Coping With A Small Penis...

[G-Lexington]

(that) would imply that I have a penis worth loving.

I didn't know there were qualifications for lovable cocks. Can you let me know the requirements so I don't screw up and end up loving one that's not worthy?

Lex

[TheFallenAsexual]

If I had a tape measure, I would. Circumference can't be more than 2, though.

[loki81]

let's grab a drink, I'll give you some validation

[birddog7]

If I had a tape measure, I would. Circumference can't be more than 2, though.

I can't quite accept that. Diameter = circumference / 3.142, which would be .64" or a bit over 5/8ths of an inch. I find that very difficult to accept. If you actually mean a diameter of 2", then you are quite large as that would be 6.3" in circumference.

Please do measure it some time, and let us know. You don't need a cloth tape, just a strip of paper or cloth, wrap it around your erect penis, mark it, and then measure from the mark with a ruler.

Mine is about 4.75" in circumference mid shaft, about 1.5" in diameter, and I'm about 5" long...

[TheFallenAsexual]

I've seen your penis. It's way thicker than mine. My circumference is tiny. I'll try measuring tonight, I guess.

[GamerBear]

So is this really about you having a skinny penis width wise or both a small one in length & width?

[TheFallenAsexual]

An extremely skinny one which causes my penis to be small overall despite its length.

[M10000]

My index finger at the first knuckle is 2 inch circumference. Im 5'7"

You are measuring around your cock

Porn companies would want you for the 'oddity' factor

2"?

[Laufey]

Waiting for the number

[Kabluey]

It's amazing how much intrigue you've managed to generate around your penis.

[Huntneo(PT)]

It's amazing how much intrigue you've managed to generate around your penis.

Penis size is serious business.

[TheFallenAsexual]

That last comment works completely fine without the wink. Because anyone acting as though it doesn't matter is deluding themselves.

[G-Lexington]

Mm-hm.

Lex

[Laufey]

Have you changed your mind about measuring it?

[M10000]

So your penis is the same size as an index finger?

[TheFallenAsexual]

I don't even have a ruler around the house. 2 was definitely a horrible estimate (hard to judge circumference when you're not used to measuring circular patterns) but it's still by far skinnier than most men I've seen in person.

[GamerBear]

So what is it in length, most of the time width isn't as bad as people make it out to be.

[G-Lexington]

I don't even have a ruler around the house. 2 was definitely a horrible estimate (hard to judge circumference when you're not used to measuring circular patterns) but it's still by far skinnier than most men I've seen in person.

If you really care:

1. Take a piece of string.
2. Get yourself hard. If you get performance anxiety, try again later.
3. Wrap the string around the girthiest part of your cock.
4. Lay the string flat, marking where the string intersected itself.
5. The distance from the tip of your thumb to the first knuckle is usually roughly an inch, unless you have huge or tiny hands. Use that to figure out how many inches the girth was.

Or we can just all accept that it's exceptionally, freakishly thin.

Would I have a problem with your cock if you were in bed with me? No, not in the slightest. But that doesn't matter. You obviously have decided it's a problem. In which case, perhaps you should do something about it.

Lex

[M10000]

I don't even have a ruler around the house. 2 was definitely a horrible estimate (hard to judge circumference when you're not used to measuring circular patterns) but it's still by far skinnier than most men I've seen in person.

I used a piece of string, measured out 2 inches on a ruler, and found that my knucle was the same size

Why is this being such a big orchestration?

[M10000]

I found my tape measure

Here is a 2 inch circumference.

[LemonMonk]

I can honestly say I don't care about the penis size of a partner. I do however care about my penis size, it is just below average. I don't find it matters, hope I am not the only one whose found this.

[GamerBear]

I can honestly say I don't care about the penis size of a partner. I do however care about my penis size, it is just below average. I don't find it matters, hope I am not the only one whose found this.

I'm basically the same way, my partner's penis is just great size about average maybe bigger. But when it comes to my size I just care so much about it, sometimes I even forget about it when nobody mentions it to me or brings it to my attention.

I've had my partner tell me once that he wishes it was bigger, it leaves me depressed but I get over it because what I've done is accept the fact of my size, you CAN NOT change it at all. Acceptance is the only solution and coming to the realization I can't do anything about it just be happy that it works is all that makes me forget about the size.

I've yet to meet or know someone whose smaller than me, but again I think the real issue with the TC is his width of his cock not the length.

[birddog7]

I'm basically the same way, my partner's penis is just great size about average maybe bigger. But when it comes to my size I just care so much about it, sometimes I even forget about it when nobody mentions it to me or brings it to my attention.

I've had my partner tell me once that he wishes it was bigger, it leaves me depressed but I get over it because what I've done is accept the fact of my size, you CAN NOT change it at all. Acceptance is the only solution and coming to the realization I can't do anything about it just be happy that it works is all that makes me forget about the size.

I've yet to meet or know someone whose smaller than me, but again I think the real issue with the TC is his width of his cock not the length.

I understand you guys on that one. My size is what concerns me, not some other guys. My size has bothered me all my life, and probably
always will.

[GamerBear]

I understand you guys on that one. My size is what concerns me, not some other guys. My size has bothered me all my life, and probably
always will.

So if you feel bad about your own penis, think of me and it will cheer you up knowing someone out there is smaller than yours.

[Huntneo(PT)]

I've had my partner tell me once that he wishes it was bigger

wow...really?

that was a bit...messed up. Not very considerate of your feelings...

[TheFallenAsexual]

I used a piece of string, measured out 2 inches on a ruler, and found that my knucle was the same size

Why is this being such a big orchestration?

LOL. I don't have a ruler, so I can't measure.

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I'm basically the same way, my partner's penis is just great size about average maybe bigger. But when it comes to my size I just care so much about it, sometimes I even forget about it when nobody mentions it to me or brings it to my attention.

I've had my partner tell me once that he wishes it was bigger, it leaves me depressed but I get over it because what I've done is accept the fact of my size, you CAN NOT change it at all. Acceptance is the only solution and coming to the realization I can't do anything about it just be happy that it works is all that makes me forget about the size.

I've yet to meet or know someone whose smaller than me, but again I think the real issue with the TC is his width of his cock not the length.

I once had a guy grab my junk and say "awwwww... a Black guy with a little dick. That must suck."

[TheFallenAsexual]

Would I have a problem with your cock if you were in bed with me? No, not in the slightest. But that doesn't matter. You obviously have decided it's a problem. In which case, perhaps you should do something about it.

Lex

Basically.

I think it's hilarious so many people place the importance on the partner. I have to look at myself in the mirror every day. I couldn't give two shits if someone else is "okay" with me having a freakishly small dick. They don't have to live with it. I do.

[ChickenGuy]

I once had a guy grab my junk and say "awwwww... a Black guy with a little dick. That must suck."

How often do you have to put up with guys making these types of shallow and insulting comments at you?

If someone has no respect for you and is going to treat you like a piece of meat then I'd say move on to the next. It would certainly kill the mood immediately and turn me off having sex with them right there and then.

A shame that you're having to deal with so many (as they say in U.S.) assholes and douchebags.

[TheFallenAsexual]

I moved on to the next. But it doesn't change the truth of his statement.

What makes him an asshole in this case is only the fact that he stated the truth and didn't polish it with some "I don't love dick, I love the person it's attached to" nonsense.

[Laufey]

Well I think this thread has reached an ending point without more info.

All I can say now is I hope you manage to feel better about yourself, one way or the other.

[bankside]

I think it's hilarious so many people place the importance on the partner. I have to look at myself in the mirror every day. I couldn't give two shits if someone else is "okay" with me having a freakishly small dick.

I once had a guy grab my junk and say "awwwww... a Black guy with a little dick. That must suck."

I think it's hilarious so many people place the importance on the partner. I have to look at myself in the mirror every day. I couldn't give two shits if someone else is "okay" with me having a freakishly small dick.

I once had a guy grab my junk and say "awwwww... a Black guy with a little dick. That must suck."

See what you want to see.

[TheFallenAsexual]

I only mentioned him because folks keep trying to tell me it's "all in my head." And the other poster's story reminded me of him.

If it were opinions like his influencing me, it wouldn't have taken me until page 3 to mention him.

That guy wasn't a "partner." I never slept with him because he's a fucking tool.

[bankside]

I'm sure your penis is thinner than average. It's just math. But you seem to be denying that it is relevant whether other people find you and your cock attractive or not. I learned a long time ago not to argue with my guy about what he finds attractive. I am not my own type. But I'm not trying to turn myself on, I'm succeeding at turning him on. At least don't assume someone is just feeding you a line when they say it's not important to them. And admit that for some guys a thinner dick is what they're actually looking for.

[TheFallenAsexual]

I'm trying to turn myself on.

Like I said, even masturbation is difficult because I'm so turned off by how small I am. There have been times where the other guy is into me and it doesn't matter because I loathe myself. This is where (surprise surprise!) you and I are different.

[sixthson]

I don't think it is fair to say that as long as our partner is happy with our dicks that it is somehow not that important for us to be happy with them.

[TheFallenAsexual]

^Thank you. A lot of folks have these ideas that the goal in our lives should be to find others to validate things in ourselves that we are insecure with. I completely disagree with that.

[bankside]

I'm trying to turn myself on.

Like I said, even masturbation is difficult because I'm so turned off by how small I am. There have been times where the other guy is into me and it doesn't matter because I loathe myself. This is where (surprise surprise!) you and I are different.

Fair enough, point taken. I like to feel sexy when my guy comes my way, and that mood of my own can change. Sometimes even contradicting what I enjoyed before.

I have a question for you: have you ever known someone who didn't like something permanent about himself and was down about it? Other than dick size.

[bankside]

^Thank you. A lot of folks have these ideas that the goal in our lives should be to find others to validate things in ourselves that we are insecure with. I completely disagree with that.

Oh, and that is not even close to what I was saying, or feeling, btw. I was just pointing out that whether you like it or not, other people are entitled to find you sexy and not be called a liar. That point of mine still stands, even if I agree with your other remark.

[TheFallenAsexual]

Only on the internet. But then again, that's probably where one feels most comfortable opening up about such things.

[bankside]

Only on the internet. But then again, that's probably where one feels most comfortable opening up about such things.

True enough. I hope it feels better to at least get it off your chest. And I actually agree with seeing a surgeon just for a consult. I think if people pierce their dicks and split their tongues with laser beams then finding out the risks/rewards of adding some girth would at least put an option on the table.

[sixthson]

^Thank you. A lot of folks have these ideas that the goal in our lives should be to find others to validate things in ourselves that we are insecure with. I completely disagree with that.

You aren't saying how others view you is unimportant, are you? When you feel like you don't measure up to other black men, you must be comparing yourself to them. The opinion of others can't be totally without value. Feeling inferior has it's root in comparison to others, right? If you are inferior, someone else must be superior, no?

Haven't small breasted women had to deal with their issue all their lives? Some accept themselves as they are, while others make surgical changes. Many would argue they do it just for themselves and no one else.

[G-Lexington]

I'm trying to turn myself on.

Like I said, even masturbation is difficult because I'm so turned off by how small I am. There have been times where the other guy is into me and it doesn't matter because I loathe myself. This is where (surprise surprise!) you and I are different.

This brings up another point, though. I'm assuming most straight guys aren't turned on by themselves, and yet they find a way to masturbate regardless.

But I'll reiterate that it's obviously a problem, and you should definitely look into getting the surgery.

Lex

[TheFallenAsexual]

This brings up another point, though. I'm assuming most straight guys aren't turned on by themselves

You're kidding, right? Straight men may not be turned on by men in general, but they definitely like themselves and their dicks.

I don't even know why the whole "gay/straight" dichotomy even came into the discussion anyway, to be honest. This was never about whether I think like a gay man or a straight man. This was about my circumstances and how I cope.

[TheFallenAsexual]

You aren't saying how others view you is unimportant, are you? When you feel like you don't measure up to other black men, you must be comparing yourself to them. The opinion of others can't be totally without value. Feeling inferior has it's root in comparison to others, right? If you are inferior, someone else must be superior, no?

Haven't small breasted women had to deal with their issue all their lives? Some accept themselves as they are, while others make surgical changes. Many would argue they do it just for themselves and no one else.

I'm not saying how others view me is unimportant. I'm saying how I view myself is far more important than any of that. There's so many out there who would probably say "oh, having a ridiculously small penis is okay, I like you for your personality" and blah blah blah blah. Sorry. That's not going to cut it with me.

[G-Lexington]

I'm thinking straight men like their dicks, and playing with them, mainly for the pleasure it affords them. They might take pride in having a larger one, or feel ashamed at having a smaller one, but I don't think they enjoy the whole "playing with a cock" thing the same way gay men do.

But to distill it down, you have three options.

1. Learn to accept what you've got.
2. Go under the knife to make it more impressive.
3. Stay the course.

Friend: I don't know why she's with him. He's all wrong with her.
Lex: OK, we get it. You keep bringing that up. Would you just deal with it?
Friend: I am!
Lex: Not very well.
Friend: You don't think so?
Lex: Well, you keep bitching about it.
Friend: That's my way of dealing with it.

Lex

[TheFallenAsexual]

I'd spend more time disagreeing with your gay/straight theories, but I've yet to even understand the relevance.

As for everything else you said: No shit.

Most of what I'm saying here is me responding to folks trying convince me that there is no real issue.

[FaceJism]

The only realistic way to deal with this defect is to embrace it and its consequences. You don't just feel inferior to real men, you were born with a clearly inadequate sex organ that makes you obviously inferior. Your penis will always be a joke for others, regarded as cute by some, but mostly ignored. You claim you don't like to "bottom," but it's not for you to decide. Becoming a sexual female to authentic men is the destiny assigned to you by your sad excuse for genitalia.

There is enormous pleasure and satisfaction in being owned and occupied by a true, phallic male. Learn to make his pleasure your reason for existence. If it hurts, endure quietly. Eventually, your inner female nature will be unleashed and your cunt will begin to respond to his overwhelming male power. You can rub your clitoris if he allows, but don't orgasm until after he finishes breeding and you have sucked him clean. Love your inferiority to him just as you love the power of his thick, long, amazing penis.

[sixthson]

Do you feel any differently about anything after 3 pages?

[TheFallenAsexual]

You claim you don't like to "bottom," but it's not for you to decide. Becoming a sexual female to authentic men is the destiny assigned to you by your sad excuse for genitalia.

There is enormous pleasure and satisfaction in being owned and occupied by a true, phallic male. Learn to make his pleasure your reason for existence. If it hurts, endure quietly. Eventually, your inner female nature will be unleashed and your cunt will begin to respond to his overwhelming male power. You can rub your clitoris if he allows, but don't orgasm until after he finishes breeding and you have sucked him clean. Love your inferiority to him just as you love the power of his thick, long, amazing penis.

No. ........

[TheFallenAsexual]

Do you feel any differently about anything after 3 pages?

Basically that it may not be worth the risk. But I also want to know the risks, because right now I have no chance of being happy with what I have, so I may not really have anything to lose anyway.

The place I originally signed up for consultation with hasn't gotten back to me, so I just signed with another local clinic.