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    Over thinking during sex

    About a month ago I met this totally hot guy and we have been seeing each other every weekend and having sex. Everything is going great except during sex I find myself over thinking things and end up losing my erection or not getting hard enough to penetrate him. I can get hard at home alone when watching porn so I don't think it's a physical issue (however I have booked an appointment with my doctor just to be sure)

    Instead of enjoying the sex I find myself thinking about what I'll be doing tomorrow or how long the drive home will take and I know it's totally ridiculous. This guy is super hot, seems really into me and there I am thinking about random pointless things . It also raises another problem that when I know I'm meeting him I worry that I won't be able to perform and then it just becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy

    Has this happened to anyone else? How did you overcome it?

    I just want to be able to relax and enjoy it for what it is.

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    Re: Over thinking during sex

    Maybe you're just not that into him. One of the joys of good sex is that one forgets everything else except what is happening in the moment. Either that or you have performance anxiety, which is causing your mind to wander.

    Do you guys go quickly to anal, or do you have a long, slow, hot build-up to it? When my tongue is up a guy's ass, after it has been all over his body, I think of little else but his ass, and lips, and cock, etc.

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    Re: Over thinking during sex

    The wandering mind can cause all sorts of problems- whether you're thinking about work stress, the strange faces the other guy is making or just wondering why the hell you're there.

    The first question is whether this is a problem anywhere else in your life? Do you find your mind wondering at work or school? Do you have issues focusing and being "in the moment"? Are you constantly checking your phone or feel compelled to text/email at inappropriate times?

    And is this something that has just happened with this one guy or has it happened with other guys?
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    Re: Over thinking during sex

    There is a lot of build up to anal, lots of kissing, sucking and rimming etc. My mind isn't drifting off onto anything in particular just seemingly random thoughts.

    Thinking about it, I do remember having similar problems with my ex boyfriend when we first started having sex. Could it be performance anxiety as this is a guy I'm really into and want to satisfy? I have been with other guys since my ex with no problems but I wasn't all that into them. Maybe it's a confidence thing? Any advice?

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