9 to 5 job and nightlife

[chrisdobro]

So about 2.5 years ago I got a 9 to 5 job, and my nightlife basically disappeared totally.
I do not think I was at a bar once after I took the job. Maybe once or so, not sure if I remember it, but basically I really stopped going.

Beforehand I went every so often. Some things have changed as well, since that time. Like first, I realized that if I want to hook up, I don't have to go to a bar and my most fun experiences are from Craigslist or other sites. Hooking up at a bar is ... usually just that simple oral or making out fun, which is okay .. but if I wanted more fun stuff like Dom/sub, or kink, chances that I'd get it in the typical bar were slim.

Another thing is I was hosting a party weekly that took care of my "hanging out with the people" needs. This week I did not host a party, so I wanted to try going to a bar because I just wanted to dance to some hopefully good music. Basically the idea crashed.

I usually go to bed by 10:30pm to be in a good shape for work. I used to go at 11pm, which usually made me come late to work, as I take a bit to get ready. Most bars in my area just start happening around 11pm, so that's why I cannot go to them on a regular basis.

I ended up taking a nap at 8pm till 10pm with alarm. It did not work, I wanted more sleep. I managed to open my eyes around 10:30, but not in a condition where I would happily skip to a bar. By the time I figured I could actually go it was 12pm, then 1am, and then I just figured that driving 30min to the bar I wanted to visit would not work. But I stayed up till 5am, as I had nothing better to do, and didn't want to sleep. Bar closes at 2am here. Finally, I forced myself to go to bed.

Woke up today not entirely happy with myself, due to alternating my sleep schedule and not feeling so great. No bar, no sleep, hating myself, that's that.

And here I am now wondering how to have a nightlife when one has a 9-5 job, while trying to still keep my sleep. Have you done it or just abandoned it like I have?

[eastofeden]

My 9-5 job for many years was working in nightclubs (except it was 8pm-3am). I had no nightlife at all because I was working all the time so I went to unwind and socialize on Sunday in the daytime. I would go to the I Beam when it opened and stay there until maybe 9 or 10 and dance on the stage for hours...great way to unwind (and socialize)

[HunterM]

You've asked this before. Now go review your old thread for answers before I give you a pop quiz...or

[justsimon]

http://vevo.ly/mYLJq0

[chrisdobro]

You've asked this before. Now go review your old thread for answers before I give you a pop quiz...or ...

okay ... the lesson is to forget nightlife during weekdays. Go for the weekends. One problem with that is I hate the bars that are open around here on weekends, and that is why I haven't been going. One cool bar 30 min away is on, Tuesdays and Thursdays, which makes it out of the question for me.

I learned that getting laid as I found is not a nightlife-only thing. In fact, nightlife is notoriously not convenient as a sole aid in getting laid.

In a word, I am out of luck. Maybe a different bar is in order, but alas, maybe a straight one.

[Harke the Boeotarch]

People who work regular hours are not allowed to have interesting lives. Sorry.

[Hard-up1]

Chris, what kind of things do you do with your friends?

Do you have gay friends?

How do you make friends?

You just sound bored and having a difficult time figuring out how to make friends now that you are out of school and do not have a peer group that is all on the same schedule and in the same routine.

It is a common problem. Is it yours?