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    Sorry to hear about what has happened, but I'm proud of what you have done.
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    Good for you, and I'm so glad you have great friends to help you with this hard time. Most probably you will soon have someone else on your mind and your heart, someone who will be worthier of you.
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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    I am doing house cleaning right now ... and I am throwing away EVERYTHING that reminds me of him, from funny cheese grater he gave me to shampoo that we bought together. Darn, I really love how that shampoo smells!!
    Stop with the childish stupidity. Throwing things out that he gave you is a tantrum.
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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    The healing process takes time, but I'm confident thar you'll get over him, and find someone worthy of you! Good luck xoxox

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    Quote Originally Posted by GregKII View Post
    The healing process takes time, but I'm confident that you'll get over him, and find someone worthy of you! Good luck xoxox
    ^ EXACTLY...let's start with a post breakup sex.

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    The guy sounds like a jerk, you should feel lucky that you got rid of him.
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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Quote Originally Posted by HunterM View Post
    ^ EXACTLY...let's start with a post breakup sex.
    I must say, I hope there is room for a third person!

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    So right after your therapist said not to contact him...you do anyway.

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    Sometimes closure means getting the last word in.

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    "I'm gonna wash that man right out my hair" as the song went

    Wash your hair with the shampoo and while doing so have that song playing right there in the bathroom. Then just throw the damn bottle away and be done with it.


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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Glad that you've handled it well. That douchebag deserves no respect. He deserves to be fed to the lions!



    Now on to NSA fun fun fun!

    Then a few months later, someone better!
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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Quote Originally Posted by Beachguyj View Post
    Stop with the childish stupidity. Throwing things out that he gave you is a tantrum.
    Actually I think that to move on you need to stop thinking about that person and throwing the things that remind you of that person away is a good idea if you want to move on. I don't think it's childish at all. I've done it and it sets you free.

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    Empty gestures like this only fuel your own sense of drama and slow down the healing process instead of speeding it up
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    ^ I see your point there. Throwing stuff away is an empty gesture. Sell his gifts on eBay/pawn shop to get you extra income in return. Now that IS closure!

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    I really hope I don't feel like you when/if my boyfriend and I break up. I thought i'll find solace in promiscuity and drugs.

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    The thing is you were alone the whole time. You just didn't know it. It seems the ex was no ex. It's interesting that he wanted to be caught.

    Take care of yourself in healthy, positive ways. Stay close to your friends. Best wishes.
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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    Yeah, that's the part that I still don't understand. When people cheat on their spouse, they usually tried to hide the evidence. But my ex left the condom in the bathroom trashcan, and I knew I was coming to his place to cook dinner while he's dropping off his ex back in the airport. Heck, the condom got some filling in it too. Things were great between us, but I still do not understand why he couldn't just come to me and say he wanted to break up, rather hurting me like this.
    It really sucks that it had to happen. The best thing to do, since this is over, is to move on and stop asking questions. None of this is your fault and you know that. There are far better people out there than your ex, so now it's time to go find them! You can do it!
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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    I think this is the hardest part ... Two weeks ago at this time, we just finished dinner and cleaned up the kitchen. I was then cuddling with him on the couch and watching a movie. All of these are in distant memories now ... and I am alone again.
    You are only alone for a little while. Spend some time to let the wounds heal a bit and then get back out there. There are lots of good guys who won't do the same shit as your ex.

    You'll know you are ready for a real relationship again when the urge to tell the other guy how your ex hurt you isn't there.

    Best of luck finding the right guy next time out.

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    I went to my ex's place on Thursday night to confront him in person. It took a lot of guts, but I poured my heart out in a heartfelt conversation, and for my own sake, I managed to find closure in a more positive note. Unfortunately, he showed no remorse. As I walked out the door, he tried to hug me and said "I am sorry that you are depressed, but don't do anything stupid if you want me back" ... Well, I said "Please don't touch me. I don't want you anymore, and you don't deserve me." I looked at him in the eyes one more time, I walked out, and I finally felt free.
    I applaud you for this so much. How did you find the courage to do this?! I'm in a similar situation and I feel like I need to confront someone for breaking my heart too.

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    Good job.

    I would have caved though. You are strong.

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    Good job! I'd have gone ham too!!

    You'll find someone much better
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    Go out for dinner and try to salvage a friendship.
    The hurt may be there, but try to put that aside if you want a friendship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    and btw, rareboy ... you maybe JUB VIP and think you are doing what you need to keep JUB run as smooth as possible, but from day #1 of my story, all you have done so far is accusing me of being a troll!!! I am embarassed to have you here on JUB!!!
    Stop trying to start things, Indudela. Most people here are just trying to help other along in the correct way to post threads. You could have simply posted a reply in one of your existing threads with any update. It would have been easier for others to follow your story and better understand your situation that way anyhow. I expect a MOD will probably merge them anyways. Maybe you two should just stop talking. lol
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    I think you're making a mistake by staying in contact with him. Of course he feels bad NOW THAT HES BEEN BUSTED. Had you not caught him he wouldn't have thought a thing about cheating on you again and again. He played you for a fool, treated you like garbage and couldn't understand why you were upset. Do you really want to be friends with someone that treats you like that? You gave him the boot and now he's slowly worming his way back in. Remember how he made you feel. Remember what it felt like when he told you you needed to leave because his "ex" (which he isn't) didn't want you around. Remember how devastated you were when you found the condoms.

    I've been there. I was cheated on by the person I loved more than anyone I've ever loved. I know the pain. I know I would have probably taken him back in the days after we brook up had I let him back in my life. Don't let him weasel his way back. He's only going to hurt you again.

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    My God. This guy is the biggest jackass I've ever heard of. How you kept from punching him dead in the face I'll never know. Please tell me you told him to NEVER contact you again. Block his number and emails. If he knocked on my door I'd throw a bucket of water on him and shut it without saying a word. He must have balls the size of oranges. Unbelievable. It was the "ex's" fault and he wants a fb. I think I would have dumped my dinner on top of his head and walked out, leaving him to pay the bill.

    Well now you know the scum that he truly is. Good riddance to this horses ass.

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Well at least you hopefully have the closure that you need to end any kind of relationship with your ex.

    He must be pretty stupid to think that it would be a smart thing to just be friends with benefits. From the sound of things, he is way too immature to be involved in a committed relationship with anyone yet and he will only hurt anyone who tries it with him.

    Well now at least you can move on and find someone who appreciates you.

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    That's good to hear. Any time you have contact with him you're just re opening those wounds. You've barely started the heal and these are deep cuts. It's going to take a lot of time to get over this. cut all ties. Tell him to never contact you again and if at all possible see a therapist. I did and it really helped. It's very helpful to sit down with someone that can help you sort out these feelings. In the meantime stop all contact. Your very vulnerable right now and he knows it. My guess is he's still in contact with his bf and they're relationship hasn't changed a bit. how many other guys does he have on the side that you dont know about? Make a clean and total break. I know it hurts but your better off without him. He'll be onto his next victim in no time.

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    First of all, I'm glad you broke things off and gained a bit of closure. It takes a lot to speak to someone you just broke up with. And to even send that email to his ex without cursing. That shows a huge amount of restraint. I think the majority of people, if given the chance would curse their asses off Now, you went to dinner with him and chatted with him for a couple of hours. Others have said it, you know it... stop remaining in contact with him. If he wants a friend with benefits, he can go on grindr or whatever. Memories can be nice, but definitely don't let it sway you back to him. And also, I'm glad you're seeing a counselor.

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    For the love everything holy, stop talking to him.

    Now, follow Liam's post break-up guide:

    1) go get your hair done, and eyebrows (I'd recommend Robert Jeffrey on Halsted)
    2) go buy yourself a new outfit - one in which you look fabulous
    3) hit Berlin for a couple drinks
    4) dance with random guys
    5) go home with random guy and shag your brains out

    Repeat as often as needed

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    sorry. I forgot you said you are seeing someone. I hurt my back yesterday and the lortab affects my memory. lol

    When I broke up with Igor it tore me to pieces. My therapist told me about the seven stages of grieving and that Im going to have to go through them before I should start dating again. I haven't dated anyone since and I know I'm going to have trust issues. It takes time. A lot of time to heal and every time you have contact with him the clock starts all over again. Don't let him keep doing that to you. Be sad. Be angry. It's ok. Just don't let him in your life any more. He doesn't deserve you as a friend or anything else. He screwed that up.

    He didn't tell his bf about you because he isn't an ex. He's his bf and he was too stupid to think you'd call him on his bullshit. He probably told his bf you were a "friend or ex bf." The more I hear about this guy the bigger ass hat I think he is. Regardless cut off all contact. No more dinners, emails, texts etc. Rid yourself of this scum.

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    read about the stages of grief. you didn't fall in love with him in 2 weeks. It's going to take longer than that to get him out of your mind. The old saying "time heals all wounds". is partly true. In time it will affect you less. You will never forget him but you will learn to accept that he is no longer a part of your life. It will get better. time, time and time. keep yourself busy with friends, family, work, anything to keep your mind off of him.

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    I think your hurt comes more from his ongoing relationship with his "ex" rather than the fact he had sex. What would have hurt me was the fact I was led to believe it was over when it wasn't.

    Block him and until you do delete any messages before reading them.
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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    I already defriended him on facebook, but not sure how to do that on email or text though. I responded "Don't leave any used condoms in the bathroom trashcan like you did at home. His bf might find out." ... or maybe I shouldn't have responded at all.
    To be blunt. No. You shouldn't have responded. But I think that you want to leave the wound open.

    Counsellor says not to contact him. You do.

    People said stay away form him. You have dinner.

    Even though you could easily find out how to block him on test and email, you don't.

    Even though you know it is childish and shows how hurt and vulnerable you are, you send a message about condoms.

    You just want to relive the pain again and again it seems.

    The way to heal is to recognize that you are stronger than your anger and depression. Not to keep letting your ex have complete control over your every minute every hour of every day.

    You need to get to the point of indifference and the faster you do this, the better.

    Until you get there, you counsellor is going to have an uphill battle trying to help you through this.

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    I don't want anything from you.

    This is a no flame zone and I'm giving you advice. Good advice. I've been there and had to deal with it. Also with emotions. And with support of friends.

    And the best advice I always got was to get to a state that is the opposite of love and hate...indifference. To not let the other person still have control over me by giving them that opportunity and that power. By constantly remaining in touch you allow him the opportunity to hurt you again and again and to nurse each wound afresh.

    By engaging in the back and forth, you don't give yourself the opportunity to actually move on.

    The only way to win this game is to not play.

    And that is good advice from someone who has been in your place.

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Well there now.

    You are already on the road to recovery if you are no longer crying or moping about. Once you have talked yourself out about him and have nothing left to say to your friends about what a disgusting piece of shit he is....you will find that he doesn't occupy that much space in your brain any more.

    Can't imagine why you'd still be missing a low life douche nozzle like him....he must have been good in bed....but for the rest of it....he probably lied to you from the first day to the last day you spent together. You can't miss that?

    Enjoy your family for the holidays. Then turn around and this time, on the way back...set yourself some adventures. Look up places or attractions you've never visited. Learn new things. Meet some new people along the way. Start replacing the brooding time thinking about what an anal wart he is with experiences that now belong only to you. And push yourself a bit. No one is expecting you to arrive back home and feel totally healed, but hey you'll be well along the way.

    BTW. Have you had a bonfire and burned all his stuff yet? While you are at it, take anything (that is cheap) that is yours, but reminds you of him and throw it on the pyre. If there still are items that cause you particular pain...pack them away for 6 months or so.

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    Well, it's been a month now since I caught my bf cheating on me. After my last post on Dec 12th, I cashed in all of my vacation days, I grabbed my car keys, and I left town to get some fresh air. I was driving for no particular destination, visiting some friends along the way. Somehow I landed in my parents home out in the west coast, and that's where I am now for the past few days. I have not contacted my ex or attempted to contact him, nor him contacting me. I don't want to be associated with him anymore.

    Do I miss him? Yes ... Am I still thinking about him? Yes ... Have I recovered from this? No ... There are times where I would think about how he cheated on me, and that would pull me down into pockets of grieve. Do I feel better? Not really ... but I am no longer crying or moping around, and more importantly, I stopped talking about him to any of my friends.

    I have a few more days before I have to start a long trip home and go back to work again.
    Anyone capable of caring for another human being would still be thinking about everything weeks and months later. One day in the future, he will pop into your head and you'll realise you haven't thought about him at all, for a whole week.

    Not because you're stronger, or because you don't think it is worth caring about any more. But because you will have done all the thinking you have to do, and you will know it like the back of your hand. It takes time to work it all through. But as you have already discovered, that doesn't have to stop you from getting on with the rest of your life while that happens.

    I hope you have a good holiday and a good year in 2013.

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    Quote Originally Posted by rareboy View Post
    So right after your therapist said not to contact him...you do anyway.
    well, the therapist is supposed to help, not to command your life
    and to me it seems as if he was ready, and needed, to confront him

    OP: Congratulations and best of luck

    Hmm ok congratulations might sound weird, i'm just happy you are better, and you seemed (mostly) mature about it. and after all, it is better to find out now than later..

    Anyway, stay well!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    My ex just texted me asking how my christmas went and that he missed me. I just deleted his texts without reply but UGH!!! Now I am upset again.
    Is there any way you can change his name to "Ignore" or something so you don't even read the text?
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    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    My ex just texted me asking how my christmas went and that he missed me. I just deleted his texts without reply but UGH!!! Now I am upset again.
    Don't be so hard on yourself, that's perfectly normal. Take positives from this. Instead of replying to him with (truthfully) asinine comments, you deleted it and didn't bother responding. You've come a long way and you should recognise it and encourage yourself to keep it up. The feelings of hurt and betrayal will continue to pop up every now and then, and I doubt you'll ever COMPLETELY forget about it, but the frequency you think about it will be less and less until it's pretty much just a forgotten memory.

    Keep up the good work. Doesn't it feel good to recognise you really don't need cunts like that in your life?

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    Re: 7 days post breakup

    is there no way to block his number?

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    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    Well, that simple text apparently kept me up all night thinking about what happened and I got all depressed again. I eventually fell asleep but had nightmares. I am not going to deny that there is still a long and windy road ahead of me, but indeed it felt good that I was able to delete his text the second I got it, and I had no desire of returning his text either.
    Progress is progress, no matter how little. Never compromise all this hard work over something like a text or phone calls or anything!

    But you should probably realise that texts and calls will always make someone feel shitty, and it's impossible to control your emotions so I wouldn't worry about working towards having no feelings about his attempts at contacting you. They'll fade eventually. Just focus on yourself, your own happiness, dreams, life goals and keep yourself occupied with work and friends and you'll think less and less about him and his attempts.

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    You're fighting the realisation that he is an asshole. When you accept that he is an asshole, his actions or texts will no longer have power over you. In your mind you are still hoping he will turn out to be the person you wanted him to be, the potential you saw in him rightly or wrongly.

    But when you believe that he is the asshole you don't want him to be, you will stop crying, and your post will say "My ex texted me again. I don't know what it said because I just deleted it. I'm going out for coffee now, and maybe later I'll head to the art gallery with a friend."

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    You seem determined to let him have all this power over you.

    You could have refused to let him in.

    At this stage, you and only you are allowing him to hurt you by having this constant contact.

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    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    Well, I went to a local bar last night after my ex left. I ended up in someone apartment and I fucked the heck out of this guy (safely of course) and spent the night there. I left before he woke up. Not the smartest move, but that was my first NSA sex in a long time. I am not proud of it FYI ...
    Hey. Why not be proud?

    As long as the sex was fun and the bed was comfy....

    I prescribe more of this.

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    I think that if he'd wanted to cum, he would have pitched in.

    He most likely got what he needed.

    You got what you needed.

    Win/win.

    Gonna see him again?

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    Y'see.

    all your friends...including those you may not recognize yet....know the guy is a defective douche nozzle.......

    Hopefully at some point you will become angry enough to realize it and then make plans to piss on his grave when he is dead.

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    Well. Firstly. The Anxiety attack.

    4 by 4 breathing exercises.

    Relax first. Slowly count to 4.

    Breathe in and slowly count to 4.

    Breathe out and slowly count to 4.

    Slowly count to 4.

    Do this 4 times.

    Next. Choose your favourite comfort food to order in.

    Invite a friend in.

    Talk about what a turd your ex was.

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    indudela

    There are people out there who care for you. Your ex is not one of those.

    No one said this would be easy, but fortunately, you are strong.
    Author of Lost in a Dream. If you want to make me smile, read it and tell me what you think.

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    Quote Originally Posted by indudela View Post
    Thanks. I can only try to be strong, but the pain is just way too much to bear. Honestly, I haven't felt like this depressed since my grandparents died within months to each other when I was in college.
    You might not see it yet, but you are so strong. None of what has happened is any bit of your fault, yet you've had to deal with the bulk of the punishment. That's not fair.

    You have to remember that none of this is your fault.

    Then, take a deep breath, close your eyes, and say, "I am strong and I will get through this."

    Author of Lost in a Dream. If you want to make me smile, read it and tell me what you think.

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    I hesitate to say this -- but I will. You are now 5 weeks out from this breakup. Stop whining and get on with your life. You have invested too much emotional baggage in this creep.

    That is unless wallowing in "woe is me" serves some emotional need. In which event you need better therapy than you're getting.

    IMHO you are verging on trolldom.

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