquate language... PATHETIC

I exist in the moment. I AM, so are you. Forget definitions. WE ARE MORE, WE CHANGE, WE GROW, WE CHANGE, hopefully for the better.

The question is lost in a moment in time. I AM NOT. I persist across time. I AM HUMAN, GROW, better or at least try.

The question is broken. I am not. I still struggle, so I HAVE HOPE.

Emm What ?

[medic1]

[QUOTE=ParisZ;8657020]What defines me, as me?

The fact that I'm;

Highly intelligent & intellectual
Extremely loud & outspoken
Very opinionated & open

In addition;

Looking neat and pulled together (At all times)
Somewhat crazy ("!%@)
Good-smelling (Well known for that)[/QUOTE

You forgot to mention your humility..................

[ParisZ]

You forgot to mention your humility..................

Awww you're right! Have we met? Lol.

[Hard-up1]

That's a long list.

I would say, from greatest to smallest, or thereabouts:

My mother -- her rejection was probably the most defining influence on my life, and pushed me away, forcing me to become someone different than my siblings became.

My grandmother -- her wisdom, example, intellect, and goodness were and are a challenge to me to aim higher, and to be more in many areas that I otherwise would not have. This introduced me to becoming a musician, to attending college, to understanding the role of faith, to liking people, and to knowing what it is to be a person of my word.

My faith -- it is not what others define for me, be they fellow adherents, clergy, or the bitter disaffected on JUB. Faith is my compass in a world that is endlessly interesting, filled with humans that all merit engagement, and those who allow it, love. It informs me of my purpose, and my need for grace and perspective.

My education -- though the process began as a very personal event, learning to read in the lap of my grandmother as a child, it continues to amaze me the things that there are to learn, and how that changes the opportunities given me, both personally and vocationally.

My heritage -- being from the South, it did not dictate that I had to see the world in antebellum quaintness, or 20th-century racism, or regional animosity, but it gave me strength of being from a people that had strong character, great folk traditions and an excellent love of cuisine. Although I choose not to live in the South now, I credit it as a crucible and cradle both, and tip my hat to the forces there that shaped me.

My father -- whoever he was, his genes had as much influence over me as my mother's, and his total absence equally shaped who I am now. As a child, it was current theory to view homosexuality as a product of an absent father and an overbearing mother. Still not clear as to whether that is one of the environmental factors, but I do know it affected how I interpreted my homosexual feelings. Both then and now, it leads me to attraction to men that are essentially paternal, if not necessarily physically old. In my mind, or more deeply, in my subconscious, I am endlessly looking to fill the void that opened the moment I was born.

My wit -- although not the smartest man in the room in any given moment, I am often the quickest wit and do not hesitate to quip and jibe. Most men I meet (and women) are more focused, but my mind is always zipping out to alternate meanings of words which leads to endless irony, and cornball. I intentionally share these seemingly distracting asides, mainly with the intent to entertain and brighten the day of my friends.

My size and physique -- I've made other things my priority and have paid the price in health and unattractiveness, which in turn, leaves me single. One of my goals is to get healthy while I yet have time.

[TheSpectatingLoner]

I love the answers.

I guess I wrote this because recently I discovered that the one thing I feel defines me is the love I have for my city, and in being a city boy in general. It's probably the one constant, the one thing I'm the most sure of, and the one thing that will never change about me in a myriad of other personality traits that bend and mold over time.

[eastofeden]

My spirituality defines me the most but it is very much individualistic...in the Neo Pagan realm. It is extremely important to me as I have my foundation and get guidance and comfort and wisdom and on good days...serenity...from my spiritual beliefs. I keep them to myself nowadays but many years ago when it hadn't yet occurred to me to keep them to myself my nickname was 'Mother Abigail' (from The Stand)...and I am not an old black woman who bakes her own bread.

I am very protective of people and things that cannot protect themselves. If you are abusing a child...or an animal...or the earth...I can be a fucking pitbull and I don't bark much... but I will bite.

[refujiunderground]

ME, i define me even though i'll admit there's many factors that make me who i am today as i'm learning such as the past and my genetics. now i'm learning how to live with it.

[sixthson]

I love the answers.

I guess I wrote this because recently I discovered that the one thing I feel defines me is the love I have for my city, and in being a city boy in general. It's probably the one constant, the one thing I'm the most sure of, and the one thing that will never change about me in a myriad of other personality traits that bend and mold over time.

NaughtyArousal.

[Adrock-JD]

It's far to much to list "what" defines me, but I can tell you "who" does...

Myself and others define me.

No one will ever know us as well as we know ourselves. Of course they couldn't.

But others are our mirrors. Some of the images are purposely distorted, some are truths that even we can't see. So we will always be defined partially, by others. Put it all together with what we know of ourselves and try and sift through the misinterpretations and lies. We can never complete this task. Even in a long lifetime.

End result: we only ever get an incomplete and partly incorrect definition of who we really are.

Opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one.

[Rolyo85]

Four things:

1. My self-awareness
2. My chaotic intelligence that makes me so good at art
3. Being gay
4. My modesty

[EuroSoccer]

I am perfect

[Rolyo85]

I am perfect

Oh, I'm sorry I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy! I hope you manage to cope with it.

[cgymike]

A lot of gay men seem to define themselves by their butthole.


LOL

[medic1]

I am not defined. That pre-supposes a verbal expression of being can meaningfully encompass WHO I AM.

That simply is NOT TRUE for any human being. Language is a feable expression for thought.
Language is a fumbling, stumbling expression for emotion, hit or miss, mostly miss.

We are MORE than either and both, and I need and MUST NOT say how patheticly inadiquate language... PATHETIC

I exist in the moment. I AM, so are you. Forget definitions. WE ARE MORE, WE CHANGE, WE GROW, WE CHANGE, hopefully for the better.

The question is lost in a moment in time. I AM NOT. I persist across time. I AM HUMAN, GROW, better or at least try.

The question is broken. I am not. I still struggle, so I HAVE HOPE.

Yet again em what ?

[TheSpectatingLoner]

So true as the self is always changing never fixed.

I agree with this. Though in my life, I guess I've finally gotten in touch with qualities and aspects of myself that will never change. And I'm happy to have found them.

[EuroSoccer]

Oh, I'm sorry I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy! I hope you manage to cope with it.

[medic1]

My farts. All my exes recognize the sound...and the smell too.

Whats that song....oh yeah , I am forever blowing bubbles in the air....................
The sound and the smell.................

Always knew there was a reason why................

[AshyPhoenix]

To others? My personal appearance. I'm always meticulously groomed.

To myself and to those who know me well? My indomitable will to carry on.

[birddog7]

Unfortunately, my sadness and loneliness define me. Along with my disdain for myself. It's one thing for others not to like you, it's entirely different when you hate yourself. I not only hate what I see in the mirror, but I hate what I am. Sadly, what I hate most cannot be changed.

“Lord, grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Unfortunately, I know the difference, it's the strenght and acceptance that elude me...

[loveguys72]

Unfortunately, my sadness and loneliness define me. Along with my disdain for myself. It's one thing for others not to like you, it's entirely different when you hate yourself. I not only hate what I see in the mirror, but I hate what I am. Sadly, what I hate most cannot be changed.

“Lord, grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Unfortunately, I know the difference, it's the strenght and acceptance that elude me...

Have you considered consulting a physician? These sorts of feelings are quite common in clinical depression.

[JohnJay201212]

I am powerful and hot.

[JP.]

What defines me lies to other's perception. No matter how well I know myself, there must be a hidden part acknowledged from my sight.