As I wanna fool around, I kinda want to try an escort for sex (or light fun at least). Would you recommend this in terms of safety?
As I wanna fool around, I kinda want to try an escort for sex (or light fun at least). Would you recommend this in terms of safety?
Where are you located? I have hired many escorts with no safety issues. I suggest you hire from Rentboy. Some are reviewed in DaddysReviews.com. I have not hired from craigs list or backpage and would not be as confident. In places like NYC, LA, SF or Miami, the police do not hassle.
Of course, you must always use safer sex, and I try to eliminate those who I know or suspect are HIV positive. Most on rentboy say they are "always safe", but of course you must use safer sex. Others ignore the question, and a few say "sometimes safe" or suggest they will bareback, and I avoid them.
I have been considering hiring someone in the DC area. Any experience there anyone?
what do you guys mean escort? i dont really understand
In western countries, there are guys who can be hired for this service, even though it is illegal in many countries (and in all but one state in the US).
I think paying for sex is illegal in all staes, except in certain counties in Nevada brothels are licensed.
Well make sure you agree on price for services. They could get spendy otherwise demanding a lot more after! A bit like a taxi...agree on the price for the trip before moving off.
(Street-wise advice only legalities not considered.
Why pay for an escort when you could just use Grindr and play with guys for free?
I suppose when you pay for an escort, you know exactly what you want, when you want, how you want it, and how long you want it. It may not quite be true for someone you meet in Grindr or similar.
I think Michael Douglas has a lot to answer for in the film Fatal Attraction. She did not leave. Hiring an escort would would be a lot more clear cut, he would leave when it is time for him to depart.
Or you're a good looking 35 year old making six figures but working 80 hours a week. You dont have time to waste on grindr or adam4adam. You want that hot guy now and without complications or games. They pay too.
So, I'm considering an escort. I can get a guy around my age who knows what he is doing and as a bonus is pretty damn hot too. I'd never get a guy like this on Grindr or at a bar.
I'm not proud of it and in an ideal world, it wouldn't have to be this way. But we don't live in an ideal world.
[QUOTE=Coward92;8643808]Yes it is wrong.
It is not illegal without a reason.
Gay sex illegal? Whoa, man I'm happy I'm not an american...[/QUOT
Gay sex is not now illegal anywhere in the US. But paying for sex, i.e. prostitution, is illegal. That does not make it wrong. It is illegal for religious reasons. The prohibition is justified for reasons that are often the result of the prohibition,i.e. spread of disease, degredation of the female etc.
I only did it once in Paris, France I was on a long long biz trip. He was 26 and also A Paris Policeman I spent most of my time rimming him and fucked him twice amazingly hot! Muscular 34 waist rock hard deep fucken ass. Do not normally pay for what should be free bu glad I did grin
If there is only 1 reason not to do something than I think that is already enough.
Moral reasons for me are quite solid and important reasons. If you do something that goes against morals than you degrade yourself in your own eyes, and now you can come up with the "your morality is not my morality" bullshit, but somewhere, after a certain degree, morality is not so subjective as we'd like it to be.
Plus, I think if someone has to pay for sex, that is pathetic in itself.
Where is your dignity? Do you really consider yourself so shallow and uninteresting that you can't go to a bar and pick up a guy? I'm pretty certain that if you want to have sex you can do so for free. What bonus does an escort provide? Good body? So what? Everyone can have a good body. more experience? I never noticed that experience mattered in a sexual act. Presence and dedication matters.
Theese people prey on your fears and desires, if you allow them to feed on you, you will be more vulnerable. If it is sex that you really want go and take it, but for God's sake don't you pay for that! They are not better than you are, so that you should give them tribute for the "grace" they provide for you.
Last edited by Coward92; January 22nd, 2013 at 08:12 AM.
I would imagine an older person that offers a substantial difference in terms of age that is fond of a younger man might have no other choice but to pay for such entertainment. It is quite difficult to understand why some one would choose such an option especially when many of us are not faced with rejection on a constant basis in the dating scene.
Uconnflyer’s position really made me see things from a different perspective. As the old saying goes, “Never judge a person until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.”
One thing is certain. At least both parties (in a pay for entertainment relationship) have come to a mutual agreement. Both parties know where they stand which eliminates one of them being stringed along, filled with assumptions and, being hurt in the long run.
While I don’t have any experience with Gay relationships, I have lots of experience with Girl relationships. I’ve found that 98% percent of the girls I’ve dated could careless about being the girl on the side once I told them upfront I had a girlfriend and explained where they would stand in the relationship within the first date.
If you are an extremely good looking male which, attracts a lot of guys in addition to girls on a daily basis walking down the street without saying a word edgewise, you already know many are going to use you as a show piece or boy toy. So you become very selective on whom you date and raise your standards.
If you are an older successful unattractive male you already know everyone has a price. So it is a matter of finding what that price is. It could be money for shopping, a car, a home, a trust fund, Marriage, children or all the above.
All it takes is to find out what does the person want to give their services. Those services in which you are seeking could be sex, companionship or a combination of the two.
^Reducing human relationships and emotional needs to a crude exchange won't solve anything.
If you are ugly, shape up. If your face is terrible, you can go to plastic surgery.
Accepting your sorry state as an unchangeable fact woN't solve anything. It won't lead to progress.
There are factors involved which have not been discussed. You can surf the escort sites, look at the photos, weight the merits etc, like looking through a catalog, knowing that you can enjoy any of the guys by paying for it. Shopping is a big part of the fun. For some, it is a hobby of sorts. Escorts tend to be unusually handsome guys with good bodies and dicks and who take care of themselves; go to the gym, get some tan, etc. Since they know they are exposed to disease, they are careful in that respect. You must always practice safer sex, but in reviewing the escorts you can, to some extent eliminate those who admit or appear to being positive.
Many of the guys who hire escorts are traveling. They can review the site for the destination, choose and escort and make arrangements in advance. Your type, where you want it, when you want it.
Some escorts are porn stars, whom you have seen in action and admired, and can see again after you have met him.
The alternatives are hit and miss. Go to a bar, you might meet a good looking guy and you might not.
I suggest you go to rentboy.com, scroll through the men and see if you don't find some you would like to meet. You will understand the feel of the attraction.
I'd never hire an escort or be a sex worker, but I also don't look down on those that participate in those types of things. We have fought far to long and have made many sacrifices to keep those critical of gay sex out of our bedrooms. We'd be hypocrites if we were to pass judgement on what other consenting adults do in their bedrooms.
That applies whether you are hiring a prostitute or standing at the, alter about to get married.
I have no experience with escorts. However, I do know a mans gotta do what a mans gotta do.
Last edited by Eyebrow; January 25th, 2013 at 02:56 AM.
So bascially not wanting to do something right is an excuse for doing it wrong?
We are not talking about relationships here. We are talking about hook-ups.
Everyone can get a hookup, because you can improve your looks anytime. If you have the looks you don't have to pay for sex.
This is double profit, because if you care for your looks you are more likely to be healthy, and if you don't waste you money on whores, you can put that cash to good places.
Just a reminder that this is a no-flame zone.
The only interest I get is from much older men who are so desperate to sleep with anyone who is young that they'll "tolerate" my looks. While that's ok I guess, sometimes its nice to have a shot at a young, hot guy. Even if I have to pay for it.
Just a follow-up for those that might care (and I realize that may be no one), but I went through with getting an escort and I don't regret it.
The experience was a bit surreal. I'm not used to having a young, attractive guy show up at my door and be naked in my bed in a matter of minutes. Also, the guy I selected had done porn in the past (sites many on this board are familiar with) and I actually own a few of his videos. So, it was a bit weird to have him present in the flesh and blood.
He was really cute, but came across as being genuinely nice too (though that could have just been an act). We talked briefly before starting and it was a very pleasant and easy conversation. We moved to the bedroom and he quickly got naked...again this was a little surreal since I've never had a hot guy get naked, hop in my bed and then invite me in.
I'll admit my own performance was not the greatest reflecting a combination of being nervous and not having a lot of experience. We had some nice foreplay (though my kissing skills are not great) and then oral. My oral skills seemed to work as he quickly got hard, so that made me feel good. While turned on, I couldn't get really hard, so I had to bottom which was fine by me though I think he prefers to bottom but listed as versatile. It was a little tough at first (as he was well above average in size), but eventually we built up a good rhythm. After we both came, we laid in bed for a little bit and chatted before he headed out. I was a bit sore for the next two days, but it was worth it.
The only regret I would have was that I wish I was a better performer in bed. That takes practice of course which I don't have much of. The upside to a good escort is you don't really feel obligated to impress them. It's not like you're trying to have a long-term relationship. Though I kind of feel bad for him having to have sub-par sex with me, but at the same time I realize that's the choice he made given the line of work.
Of course, there are downsides. I'm not going to pretend this was romantic, boyfriend sex. Truth be told, I could have cuddled with him for hours (before or after the sex), but that wasn't going to happen unless I forked out a lot more money which I don't have. And I'm under no illusion that this replaces a real relationship. I still intend to try and find a real relationship, though I recognize the odds are against me.
My recommendations are as others said to go with someone that has reviews and is on the high-end side. I would stay far away from Craigslist/Backpage. My father's words were always "If you are going to do something, do it right and not half-assed." Now I'm sure he didn't have purchasing male escorts in mind when he said that , but the theory is still a sound one. Of course, safe sex is a must too.
I'm glad to hear that you had a good experience.
Good to know things went relatively well for you, and that you felt it was money well spent.
It is definitely good to know you are fully aware you what was going on, and that you have not lulled yourself into some illusion from which you could not/would not escape. Nothing like having both feet firmly planted on the ground and enjoying the moment for what it was.
Sounds great. Your future meetings with him or other escorts, and others, will be better, because you will be less uncertain and self conscious. Hopefully, the nervousness in anticipation will never go away. Waiting for him to show up is part of the fun, like waiting to open Christmas presents. One caution would be to avoid expecting too much perfection as you choose and call for an escort. The descriptions and photos are often exaggerated, so if you allow for that you are less likely to be disappointed. When you find one you really like, continue to hire him. You will become acquainted and more comfortable with each other. The next one you choose may not be as good.
You're a long time dead. We spend most of our waking hours working. Use your money for something that gives you pleasure. I've never gone to an escort, so I not in much of a position to give advice. As with a romantic relationship, or a fuck bud situation or causal hook-up, go into the experience with your eyes open and without illusions about the nature of the relationship. You never know, relationships change. Sometimes hook-ups, and even a sex for pay relationship, evolves into something different.
I agree with you on managing expectations. I had very low expectations coming in. In fact, I was more worried he might turn out to be a socio-path that robbed me, murdered me or got me arrested. I was pleasantly surprised that he seemed to be a very normal and easy-going guy. I did request that he send recent pics, since it was obvious from his profile that he was using some photos that were a bit dated. He sent recent photos and sure enough, he didn't look exactly like his "professional" porn photos. He was a bit twinkish in his porn days, but now had put on some weight (some muscle and some fat). Funny enough though, when he showed up at my front door, he was actually cuter than expected. His recent photos didn't do him justice.
Not sure if I'll see him again. He's not local to my home town (he was just visiting), so it would require travel. I don't plan on seeing another escort right away. It's not something I want to become a regular habit. Maybe just a treat every once in a while to help me cope with life....kind of like Christmas only slightly more often.