You tortured me in high school..

[wanker90]

And now you want to request me as a friend on Facebook? I didn't like you two years ago since we graduated, and I'm certainly not gonna like you now? The scars of the torment you inflected are still fresh in my mind.

Have you ever had your former high school bully try and add you on Facebook?

[AshyPhoenix]

No, because the particular guy who bullied me the most died of a drug overdose about a year ago.

[Coward92]

Nope. I handle my issues in real life with cold steel instead of facebook dramas.

I advise you to be as cold as possible.

[CupidBoy]

No, I don't use facebook, why would I want to connect with a bunch of people I don't care about?

[Huntneo(PT)]

Yes...and not only my "bullies", but people who sat by, watched, and laughed as I was called things and treated in such manners I don't even care to remember.

I've posted about this very thing here on JUB several times, so I won't go into it again. I'll just say that I more than understand where you're coming from. High school is a veeeeeeeerrrrrrrryyyyyy sore spot with me. Don't even get me started.

Ignore them. And if you must say anything...just tell them to kick rocks. They are a part of your past, and there's nothing wrong with you wanting to keep them there.

[BENDERBOY]

Not on Facebook and wasn't bullied.

Is he good looking ?

[Coward92]

Yes...and not only my "bullies", but people who sat by, watched, and laughed as I was called things and treated in such manners I don't even care to remember.

I've posted about this very thing here on JUB several times, so I won't go into it again. I'll just say that I more than understand where you're coming from. High school is a veeeeeeeerrrrrrrryyyyyy sore spot with me. Don't even get me started.

Ignore them. And if you must say anything...just tell them to kick rocks. They are a part of your past, and there's nothing wrong with you wanting to keep them there.

I am still amazed by the fact that elementary and high-school creates the most emotionally wounded monsters in the world.
And we do nothing to prevent this from happening. And we are surprised when some kis draws a gun, massacres everyone on sight and kills himself.
Seriously, there should be a brand new class, titled "Respect".

[quasar]

Perhaps he wants to kiss and make up?...

[reone]

I agree with Huntneo. Leave them in the past and give concern to your present and your future. High school helps to shape you, but there's nothing wrong with not carrying it around with you.

[refujiunderground]

i've been fortune enough not to get bullied in high school and anybody that tried to, didn't succeed at all. almost everybody was cool. with the way i came off, i think most folks had to be because they knew that i probably wasn't going to take that at all. especially considering that how pissed off i looked and the thuggish walk i did, i probably would have tried to kill them or shoot the school up. not a fan of facebook either although i have a facebook. rarely on there if at all.

and now you have the power to tell that guy to go fuck himself by rejecting his friend request. who knows. dude is probably gay and is trying to reach out to you for guidance.

[unloadonme]

I don't do Facebook. If I want to keep in touch with someone, I will. If I'm not bothered, I don't need them popping up on Facebook or wherever to remind me what I'm not missing.

[innocentbychoice]

Haven't had a request from my HS bullies but if I had I would ignore them. Fuck them, they don't deserve to be in your life, or to have access to your pictures. NO.

[Telstra]

And now you want to request me as a friend on Facebook? I didn't like you two years ago since we graduated, and I'm certainly not gonna like you now? The scars of the torment you inflected are still fresh in my mind.

Have you ever had your former high school bully try and add you on Facebook?

I don't use facebook.

But is it going to make you feel better if you tell your bully how you were hurt and see their responds.
It is easier to cut them off from facebook friend if they don't change their behavior and say sorry to you.

[LeicsDom]

No, I don't use facebook, why would I want to connect with a bunch of people I don't care about?

Ditto. There is only one guy from school I would give any time to and he will now be unapproachable

[xbuzzerx]

Eh? Why do people act like the only possible use of facebook is to connect with people you don't like?

Maybe there aren't many people offline that you do like? lol.

[justaguy]

I wonder if he's telling you that he has grown up now, and that it's his way of apologising to you in some small way?? Does he realise that he was bullying you? Either way, I can understand the way you feel. And if it was me, I would ignore the request.

[LeicsDom]

I agree with Huntneo. Leave them in the past and give concern to your present and your future. High school helps to shape you, but there's nothing wrong with not carrying it around with you.

I so agree. Why is there such great store nowadays placed on insisting on dragging the past into the present and then bitching about it?
I learned a long time ago to let go of anything and everything that doesn't have a positive impact on my life.
Why should I allow negativity from the past to drag me down?

[oakpope]

It's funny there is no real equivalent in French of 'bully'. There is 'une brute' but it's not a proper translation per se.
I wonder if there are German, Spanish or Italian word for this concept of brutish children that antagonize victims.

[Saybrooke]

I eventually befriended my bullies. But that was before I had a Facebook lol so yeah, a bunch

[Ninja108]

One of the many reasons I left facebook.

[star-warrior]

All the bullies I had at school were in the year above me or two years above, so, no I don't have any to worry about.

You choose what you want in your life, and who you want in it.

[miguelfukt]

Have you heard of forgiveness maybe he wants to apologize to u or maybe he wants to come out to you! I think u should be forgiving and here what he has to say! I was bullied in school and about 8 years after graduated he friended me on MySpace and said he was sorry I forgive him!

[Telstra]

Have you heard of forgiveness maybe he wants to apologize to u or maybe he wants to come out to you! I think u should be forgiving and here what he has to say! I was bullied in school and about 8 years after graduated he friended me on MySpace and said he was sorry I forgive him!

And then hot times after ...

[GregKII]

Nope, but I was never bullied either.

[maxpowr9]

I had a similar situation. Guy bullied me in high school because he had a crush on me and he didn't know how to deal with those feelings. He told me such at the 5-year reunion. I accepted his apology which was extremely tough to do. I kept mum about how what it emotionally and psychologically did to me because I prefer to keep those memories repressed.

[Taz]

I was never bullied at school, But people I had massive. ahem. disagreements with. have since added me on facebook. I accepted, just so they can see how well I'm doing now hahaha.

[mikey3000]

Yes...and not only my "bullies", but people who sat by, watched, and laughed as I was called things and treated in such manners I don't even care to remember.

I've posted about this very thing here on JUB several times, so I won't go into it again. I'll just say that I more than understand where you're coming from. High school is a veeeeeeeerrrrrrrryyyyyy sore spot with me. Don't even get me started.

Ignore them. And if you must say anything...just tell them to kick rocks. They are a part of your past, and there's nothing wrong with you wanting to keep them there.

I can't believe anyone would pick on you. You are too sweet!

Facebook bores the hell out of me, so not bothered. And not bullied much in highschool either. I had people who took care of them if someone tried.

[Keeland]

Have you heard of forgiveness maybe he wants to apologize to u. . . .

Or start it all over again.

[LeicsDom]

I had a similar situation. Guy bullied me in high school because he had a crush on me and he didn't know how to deal with those feelings.

I had that, too. At school he was an asshole but away from school he was always trying to get in my pants.
The thing was, if he had just been straight about what he wanted I would have said yes. But the dichotomy of his behaviour in and out of school made me distrust him.

[Sultan]

I have become facebook friends with people I once disliked; especially from basic training and other military people. Most of them I've patched things up with and just kinda looked past our differences. I've never actually gotten a request from anyone who was a bully to me. I don't keep in contact with anyone like that from my past but I do have a lot of people on facebook friend list who are very small aquantences and I briefly knew, either from work or school. I could count the number of people I consider true friends on one hand. I don't add anyone on facebook that I haven't actually met in person but I have approved friend requests sent by other people to me, who I've never met.

I have had people who were friendly to me in person but have deleted me off their friends list for reasons unknown. With certain women, I've noticed if they're married, they don't really add any male friends unless they're family or something but others have just mysteriously deleted me ....

[innocentbychoice]

I had a similar situation. Guy bullied me in high school because he had a crush on me and he didn't know how to deal with those feelings. He told me such at the 5-year reunion. I accepted his apology which was extremely tough to do. I kept mum about how what it emotionally and psychologically did to me because I prefer to keep those memories repressed.

Wow you let him go very easily. I would've taken the opportunity to tell him EXACTLY how I felt the whole time he did it and make him feel like shit. Ugh I hate bullies.

[maxpowr9]

^It was a high school reunion. It's one of those situations you don't make an ass out of yourself. If I ran into him anywhere else, I probably would have been less forgiving.

[sixthson]

Or start it all over again.

This is what I was thinking, too. Maybe the schoolyard bully is now a cyber bully?

[Telstra]

I have become facebook friends with people I once disliked; especially from basic training and other military people. Most of them I've patched things up with and just kinda looked past our differences. I've never actually gotten a request from anyone who was a bully to me. I don't keep in contact with anyone like that from my past but I do have a lot of people on facebook friend list who are very small aquantences and I briefly knew, either from work or school. I could count the number of people I consider true friends on one hand. I don't add anyone on facebook that I haven't actually met in person but I have approved friend requests sent by other people to me, who I've never met.

I have had people who were friendly to me in person but have deleted me off their friends list for reasons unknown. With certain women, I've noticed if they're married, they don't really add any male friends unless they're family or something but others have just mysteriously deleted me .... :(

Maybe some people just use facebook for sex hookups.
If no sex, no contact LOL And they won't add their friends or family either.

[BFizzle]

I was the tormentor in high school, so.

[Gimmecat]

No, I don't use facebook, why would I want to connect with a bunch of people I don't care about?

Good point.

[weinerslav]

Well, I have a facebook account just to... I don't know, I never go there anyway, and when I go I always have a bunch of red numbers everywhere, people spend too much time facebooking!

Fortunately never had real bullies but I had a few pet hates, of course I wouldn't add them, I only show the essential to non friends so they can damn their lives because I'm actually awesome ahah. I wouldn't add them because of any hidden agenda they may have, I really don't want to show too much to that people.


EDIT: I must confess that I like to visit their profiles when I get together with my friends, we all point and laugh about their sad little lives lol (that's why I don't add them LOL)

[Telstra]

Well, I have a facebook account just to... I don't know, I never go there anyway, and when I go I always have a bunch of red numbers everywhere, people spend too much time facebooking!

Fortunately never had real bullies but I had a few pet hates, of course I wouldn't add them, I only show the essential to non friends so they can damn their lives because I'm actually awesome ahah. I wouldn't add them because of any hidden agenda they may have, I really don't want to show too much to that people.


EDIT: I must confess that I like to visit their profiles when I get together with my friends, we all point and laugh about their sad little lives lol (that's why I don't add them LOL)

ummm thats not cool.
That is similar to bully.

[MissAnne]

Its kind of weird how people that you went to HS with like to request you on Facebook, even though they never bothered to talk to you all four years that you went to school together.

Ive never had a bully contact me.

Thats one of the reasons that I want to go to my HS reunion. I just want to show everyone how much Ive grown and that Im not that timid, shy girl anymore.

[weinerslav]

ummm thats not cool.
That is similar to bully.

Well, not exactly, since they never know... hence the pet hate... It was all about being fake and badmouthing you on your back, even if you know eventually it happens, some people always take it too far so, it's a little vendetta, not the most mature thing to do, I know, but eventually it makes me feel good that who's on top now is me.

[AlmondMilk]

I was somewhat bullied in middle school. Nothing physical luckily. The person kind of grew up in high school. Never got a facebook request.

[Huntneo(PT)]

I was the tormentor in high school, so.

awww...are you proud?

[Huntneo(PT)]

Thats one of the reasons that I want to go to my HS reunion. I just want to show everyone how much Ive grown and that Im not that timid, shy girl anymore.

ha...I'd never do that.

I would end up being escorted off the premises not long after getting there.

Its kind of weird how people that you went to HS with like to request you on Facebook, even though they never bothered to talk to you all four years that you went to school together.

OK!? lol

Excuse me...who the fuck are you?

I can't believe anyone would pick on you. You are too sweet!

thanks for that.

Unfortunately, being sweet was one of the things that made you a target. If I was half the person then that I am now, things would have been much different. Then again--I probably would have been suspended half of the time as well.

[counterspade]

i was never really bullied in high school. occasionally someone would crack a joke, but i shrugged it off. i never disliked anyone in high school, either. i guess i'm too lax to make enemies. if they feel threatened by me, i don't feel the same. i'm not one to back down from someone who is trying to overpower me in that type of situation.

when it comes to people adding me on facebook, i usually decline them now. i just don't care about the bullshit people i went to school with nearly four years ago have to say. some of them i still talk to, but for the most part, screw 'em.

[MoePhoenix7]

Thats one of the reasons that I want to go to my HS reunion. I just want to show everyone how much Ive grown and that Im not that timid, shy girl anymore.

That's the main reason why I eventually relented and allowed the same fuckers who used to bully me and call me "fat", "ugly" and "worthless" follow me now on facebook.

So I can rub it in their faces how hot I am and how FAN-FUCKING-TASTIC my life is compared to theirs.

Karma's my bitch!

[diamondstar]

No one from my past has even looked me up. Thank you Jehovah.

[wilbur33]

I don't want to make light of childhood bullying - I think it's absolutely abhorrent - but the thread topic made me think of this song that I absolutely LOVE:

[Huntneo(PT)]

^ lol that title alone sums it up.

[diamondstar]

A lovely song indeed. "Are you fucking kidding me?" is the question I ask myself everyday with the folks I deal with.

[gamestarp]

People only remember the good times, I think.

Like for instance, the only guy in my small high school who ever beat me up, still keeps trying to friend me. Not just on Facebook. When I see him back in my hometown, he buys drinks, acts like we're friends. He was such an ass in high school, I don't think he knows what a friend is. I think he remembers having a good time rubbing my face in the dirt, and so he likes seeing me now. Who knows.

Also, why do the acquaintances of my younger brother want to be facebook friends with me? He's been dead, god rest his soul, for ten years. I don't know who they are at all! Is there some kind of prize for having the most facebook friends?