not sure if this belongs in the Health forum, but here goes..
I don't get hard when I am with guys. I do get hard later, when a guy sucks on me for example, but not otherwise. It is weird. Hot guys who are nice and careful with my dick get me harder faster, guys whom I don't find as hot and who are careless with my penis usually don't even get me hard, maybe half-hard at best if they suck on me.
But for me to top someone for example, is just out of the question -- "the thing don't work down there". It usually doesn't matter how hot a guy is.. maybe the answer is my own head-space or maybe I am OCD about my cock and like it "THIS way" and not any other way, and talk myself out of getting hard subconsciously if things don't go my way, I don't know. I'd like to get hard, but it "not happen" usually.
Why? Out of the many guys I have been with, most guys were hard with anticipation of sex, Before they even took their pants off. I, for a change, usually stay soft, until I get someone to suck on me for a bit and they are doing it right and to my liking. Otherwise I go soft fairly quickly.
Yesterdy, for example, I played with a couple of guys.. they were hard before we started taking our clothes off. I on the other hand stayed soft. They were not careful with my cock and I in the end jacked myself off. I am uncut and I let them pull my foreskin down too far, and let them be rough with my dick. Don't know why I did that, but the fact remains .. I stayed soft, maybe got half-hard a couple of times during the play.
Does anyone else have that same experience? I went to two urologist over time, who both checked my testosterone level and all was fine. I get hard just fine, I jack myself off just fine, so what gives? More so curious if other guys have the same issue.