What are the biggest advantages of being gay?

[tombastep]

^ It can be pretty complicated.

If a woman doesn't at least make a guy wait a while, or test him before getting with him, they will often be written off as slutty/easy and not "relationship material." Hence, women getting advice like "why buy a cow if you can get the milk for free?" as to why many men mistreat "easy" women. Many straight guys will cry and moan about how difficult it is to get a girl and the effort they have to put in, but for girls who simply are in it to hook-up, they will judge them and label them as easy to their friends and joke about it because "classy girls make you work for it."

I am not a women, but this stuff drives me insane when I hear it. Especially coming from the same men who have casual sex in the first place.

[frankfrank]

Being gay means never having to worry about being stuck having to raise children for DECADES.

For me, this is bigger and more important than anything else (except life itself).

[mrbeebs]

Being gay means never having to worry about being stuck having to raise children for DECADES.

For me, this is bigger and more important than anything else (except life itself).

Amen brother. I'll drink to that.

[Paws]

Being gay means never having to worry about being stuck having to raise children for DECADES.

Gay dads don't exist

[Idablows]

Personally, I think the dynamic between males is far superior to males/females. Of course that could be a con to some, but I see a mans perspective more than a womans.

Women, I've noticed, are a lot more needy. They seek attention. Of course this is a generalization, but I'm commenting from what type of relationship issues I've seen with basically all my straight friends. They're with their woman 95% of the time, even when they don't want to be. Plus they can't even go to the grocery store to get milk with a text screaming "WHERE ARE YOU?"

Also, like some others have said, the need for gender roles is completely depleted. While I'm aware there's women who reject these ideas that they should cook, be the caretakers, and let their man be the main bread-winners, it's usually the most common dynamic seen in the heterosexual household. Fuck that. People of the same gender seem to be more balanced.

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

so a bisexual houselhold?

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[thatgirl]

I am not a women, but this stuff drives me insane when I hear it. Especially coming from the same men who have casual sex in the first place.

Yeah, it's one thing if someone chooses not to be promiscuous themselves and values a similar outlook in their potential partners but this disgusting double standard which many straight guys have for women when it comes to having casual sex is beyond ridiculous. Lulz, I slept with so many ~sluts~ you guyz, I'm such a stud...Erm, what?

Definitely not something gay men or lesbians do to each other, I'm assuming. Or maybe it exists but on a much lesser scale.

[RonR18]

In this age of high unemployment, parents should be ecstatic when they find out their son is gay. Because throughout his 80+ years of having sex, he'll never have to worry about finding himself in a child support predicament like this:

"Butt judge, she always talked about wanting to get pregnant and have a baby, and I'm 100% sure that she used a safety pin or something to poke small holes in the condoms I used."

"What makes you so sure of that?"

"Because I filled each one of them up with water in order to check for leaks, and she's the only one who had access to them after they were tested."

"Be that as it may, state law dictates you're still responsible for the support of the twins until they're 18, since you're legally the father. Essentially, you played and now you have to pay $1,000 a month for 18 years. I suggest you get a good job, because falling behind in your payments will result in your incarceration for contempt of court until the balance due is brought current."

[MissAnne]

Yeah, it's one thing if someone chooses not to be promiscuous themselves and values a similar outlook in their potential partners but this disgusting double standard which many straight guys have for women when it comes to having casual sex is beyond ridiculous. Lulz, I slept with so many ~sluts~ you guyz, I'm such a stud...Erm, what?

True, true. Straight men love to complain about how hard it is to get a girl in bed but then disrespect the ones that are up for NSA sex and never even think about dating them. That would be insane. She's not the type to take seriously.

"Butt judge, she always talked about wanting to get pregnant and have a baby, and I'm 100% sure that she used a safety pin or something to poke small holes in the condoms I used."

"What makes you so sure of that?"

"Because I filled each one of them up with water in order to check for leaks, and she's the only one who had access to them after they were tested."

"Be that as it may, state law dictates you're still responsible for the support of the child until she's 18, since you're legally the father. Essentially, you played and now you have to pay $1,000 a month for 18 years. I suggest you get a good job, because falling behind in your payments will result in your incarceration for contempt of court until the balance due is brought current."

The Maury show is filled with men claiming that women got pregnant in order to trap their ghetto, "no job having" asses. I always sit there and think that these men must think that they are professional ball players or something. It was a miracle for them to even get laid.

As far as the imprisonment due to unpaid child support: Someone should tell my cousin this. Since being divorced from her abusive ex husband she hasn't recieved one red cent and he is jail-free, out making other children.

[tombastep]

In this age of high unemployment, parents should be ecstatic when they find out their son is gay. Because throughout his 80+ years of having sex, he'll never have to worry about finding himself in a child support predicament like this:

"Butt judge, she always talked about wanting to get pregnant and have a baby, and I'm 100% sure that she used a safety pin or something to poke small holes in the condoms I used."

"What makes you so sure of that?"

"Because I filled each one of them up with water in order to check for leaks, and she's the only one who had access to them after they were tested."

"Be that as it may, state law dictates you're still responsible for the support of the child until she's 18, since you're legally the father. Essentially, you played and now you have to pay $1,000 a month for 18 years. I suggest you get a good job, because falling behind in your payments will result in your incarceration for contempt of court until the balance due is brought current."

Sorry but that bold part made me laugh cause it sounds ridiculous.

[MissAnne]

Sorry but that bold part made me laugh cause it sounds ridiculous.

It is.

And Im sorry Ron but $1000 a month is out of this world. Some women are lucky if they get $25 a month.

[xbuzzerx]

True, true. Straight men love to complain about how hard it is to get a girl in bed but then disrespect the ones that are up for NSA sex and never even think about dating them. That would be insane. She's not the type to take seriously.

Definitely agree with you that this mindset you describe has very accurately characterized a lot of male-female doublestandard for a long time... but I think it's changing. I think this idea that "a girl you can easily sleep with isn't the one you ask to go steady" is a little old and I'll be honest-- a lot of my straight friends are with girlfriends that "got with them a little eyebrow-raisingly fast", at least to me or compared to what I was expecting. And I know I shouldn't assume but it always worries me when they have a girlfriend like that only because the track record has so often been that a girl a straight friend of mine meets and has sex with very early usually winds up having some kind of baggage that unfolds on them... overneedy, overclingy, emotionally unstable, something like that. The current ones seem nice though.

While I do continue to think it's generally true that there's a lot less "ritual" about being able to have sex as two guys, I do think the days of going out with a girl for two weeks before "anything happens" is all but dying out.

It is.

And Im sorry Ron but $1000 a month is out of this world. Some women are lucky if they get $25 a month.

I was going to say while I understood the point of the article was to scare deadbeat dads or guys who whine about how hard it is to wear a condom... my overwhelming impression from single moms (including many mothers of my friends growing up) has been that actually collecting child support against someone who doesn't want to pay it or hides their income to avoid it is so difficult and requires so much legal effort that many people understandably give up on it with a deadbeat dad who is going out of his way to not make it easy.

[frankfrank]

Gay dads don't exist

Point taken (yes there are dads who identify as gay), but the answer applies to my own situation which is indeed being 100% gay, which is not as common. Being 100% gay, that advantage does apply to me absolutely.

As far as the imprisonment due to unpaid child support: Someone should tell my cousin this. Since being divorced from her abusive ex husband she hasn't recieved one red cent and he is jail-free, out making other children.

How do child support laws work, in a State-by-State, versus Federal, arrangement? Is it the individual states which have the child support laws, or does it involve federal law? Or does it become federal as soon as the liable person leaves the state where the "ex" lives? I'm rather surprised I don't know this.

If it's state by state, it would depend on how much priority each state thinks this is. Also, if it's state by state, I would strongly assume that "redder" states are far less likely to have strong child support laws.

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[Blueboy82]

When you're straight and seriously dating a girl....you have to eventually marry the girl. You're forced and pressured to get married.

Most women, actually ALL women will not want to be stuck in a relationship that leads to no where. It's always the "walking down the aisle" for the ladies.

And if you don't want to or you're not ready for marriage, they will just break off with you.


Gay men don't ever have to worry about that.

[JWaggy]

When you're straight and seriously dating a girl....you have to eventually marry the girl. You're forced and pressured to get married.

Most women, actually ALL women will not want to be stuck in a relationship that leads to no where. It's always the "walking down the aisle" for the ladies.

And if you don't want to or you're not ready for marriage, they will just break off with you.


Gay men don't ever have to worry about that.

Yeah, except...no.

[RonR18]

Walt Disney was gay...

"I love Mickey Mouse more than any woman I have ever known." ~ Walt Disney

[EuroSoccer]

Lot of sex and generally better.

[RonR18]

Males are hotter and cuter than females, hehe...

[PreTTy PeTe]

Males are hotter and cuter than females, hehe...

isn't that one of the jonas. who could it be?

lets see the one who has a beard and a reality program

the other one who is scaring the fuck out of everyone because of his drug abuse

the other one who is still squeaky clean but..........he might like men.

yep a great way to be gay.

[geloge]

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[Huntneo(PT)]

Males are hotter and cuter than females, hehe...

lol you're something else.

[derelictdarrel]

In context of the question itself, I don't have a whole lot of ideas.. with gay people continuing to be disparaged and all. Although, avoiding unplanned procreation is a valid argument.

Addressing gender issues. Sure, women and men see things at a different angle. i'm not about to go into the shpiel 'women do this, men do this' what it comes down to in my humble opinion is there is a severe lack of respect across the board in society. Abuse is abuse whether misandric misogynistic. People only THINK they need to be married or in a relationship out of fear of being perceived a unhitchable/unfuckable curmudgeon and other forms of approval seeking through others which always seems to undermine themselves.

[thatgirl]

When you're straight and seriously dating a girl....you have to eventually marry the girl. You're forced and pressured to get married.

Most women, actually ALL women will not want to be stuck in a relationship that leads to no where. It's always the "walking down the aisle" for the ladies.

And if you don't want to or you're not ready for marriage, they will just break off with you.

Gay men don't ever have to worry about that.

Wait. Gay men never have to worry about establishing a long-term commitment to their partners? Or their partners choosing to leave them if they aren't interested in making a LTR official in some way?

[JP.]

^
Actually Ima bit shame with Thatgurl and Miss Anne, 2 real woman here.
This thread bring the "sexist" out of gays..and Im not clean myself :-x

Well, I hope when we become too naughty, you guys already hv peace of mind thinking...
"Who scores for centuries?"

[thatgirl]

^ No worries.

I actually find this thread pretty interesting, tbh.

So far, out of all the 'advantages' mentioned, the ones that make the most sense to me (as an outsider looking in) are:

1) in a same-sex relationship, you don't have to ever worry about accidental pregnancy and

2) you can probably have an easier time communicating or relating to each other without gender differences getting in the way.

3) you don't have to worry about navigating around gender roles in a relationship

And, honestly, I think those are the most obvious advantages and the only ones that made me really nod my head in agreement. Many of the other reasons given can apply to straight people as well or they're mostly criticisms directed at women-- or should I say, a stereotypical concept of women. Like MissAnne already said, I'm sure on a lesbian forum the reactions would be essentially the same but instead the vitriol would be directed at a stereotypical concept of men. It's to be expected.

The topics that really make me go 'hm', though, are the stuff related to romance, commitment, marriage and casual sex. It seems that many gay men feel like they've dodged a bullet because their potential partners (men) will supposedly never be a limiting factor when it comes to having casual sex so they don't really have to worry about commitment or putting in much effort. But I've always thought that this sort of thinking was seen as a negative stereotype of gay men and I'd say most of the gay men here and elsewhere really value the idea of romance, commitment and settling down eventually (otherwise the fight for same-sex marriage wouldn't exist). In this thread, though, they're kind of being painted as evil things straight women do to straight men. lol

[xbuzzerx]

That girl I think you perfectly summed up how I feel with those 3.

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[Blueboy82]

Wait. Gay men never have to worry about establishing a long-term commitment to their partners? Or their partners choosing to leave them if they aren't interested in making a LTR official in some way?

Of course, there are many gay men who are committed to long term relationships and even marriages.


But most women want a sense of security, that's why they always tend to pressure their men into marriage.

Also, straight couples might happen or accidentally happen to conceive a baby.....and they sure do not want their kids to grow up and realise that their mom and dad were never married.

[tombastep]

But most women want a sense of security, that's why they always tend to pressure their men into marriage.

I think plenty of gay men want security to and I place the pressure of marriage on being more of a society one more-so than being a women one.

[Rolyo85]

Without having read the topic, for me the biggest advantage of being gay today is the awareness of cultural and societal strife. We are much more open to compassion for oppressed people, much more understanding of what they are going through. And much stronger than most straight people because we had to fight to be who we are.

[Blueboy82]

Without having read the topic, for me the biggest advantage of being gay today is the awareness of cultural and societal strife. We are much more open to compassion for oppressed people, much more understanding of what they are going through. And much stronger than most straight people because we had to fight to be who we are.

What a beautiful speech. Why haven't I thought of it before? Makes me feel like crying.

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Without having read the topic, for me the biggest advantage of being gay today is the awareness of cultural and societal strife. We are much more open to compassion for oppressed people, much more understanding of what they are going through. And much stronger than most straight people because we had to fight to be who we are.

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[Rolyo85]

You're ever so welcome ^_^

[CupidBoy]

Males are hotter and cuter than females, hehe...

Oop.

[Beachguyj]

We got 99 problems but a bitch aint one.

[eastofeden]

My answer back in 1979 was...I didnt' have to listen to C&W music!

...and then gay C&W line dancing came along and fucked that all up. I had to ask to be excused from working those nights and I changed my shift. It was funny because the whole drive up there on the second week of "line dancing" I tried to brainwash myself with positive affirmations ...but I only lasted an hour before I knew I could not take another night of it.

So..the best thing about being gay was shot to hell.

[xbuzzerx]

Without having read the topic, for me the biggest advantage of being gay today is the awareness of cultural and societal strife. We are much more open to compassion for oppressed people, much more understanding of what they are going through. And much stronger than most straight people because we had to fight to be who we are.

I think you're totally right-- but I'd have to make the added side note that this being the case (and making total sense) is the reason why the people who do not do this stand out more like a sore thumb, surprise me, and disappoint me. You've heard me say it in CE&P-- but I'm so disappointed in how many gay men, if the conservative spectrum of the U.S. changed only its stance on gay issues... would happily hop over and serenely overlook (or even agree with) the continuing problems that minorities, women or anyone else deals with.

[sheep]

We don't have to hire designers because we all are lol

Sex is way easier between two guys than a man and a woman. It doesn't take a genius to get us turned on...

[Gayboys4fun]

Experiencing the pleasure of anal sex!

[geloge]

^ you don't have to be gay to enjoy anal sex.

[pat grimshaw]

^ I don't enjoy anal sex

[figjam]

So aside from not having to stick your face in a bloody mess when your "woman" gets horny, what are some of the other advantages of being gay?

You do not know woman that well do you? It is not periods all the time you know. Some of them can talk and sit upright and give birth to gay persons like yourself....

Eating out menstruating woman - really?!

[pat grimshaw]

...It is not periods all the time you know...

How long? I heard it can be three days. I realise I'm ignorant of all that.

[evanrick]

Without having read the topic, for me the biggest advantage of being gay today is the awareness of cultural and societal strife. We are much more open to compassion for oppressed people, much more understanding of what they are going through. And much stronger than most straight people because we had to fight to be who we are.

also gay men are in a good position to do something about it. homosexuals are arguably the strongest political force in America, so to the world. just look at aids research and marriage equality and how much progress has been made in such a short period of time.

[Durango95]

The smell....definitely the smell. I grew up with 4 sisters. It is true about women syncing periods. That time of the month two of the bathrooms in the house smelled like a cross between a morgue and the dross pits at a fish cannery. It was enough to make your eyes tear up.

I'm an athletic guy and have always gone for athletic guys and I've never been the germophobe sort of guy. So my place could get to smell like a lockerroom from time to time. Especially when I was young. I have since gotten more domestic. ha

Even the randiest smelly jock doesn't smell like a woman on the rag. It is the smell of death and rot. There is a reason we call them fish you know.

[MissAnne]

The smell....definitely the smell. I grew up with 4 sisters. It is true about women syncing periods. That time of the month two of the bathrooms in the house smelled like a cross between a morgue and the dross pits at a fish cannery. It was enough to make your eyes tear up.

I'm an athletic guy and have always gone for athletic guys and I've never been the germophobe sort of guy. So my place could get to smell like a lockerroom from time to time. Especially when I was young. I have since gotten more domestic. ha

Even the randiest smelly jock doesn't smell like a woman on the rag. It is the smell of death and rot. There is a reason we call them fish you know.

That only happens when women let used pads, tampons etc. stay in the trash can for a couple of days. Period blood doesn't smell until its been left out, mixed with air for a certain period of time.

Dont go spreading incorrect information to people.

And that syncing periods thing has proven to be a myth.

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[Durango95]

I am not spreading incorrect information to anyone. I was sharing a personal life experience. I don't know anyone that empties a trashcan every single day.

Just like guys don't really smell how foul they can be from time to time, I don't think women really can smell how much they just stink.

There are just as many studies that show of the synchronizing of certain female's periods in groups, as there are showing it not to be the case. It is more of how the study is conducted more than anything. You chose to believe they do not. I chose to believe that they do.

I am a gay man. I don't have any female friends. There are no fag hags or fruit flies in my life. There is no need for the encumbrance. I keep my interaction with my siblings at an absolute minimum.