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    Depression

    How do you beat depression over nasty breakup? I've tried to go out and do fun things with my friends, but my depression just creeps back in especially when I am by myself like now or when I am in bed either waking up or falling asleep at night.

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    Depression is one of those things that is different for everyone. Some people respond well to counseling, others need medication. Most people generally have a variety of the two. They say that petting dogs helps as does exercise. Try all of those things and you'll eventually find one that works for you.

    When I am depressed I purposefully isolate myself and the people that are important in my life know the signs and they know that my not contacting them has to do with me and nothing to do with them.

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    Re: Depression

    Have you tried going for long walks ?

    I know it might sound a little trite, but just getting out of the house and mixing with other people in the neighbourhood will help.
    "You may only be one person to the world, but you may also be the world to one person"
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    Does watch porn and wank it off work ?
    That's what i do often, wank if off.


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    It really takes time love, I just hung around on JUB to get my mind off of him, Bender is right about getting out, you'll come around.

    I'll tell you what, tonight I went out and I saw my ex, he had hurt me so bad, but I felt nothing at all, no pain or anger, just nothing. You'll be there someday too, just know that everything heals with time if you let yourself heal.

    Best wishes to you.

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    Re: Depression

    Well develop and use your social circle (ie. friends) to your advantage. Counseling is a good idea also. Drugs are as usual a last resort or at best an adjunct therapy.
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    Re: Depression

    I am thinking about adopting a dog ... I always love a dog and been wanting to get one.

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    Re: Depression

    Quote Originally Posted by cgymike View Post
    Well develop and use your social circle (ie. friends) to your advantage. Counseling is a good idea also. Drugs are as usual a last resort or at best an adjunct therapy.
    My friends have been very supportive and very helpful throughout this tough time. They always check how I am feeling, etc. Been going to counseling as well. I guess I need to find ways to get myself busy all the time and not think about this stuff.

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    If you like dogs, find a a shelter to volunteer in or some other place to volunteer in with people where you socialize more. Helping others or doing hobbies you like really distracts you from the same pattern of thought that causes you depressive moods. I had bouts of depressive stages that I manage to deal with through changing or expanding circle of people that I interact with. I also volunteer playing music at nursing homes on weekends with a small band which really changes my spirit.

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    I too am just learning how much depression hurts, physically as well as mentally. If you feel it's lasting longer than necessary, seek professional help.
    Inspired - but too tired.

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    Get a hobby and pursue your passions.
    Getting a dog is also good. I like huskies...
    You should get one!

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    Dogs are a commitment so make sure that you can invest the time and effort into one of the little fuzzballs before deciding on buying/adopting one. They really can be like young children as far as their needs go.

    I have dealt with feeling 'blue' and depressed on and off for most of my life. I think that after a point you recognize what it is and learn yourself well enough to deal with it. I would recommend making or producing something. Try writing a song, or painting, photography, etc. Artistic mediums can absorb your emotions and reflect them in your work and they are also distracting because you have to invest time to do them correctly. Teach yourself a new skill in whatever field you're interested in. Do something to add value to yourself. Laying around feeling down will be a waste of time at the end of day.


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    Go find a yoga class, and just do it once. I bet you will find yourself out of your depression for the time being. If you are open minded, the practice of being mindful and accepting of your problem can really help (i.e., noticing that your depression over your breakup, accepting that this is how you feel, and letting it go). Easier said than done, but through the process (such as in yoga), it's possible to isolate your problem and treat it as something separate from your body rather than as part of your identity (I have depressing thoughts vs. I AM a depressed person). When you separate from your problem, it can suddenly become that much lighter for you.

    I'm training to be a therapist/counselor, and I recommend seeking this kind of help if you are unable to get out of it on your own (by creating your own distractions, talking with friends, participating in activities). Your problem is probably much more detailed than what you have described, so having that non-judging, open person to help you explore and find your way out could really help.

    I agree with what is being said in this thread about medication: if this is an isolated incident and not something that permeates through your life on a cyclical basis, then medication is going to be overkill. From what you are describing, it seems to be a situational problem and not a mental health one, although this is up to you to decide.

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    Re: Depression

    Im no doctor but ive had problems with depression. For me it was medication - it was amazing!

    exercise is supposed to help as its cbt.

    speak to your doctor though.
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