Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte.
Should we tally up all the threads of yours that reached at least a second page, where people continually failed to "get" you? Where they continually applied their (uninformed) beliefs on "how things are" to you when they apparently didn't apply? Where you were basically reduced to finding different ways to phrase the same two sentence response to the same mind-bogglingly stupid suggestions?Most of what I'm saying here is me responding to folks trying convince me that there is no real issue.
I don't share this issue with you, but there are certainly other places where my body, my responses, my issues, my thoughts deviate from the accepted norms. And I don't mind stating them when the situation arises. But neither do I ask JUB or the world at large what I should be doing about these things. Because I know their responses will almost certainly not be applicable to me. Or I would've dropped another fifty pounds, done some major manscaping, gotten rid of my grandpa underwear, and started mooning after Ryan Gossling by this point.
Early in your thread you asked how guys cope with this. This is what you should focus on, not changing your penis surgically. People have to learn how to cope mentally with all types of physical short comings, real or perceived. Some people have very prominent birth marks on their face, or bad acne, or they are just, plain, butt ugly. They do learn to cope. Focus on yourself mentally. You might discover that you don't have much coping to do after all.
If all else fails, I'm in New York. I would be more than happy to give you an objective and unbiased opinion about your penis.
I am butt ugly. I do have an obnoxious birthmark on my face. I've learned to cope.
Right now, I'm not even asking for anything that grand. A penis that even approaches close to average isn't exactly asking for the moon and the stars.
My therapist didn't "urge" me to see a surgeon, he simply said I should consider the options I have, after realizing that I wasn't some guy with a bodymorphic issue, but someone who is clearly far smaller than most and would feel a lot better about himself if that wasn't the case.
I'm now beginning to wonder if you have the same condition as M10000, the body dysmorphia or whatever it's called, where NO AMOUNT of hundreds or thousands of people telling you that you're NOT UGLY will make the SLIGHTEST difference.
I and many other JUBbers would say you're extremely attractive in looks. Do you think we're deceiving you, or patronising you, or pandering to you? Do you try to find an excuse in your head for why what we say isn't true?
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If what you say is true Lex, then it does rather seem to render all our suggestions and opinions pointless.
I asked the BF the question and he told me the answer, it wasn't the one I wanted to hear but it made me realize that I have to accept it and be a forced bottom. That's what a lot of JUB members here always say about guys with small dicks. It's just the truth.
The way you have been talking I was expecting it to be deformed or something.
Then it turns out you are just slightly under average.
What I get from this thread is that you are just a extremely negative person. One thing wanting a bigger dick (most of us do)... but to let this "problem" prevent you from ever being happy is just all in your head. If you would have your penis surgically "fixed" then you would just find something else to obsess about.
If my penis was the same size yours is... a birthmark on my face would bother me more.
Your goal should be to get cured from the obsessive depressing mindset. Changing your body won't change your mind.
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/thre...This-Situation) is the time you guys were the most convinced that I should do what I feel is right.
So what is this thread, then? An announcement? "I'm looking into getting my penis surgically enhanced, and don't fucking tell me that I should learn to love myself as I am, because I don't and I won't"?
Feedback and needless lecturing are two completely different things.
if you ask me, you just sound depressed and this is a byproduct of it. if you weren't so down, you wouldn't be looking at yourself so negatively. you have a lot of positive and good things going for you BUT obviously, you're not going to think about that if you're depressed.
have you sought help for this though? the last thing you need to do is get surgery for your dick. the only thing you'll be masking is your REAL problem.
one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry
I definitely have struggled with depression, but the penis issue is real. I'd be a great deal happier and more confident with a penis that measured up to what other men are working with.
one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry
I don't have a large dick either and I'm not happy with the size.
However, I have had pleasing results with the way I use it(With girls). But sometimes I just feel like that too, where I feel pretty small. I too have been looking for a way to improve girth, I just don't think there are any real ways out there...
I dated a guy for a while in college who was about 6 to 7 inches and quite thick in the girth department (one of the fattest cocks I've seen actually), and dude still complained that his dick was too small.
They say that body modification is somewhat addictive. The reason being that if it doesn't make you feel better about your looks, you'll feel that it's because you didn't change enough (or in the right direction)...and if it does make you feel better, you'll rationalze that you'll feel even better after some more (especially once the buzz/euphoria of the first maneuver wears off).
Understand also that this is one area in which I am clearly lacking. Even though I don't particularly like other things about myself, I can't say that any other part of my body is as completely inadequate as my penis.
It's not necessarily about you getting a surgery for something else. Once you go under the knife to fix your penis you might want to do it again if you aren't happy with the results. And believe me it's very common for guys to be unhappy after a penis enlargement since it is a very complex and risky procedure.
I know you are doing this for yourself but I still wanna point out that a lot of people are more turned off by a surgically altered penis than a small one. They often end up looking weird and functioning worse.
Congrats on your 8000th post!
You still have a small penis though!
give us an idea
How about you draw an outline of your finger as an example of your cock. Take a photo
a finger must match your cock's girth based on what youve said
M10000, I gave you a measurement. More than a finger but not by much. It's whatever, I'll go for a consultation. If I like what I hear, I'll go through with it. If not, I won't.
Since he's just slightly under the average it should be much thicker than a finger.
and isn't it really about how your able to work your dick NOT how huge it is? that's what i hear people saying though. they say that you could be whatever size BUT if you know how to move your dick up in and out, you should be able to satisfy whoever you're fucking. is it true?
if you had no complaints about your performance, then does it really matter how big it is though?
if you can go through all that to achieve what you want to achieve, then much power to you.
"Under 4" in curcumference doesn't seem reasonable? Lmao. OUCH!
Borg has seen a limp shot in which my width isn't even displayed. Have no idea what he's talking about. With the men I have encountered in my lifetime, I am well below average.
The average is around 5... so you aren't THAT much below.
I have always sung the praises
of google and it was time to google you because this is getting no where.
- what is this thread about? why do guys think you were naughtyarousal?
Sorry, I can't identify. My cock is great - longer than most white guys, and pleasingly plump, and a nice fat mushroom head.
I don't usually tell people, though - I'm kind of self-conscious about it. I actually tell people it's not that impressive. And, despite being only 47, I'm having some erectile issues, so that's at least partly true. Nothing winds me up more than scoring with a hot butch beefy secretly bottom boy (ok, even this was like two decades ago) and not being able to get this fat dick up enough to give the guy what he's begging for.
When I was younger and had all that pretty curly blonde hair and was disturbingly skinny, a lot of people found me hot. A lot of people wanted to use my body who didn't really care how I felt. I had lots of great sex with lots of hot guys, but... sometimes it just felt so empty.
So, now, when people look right past me because I've got that slowed-metabolism potgut, I'm actually a little more comfortable.
And if they don't look right past me, and eye me up in a way that flares my trust issues, I let them know I have dentures and no upper teeth. I pull out my lip to show them how few lowers I have left, and how rotten those few are. Or I tell them about the antipsychotic medication I take at night to level out my wild mood swings, or how I've been poor all my life and probably always will be.
Somebody's got to try REAL hard to get to know the TRULY awesome bits of me, to get past all the disagreeable stuff I put out to keep me safe and alone.
Despite all that, though - I wouldn't trade any of it. I love myself. And my Big Cock.
So, sorry, if you're looking for coping strategies from people who can relate - I'm not one of them, and neither is my
Awesome Big Cock.
lol is this guy for real?
Hmm.. You know what guy! I seriously read this status, and I could relate to you. You're very self conscious about not having a big dick? To be honest, I have a big dick.. It's not so great as you think, in fact it gets very distasteful when people constantly makes comments on your penis size, or are only interested into you for that. Having a big dick is just annoying, and eventually when you get older, a person's dick is going to shrivel up, and look disgusting afterwards. lol. OKAY ANYWAYS!! I take it that you're not really happy or pleasant with your penis. Hell, I too am unhappy with my body biologically. I'm black, dark skinned, and have nappy hair. I don't like it either too. IN FACT, I HATE IT! I prefer death than being black! At times, I feel suicidal like you. I feel unattractive, and rejected. I don't want to feel or look black. lol The point is, you have to work with ya got! I'm not saying you have to get over it, but you have to get use to it. The disliking of our own body, and looks is just plain evil and unhealthy for you. You can't let your possessions posse you. Hell, you just gotta work with your "flaws". Maybe me being black, or you having a small penis is not such of a big deal as we think. What you have others, others don't, and maybe they'd want it.
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don't even worry about the problems in the gay community, worry about yourself, breh.
Look sweetheart, if there were actual surgical procedures that REALLY DID WORK 100%, I'd run myself and spend $30,000 to have it stretched to 8 inches, but NO such procedure exists yet. You have a better chance of having your small dick turned into a nice looking pussy. But stretching penises surgically is not viable option. At best you will get a funky looking pencil that you will have to constantly stretch for life and it still won't look as big to your liking. There are Hundreds of million of men on the planet who have an average to below average penis and they continue to function in society, have love life and even reproduce like everyone else. Get your mind fixed and you will be fine.