first time with a guy

[naughtyboy69]

So I'm a straight male who is extremely turned on by the idea of being with a guy (sucking him off, recieving anal) however the thought of kissing a guy is a total turn off.

Is this normal? Would you be offended if a guy asked you to fuck him but wouldn't kiss you?

As this would be my first time and I've done anal, any pointers and tips? Specific lube?

[jensu846]

kissing isnt for everyone. I bet I have kissed only a few of my hookups and not by my choice, so no, I dont think it would offend him if you say youre not into kissing. Save that for a relationship. Be clean, and use lots of lube since your an anal virgin. I usually put a dildo in my ass about 15 minutes before I meet up, so that way i am already somewhat loosened up and lubed up so he will slip in fairly easy. Any lube is fine, but I like Astroglide personally.

[palemale]

I find hookups without kissing and making out to be extremely unsatisfying. If a guy isn't into kissing, there isn't a second visit for me.

I don't quite get why kissing is too intimate, but having a guy shove his cock up your ass isn't. Anyone care to explain? Of course, some guys have a glory hole fetish, and there's no kissing going on there as far as I can tell.

[seven2go]

I thought kissing a dude was just fucking weird.......
But my fwb got me by surprise one time and I STILL thought it was weird.
But the more I thought about it the hotter the idea became to me.......in fact I'm getting hard writing this.......
Now I think locking lips, sucking tongues, holding him tight by the back of his neck.......damn.......

[hylas]

dude i dont think youre straight. i think the part of you that is unconfortable with kissing guys is the same part of you that still identifies as straight, even though youre clearly attracted to guys. just an opinion.

anyway, personally i wouldnt want to hook up with a guy who doesnt want to kiss. so if i were you, id be upfront about that, so there are no awkward disappointments on either side. i once chatted with a guy who wanted to meet but not kiss, so they do exist.

anal for beginners: use lube (doesnt matter which brand, but use silicone-based lube.) use a condom. be honest about the fact that its your first time. make sure youre clean; either take an enema, or just dont over-eat, and take a thorough dump an hour or so before you meet up.

best of luck!

[ravenstar]

I had a hook up once when I was on holidays in Melbourne who was adamant about the no kissing thing. I like to kiss but if it made him uncomfortable I was fine not doing it. He arrived at the hotel room and my first surprise was that he looked younger than he had said he was, so much so I asked for ID

Anyway, he had a shower and then walked into the room, dropped the towel and we started touching, licking etc. Out of nowhere he clamped onto my mouth and started kissing me. When I asked why he said he wanted to try it but it wasn't for him. I was fine with that, we kept on mucking around and then he kissed me again. He wasn't really good at it, so I pinned him to the mattress and set about teaching him how to do it properly.

I've never seen someone get so turned on so quickly. By the end of the hook up he was a very good kisser young people today learn fast apparently.

That was an awesome afternoon. But completely off point. My point was, don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with. If you don't want to kiss someone, make the boundaries clear from the start. I wouldn't be turned off by not being able to kiss someone but I find kissing to be pretty intimate. Some people don't like intimacy like that with someone they don't know.

[sixthson]

I don't quite get why kissing is too intimate, but having a guy shove his cock up your ass isn't.

It's interesting when you think about that. A guy will kiss another guys ass, stick his tongue in his butt and take his cock in his mouth, but he won't kiss him. Why is that? I think because kissing implies something more serious than just sex. More than just passionate, kissing is affectionate and tender. You could probably fuck someone you hated, but you could never kiss them.

Have you ever been deeply in love, Palemale?

[birragood]

Very good question. I've had only 1 encounter, (it was great!) but also don't like the thought of kissing. Also agree with other post about other places you may put your mouth but it's a personal thing and to each his own.

[hairy1977]

It depends on my mood, but I am not that into kissing and it would really depend on the man.

[hylas]

I don't quite get why kissing is too intimate, but having a guy shove his cock up your ass isn't. Anyone care to explain?

kissing is associated with love and romance, rimming or blowing or fucking is associated with sex.