Am I ugly?

[Ty1994]

No guys seem I'm attrctive. I always considered myself attractive but I want your opinion

[Aetharon]

No guys seem I'm attrctive. I always considered myself attractive but I want your opinion

It's difficult to give an opinion when there is no image to help us form an opinion.

[Ty1994]

Sorry I can't upload from my phone

[Aetharon]

No worries mate, and for the record, I think you're gorgeous.

[BENDERBOY]

You look great to me.

[White 4 Black]

Not ugly at all (I expected that you might actually be, but you aren't). I would actually say you're hot, to me, so far from ugly!

[looseliam]

Naah - you've a cute face, great great lips, and what seems to be something rather nice under your hand... tease :P

[jensu846]

oh hell no! I would turn my head and check you out if you walked by me. super cute. why would you think youre not attractive?

[seven2go]

No guys seem I'm attrctive. I always considered myself attractive but I want your opinion

In my HONEST opinion your looks are quite above average.......LOVE the glasses too.......

[andy0303]

to tell you the truth you're a BIT BELOW AVERAGE, but not ugly. you have nice lips though.

[Ty1994]

What makes me below average? That's a C (average) anything worse in a college is a fail.

[BENDERBOY]

He's just trolling you Ty, ignore.

[Ty1994]

to tell you the truth you're a BIT BELOW AVERAGE, but not ugly. you have nice lips though.

And anything below average is not acceptable, I want to know what I need to do to actually be looked at.

[BENDERBOY]

And anything below average is not acceptable, I want to know what I need to do to actually be looked at.

Getting rid of your low self esteem would be a start.
Six people have complimented your looks, yet the one obvious troll post is the only one you reply to.

[CupidBoy]

You are far from ugly.

[Ty1994]

Getting rid of your low self esteem would be a start.
Six people have complimented your looks, yet the one obvious troll post is the only one you reply to.

I guess I mean I feel so sad going to clubs and grindr

[RaKroma]

You are far from ugly, very far! To me you have a cute twink face, soft facial features. The glasses add to your cuteness. But you project shyness. Go take some shirtless pics and smile! Don't judge "rejection" from online hookup sites and apps like grindr as an internal problem. I used to have a period in my life where I believed that I was not attractive,felt unwanted and extremely hopeless in finding guys because cute guys wouldn't respond to my craigslist ads and adam4adam. I thought maybe I need this cosmetic procedure or that to make me more attractive. The online hookup world brings out the most shallowness out of us where we look at photos of guys and expect 12 inched 8 packed Photoshopped looking specimen on demand. Don't take these negative experiences into clubs. In clubs, you have to be more confident with yourself, more social and a little aggressive. Don't wait for everyone to approach you and compliment you and ask you out, be the one to be a constant flirt with others. Approach others and learn to have thick skin when you get rejected. The hot guys out there get rejected.
This summer I hanged out with a group of friends and there was this one guy that was totally my type!! I was insecure to ask him out and he was very passive himself. I thought a pretty guy like him wouldn't want to me anyway and probably gets hot guys easily. Almost 5 months later, my friends were constantly pushing me to make a move on him. Long story short it took a lot of alcohol in me to ask him out at a house party and we've been hooking up for some time now. I guess he finds me attractive enough?... I still have insecurities and don't adhere to the advise that I give people out, but I'm learning and improving a lot from just a few years ago. And my friends that hook up a lot in clubs hate Grindr because there they get "blocked" by guys left and right, so go figure.

[Laufey]

For my taste I'd say you are average.

[andy0303]

LOL, doesnt mean that i didnt agree with most of the comments here means im Trolling, im serious you know! dude you have to accept it you may not that goodlooking(im my opinion) but for sure there are other things about yourself that can make it up for it. like having a big dick, being healthy, physically fit, tall, talents, etc.

3rd pic = below average
2nd pic = close to average

peace!! you dont have to feel bad, just be confident then you're good accept what you have not like other people who goes under the knife just to look good.

[itsmeagain]

Seriously?? Dude why are you even asking?? hot! You are seriously hot. Two words.... Gang bangable
8===D

[kniteowl]

Ugly!?!?!?! Who told you that lie? You are hot man!!!!

[hjsimp_992]

hot enough for me to jerk off

[cubbybear01]

You are super cute. You actually remind me of this one lab partner I had for comparative anatomy (not NEARLY as fun or dirty as is sounds). He used to walk and talk with me after class regardless of where I was going because he had a huge wait for his next class. Looking back, I think that he might have been interested in me but I was completely oblivious. He was so cute, why was I oblivious?!?!

[dsdowntownfun]

you are average...

acknowledge that and work on it..

[Telstra]

You look like any other people.

Now keep staying healthy until old age.

[vampsrock1992]

You are really cute. And have you ever actually been called ugly if so whoever said so is a moron. Im not trying to make this thread about me but i have been called ugly so consider urself lucky. If you havent been.

[Ty1994]

you are average...

acknowledge that and work on it..

Obviously, what do I need to work on?

[Laufey]

Just focus on being fit, show the best sides to your personality and be confident. Sex appeal is more than just looks.

So other than keeping your body fit and healthy you should rather focus on your other features than trying to pull off extreme makeover.

[flashgordon85]

You are so CUTE ^^

[dsdowntownfun]

workout...style....that will help with your self confident...

[BlueBalls]

Though not my type, you are a good looking guy for sure.

[Storybook_Man]

you are a very handsome man. and I don't say that often because I don't like younger guys, but you definitely are good looking. don't let anyone tell you anything different. there are guys out there for you and guys that aren't for you. you will find them

[Ganoderma]

No. You are good looking and its way above average. I like your clothes, I like the style of your hair and I like your glasses. So no need to change anything.

Hey man, loads and loads of guys of around your age are suffering from overweight, but that's not the case for you. I hope you will soon find a nice boyfriend.

[zebec847]

Sorry I can't upload from my phone

beauty is in the eye of the beholder

[Promise]

Always remember that everyone has different opinions. One could be ugly to one and beautiful to another. Don't worry about what everyone thinks because you'll never be able to please everyone. Just be sure to be happy from within and that's all that matters.

[mark1281]

You really are cute, don't feel bad about your looks.

[borg69unimatrix]

You're a great looking guy. Focus on the 98% here that thinks you're attractive and stop focusing on the 2% that doesn't.

... and PLEASE... DO NOT judge yourself by sites like Grindr and the bar scene. Those places are about the most shallow, self serving places there are.

[hylas]

judging by those pics, i think youre handsome. not jaw-droppingly knock-out super-model gorgeous. neither am i, very few are. youre handsome, and thats more than most people have. i particularly like the 3rd pic. and thats just my opinion. judging by this thread, most people seem to think yore attractive, and you dont have anything to worry about.

im sorry you feel undesired. it may also be a beauty standard (read: race) thing. some kinds of beauty are just less popular than others. and i really mean that exactly as i wrote it, not as some lame sugar-coat-ism. its because we all grew up in a culture with fucked-up beauty standards

peoples personality really does play a big role in how attractive you are to others. insecurity (and you seem kinda insecure) is unattractive, and thats a bit of a vicious circle. i used to be rather insecure about my looks myself, but i worked hard on loving and accepting myself, including my body and my looks. i look at myself now (how i feel and how others react to me) and im happy to see how far ive come over the years. its a process but i would recommend it!

[Chitownbiguy]

i used to be rather insecure about my looks myself, but i worked hard on loving and accepting myself, including my body and my looks. i look at myself now (how i feel and how others react to me) and im happy to see how far ive come over the years. its a process but i would recommend it!

You mind if I ask how you did that? Not to hijack the thread or anything, but that's very much how I'm feeling now. I know part of it is getting into better physical shape, though I keep thinking to myself, "you won't be attractive regardless, so what difference does it make whether you're in good shape or not?", which is prompting me to overeat and, well, continue the vicious cycle.

To answer the OP's original question: you're cute. I like the glasses.

[ducky18]

You're cute. But I agree that some self esteem would be super sexy

[hylas]

chitown:
im talking long-term here, not over-night make-overs. im talking years, not months.

i think a big part of it is to be happy, and lead a happy life, in a very general sense. be social, take care of the friendships that you have, go out and do stuff with people. follow your interests, be artistic, read. live in a place that is beautiful (even ugly apartments can be decorated). try to have an occupation that makes you happy. stimulate yourself intellectually, artistically, and socially. listen to new music, watch movies that are challenging and not just entertaining. keep up with the news. and so forth... the goal is to feel good in your own skin, completely independantly from how you look, or how your romantic life looks like.

work on your social skills, if you are shy or awkward. refine your manners and attitude, dont chew gums, try to walk around with a smile on your face. be polite, be a good listener, be honest and genuine, be articulate and informed, be compassionate, dont be racist or sexist or otherwise douchy. make yourself attractive.

take care of your apparence, in a reasonable way. get a haircut. shower and groom and floss. dont use cheap deodorants, invest in a nice bottle of perfume. buy some new clothes; they dont have to be expensive. yes, dieting or working out can be helpful, too, but for me it was important to realize that a lot can be done, even without that "hard stuff".

all that is about changing who you are now. but just as impoprtant: allow yourself to accept that for others, your percieved flaws can be qualities, and sometimes - not always, but sometimes - opposites attract. accept that love is hard to find. accept that you are not perfect. my chest is scrawny, eventhough ive been working out for years now. i dont like the sound of my voice. my legs are disproportionately short, and my head is disproportionately big. all those things still bug me, but i dont get too worked up about them anymore, because i generally feel good about myself.

ok this has become one big-ass post. i hope i didnt come across as too much of a know-it-all. its how it was/is for me, maybe you can get something out of it.

[Chitownbiguy]

Thanks, hylas. I appreciate the response and your perspective. You're right that happiness in other areas of life can just lead to an overall optimistic outlook. Similarly, unhappiness in one area of life can bleed into others, and that's kind of what I'm experiencing now.

You're right, it's important to focus on the little things we can control. That's solid advice.

[-Callum-]

I would jerk/blow/fuck you, OP. Not ugly at all, darling...not at all.

[Ty1994]

Thank you ever one; one thing I am not is insecure. I'm comfortable in my skin my pictures look so nervous because I get tired of the cliche smile and I try to be artsy but they don't turn out that way. But again thank you guys, I shohld get into better physical health.

[palemale]

Sorry I can't upload from my phone

You're adorable. If I saw you on an on-line site, I'd try to hook up with you. I agree with the advice some of the others have given. Work on your self esteem. Keep yourself healthy and physically fit. That will help you feel good about yourself, and will have the added bonus of making you more attractive to others because you will look good and you will believe you look good.

Everyone has their preferences about what they find attractive. No one appeals to everyone. However, you will appeal to a hell of a lot of guys. I recently hooked up with a guy who looks a lot like you, wears glasses, and is very shy. In fact, I found his shyness very endearing.

There's also another guy I've chatted with a lot on an on-line site. He is actually not very good looking, but does have a hot body. I'm very attracted to him and would like to hook up, but he doesn't seem interested in me. That's life.

[FaceJism]

No, not nearly, if the photographs are accurate.

[mcbrion]

As another black man, although much older than you, 62, let me tell you that objectively speaking, you are a cute brother. Now, remember that people assess based on their OWN cultural ideas of what's cute, and frankly, some guys will only find you cute if you project the (fucked up) Mandingo image.
So, discount that part right there. Black culture's idea of beauty from within the culture is different that what White guys may be looking for (not a slur, an objective observation from someone who was extremely popular in 70s and 80s San Francisco). To many guys, you will be a fantasy, not a person, so find out who you're dealing with first. If you were sticking with Black culture, you would be considered very cute and sweet, because Black culture is matriarchal and we look for sweetness, fairness, a good heart. Our values are not the values of other cultures, and therefore Beauty will be in the eye of the guy whose culture developed HIS psyche not your culture's valves. I notice that most of the responses here are from White guys, and our features will not always match what they were taught was "beautiful." Thick lips do not turn many guys (or women) on. And before anyone opens his mouth, I'm half white, so I got relatives on both sides (except they all like [and married] each other.
It's easy for some to say develop self-esteem and they're right. BUT. BUT. If the only culture you swim in is not your own, the answers will make you doubt yourself and it will take longer to find yourself. When I was among other brothers, I felt like the most handsome, sexy guy in the world. when I was in White clubs, I felt like a sexy THING, to be obtained - but not valued. Which culture are you mixing it up with most of the time? Other brothers? White guys? Asians? Australian guys will chase you to hell and back if you're Black: they find it hot, hot, HOT if you're a Black American. So, you must be aware of your environment and you must observe people's energy. Are you a 'person' to them or a 'hot, black thing'? Makes a BIG difference. Cultivate ONLY guys of quality, minimize - until you're more comfortable - just guys who want you for sex, especially if you have a big heart. It will only confuse you and make you wonder what you asked at the beginning of the thread: are you ugly? Take it from an older brother, my young brother, you are sweet and cute looking - and I say that without lust, just a fond poignant memory of being young and black (in the 60s - which was NOT the easiest time to be Black). Have at least two REALLY good Black friends if you are immersed, as Marlon Riggs declaimed in 'Tongues Untied' in 1988, ' a speck of chocolate in a sea of vanilla.' They will anchor you and affirm your beauty, while others will asses based only on what they would go to bed with (and the few guys who answered who sounded like brothers all said you were fine, an assessment I agree with). Its kind of what the Americans who traveled to Europe after world war II were called, "the UGLY Americans." But that was based on their (the Americans) poor manners (afer all, we'd saved the world. They should bow at our feet). Don't let the values of someone else's culture define yours. Your are young, cute and sweet-looking (and probably self-aware enough that you flat out asked, Am I ugly?" That takes guts.

[eattom]

Well said!

I would only add that your expressions in the pictures give off nervousness & uncertainty. Better to smile confidently, that makes the viewer more comfortable. You are a good looking young man.
I also observed that you made no comment on the flattering posts, but when one person said he didn't find you attractive you answered immediately, needing to know why. We all have to accept that we are not attractive to everyone. It will come in time.

best to you

As another black man, although much older than you, 62, let me tell you that objectively speaking, you are a cute brother. Now, remember that people assess based on their OWN cultural ideas of what's cute, and frankly, some guys will only find you cute if you project the (fucked up) Mandingo image.
So, discount that part right there. Black culture's idea of beauty from within the culture is different that what White guys may be looking for (not a slur, an objective observation from someone who was extremely popular in 70s and 80s San Francisco). To many guys, you will be a fantasy, not a person, so find out who you're dealing with first. If you were sticking with Black culture, you would be considered very cute and sweet, because Black culture is matriarchal and we look for sweetness, fairness, a good heart. Our values are not the values of other cultures, and therefore Beauty will be in the eye of the guy whose culture developed HIS psyche not your culture's valves. I notice that most of the responses here are from White guys, and our features will not always match what they were taught was "beautiful." Thick lips do not turn many guys (or women) on. And before anyone opens his mouth, I'm half white, so I got relatives on both sides (except they all like [and married] each other.
It's easy for some to say develop self-esteem and they're right. BUT. BUT. If the only culture you swim in is not your own, the answers will make you doubt yourself and it will take longer to find yourself. When I was among other brothers, I felt like the most handsome, sexy guy in the world. when I was in White clubs, I felt like a sexy THING, to be obtained - but not valued. Which culture are you mixing it up with most of the time? Other brothers? White guys? Asians? Australian guys will chase you to hell and back if you're Black: they find it hot, hot, HOT if you're a Black American. So, you must be aware of your environment and you must observe people's energy. Are you a 'person' to them or a 'hot, black thing'? Makes a BIG difference. Cultivate ONLY guys of quality, minimize - until you're more comfortable - just guys who want you for sex, especially if you have a big heart. It will only confuse you and make you wonder what you asked at the beginning of the thread: are you ugly? Take it from an older brother, my young brother, you are sweet and cute looking - and I say that without lust, just a fond poignant memory of being young and black (in the 60s - which was NOT the easiest time to be Black). Have at least two REALLY good Black friends if you are immersed, as Marlon Riggs declaimed in 'Tongues Untied' in 1988, ' a speck of chocolate in a sea of vanilla.' They will anchor you and affirm your beauty, while others will asses based only on what they would go to bed with (and the few guys who answered who sounded like brothers all said you were fine, an assessment I agree with). Its kind of what the Americans who traveled to Europe after world war II were called, "the UGLY Americans." But that was based on their (the Americans) poor manners (afer all, we'd saved the world. They should bow at our feet). Don't let the values of someone else's culture define yours. Your are young, cute and sweet-looking (and probably self-aware enough that you flat out asked, Am I ugly?" That takes guts.

[RoscoR]

Everyone has a different attraction. i'd say no pal.

[hylas]

im asian, and i imagine the experience of black americans and asian europeans are quite different, but i still find a lot of truth in mcbrions post.