Dream Sex

[Superboy69]

I just need some JUB advice-

I've been in a relationship for several years with my partner - Ed. Recently, I had a dream in which I was sucking the dick of one of our long time friends - David. I have to admit that I like David - he's cute, I care for him as a friend, and I have long wondered what it would like to have sex with him. But. I've never acted upon any sexual feeling for him and I don't plan to.

I guess that I'm wondering why I had this dream. I don't usually have vivid sexual dreams that I remember. I haven't had a wet dream in years. But, this dream was SO vivid. I could taste and feel David's dick in my mouth. It was wonderful! And, I swear that I tasted his cum in my mouth when he ejaculated. When I woke-up, my dick was super hard, so I jacked-off.

Anyone else have sexual dreams of close friends?

[peeonme]

Like you, I normaly don't remember dreams of this nature, but on occasion I will have a hot one about some guy that I know or have known.
The best one was of a guy that I think of as my first boy friend, we were 14 when we had sex together,in the dream he was grown up but just as hot as when I knew him, he was all over me , I hated waking up.

[jensu846]

yep. i think its repressed sexual desire when you know you cant have him.. it has to come out somewhere.

[Rolyo85]

I wouldn't pay it that much attention. Dreaming is an outlet. Enjoy it and don't fixate.

[Seasoned]

It seems as though this wasn't totally random as you've been doing some fantasizing. How's your current sex life with Ed? If its lacking something it's time to do something about it. I'm assuming you woke up alone if, when you woke up, you finished yourself off.

[Superboy69]

i think its repressed sexual desire when you know you cant have him.

How's your current sex life with Ed? If its lacking something it's time to do something about it.

Good points from both of you - thanks!. Yeah, I do have repressed sexual desires. And, yes, I do want more in my current sex life. (I definitely have more sexual desires than my partner; always have been more of a horn dog!). Now, I have to come with ways to address this - not easy.

[Rolyo85]

Two points:

1. Even with the new information, do not fixate on your dreams or repressed desires. They are there, and that's normal. We all have them. Even when I'm with someone who satisfies me sexually, I still want to destroy every cute guy I see Not fixating on this helps maintain balance. Just because you want something, doesn't mean you actually need it and it doesn't have to create a problem.

2. I don't believe that a relationship can ultimately survive a serious difference in sex drive. I am sorry to say it, I know it clashes with the overromanticized ideas some gay guys have of relationships, but for me it's true. Sex might not be all there is to a relationship, but it is the glue that holds it together as much as any other element. You can't have a good relationship without good sex life, and you can't have a good sex life if one of the two needs sex much more than the other. That said, if the difference isn't that glaring, and if your sex life is good when it's there, you should talk to your man. Explain to him calmly what's going on (though you don't have to mention lusting after a friend), tell him that you need more sex than he gives you. Don't guilt trip him, don't make him think you're pressuring him into having more sex with you. In fact, make it abundantly clear that isn't what you're doing. Then pass him the ball. Let him offer a solution. If you care about him and he knows it, and if he cares about you, then it can work. But if he's like "well, sorry, it is what it is", and you really ARE unsatisfied with your sex life, I'd consider potentially breaking up, because this discomfort you have now will slowly turn into resentment, and in the end you will just cheat on him and compromise yourself doing that.