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    My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    And I kind of can't help but hate the outside world and the only emotion I can actively feel aside from just feeling numb to everything is this deep depressing pit of sadness and loneliness

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    I am so sorry to hear that! My condolences. I know it must be terrible right now, but it will get better with time, and the only thing you can do after the passing of a loved one, is to move on for them, as well as for yourself.
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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    I am truly very sorry for your loss.

    That is my single worst fear so I don't know what to say but hopefully one of the people here who have experienced the loss of a boyfriend can help you.

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Give yourself time to process the grief. It is never easy to lose someone you love, but over time, things will seem better.

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    So sorry for your loss, and our thoughts/prayers are with you, friends, family. But don't allow your sorrow to make ill, have ill thoughts, or think negative of our world. As he would not want you to do this. While you need to grieve your pain, you must do your best to keep your life in control and keep going forward.

    We all deal with our pain differntly, but surround yourself with a good support group and keep your chin up and keep hold your head high in his honor..

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    I am truly sorry for your loss. My love died in hospital and I was by his side. The devastation I went through took 9 months to work itself out.

    You might consider counseling to help you deal with this. Does your employer offer an Employee Assistance Program? Consider a leave of absence under the Family Medical Leave Act: my employer raised no questions.

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    So sorry for your loss ! Eight years of memories is what you can go foreward with and that is alot more than most of us can. Remember the good times and do greive but know he would want you to go on. If you need help please get it and know you can always vent here. Think of the good times and be well...he would want that.

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    Quote Originally Posted by elvnguardian View Post
    And I kind of can't help but hate the outside world and the only emotion I can actively feel aside from just feeling numb to everything is this deep depressing pit of sadness and loneliness
    I'm sorry to hear your news. Did you have a chance to know it was approaching?
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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    Ugh .. that sucks My condolences .. I haven't seen you around for some time and although it is a sad occasion, I think it's good that you seek out someone to speak here, too. I can't imagine what has to go through someone's head after an experience like that I hope we can support you in some way or another.
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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    I'm so sorry to hear this -- and cannot even imagine the range of emotions you must be experiencing...

    Just wanted to give you some hugs...

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    I am sorry.

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    You have a community here to seek support and love from. There are a few guys here who have gone through the same thing of experiencing the death of a long-term partner. I am sure they will reach out to you soon when they see this thread.
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    Sincere and deepest sympathy to you in your loss. I've no doubt at all that you will be in the thoughts and hearts of every single Jubber who reads this thread.
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    My condolences, I can't imagine what that's like.
    I will keep him in my prayers tonight.

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    My condolences to your loss. I hope you heal and get better in time. It takes awhile but give yourself time to grief and slowly rid yourself of the negativity and distance with the world. Know that he has gone into a much better place. My thoughts are with you.

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    Please accept my sympathy. Feel and think what you must. I hope you can surround yourself with both his and your loved ones. I'm sorry for your loss.
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

    Although I've never lost a boyfriend or lover, I've experienced a lot of losses with relatives. Time heals these wounds, especially when accompanied by a strong support system. Don't be afraid to rely on others to help you get through this.

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    Quote Originally Posted by elvnguardian View Post
    And I kind of can't help but hate the outside world and the only emotion I can actively feel aside from just feeling numb to everything is this deep depressing pit of sadness and loneliness
    Well, I am so very sorry for your terrible loss. And can appreciate the tremendous shock and emptiness you are feeling right now.

    I hope that you have supportive family and friends who are helping you out through this terrible time. To have lost such a dear person feels like someone has torn the whole world in half.

    If you feel you do not have the support of other people that you need, I highly recommend that you seek out a good qualified grief counsellor and pour your heart and soul out. Talk yourself through this.

    You grief and depression are, of course, so perfectly normal....you just need to give yourself the opening out of it.

    I think posting here is a first really good step. To find out that there are so many people who are here for you while you work through your grief as well. While you may hate the outside world right now, you obviously feel the need to re-engage in it and that is a really healthy sign.

    I would suggest that you keep a journal for awhile. Write out everything you can. Capture these memories and feelings.

    We're here to listen to what is in your heart.

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    I am truly sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathy.

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    You have my absolute, deepest sympathies. I can only imagine how you must feel right now.
    Please don't hesitate to reach out to us here at JUB. We're here to help.

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    I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I wish there was something I could say that would/could make you feel better.
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    My thoughts go out to you

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    Thank you, everyone for you're kind words... I'm doing better, but I feel like someone took my heart or my lungs

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    Your ability to express your loss with such beautiful honesty speaks to the depth of your relationship. He will be with you always.
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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    Quote Originally Posted by elvnguardian View Post
    Thank you, everyone for you're kind words... I'm doing better, but I feel like someone took my heart or my lungs
    You have suffered a tremendous loss. Cry and know that, though he is not beside you anymore, he now lives within you, he's a part of you. He is with you everywhere you go for ever, just close your eyes and say his name and he'll be there. You will be together again one day. I really do believe that. And remember your friends are here for you.

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    Elvn,
    Sorry to read about your partner,I do hope you find some sense of peace buddy.I am glad to see that you are ok,it has been a real long time.
    Miss Sofie sends her love.Peace.

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    Re: My Boyfriend of 8 years Passed away last Thursday

    I cannot believe that I missed this thread. OMFG, I am hurting for you my friend!

    I've been there too. You may or may not recall that my first boyfriend, Vincent, died in a car crash when he was only 23. We had been lovers since age 16. I thought that my world had surely ended, and spent the next ten years adrift, until I let Dave into my life, and had 12 years of bliss with him. He cheated on me, and after 7 years apart, I still haven't forgiven him yet.

    I know that I am doing a piss-poor job of trying to cheer you up. But I am here for you. If you want to talk, or if you want to start one of our now legendary online orgy sessions like we used to have years ago...

    It does get better. That I can promise...

    I AM PROFOUNDLY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.....
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