Why didn't he wave back?

[wanker90]

This is exactly why I hate making connections with people, because they always end up not liking me. I was walking around campus and ran into this guy from my physics class, so I politely waved at him. He was standing around a group of his friends, and completely blew me off like he didn't see me. Then I start to hear him and his friends snicker as I walk away. I keep beating myself up over it, thinking maybe he didn't see me or maybe they were laughing at something else. But small stuff like that really gets to me because I feel like everyone doesn't like me. I was talking to roommate about it and he thinks I'm overreacting and I need to just say "fuck you!" to people who are assholes. But it's not that easy for me because I want to be liked by everyone. However, I can't seem to get anyone to like me.

[xbuzzerx]

You can't get everyone to like it you. If that's your goal then all you will perceive is failure in your social interactions. You can't please everyone.

[oakpope]

Are you Refuji sockpuppet ?

[star-warrior]

Maturity isn't something everyone has, and being at college is no guarantee for that. Brush their childishness off, and try not to introspect too much, it does nothing for self confidence.

[Telstra]

This is exactly why I hate making connections with people, because they always end up not liking me. I was walking around campus and ran into this guy from my physics class, so I politely waved at him. He was standing around a group of his friends, and completely blew me off like he didn't see me. Then I start to hear him and his friends snicker as I walk away. I keep beating myself up over it, thinking maybe he didn't see me or maybe they were laughing at something else. But small stuff like that really gets to me because I feel like everyone doesn't like me. I was talking to roommate about it and he thinks I'm overreacting and I need to just say "fuck you!" to people who are assholes. But it's not that easy for me because I want to be liked by everyone. However, I can't seem to get anyone to like me.

Maybe you think too much about what other people think of you.
Relax and try to do what you are good at and don't think about others too much.

[refujiunderground]

Are you Refuji sockpuppet ?

the funny thing was i actually was going to write a statement saying that he reminds me a lot about myself.

with that said, mr. wank, i can most definitely relate to what you're saying. you basically want to be accepted and loved just like everybody else. you also are self conscious, don't have confidence, and have low self esteem. i'm happy to see that you basically are aware of the possibilities of why they were laughing and not blaming yourself or putting yourself down in the process. they could have been laughing at something completely unrelated or someone else. that's good.

i've been reading your posts and i see that you mentioned that you have some issues that you were in therapy over. you did try to work with it but you felt that it wasn't doing you any good. i most definitely can relate because i went through the same thing too except without trying the meds, as you've said you did. my guess is that you're trying to manage your issues on your own and you're having a difficult time with doing it. you may have felt yourself being able to manage it BUT then it creeps back on you and before you know it, you're back to where you left off. at times, you'll have people around you telling you that everything is okay, to avoid getting help and etc and they'll make you feel strong or you'll do it yourself where you'll even convince yourself that your problem is who you are.

with that said, i don't know what to tell you because i can't really give you advice as i'm in a situation which is basically 95% mirroring yours. one thing i will tell you is that if you do chose to handle it yourself, you're going to have to work an awful lot harder to overcome your problem and etc because right now, you don't seem that you're doing too well. you said you had an issue with medication so i dunno what to tell you about that. don't mess with it if you don't have to but don't shy away from help if you need it, dude. if you don't get lucky where this goes away on its own, you're going to be stuck going through the same circle basically feeling down in a hole.

[rareboy]

Always smile and say hello to everyone.

It is the gift that everyone deserves.

As far as a wave...maybe your classmate is just too immature to take it for just a friendly greeting.

It isn't that everyone doesn't like you. I think it is that no one really might understand where you are coming from if you don't try to actually engage them in a real conversation.

[Telstra]

Always smile and say hello to everyone.

It is the gift that everyone deserves.

As far as a wave...maybe your classmate is just too immature to take it for just a friendly greeting.

It isn't that everyone doesn't like you. I think it is that no one really might understand where you are coming from if you don't try to actually engage them in a real conversation.

because of your experience.
What would you do if you say hi to the same person afew times but you get a very weak reply (like a non reply)?

[Ram]

Always have the wait for "the first move" rule. I have successfully avoided awkward social meetings using that rule. In fact, I think I may have avoided all social meetings using that rule.

Waving at someone is like moving into your date's flat before the second date. It's too fast. Start with a simple smile or a weak hi. Build it to a strong "hi" and throw in a "what's up/how are you?". Then only can you start waving your hands. After a while, stop with the waving and start with the grunts because that is what close friends do when they meet each other. Then sleep with him and ruin in and fall straight into depression.