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    Coping With A Small Penis...

    An embarrassing thread, but I'm going to keep it real.

    Yesterday, I ended up out with friends and by the end of the night, ended up at a bar with one drunken straight friend from my crowd left. On the other end of me, a cute gay guy I just met that I wanted to take home.

    The three of us are chatting and the drunken straight friend of mine starts to talk about girls and how huge his dick is. Basically that when he sleeps with a chick, she always comes back. That sometimes when he flirts with a girl and the idea of hooking up comes into play, he'll sometimes just grab their hand and stick it down his pants and pretty much watch the amazement on their faces.

    I know he's not talking shit, because I know at least one chick he's hooked up with. The guy is huge.

    Anyway, after he leaves, I end up getting my way and hooking up with the gay guy I had my sights set on. We get to his place. The guy has a fucking HUGE penis. Unreal. Really skinny guy with a thick, hard, long third leg. I'm jerking him with two hands while I suck on the tip of his junk and even though I'm enjoying the moment, in the back of my mind, it gets me how completely emasculated I am in his presence. And in the presence of him and my straight friend earlier at the bar.

    How I don't measure up in the way I want to--I need to--to compete in the dating game. How I live in a city full of big dicks, exist amongst a race full of people with big dicks, and yet I don't have one.

    Even worse, I feel like a size queen for salivating over the size of his dick so much, but if he sent me a text at like 3 in the morning, I know I'd go running to his place for a second helping without hesitation. A mess.

    Topics of big dicks always seem to come up in conversations. Not because the people I hang out are that shallow, but sexual discussions come into play and girls always mention which guys they think have big dicks or not. I'm always silent. Afraid to even talk. Avoiding the discussion. Hoping the conversation changes into something else that allows me to open my mouth with confidence.

    A lot of you all know about my struggles with depression. A week ago, I had one of those days where I woke up on the wrong side of the bed (or basically the wrong side of life) and within hours of being awake, all I could think about is how better it would be if I got hit by a bus or shot dead. I looked at my life and all the things that have gone wrong and if it was possible to right the ship.

    I responded to this feeling by writing myself a set of rules to abide by, set to make my life more enjoyable and rewarding. One of those rules? "Focus not on what you can't change, but what you can."

    I've really been trying. But there is not one day that goes by when I'm not saddened by not having a big dick like so many other men out there. I try not to think about it, but it's an unfortunate truth that won't go away.

    Today, I actually signed up for a free consultation for surgical procedures. It seems a bit much, I'll probably gawk at the price and not go through with it. But at this point, I need to try to do something to rectify the problem. :/

    For other members with this issue: how do you cope?

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    Re: Coping With A Small Penis...

    Most guys are average. I've had good sex with guys that had small dicks. I'm not talking baby dick which is like less than 2 inches, I've run into 3 of those at various cruising places in my younger years. Don't get an operation, there really is none to make it bigger. There is one to make it look longer when it is limp, but it will be the same size when hard. Just be glad you were not born (transsexual) a girl who wants to be a man. I think a lot of average 5 to 6 inch guys are insecure and think they are small when they aren't. I remember this cute guy at a bar and he seemed really cool and my friend told me had a really small dick, so obviously he's confident. Who know what small is, he's a little guy with a big one.
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    I've always been self conscious about the size of my dick. I wouldn't say small, but right in the average range. I too have spent a lot of time in the past thinking about it. I don't anymore, because there is nothing you can do about it. I would cancel that appointment with a surgeon, and think about all the other great assets you may posses. Your dick is not you, anymore than the size of your nose and how big your ears are. As I got older my cock became less important. I hope you find someone who likes and loves you for who you are and not how big your cock is....
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    FYI, Beachguy, widening is what I would be going for. I've seen a lot of penises in life. When it comes to girth, I'm easily in the bottom 3 percentile. And I hate that. My length is fine as is.

    Quote Originally Posted by FPNY View Post
    I hope you find someone who likes and loves you for who you are and not how big your cock is....
    I get all this, but... sometimes it's fun to not be liked for your personality.

    Thanks for your words.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheFallenAsexual View Post
    FYI, widening is what I would be going for. I've seen a lot of penises in life. When it comes to girth, I'm easily in the bottom 3 percentile.
    I think they can inject fat but that's temporary. Just find a guy with a tight asshole and you will be fine. I've had good sex with guys with skinny dicks too. Really thick dicks are uncomfortable, I prefer length to thickness.
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    man, first things first. DON'T do a penis enlargement surgery. you might losing your dick. be happy that you have a dick that works because there's some folks that have been unlucky. it may not be perfect BUT you still have a dick. you need to stop beating yourself up. you're a loveable person. just wish you see the good things in yourself as what other people see in you. (that's some advice i should be telling myself too because i'm my biggest enemy where i shit on myself on a daily basis. i sound like an ass helping you help yourself when i can't even do it for me so feel free to laugh at what i said.)

    me, i don't have a large member or at least that's what i think. i don't have huge girth, my member is small as fuck when it's limp where it looks like a baby dick, and when i'm long, my shit is like a skinny pencil. you can use one hand to do the trick to jerk me off. haha but what can i do besides just live with it. besides, there's folks that might disagree and think i have a big dick and some folks that might agree that i have a small dick. at the end of the day, i'm the owner of my dick and despite whatever someone might think, i love my dick. i'm not going to beat myself up about it all the time or go like "oh man, i have a small dick". at times, it happens where i have moments like you where i hate myself and i want to die BUT at the same time, how would i manage. i'm NOT a big dick dude or whoever, i have my own dick to worry about as this is my body and this is what i have to deal with the rest of my life. i accept my dick for what it is.

    i haven't had sex either and if someone doesn't like my dick size or thinks it's not good enough or wants to reject me because of it, they can go ahead and leave. i'll live.
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    I've seen your dick, and quite frankly, you don't have anything to worry about. You're a great deal larger then the majority of people. Be thankful for what you do have.

    Say you do get the operation. Let's optimistically say it goes great and it's everything you hoped for. Do you really want guys who are only attracted to you for the size of your junk? What if the operation goes badly? What if things... move... after healing and you're stuck with a cock that looks like a horror movie prop?

    One of the great things about being gay is if you don't like your own penis, you can always go out and borrow someone else's.
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    I very much doubt other people in your life are judging you as harshly as you yourself are. You've stated many times that you've got friends, and have had many partners. That doesn't sound like someone who's unpopular.

    Maybe you're placing too much emphasis on your sexual performance. I'm sure your hook-ups are more than satisfied and have no complaints.

    Many people on here (not just me) have given you positive comments on your appearance, and I can't imagine your personality is SO terrible and offputting as you're thinking it is. Would you say you lack self-esteem? That would be odd as I've always imagined you to be super-confident.

    Hope everyone's positive feedback helps you and that your depression eases over time.

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    Thanks for the words, guys. I don't want someone who wants me "just for my penis," but the idea that such a thing could even be possible is alluring. Or the idea that it keeps a fuck buddy around longer. It's not always fun being the guy who is liked for his personality.

    Borg, keep in mind that I have never shared an erect photo on this site and never will. I'm content with how I look flaccid, but that doesn't tell the entire story. If anything, it's misleading.

    CG, I have a great deal of confidence in social situations and meeting new people. But there is that awful lingering truth that I don't feel I measure up to other men (both figuratively and literally). Perhaps my penis is just the physical manifestation of what I've already thought of myself.

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    Re: Coping With A Small Penis...

    Quote Originally Posted by TheFallenAsexual View Post
    sometimes it's fun to not be liked for your personality.
    I understand this feeling.

    Having someone love and desire your body is just as equally satisfying as having someone to love your personality.

    Anyway, don't get the surgery. One possible way to achieved a bigger penis is to lose some weight. Apparently, penis length gets affected by body fat. Even the guy you described was skinny. Worth a shot.

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    I don't see the point of enlarging your dick just to compare and seemingly compete. Do you know how to fuck first? Are you better as a top or a bottom? Will it effect your personality to do so? Do you know if it carries any risks, is it something you'll have to keep doing or is it permanent?

    I understand the feeling completely of wanting to be desired, lusted after, and, I guess having what some would call a "large" dick means I really can't give you too much advice from your point of view. All I can say is, it gets boring - guys don't (usually) stick around when the first thing they notice is you're larger than life down there but have nothing else they want. Work on your body til you desire you. Keep your personality. Learn to work with what you have.
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    I'm a firm believer in it's not the cock but what you do with it.

    the best top I've ever been with was only about 3-4", but if he texted me at 3 am to "hang out," I'd probably run to him. meanwhile, I've been with guys that were 7-8" and fun to look at, but awful in bed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheFallenAsexual View Post
    Thanks for the words, guys. I don't want someone who wants me "just for my penis," but the idea that such a thing could even be possible is alluring. Or the idea that it keeps a fuck buddy around longer. It's not always fun being the guy who is liked for his personality.

    Borg, keep in mind that I have never shared an erect photo on this site and never will. I'm content with how I look flaccid, but that doesn't tell the entire story. If anything, it's misleading.

    CG, I have a great deal of confidence in social situations and meeting new people. But there is that awful lingering truth that I don't feel I measure up to other men (both figuratively and literally). Perhaps my penis is just the physical manifestation of what I've already thought of myself.
    In real life, and especially on the internet, I've seen a LOT of cocks... you're still working with more flaccid then a lot of guys are erect. Tell you what, if you're willing, post some erect pix in the Amateur Forum, and see what they say about it.

    Say I'm right, and 50-100 guys say they love it - would that change your opinion?
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    Quote Originally Posted by SLOPPYSECONDS View Post
    has sleep ova with a bunch nice gay folk ans they
    slop ya with wuggys
    alway good talk it
    cheer up

    thankyou
    Exactly this. From what I've read you've never had a problem getting guys to sleep with you, and were even on your knees servicing a hung guy who didn't reject you because of your size, so why do you feel this way? Cheer up indeed.

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    Wow - I hate to say it but this is bordering on obsession. You cannot substantially change what you have. Enjoy it for what it is instead of engaging in endless comparisons that will only make you feel bad. I wish I had a billion dollars, an IQ of 3000, a harmonious family with MORE people in it like MORE siblings and so on...

    Count your blessings in your life and in proportion the penis issue will indeed be "small".

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    A bunch of points.

    * I notice that in your story, the guy didn't kick you out of bed for not having as huge a dick as his. (If he had, you probably would've mentioned it.) Guys with huge dicks KNOW they have huge dicks. They don't think everybody is the same league as them. They're aware that there's about a 98% chance that the guy is going to be smaller than them. Chances are, he loved the attention you slathered on him. Hopefully, he gave you some as well.

    * There do exist guys who insist on their partners having dicks of a certain size. You know what they do? They ask beforehand. They don't go to bed with a guy hoping for the best, and then kicking them out (or acting horribly disappointed) if they don't measure up. If some guy asks how big your dick is, say "Probably not big enough to entice you", and that'll be the end of that. (Yes, I've had to say that.)

    * I can't say I can relate directly, but I can indirectly. I've never considered myself attractive. The few people who have told me they thought of me as such seem to have come to that conclusion after a fair chunk of time. They got to know the gargoyle, decided they liked him, and decided they liked the packaging, if you will.

    What does this mean, overall? It means I shouldn't put myself in beauty contests if I want people to be attracted to me. Because that's playing a game where I'm at a distinct disadvantage. Instead, I stick with getting to know people, and working the gargoyle charm, and some of them eventually decide they kinda like me, and maybe would like to go to bed with me. They probably won't be impressed with my gut or weirdly-shaped ass or body hair in bizarre patterns, necessarily, but then again, they've already decided they want ME. And everything that belongs to me. It's longer than the "walk in, look amazing, walk out with a guy" technique, but that's not what I excel at, so it ain't what I do.

    Similarly, you won't win any "big dick" awards. So the smart move isn't to enter any contests of that sort. Starting an account on "hotandhung.com" (except I guess as an admirer) won't get you any takers. Instead, keep doing what you're doing. Meet up with people, click with them in ways that DO lead to you taking them to bed, and then take it from there. Will they be ecstatic at your less-than-impressive cock? Probably not. The same way that people don't go apeshit over my weird-looking ass. My partners might idly wish for a perfectly-sculpted ass, the same way yours might idly wish for a bigger cock on you. That doesn't mean they're horribly disappointed. They're there having sex with you - that should tell you all you need to know.

    When I go to bed with somebody, I take everything off. Not just my socks and underwear, but my expectations and insecurities. I'm not there to work through my issues. I'm there to have hot man-on-man time. And I'm not going to do that if I'm always wondering if he's turned off by my stomach hair or receding hair line. I assume he's there because he wants to do the hot man-on-man thing, and so let's get to it already.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loki81 View Post
    the best top I've ever been with was only about 3-4", but if he texted me at 3 am to "hang out," I'd probably run to him. meanwhile, I've been with guys that were 7-8" and fun to look at, but awful in bed.
    Same here. Guys with big cock sometimes have no clue how to use their tool especially when they are horny and didn't realise they are hurting the receiver. I admit, it is fun to look and hold it but it gets boring afterwards

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    EVERYONE doesn't have a huge dick, I suppose the majority of the people you have encountered do, otherwise you wouldn't be writing this post. To hear of your despair over this both saddens, and unsettles me. You are who you are, and you should love yourself regardless. Who cares about your dick size? Rock it! Be confident, that's all you can do, and if anyone comes around and can't cope--I say "FUCK 'EM," no pun intended.

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    On the other hand, some guys with giant penises are really good in bed, know what they're doing, it's fun for all involved, and having a bigger penis than average is just kind of a neat feature that would make the experience different from an average penis.

    But a dick with a bend in it might be just as good for creating a unique sensation. You can't say it's any one thing like size or shape or technique.

    If I were the karma fairy, I'd have you wake up tomorrow with the biggest penis on JUB, and then on Friday I'd have you meet your perfect dream guy who is totally into you. But I'd make him not even notice your giant new dick, and while he was busy shooting cum over his head from how much you turn him on in bed, he'd say "Your eyes push me over the edge…I could cum just looking in your eyes."

    And then I'd dare you to tell him he was wrong.
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    You have to OWN your own values.

    You used the term "shallow" as a disclaimer, but then you validated the shallow values.

    BELIEVE your own values.

    BELIEVE that it IS shallow to devalue anyone due to his penis size, because it IS.

    If you aren't contradicting the scuttlebutt around you that reduces the assessment of a man to his penis size, then you are part of the problem.

    I'm not chiding. I'm telling you what you already know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hard-up1 View Post
    You have to OWN your own values.

    You used the term "shallow" as a disclaimer, but then you validated the shallow values.

    BELIEVE your own values.

    BELIEVE that it IS shallow to devalue anyone due to his penis size, because it IS.

    If you aren't contradicting the scuttlebutt around you that reduces the assessment of a man to his penis size, then you are part of the problem.

    I'm not chiding. I'm telling you what you already know.


    I just had an 'a-ha' moment.

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    Just saying, I have sucked and gotten fucked by 100's of men of all lengths and girths.
    It wasn't about the girth or length.
    It was about the quality of sex.

    Girth and length doesn't matter.

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    I wanted to post "you don't have sex with the penis; you have sex with the man" and wondered it was too borderline Oprah, full-on corny.

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    You were listening to some girl who may have not been telling the truth. I rely on what Borg says.

    The porn industry and guys willing to be nude of the internet are not small guys.

    If you want to see some reality, go to a nude beach, but then again, guys with small cocks may not be as willing to show themselves in public, but there are people who dont care.

    Be thankful that you dont have a micro penis.

    I would wait until a surgery is good enough the way boob jobs have gotten better over the past 20 years but then again there are guys who can tell who are fake.

    My stitches came out during my circumcision and it left me with a bump on my cock. A guy can feel that when he is sucking me off. I have photos. I could get it fixed but I would hardly trust anyone because accidents happen and it could mess up my cock.

    I just had an 'a ha' moment. Ive never responded good to blow jobs. WOULD YOU LIKE TO HAVE THAT? iLL TRADE YOU. I realise that my 'scarring' on my cock might be hindering my enjoyment of getting my cock sucked.
    And to justify that thought, I was in Stanley Park at night and got a blow job and I came in the guy's mouth and I didnt want to. He wantd me to. I couldnt see his face and he couldnt see my cock. Oh God, is that why I cant enjoy blow jobs

    or is it the fact I think Im going to meet some weirdo and he will bite it off. (Laugh now, most people do when I say that ;-)

    Many of us would like bigger cocks, nicer bodies but unless you are genetically gifted that might not happen (although you can change your body and how it looks)


    OK, so here is what I did . . .

    Took photo of my cock, when I pull down my underwear. It is small. But I know it gets bigger.
    Ill place these photos in my album 2 which Ill keep there for awhile.
    So I have this weird bumpy surface on the under side of my cock
    You will see that it look like a piece of skin was pulled over and fused to my cock

    The mysterious 'tag'. Ill call it a tag because I think we have heard of skin tags since that product came out.
    I can maneuver and pull this piece of 'something' from my cock. It looks like a little tag for lack of a better word
    The final photo shows it removed and my tweezers for comparison.

    I have some opening where I wormed it way out of and then it comes off. It doesnt hurt when I take it off. But I will be able to do that again in about a month. Why? I dont know. I dont know what it is.


    But I know when a guy is sucking me off - and I never respond good to blowjobs - except for that guy who stood within the hollow of a tree. Is that why I dont respond to blowjobs or is it my 'biting theory'

    You say you have a small penis. I dont respond to blowjobs. Which is worse? You decide. (I dont want people's opinions because I may take it on if everyone says "Id rather have a small penis. I cant IMAGINE not being able to respond to blowjobs

    So my penis secret is out.
    And just to show that I am not that small when I am erect, Ill post a photo I use when Im looking to hook up. I dont know how but my cock looks bigger than it is.
    Ill post a photo of my cock where it doesnt look good and I dont use this photo for that reason. You can see the underside and the bumpy road down there.

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    Botched surgeries on Anderson today. one woman can no longer close her eyes

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    Honestly--being a bottom makes this an issue I'm glad I don't have to worry about. If I was a top, I'd be royally fucked!

    And please don't be so hard on yourself. Not having a "huge" penis is not the be-all-end-all for everyone. As long as it looks good, and gets the job done...that's all it takes for a lot of people. Seriously, work with what you have.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loki81 View Post
    I'm a firm believer in it's not the cock but what you do with it.
    Quoted for truth.

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    I understand the surgery is such that it only makes you bigger when you're flaccid, not when you're erect--which puts it in the category of much ado about nothing. In any case, one of the best, most charismatic boyfriends I've ever had is small, and although he has now settled down with one man, he has had numerous lovers, male and female and is universally adored. I never wanted him to be anything other than what he was, and the sex could hardly have been better no matter what size he was.

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    ^Once again... I'd be going for WIDENING, not lengthening.

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    I just discovered this silicon injector thing - it increases girth 50% and length 200%...only $100000000000000 for it. Paypal accepted


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    Quote Originally Posted by Hard-up1 View Post
    You have to OWN your own values.

    You used the term "shallow" as a disclaimer, but then you validated the shallow values.

    BELIEVE your own values.

    BELIEVE that it IS shallow to devalue anyone due to his penis size, because it IS.

    If you aren't contradicting the scuttlebutt around you that reduces the assessment of a man to his penis size, then you are part of the problem.

    I'm not chiding. I'm telling you what you already know.

    Sorry, but I don't find it shallow to be open and honest with yourself about what you find sexually alluring.

    A lot of folks in this thread have said things like "why does it matter if the guy still slept with you?"

    Why does it matter? It matters to me more if I like myself than if others like me.

    I have one of the thinnest penises amongst every male whose penis I have seen (and I've seen a LOT). Of course I'm unhappy with that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Huntneo(PT) View Post
    Honestly--being a bottom makes this an issue I'm glad I don't have to worry about. If I was a top, I'd be royally fucked!

    And please don't be so hard on yourself. Not having a "huge" penis is not the be-all-end-all for everyone. As long as it looks good, and gets the job done...that's all it takes for a lot of people. Seriously, work with what you have.
    The first paragraph completely agrees with me. The second one basically says "ignore what I just said and believe in yourself instead." So I don't know how to take it.

    Though for the record, in my mind this isn't even a bottom/top thing. Even if I bottomed exclusively, this isn't about how I'd function during sex. This is about how I look naked. How I measure up to others. Or rather, how I don't.

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    As a (mostly) top I don't care much for a size of a guy's dick. I've had 'meh' sex with guys who were incredibly hung, so it's not just about size. I've had some amazing sex with guys who are below average.


    Generally though when people bring up this topic in conversation I totally zone out because they make it seem like a bigger deal than it actually is.

    I just go

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheFallenAsexual View Post
    The first paragraph completely agrees with me. The second one basically says "ignore what I just said and believe in yourself instead." So I don't know how to take it.

    Though for the record, in my mind this isn't even a bottom/top thing. Even if I bottomed exclusively, this isn't about how I'd function during sex. This is about how I look naked. How I measure up to others. Or rather, how I don't.
    Pics or this is a lie

    * preparing tissues for cleaning up the mess*

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    If I'm going to bottom an average/small dick is better for me. Huge dicks are just scary. I think the overall package (body, personality) can make you or break you, so instead of getting dick surgery why don't you go to the gym to get a hot bod and then boost your confidence? Who cares about a big dick when the guy looks bad naked and has an awful personality?

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    OP, I think that you are projecting your own self-admitted (somewhat unwilling, at least that's how you made it sound) emphasis/infatuation with size onto others.

    Frankly I could not give you an accurate guesstimate on most of the guys I've been with, I could probably tell you who was a little longer or a little thicker than someone else, but I definitely couldn't say "joe was 7, mike was 5.5" or anything like that. It didn't matter and I didn't care.

    Size is very, very much like weight. People can get a number stuck in their head like "200 pounds is fat." Is it? If you're tall enough, 200 pounds would look bad. Culturally we REALLY seem to get stuck on numbers, and perceptions of ideal numbers. In books about sex topics or loveline or wherever else, even in forums, the thing you CONSTANTLY hear guys agonizing over is "are they big enough"-- half the time they they proceed to give their size which is well above medical average and the only possible reason they could be running around tearing their hair out worrying about if they "measure up" is because somewhere along the line online exaggerations or self-misreportings have given them the idea that something like 7 or 8" is "good size" and if you're under that you are in trouble.

    It really is just a number, people worth your time are not going to care, size queens aren't worth your time nor are powerbottoms imo because from everything I see/read/hear from them, they seem to care more about big dick and getting it as often as possible than they do about finding the right guy. If anyone makes you feel like you're 3rd pick over your dick size shape or width, move on. Not worth your time.

    I suspect 70 or 80% of this is in you, in terms of you worship size a bit and so your mind assumes most everyone else does too. I couldn't care less as long as someone is of a rather broad range of size/length/shape that will let us have fun.

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    I've never cared about the size of my dick. My bald spot yes, my dick no. I'm average and it suits me fine. I frankly don't care what anyone thinks of it.

    As for surgery - whether lengthening or widening - it's never crossed my mind. I've got no intention of letting anyone near my cock with a scalpel or a syringe filled with fat from arse.

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    I don't know what to tell you, but I do know how you feel. I've felt inferior due to my size for many years. I certainly wouldn't consider surgery, even if I had the money for it (which I don't). The best I can tell you is to accept yourself as you are. Believe me, I DO know how difficult that can be. Hope it all gets better for you.

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    Awwww that kind of makes me sad. Not that you have a small dick but because it effects your mentality so much. Hopefully you can learn to embrace what you've been given. And by that I mean NOT A VAGINA.

    Penis size hardly ever crosses my mind. Maybe those puberty videos back in school really worked, because I always related penises to people, they come in all shapes and sizes. Some of them look perfect, some of them look demented and decrypt, but they all serve the same purpose. A big, white, heavenly projectile of jizz. Doesn't matter what that jizz is used for, just that IT COMES OUT and it is awesome.

    And look at it this way, if you're a thirsty bottom having a small dick is irrelevant. If you're a top, realize there are plenty of guys who prefer small dicks because they can have pornstar sex without the gagging and 30 minutes of stretching and prepping.

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    Re: Coping With A Small Penis...

    Quote Originally Posted by TheFallenAsexual View Post
    The first paragraph completely agrees with me. The second one basically says "ignore what I just said and believe in yourself instead." So I don't know how to take it.

    Though for the record, in my mind this isn't even a bottom/top thing. Even if I bottomed exclusively, this isn't about how I'd function during sex. This is about how I look naked. How I measure up to others. Or rather, how I don't.
    Actually, I was being more lighthearted (and trying to make a joke) in the first part of my post. The second bit was serious. As usual, we don't see eye to eye on something(s).

    I really hate that you feel such angst about this, but I definitely don't begrudge or trivialize it. There are always going to be things about ourselves (physically) that we don't care for, or wish was better. You do what works best for you. Just be careful and do your research before you decide to have any procedures done.

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    Quote Originally Posted by birddog7 View Post
    I don't know what to tell you, but I do know how you feel. I've felt inferior due to my size for many years. I certainly wouldn't consider surgery, even if I had the money for it (which I don't). The best I can tell you is to accept yourself as you are. Believe me, I DO know how difficult that can be. Hope it all gets better for you.
    This was the single most positive post I've ever seen from you. And that means a lot, because I honestly feel you are one of the few who can relate to me on this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by innocentbychoice View Post
    If I'm going to bottom an average/small dick is better for me. Huge dicks are just scary. I think the overall package (body, personality) can make you or break you, so instead of getting dick surgery why don't you go to the gym to get a hot bod and then boost your confidence? Who cares about a big dick when the guy looks bad naked and has an awful personality?
    So I need to toil every day in the gym while every lazy ass sitting around the couch was born with thicker equipment than I have? That hardly seems fair.

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    Life isn't fair.

    And nobody looks good just by being born with a big penis. We all have our pro's and con's.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Geiri85 View Post
    Life isn't fair.

    And nobody looks good just by being born with a big penis. We all have our pro's and con's.
    People in Auschwitz would switch problems with you in a second

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    Quote Originally Posted by Geiri85 View Post
    Life isn't fair.
    And that right there is pretty much why I hate it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheFallenAsexual View Post
    And that right there is pretty much why I hate it.
    Depends on how you look at it


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    Quote Originally Posted by M10000 View Post
    People in Auschwitz would switch problems with you in a second
    I wasn't complaining about life... just telling him that life isn't fair.

    And the whole "be happy because you weren't born in a 3rd world country" type of lines never works on people. It's human nature to compare ourselves mostly with others in the society we live in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BreakTheIce View Post
    Depends on how you look at it

    Optimism doesn't make life fair.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheFallenAsexual View Post
    Optimism doesn't make life fair.
    It makes the unfairness hurt less.

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