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    Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    In the case of a relationship, did any issues arise?

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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    Well as long as you don't pull on "his" junk too hard because isn't it attached with threads and stuff?
    Your post comments are forwarded to the CIA.

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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    I never considered it as in "I'd like to date a FtM". But if I met one I clicked with, I'd definitely consider it.

    Lex

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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    Wow. Some of those guys are handsome. Some.

    But I think I'd miss the penis, or at least the one that we are used to seeing.

    But, in the end, I think love would prevail or not, based on the person, not the package.

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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    Quote Originally Posted by Nishin View Post
    Every single one of them look like a woman to me, I can see it in the face.

    Would I date a FTM? No, I'm gay and like gay men with dicks.

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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    I would consider it.


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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    never have, would consider it. im actually kinda curious.

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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    Not to imply a witch hunt mentality, but I think a double blind test is required to know if one can detect a transgendered person or not.

    I've seen couple in person who were obvious, but I truly believe not all of those in that link would have been detected from sight alone.

    Maybe I'm wrong.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissAnne View Post
    I would consider it.
    Wow. What an eloquent and poignant video. I didn't watch every second of it, but wonder if he is attracted to women or men romantically.

    In any event, he was beautiful before and after reassignment, both inside and out.

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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    Without a working penis, what's the point?
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    I think that ignores that fact that there are people who are basically asexual, but not unsociable or misanthropic.

    For them (us), it may not ultimately be a deal breaker about the sex.

    I'm attracted to men, and to penises to be sure, but I'm not saying I wouldn't ever be able to love a TG.

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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    Quote Originally Posted by Hard-up1 View Post
    In any event, he was beautiful before and after reassignment, both inside and out.
    I know, right? Really lovely before and after the transition.

    Quote Originally Posted by Hard-up1 View Post

    I've seen couple in person who were obvious, but I truly believe not all of those in that link would have been detected from sight alone.
    I agree. Atleast, they all werent obvious for me.
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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    Probably not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    Every single one of them look like a woman to me, I can see it in the face
    I must look like a woman too, because many of those men have more masculine facial features than I do.

    I feel like its your disdain to the general idea speaking here. If given a collection of f2m men and born men, I doubt you'd be able to tell which is which.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    I must look like a woman too, because many of those men have more masculine facial features than I do.

    I feel like its your disdain to the general idea speaking here. If given a collection of f2m men and born men, I doubt you'd be able to tell which is which.
    Disdain? Ummm, no. Nice try though.

    I'm very open minded and accepting of transgender people, it doesn't mean I want to date one because I'm a gay man who is attracted to gay men. Get over yourself.

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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    Every single one of them look like a woman to me, I can see it in the face.

    Would I date a FTM? No, I'm gay and like gay men with dicks.
    what he said^^. totally agree. just knowing he was a female first ruins it for me.

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    Re: Who Here Has Ever Dated Or Considered Dating An F2M Trans Man? How About Sex?

    Probably not, but then who knows what'll happen in the future.
    "You may only be one person to the world, but you may also be the world to one person"
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    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    Every single one of them look like a woman to me, I can see it in the face.

    Would I date a FTM? No, I'm gay and like gay men with dicks.
    Come on, #1 and #3 look nothing like women !

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nishin View Post
    Come on, #1 and #3 look nothing like women !
    In my honest opinion they do, doesn't mean I hate transgender people or think they are ugly, they look hot, just not my thing. I've spent enough of my life denying what I'm attracted to, I like men with dicks. I'm gay, I like men. Most gay men will agree with that.

    Guess I should have given a PC comment like:

    'I not sure, some are pretty hot, you never know.'

    No big deal fellas.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BENDERBOY View Post
    Probably not, but then who knows what'll happen in the future.
    Yes, we'll ALL be getting face-transplants in the future.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    In my honest opinion they do, doesn't mean I hate transgender people or think they are ugly, they look hot, just not my thing. I've spent enough of my life denying what I'm attracted to, I like men with dicks. I'm gay, I like men. Most gay men will agree with that.

    Guess I should have given a PC comment like:

    'I not sure, some are pretty hot, you never know.'

    No big deal fellas.
    I am 100% gay and only sexually attracted to males, jut like you, yet I see and would identify these guys as male if I was to meet them randomly in a bar...

    Well we have different perceptions of what physically make someone loo male or female (not just masculine vs feminine) because I honestly don't see anything female in these two precise ones, while you seem to.

    That also calls the questions as to what ultimately attracts us in men, sexual attraction I mean... is it the concept of manhood, the lack of boobs, the facial hair, penis etc... looking for specific attributes males have that women lack... some of these F2M guys exhibiting most of these attributes... do they have dicks? Is it the idea that these dicks needs to be working the way native males' dicks work, if so are disabled (tetraplegic) guys not males anymore, etc etc

    It would be interesting if someone actually has the experience and would answer the OP's question ...

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    No.

    ..........

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    No, I wouldn't because I prefer cismen for various reasons.

    But I have no problem finding FTMs attractive.

    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    I've spent enough of my life denying what I'm attracted to, I like men with dicks. I'm gay, I like men. Most gay men will agree with that.
    Since transmen identify as men, I think the PC way of going about it is "I'm gay, I like cismen." Otherwise, you will get dragged by people who don't like the implication of "I'm gay, I like men not FTMs."

    Quote Originally Posted by sixthson View Post
    Without a working penis, what's the point?
    What if your partner lost his junk due to some kind of accident or illness? Would you suddenly stop being attracted to him?

    I'm not judging, though. Just something I thought of when I read your comment. The genital thing is a primary concern for me too but honestly what you wrote made me rethink it a bit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nishin View Post
    ....It would be interesting if someone actually has the experience and would answer the OP's question ...
    I think the "spectating loner" is playing with us again for the sake of playing with us.

    I've met a ftm with lots of charisma a few times. But my mind shrivels to nothing when it considers that maw of nothingness below their stomach.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thatgirl View Post
    Since transmen identify as men, I think the PC way of going about it is "I'm gay, I like cismen." Otherwise, you will get dragged by people who don't like the implication of "I'm gay, I like men not FTMs."
    *googles cismen*

    Whelp, you learn something new everyday. I'll use that from now on so I don't get dragged.

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    I don't think I'd have any trouble having sex with a FtM. Would I have to "figure things out"? Of course - that's half the fun of being in bed with a guy. Would I miss having a "real" dick to play with? No idea. Maybe I would. But if I liked the guy enough, I think I could make it work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    *googles cismen*

    Whelp, you learn something new everyday. I'll use that from now on so I don't get dragged.
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    I don't consider it PC-run-amok. I just think it's deserving of some empathy. Nothing wrong with not wanting to track down transfolk, or saying you don't think you'd want to date one. But I've befriended a few recently (oddly, all MtF), and I've seen what they go through a bit clearer. The tough (and long) process of change. That seemingly-forever awkward "in between" stage. Friends ditching them because "you're not the person I befriended". Family members who anguish over "losing my son". Strangers asking for hook-ups and intimate photos because "this is my fetish". Fear of using public restrooms and changing rooms. Fear of being in public in general. It sucks rocks. But they go through it anyway because they feel that strongly about it. They dislike their birth gender so much, they're willing to put up with all this crap (and pay a ton of money) to make the outside try to match the inside. To feel "normal" for the first time in recent memory.

    No, I don't think everybody should find that hot or attractive. But it damn well should earn your respect.

    Lex

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    Quote Originally Posted by G-Lexington View Post
    I don't consider it PC-run-amok. I just think it's deserving of some empathy. Nothing wrong with not wanting to track down transfolk, or saying you don't think you'd want to date one. But I've befriended a few recently (oddly, all MtF), and I've seen what they go through a bit clearer. The tough (and long) process of change. That seemingly-forever awkward "in between" stage. Friends ditching them because "you're not the person I befriended". Family members who anguish over "losing my son". Strangers asking for hook-ups and intimate photos because "this is my fetish". Fear of using public restrooms and changing rooms. Fear of being in public in general. It sucks rocks. But they go through it anyway because they feel that strongly about it. They dislike their birth gender so much, they're willing to put up with all this crap (and pay a ton of money) to make the outside try to match the inside. To feel "normal" for the first time in recent memory.

    No, I don't think everybody should find that hot or attractive. But it damn well should earn your respect.

    Lex
    Seriously.

    I'm sure my opinion doesn't count as I'm bisexual, but, yes, I would date a transman. Most of you have probably ogled transguys without realizing.

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    I've never even considered this question before. I honestly don't know whether I would or wouldn't.

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    I'm attracted to people, not to genitalia. I would date a trans person assuming we were compatible.
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    Quote Originally Posted by justsimon View Post
    Most of you have probably ogled transguys without realizing.
    Most likely. A lot of them are living in stealth. When I was around a lot of transfolk, I would see a guy and be like "Wow, he's cute" and then realize later that he is in fact FTM. Ive been hit on by a cute transguy before and didn't mind it at all.

    Some transguys choose not to go on "T" because of health reasons, which is so understandable, but its crazy what it does to your body. Some have really good results.

    Last edited by MissAnne; January 19th, 2013 at 05:26 PM.
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    Yeah but he can't take testosterone his whole life. Eventually his body will adapt to it and he will need more and more just to maintain and the risk of older age problems increases a lot. There is a mixed blessing for sure.
    Your post comments are forwarded to the CIA.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cgymike View Post
    Yeah but he can't take testosterone his whole life. Eventually his body will adapt to it and he will need more and more just to maintain and the risk of older age problems increases a lot. There is a mixed blessing for sure.
    Yes, absolutely.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    Would I date a FTM? No, I'm gay and like gay men with dicks.
    Yea I would have to agree with this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by G-Lexington View Post
    I don't consider it PC-run-amok. I just think it's deserving of some empathy. Nothing wrong with not wanting to track down transfolk, or saying you don't think you'd want to date one. But I've befriended a few recently (oddly, all MtF), and I've seen what they go through a bit clearer. The tough (and long) process of change. That seemingly-forever awkward "in between" stage. Friends ditching them because "you're not the person I befriended". Family members who anguish over "losing my son". Strangers asking for hook-ups and intimate photos because "this is my fetish". Fear of using public restrooms and changing rooms. Fear of being in public in general. It sucks rocks. But they go through it anyway because they feel that strongly about it. They dislike their birth gender so much, they're willing to put up with all this crap (and pay a ton of money) to make the outside try to match the inside. To feel "normal" for the first time in recent memory.

    No, I don't think everybody should find that hot or attractive. But it damn well should earn your respect.

    Lex
    I agree with this 100%. Don't know what it has to do with the OP, but it's true.

    As for my comment earlier, I guess it came off as dismissive or harsh, didn't mean for it to sound that way. It wasn't my intension to offend anyone.

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    I couldn't. I respect the problems of the trans community, but ultimately, I don't even think they should be in the same group as sexual minorities, and I know that I would find it physically off-putting to be physically intimate with an FtM guy.
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    I don't enjoy watching someone born male going to extremes while striving for masculinity. I'm sure if they were born female I wouldn't enjoy them striving for some masculine ideal any better.

    I think I'd have an easier time making a connection with someone who was content in their intersexual authentic self, rather than with someone having surgery to become the "opposite" sex. I can't stand that yes/no, male/female, either/or, polar opposites concept of gender. It just isn't real, and someone so committed that they're having surgery to conform to a role of male or female when I find it hard to take that kind of role seriously in the first place…it tends to rule out a relationship with me.

    If a person born with female anatomy is inherently more like what we call "masculine," great; let's fuck. If a person born with male anatomy is inherently more like what we call "feminine," great; lets…cuddle on the sofa...and go shopping???

    See? Gender roles just fuck up a pleasant evening.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post

    I think I'd have an easier time making a connection with someone who was content in their intersexual authentic self, rather than with someone having surgery to become the "opposite" sex.
    They arent trying to become the opposite sex. They are the opposite sex born in the wrong body. Its a very real thing.

    When you hear stories about little boys trying to cut their penises off because they cant stand their male bodies, I can't help but to believe in their dysphoria.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post
    I don't enjoy watching someone born male going to extremes while striving for masculinity. I'm sure if they were born female I wouldn't enjoy them striving for some masculine ideal any better.

    I think I'd have an easier time making a connection with someone who was content in their intersexual authentic self, rather than with someone having surgery to become the "opposite" sex. I can't stand that yes/no, male/female, either/or, polar opposites concept of gender. It just isn't real, and someone so committed that they're having surgery to conform to a role of male or female when I find it hard to take that kind of role seriously in the first place…it tends to rule out a relationship with me.

    If a person born with female anatomy is inherently more like what we call "masculine," great; let's fuck. If a person born with male anatomy is inherently more like what we call "feminine," great; lets…cuddle on the sofa...and go shopping???

    See? Gender roles just fuck up a pleasant evening.
    Um, yeah, this isn't striving to be something you're not. It's striving to make the outside match what's inside. Gender identity is not a gender role, and it's not an attempt at being more masculine or feminine. It's trying to become a man when you're a woman and vice versa.

    Though, to be fair, there is a lot of fake trans people in undergrad. That's also where all the bogus subterms like "polysexual", "gender ambiguous" etc. (which miraculously disappear around Junior year for some reason) happen. Gender ambiguity is something I have a much easier time identifying as a "phase", but that shouldn't be taken as "it's always a phase". Trans people are real, and they need to be respected same as everybody else.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post
    I think I'd have an easier time making a connection with someone who was content in their intersexual authentic self, rather than with someone having surgery to become the "opposite" sex.
    Being intersex is not the same thing as being transgender although there are similarities.

    Intersex is a medical condition involving a person's reproductive system which means that anatomically, they don't fit in to the male/female binary although their brain might identify only with one sex. Sometimes, if their genitals are surgically 'corrected' early on, this can lead to issues further down the line. ex They were given female genitals as infants/children but don't identify as women.

    Being transgender is rooted in the person's psychology. Their brain doesn't identify with their physical sexual characteristics which do fall in to the male/female binary. This is something basic which most people in the world take for granted, because they're born that way (cisgender). For trans people, this is not the case. For whatever reason, their is a disconnect.

    We're not talking about performing gender based on social constructs (which are mostly malleable and evolving). It's your brain not identifying with your biological sex and this leading to mental anguish.

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    To be honest no cause i feel like i'm dating a fake.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissAnne View Post
    They arent trying to become the opposite sex. They are the opposite sex born in the wrong body. Its a very real thing.

    When you hear stories about little boys trying to cut their penises off because they cant stand their male bodies, I can't help but to believe in their dysphoria.
    Except I'm rejecting the paradigm that says there is an "opposite sex" in the first place, as well as the paradigm that a person ought to be assigned to or strongly identify with one of only two genders falsely assumed to be opposite.

    We also hear stories about little girls who starve themselves to avoid a typical body fat composition that would not only be healthy but considered normal and attractive by a large cross-section of society. Sometimes people don't appreciate normal things about themselves, or they decide to change normal things about themselves to comply with a society that has a limited imagination. When women have backroom butchers inject motor oil into their asses do we say "well obviously her dysphoria requires that she have a larger ass" or do we maybe question the images she feels compelled to emulate, the social dynamics that fuel derogatory self-images, even socioeconomic injustices that motivate her to land a spouse in this outlandish way? I take the approach that "you are who you are, as you are" and that anything worth doing as a woman can be done equally well as a woman with the penis you've always had there.

    In fact there is a bit of a double-standard within the transgendered community: FTM surgery suffers from the additional complication of the difficulty of making a "neo-penis." Surgically it is complicated, leaves scars on the rest of the body, and the outcome is risky, hoping to achieve a phallus in a rudimentary way, but so far from guaranteed that many many FTM individuals opt to not proceed with "bottom surgery" after the mastectomy. All of those individuals and advocates agree that having a vagina instead of a penis should not stop someone from being considered a man if that is how he identifies.

    On the other hand, MTF surgery is much more straightforward (relatively speaking) at constructing a vagina out of a penis. Not surprisingly you don't hear a lot of MTF transsexuals saying "Yes I'm a woman, but I left my penis in tact" and when they do still have a penis it is usually "Yes I'm a woman and as soon as I can afford it I'm having vaginoplasty."

    That's the double-standard, and it reveals a lot: people are modifying their bodies as though it is a precondition for being themselves. It's not required, and I think only our social baggage about gender makes people think it is. People are who they are with the genitals that grew there to begin with, and they should never require surgery to be a man, or a woman, or either, or both, or neither.


    Quote Originally Posted by Rolyo85 View Post
    Um, yeah, this isn't striving to be something you're not. It's striving to make the outside match what's inside. Gender identity is not a gender role, and it's not an attempt at being more masculine or feminine. It's trying to become a man when you're a woman and vice versa.

    Though, to be fair, there is a lot of fake trans people in undergrad. That's also where all the bogus subterms like "polysexual", "gender ambiguous" etc. (which miraculously disappear around Junior year for some reason) happen. Gender ambiguity is something I have a much easier time identifying as a "phase", but that shouldn't be taken as "it's always a phase". Trans people are real, and they need to be respected same as everybody else.
    I don't get the bold bit, and it seems to conflict with what you said just before that. To be logically consistent, shouldn't you have said "It's trying to become a man when you're already a man" instead?

    You can take courses on "passing" as MTF. I don't understand why that should ever be necessary: it shows that a person is adopting a gender, and learning to simulate a gender, rather than just acting as they might innately do. I think it is equally inauthentic whether someone tries passing as a transgendered person, or a non-transgendered person seeking to exaggerate the identity that "matches" their anatomy. It reeks of the same problem as "straight acting" in the gay community, and the remedy is the same: just be yourself.

    When you wake up in the morning, you already are what you are. Striving is not required to be yourself. Striving is only required to be someone else.

    Quote Originally Posted by thatgirl View Post
    Being intersex is not the same thing as being transgender although there are similarities.

    Intersex is a medical condition involving a person's reproductive system which means that anatomically, they don't fit in to the male/female binary although their brain might identify only with one sex. Sometimes, if their genitals are surgically 'corrected' early on, this can lead to issues further down the line. ex They were given female genitals as infants/children but don't identify as women.

    Being transgender is rooted in the person's psychology. Their brain doesn't identify with their physical sexual characteristics which do fall in to the male/female binary. This is something basic which most people in the world take for granted, because they're born that way (cisgender). For trans people, this is not the case. For whatever reason, their is a disconnect.

    We're not talking about performing gender based on social constructs (which are mostly malleable and evolving). It's your brain not identifying with your biological sex and this leading to mental anguish.
    Quite right: intersex has a medical definition and I did not intend to meld the two terms.

    To recast my earlier post: not everyone fits into a gender binary. I consider it child abuse when atypical children are subject to surgery to give them the appearance of fitting into a conventional gender binary. The child's bodily integrity should be respected. But I also don't think anyone really fits into a gender identity binary. We don't allow for that, and we provoke anxiety in people who internalise messages that they ought to subscribe to a binary gender idenity, and that their body ought to match that identity.

    A century ago, we were telling transgender people that they ought to feel like the gender implied by their genitals. Today we are telling transgender people that they ought to operate on their genitals until they match the way they feel about gender.

    In another century I expect today's view will be seen as just as short-sighted and just as limiting for people who, like many millions more than is assumed, fall somewhere in the middle in one aspect or another of their identity or their anatomy.
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    I am sorry, I am not sure where you're coming from. You may not believe in, um, subscribing to genders, but trans people do. And I do. And as far as I can tell, everyone else in the topic does. So I'm not sure we have common ground to discuss anything.

    As for the bolded part of my quote, I just meant trying to become a man when you're man in your head, but physically a woman, and vice versa. Hope now it's clear
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    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post
    Sometimes people don't appreciate normal things about themselves, or they decide to change normal things about themselves to comply with a society that has a limited imagination. When women have backroom butchers inject motor oil into their asses do we say "well obviously her dysphoria requires that she have a larger ass" .
    You are comparing people with eating disorders and women that want larger asses to transfolk ?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rolyo85 View Post
    I am sorry, I am not sure where you're coming from. You may not believe in, um, subscribing to genders, but trans people do. And I do. And as far as I can tell, everyone else in the topic does. So I'm not sure we have common ground to discuss anything.

    As for the bolded part of my quote, I just meant trying to become a man when you're man in your head, but physically a woman, and vice versa. Hope now it's clear
    In the history of human struggles for equality, and in the history of people's conceptions of personhood and all that, do you not see a very deep current of thought questioning the validity of gender roles as such? How is is possible for that to escape attention?
    Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissAnne View Post
    You are comparing people with eating disorders and women that want larger asses to transfolk ?
    I am comparing the double-standard and mixed messages in how we support people whose expectations about their bodies do not match their actual bodies. And I'm drawing on a very useful contribution made by feminist intellectuals who have argued against the body being a standard of identity or a template for identity.

    I also think the "fat acceptance" movement has relevance.

    If you're a woman born with a penis, enjoy your penis, don't feel the need to cut it off just to match other women, or for any other reason. If you're a man born with a vagina, fuck someone with it. Your body doesn't need to define your gender whether it matches the gender you want or not.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cgymike View Post
    Yeah but he can't take testosterone his whole life. Eventually his body will adapt to it and he will need more and more just to maintain and the risk of older age problems increases a lot. There is a mixed blessing for sure.
    I just watched an episode of Catfish tonight and the guy said he just started on T and eventually he will get less and less.

    Plus once any man starts on it he has to stay on it because your body stops producing it. I've heard that a lot of older gay guys and guys with HIV are taking it too.

    I also had a friend who went thru a severe depression before I met him and his body stopped producing T and he has to take injections. One time we got horny and he said he wasn't gonna get hard, but I got him raging hard and we had sex and I didn't know it, but he was due to take his shot (every 10 days or 2 weeks) that day and took it after we had sex.
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