Straigt Male freinds or Gay Male Friends?

[vacancy3]

About 90% of my friends are straight - mainly because most of the gay guys that are on the scene are whiny, effeminate drama queens which I have no time for on a regular basis. Bit like a screaming child really, I can put up with it for so long, but after a while it becomes irritating.

then hop your butch ass across the pond and lets hook up....love ya mate

[Laufey]

if a woman finds a man who that is drop dead handsome, and later found out he was gay, or even bisexual that man is no longer attractive, and wasted their desire on a gay man. Me as a woman I have done this. I don't not find gay men attractive at all, just like them as gay men do not find women attractive.It's basic logic.

I realize that this applies to most women. However I wouldn't say it's basic logic.

Most gay men are attracted to straight men (some even more than other gay men) and most straight guys are into feminine lesbians.

[MissAnne]

So yeah in short, if a woman finds a man who that is drop dead handsome, and later found out he was gay, or even bisexual that man is no longer attractive, and wasted their desire on a gay man.

This isn't all women. There are a lot of really attractive gay men. If they are hot, they are hot. It doesn't diminish their attractiveness to me.


For example. "My husband", Russell.



Im not saying that this applies to you, but if attractive men are no longer attractive once you find out that they are gay, this could be rooted in homophobia.

[CupidBoy]

For example. "My husband", Russell.

But that's Bender's husband tho.

[MissAnne]

But that's Bender's husband tho.

Nope. My husband.

[thatgirl]

Maybe it have to do with nothing, about what you said. It could very well be that a woman was sexual attracted to a man that is very handsome, then later found he was gay, and lost types of attraction to that gay man.

The implication of referring to a man because he's gay as "a waste" is too icky for me. And yes, the women I've heard speaking this way mean just that-- because they are of no use to women sexually and because they won't "pass those beautiful genes" they are a waste. Their beauty and sex appeal is going to waste. It's 'wasted on other men'.

But, no, there is nothing wrong with a straight women losing interest in perusing a man upon finding out that he's gay. That's normal and to be expected.

So yeah in short, if a woman finds a man who that is drop dead handsome, and later found out he was gay, or even bisexual that man is no longer attractive, and wasted their desire on a gay man. Me as a woman I have done this. I don't not find gay men attractive at all, just like them as gay men do not find women attractive.It's basic logic.

lol, Nope. They just get relegated to eye-candy for me and many other straight women. Just like many gay men appreciate beautiful straight men without deeming them "a waste."





For me, an example would be Zachary Quinto. Loved him in Heroes early on, suspected he was gay but still crushed on him. Later on, he came out, but I still love him and find him attractive like so many of his fangirls. And I am still 'shipping Uhura/Spock in the new Star Trek films like many other women. And many women, who were already writing slash fiction about his characters are just that much more interested in him with regard to their m/m fantasies. *shrug* IDGAF that he's gay.

[Sparky-Sparky-Boom-Boom]

Sadly I only have straight friends I really need to get some gay friends.

I do find it hard to make gay friends, in the past I have but then I end up sleeping with them and ruin the friendship.