Messed around with straight friend

[swimmerboy52]

Hey guys! This is my first post, and I really need some advice.

Just some background, I'm a college student, and I'm in a fraternity with 50 of my closest guy friends. I'm openly gay, and all of my brothers know that and accept me. My freshman year, I roomed with this guy, and we became really good friends and we joined the same fraternity.

Last night, I went to a house party with a group of my friends (not including this guy), and drank wayyyyyyy too much. I ended up blacking out, and waking up in my former roommate's room at the fraternity house. I was sleeping on his bed, and he was sleeping on the futon. We were both shirtless in our underwear. We woke up about the same time, and we talked for a little bit before I started to get up to go back to my room. When I stood up, I realized I was still a little bit drunk from the night before, and fell on top of my friend. I didn't want to move, and we were both laughing, so I just moved a bit, and laid behind him, so we were spooning.

Another thing about this guy is that we are both very touchy-feely. It had never been anything sexual though. Just friendly.

Anyway, so we were spooning and talking, and I started to rub my hands over his body. At first it was just friendly, but then I started making it a bit sexual. I started playing with his nipples and running my hand through the little bit of hair on his stomach. He didn't tell me to stop, the conversation just kept going as normal. After about 20 minutes of this, I laid my lips on his back, and laid my hand on his leg. After a few minutes, I moved my hand to his crotch and rubbed his dick over his pants. He didn't really do anything, he just said "Whoa, dude. I don't know." I said, "It's fine, dude. Don't worry." He said, "I don't know. I'm not really into this." I said, "It'll be fine. I just want to see it." He said, "Fine, but go shut the door." I got up and shut and locked the door. I laid back down behind him, and starting rubbing his dick a little more vigorously. It was already semi-hard, and it just got a bit harder. I pulled it out, and started jerking him off. After about five minutes, he said, "Dude, I'm not really into this." So I stopped for a few minutes. About five minutes later, I started again. I went for another five or so minutes before he grabbed my hand and said, "I don't think so, dude." I stopped, and put his dick away for him. We laid there for another 30 minutes or so just talking. He assured me that he had never been with a guy and that he had never even considered it.

The rest of the day went on normally, and he doesn't act any differently around me. He actually is a bit more open with me now. He changes in front of me, and will walk around my room naked.

I guess the real question is, if he truly didn't like it, wouldn't he have stopped me earlier? Or wouldn't he have acted differently around me? I have had a crush on him since I met him, and this is the first time I acted upon it. He swears he's never considered being with a guy, but I jerked him off for a good 10 minutes. I was just wondering what other people thought of the situation.

Thanks for the help guys!

[Georgiadude]

I'd say you had some fun and to just leave it as is. he said three times he wasn't interested in anything more. If he decides to take it further then let him make the move. He knows your gay and interested. He's comfortable around you but that's probably as far as he's going to go. rather than push him and lose a friend I'd enjoy the view.

Steven.

[Newmercedes]

Hey guys! This is my first post, and I really need some advice.

Just some background, I'm a college student, and I'm in a fraternity with 50 of my closest guy friends. I'm openly gay, and all of my brothers know that and accept me. My freshman year, I roomed with this guy, and we became really good friends and we joined the same fraternity.

Last night, I went to a house party with a group of my friends (not including this guy), and drank wayyyyyyy too much. I ended up blacking out, and waking up in my former roommate's room at the fraternity house. I was sleeping on his bed, and he was sleeping on the futon. We were both shirtless in our underwear. We woke up about the same time, and we talked for a little bit before I started to get up to go back to my room. When I stood up, I realized I was still a little bit drunk from the night before, and fell on top of my friend. I didn't want to move, and we were both laughing, so I just moved a bit, and laid behind him, so we were spooning.

Another thing about this guy is that we are both very touchy-feely. It had never been anything sexual though. Just friendly.

Anyway, so we were spooning and talking, and I started to rub my hands over his body. At first it was just friendly, but then I started making it a bit sexual. I started playing with his nipples and running my hand through the little bit of hair on his stomach. He didn't tell me to stop, the conversation just kept going as normal. After about 20 minutes of this, I laid my lips on his back, and laid my hand on his leg. After a few minutes, I moved my hand to his crotch and rubbed his dick over his pants. He didn't really do anything, he just said "Whoa, dude. I don't know." I said, "It's fine, dude. Don't worry." He said, "I don't know. I'm not really into this." I said, "It'll be fine. I just want to see it." He said, "Fine, but go shut the door." I got up and shut and locked the door. I laid back down behind him, and starting rubbing his dick a little more vigorously. It was already semi-hard, and it just got a bit harder. I pulled it out, and started jerking him off. After about five minutes, he said, "Dude, I'm not really into this." So I stopped for a few minutes. About five minutes later, I started again. I went for another five or so minutes before he grabbed my hand and said, "I don't think so, dude." I stopped, and put his dick away for him. We laid there for another 30 minutes or so just talking. He assured me that he had never been with a guy and that he had never even considered it.

The rest of the day went on normally, and he doesn't act any differently around me. He actually is a bit more open with me now. He changes in front of me, and will walk around my room naked.

I guess the real question is, if he truly didn't like it, wouldn't he have stopped me earlier? Or wouldn't he have acted differently around me? I have had a crush on him since I met him, and this is the first time I acted upon it. He swears he's never considered being with a guy, but I jerked him off for a good 10 minutes. I was just wondering what other people thought of the situation.

Thanks for the help guys!

Freaking hot story. I did play with my hot roommate in the past. Huge nice Cock. Except he moved out a few days later after I begged him I can see his Nice Big Cock once a month. He was not only my great roommate but He was my best Friend. Still miss him every single day. Ur Friend is way open minded than mine.

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I'd say you had some fun and to just leave it as is. he said three times he wasn't interested in anything more. If he decides to take it further then let him make the move. He knows your gay and interested. He's comfortable around you but that's probably as far as he's going to go. rather than push him and lose a friend I'd enjoy the view.

Steven.

You right Steven.

[racer2438]

well no means no, given ur both a bit still drunk is why he went as far as he did. I would not push ur luck again as it may affect ur friendship.. and in the end is it really worth losing him as a friend.

it was more like he kinda did--kinda did not want to. he decided he did not want to any more and said so ..

respect his wishes...

[seven2go]

So far it was a win-win.......you got to feel him up and play with his dick, he experienced something new and you're still buds........leave it at that....... .......unless he decides he wants more.......

[innocentbychoice]

Don't push it further. You already went veeery far for the first time. If he wants it let him approach you, don't be a creep. If he never approaches you it means he really doesn't want it so just be happy you got the chance to do something in the first place.

[muggins123]

Did you get to see his dick after you locked the door? That's a great story. One of the best in awhile.

[123kid]

Doesn't seem to me he is interested.......I would leave it alone if you still want him to be your friend.

[swimmerboy52]

Yeah, I think I'm just gonna leave it be. I think what was probably going through his head was, "I've never done this before. I guess I'll give it a try" and he realized that it wasn't for him.

I figure that he knows I'm interested, so if he wants to experiment further, he knows where to find me...haha I'm just glad that he doesn't act any differently towards me.

[swimmerboy52]

Yes, I did get to see his dick. Not gonna lie, it was a pretty good size...haha after I stopped jerking him off, we talked about other guys in the house's dicks. We have group showers. I never shower with anyone else, but he always does, so he's seen most of the guy's dicks. He told me that if I really wanted to hook up with guys in the house, I should just be more assertive. I don't think I'm gonna take that advice though...haha I don't want to ruin any of the great friendships I have made.

[seven2go]

^ Wow.........the world needs a bunch more friends like him....... .......what a cool dude.......

[swimmerboy52]

He truly is a great guy. I am very, VERY lucky to have a friend like him...

[jonesy]

My best friend is straight too. Sometimes when I help him with some school work or buy him dinner, he would get undressed and let me see him walk around his room naked while I masturbate. We've recently decided to watch straight porn together so he could j/o too. It's a win-win situation I guess.

[seven2go]

^ Keep talking and make it a win-win for all of us.......

[Laufey]

He's obviously not interested.

[youfiad]

[QUOTE=swimmerboy52;8543004] "Whoa, dude. I don't know." I said, "It's fine, dude. Don't worry." He said, "I don't know. I'm not really into this." I said, "It'll be fine. I just want to see it." He said, "Fine, but go shut the door." I got up and shut and locked the door. I laid back down behind him, and starting rubbing his dick a little more vigorously. It was already semi-hard, and it just got a bit harder. I pulled it out, and started jerking him off. After about five minutes, he said, "Dude, I'm not really into this." So I stopped for a few minutes. About five minutes later, I started again. I went for another five or so minutes before he grabbed my hand and said, "I don't think so, dude." I stopped, and put his dick away for him. We laid there for another 30 minutes or so just talking. He assured me that he had never been with a guy and that he had never even considered it.[/QUOTE]

That whole part seemed awkward. He doesn't like it, yet he has a boner? The idea of getting any sexual action from a girl doesn't make me hard, yet, he was.. Interesting, or bullshit.

[bankside]

Sometimes people have a line they don't want you to cross, but they aren't very good about telling you where the line is until you cross it. Or maybe they don't even really know where the line is and they're too chicken to think about it until it is crossed.

If he thinks its fun to spoon with you, and touch each other, and he likes it and wants it to happen, he should know that he is erasing the line and making it difficult for you to see. But he didn't know that, and he only decided you were crossing the line after the fact. He could have been really shitty about it, even though it was his fault. But he wasn't, so I would let it go.

One thing is very clear: he knows where you draw the line, and it should be obvious to him that he could go further with you if he wanted to. Leave that up to him. I can easily see this guy changing his mind about what he is comfortable with and trying more stuff with you. But that is his problem. He told you to stop. You did. You never told him to stop. The ball is in his court.

If he wants to try something with you but he's too chicken, it's his loss. If he wants to try something with you, he has to make the move. Until then you know where he stands and he knows where you stand.

[Laufey]

That whole part seemed awkward. He doesn't like it, yet he has a boner? The idea of getting any sexual action from a girl doesn't make me hard, yet, he was.. Interesting, or bullshit.

It's just a physical response from the touch. You can easily make a guy hard by rubbing his penis even if he has no sexual interest in you. Just like straight guys can make themselves hard by rubbing it.

[AlmondMilk]

He does sound like a good guy. It's a good thing you didn't pursue it again.

[youfiad]

Physical response to the touch? Maybe I'm a little weird, because I don't usually get hard unless I'm turned on. I especially didnt' get hard when I was gettingi lap dances by girls or whatever else.

I do want to add that I do agree with the other posters -- don't initiate anything if you want to maintain a healthy friendship. If he starts to persuit you, clarify with him that you want to make sure that your friendship won't be impacted.

[MissAnne]

That whole part seemed awkward. He doesn't like it, yet he has a boner? The idea of getting any sexual action from a girl doesn't make me hard, yet, he was.. Interesting, or bullshit.

I agree with Laufey. It was just a physical response.

He seemed pretty uncomfortable and said that he wasnt interested more than once.

As horrible as it sounds, some women have an orgasm during rape. It doesnt mean that they want it.

[Laufey]

Physical response to the touch?

I can get hard even if I'm not doing, watching or thinking of anything sexual just by rubbing it.

But the younger you are the easier it is.

My cat has actually made me hard when he was doing the whole "pat and purr" thing on my crotch.

[andyspete]

I can get hard even if I'm not doing, watching or thinking of anything sexual just by rubbing it.

But the younger you are the easier it is.

My cat has actually made me hard when he was doing the whole "pat and purr" thing on my crotch.

Is that the first time you've gotten hard from pussy? (Sorry, had to go there!)

[Laufey]

LOL yeah first time

[youfiad]

Is that the first time you've gotten hard from pussy? (Sorry, had to go there!)

You, Sir, win the medal for best comment of the month.

[andyspete]

You, Sir, win the medal for best comment of the month.

Thanks. I will cherish the award.

[genthree]

Given that this is not his thing I think, he did well to be polite on 3 occasions.
Next time he may be sober and you could blow the friendship.
no can mean no.

[GrkGuy187]

What straight guy SPOONS with another guy and touches them etc. ?

[Laufey]

Straight men can get emotional enjoyment from physical touch with other men even if they aren't sexually attracted to the person.

Most men don't really cuddle with other men because they want to "keep their cool" and because of fear of being labeled gay (gender double standard). But they can still get something out of it if they are just manage to be open about it.

[MattClaimer]

I think he's interested in gay sex, with you, or whomever, but I think he's just not able to cross that final line and let another dude make him come. It's not that he's not interested in you I don't think, but that he's just not ready to admit he has gay tendencies.

Totally straight men don't get hard from sexual actions with other men, anymore than totally gay can get hard from stimulation by a woman. If you're not attracted to that gender, whichever it is, you're not going to get hard. In fact, in most cases, it would have quite the opposite affect, i.e. repulsion, disgust, eeeewww, no way, etc.

Men getting sexually aroused by and from the presence/touch of other men, are NOT straight.

And ps - my dick doesn't get hard from just someone touching it or rubbing it. If I'm not attracted to a person and I don't want to do sexual things with them, then my dick is not going to react. Period. The only time I get wood is when I'm ready to get busy with someone, girl or boy. Otherwise, mister softy stays mister softy.

[Cafe69]

Some people really dont understand the meaning of the word NO. No isn't code for. "Keep Trying To Molest Me"

[Durango95]

Your last paragraph is confusing. You say you have a crush on him. That's your deal not his. You ask why didn't he stop you sooner. The real question is why did you continue. If the guy is a real friend why are you pushing this. He may have been patient with you because he didn't know what to do about a "friend" doing this to him. He may have reacted the way he did because he was expecting you to honor his objections. You didn't...just to be clear.

I am much older than you. I've been down this road a few times. I lost a lot of friends in college because of my selfishness, which I constantly justified as experimentation.

I can tell you from personal experience. There are straight guys you can "do". You will probably only do them one time or maybe if you are particularly assertive, a few times and then you are done. The friendship is dead and you have a label. Your trustworthiness is suspect. You aren't invited to parties. You aren't included in a lot of things.

My advice to you is to let this slide. Don't ever bring it up again. Don't tell anyone else, ever. If he is more curious and becomes interested in you he will make the move. You have to remember it is YOUR CRUSH not his.

Remember...nothing is more painful than regret. You are the one that has to decide which will be the regret. Whether it is going to be pushing or not pushing this until you get what you think you want.

[Telstra]

[QUOTE=youfiad;8627940]

"Whoa, dude. I don't know." I said, "It's fine, dude. Don't worry." He said, "I don't know. I'm not really into this." I said, "It'll be fine. I just want to see it." He said, "Fine, but go shut the door." I got up and shut and locked the door. I laid back down behind him, and starting rubbing his dick a little more vigorously. It was already semi-hard, and it just got a bit harder. I pulled it out, and started jerking him off. After about five minutes, he said, "Dude, I'm not really into this." So I stopped for a few minutes. About five minutes later, I started again. I went for another five or so minutes before he grabbed my hand and said, "I don't think so, dude." I stopped, and put his dick away for him. We laid there for another 30 minutes or so just talking. He assured me that he had never been with a guy and that he had never even considered it.[/QUOTE]

That whole part seemed awkward. He doesn't like it, yet he has a boner? The idea of getting any sexual action from a girl doesn't make me hard, yet, he was.. Interesting, or bullshit.

Some penis will get hard easily.
Yep a boner is expect. If he didn't hard, his penis is dysfunctional.

[ski_nxs]

Well said Durango, I have been down that road with the same results.